Mr.B and Mrs.B seem to be a couple who didn't undergo anything similar in their past.

This illness was not expected by both. In fact, none of the family members saw this
coming. Therefore they way they experience this situation may be different from person
to person.
Considering Mrs.B who is undergoing a health crisis, her way of dealing with the illness
can be explained in support of ​grief model by Elizabeth Kubbler​ Ross. Mrs.B for the first
few days find comfort in living in ​denial. ​She may find comfort in thinking that nothing
bad is going to happen and the reports may be a result of mixup by the hospital staff.
Eventually she would pass by this phase as the testimonials for the illnesses increase. She
is likely to experience ​anger​ as to why the illness happened exactly to her although she
exercised better than her healthy neighbour or aunt. She may seem very stressed since she
doesn't know who to blame for. After few or days, she might unconsciously start
bargaining​ with the higher power. She might be promising to herself that she would
exercise more if she can go home soon. When all the above doesn't work, she may slip
into ​depression. ​She comes to a conclusion that she might die soon. She would either
want to see all her children and grandchildren for once or she might not want to see
anybody at that moment. As time passes, she might start ​accepting​ the situation. She
might call up an old cousin, who wasn't talking to her. She might start thinking about
philosophical thoughts like nobody lives forever or my work is done on earth, God wants
me back with him.
While how Mr.B feels with the problem is quite different and can be explained using
Horowitz's model​ of loss or adaptation. If Mrs.B is hospitalised for a long time, first few
days Mr.B ​outcries.​ He might cry aloud and cry inside. Feel a deep sense of remorse for
not giving the best for his wife. As days pass by he might try to balance between keeping
himself busy as well as feeling guilty for not thinking enouy about his wife. This is
known as ​denial and intrusion​. Days, weeks or few months later, he might get better. He
might start cooking for himself. He eventually spends more time outside and with others.
Thereby he is ​working-through​ the situation. After many months or few years, he
completes​ his grief. He has other priorities and commitments in his life. He remembers
his wife only on her birthday, anniversary or the hospital visits he pays once in few
months.

The way her children and grandchildren children feel about the eternal hospitalisation
could be explained with ​Rando's 6Rs.
Her children and grandchildren ​recognise the situation.​ So they acknowledge the illness
and why their mother or grandmother has to stay in the hospital. They also accept the fact
that they have to take care of their grandsire. These changes happen in ​acceptance phase​.
As days pass by, they all start to ​react to the separation.​ They might feel immense pain,
remorse of not visiting their mother enough, acceptance of all her last gifts and words etc.
This happens in ​confrontation phase​. After few more weeks they start to ​recollect and
re-experience ​different memories and words associated with their mother. For example,
in Indian context, the mother would have always requested the grand daughter to be
married, and his sons might consider it now.
After few more months, they might ​relinquish old attachments.​ They might give up on
the recurring thoughts about their mother, and get on with their normal lives. This
happens in ​confrontation phase​. They might gradually get into ​readjust​. They start to
accept about the situation. They adapt to the new world where the mother is not actually
present. They face reality. This happens in ​accomodation phase.​ After months after this
stage, the family members ​reinvest​ into something new. They put the emotional energy
into a new baby born in their family or academic improvement of their nephews or nieces
etc. This way they are changing their goals away from their mother. This also happens in
accomodation phase

It differs from person to person as to how they undergo loss. These models are just an
outline of the grief. It may or may not be entirely similar to the models explained.

Swaroop
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