Personal Development-Grade 11

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Quarter 2- Module 6: Family Structure and Legacy
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PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
Quarter 2 - MODULE 5-

Personal and Social Relationships

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 Table of Contents

Cover Page i
Copy Right Page ii
Module Title Page iii
What I need to Know 1
What I know 3
Lesson1. Personal Relationships 6
What’s In 6
What’s New 6
Activity1.Personal Views on Relationships 6
What is It 7
Activity2. I know the Signs of a healthy Relationships 5
What’s More 13
Activity 3. The Boat is Sinking 14
What I have Learned 15
Activity 4. From Now On, I Declare… 15
What I can do 16
Activity 4 My Relationship Art work 16
Lesson 2. Social Relationships 17
What’s In 17
What’s New 17
Activity 1. Me and My Community 17
What is It 18
Activity2. All About My Family 18
What’s More 20
Activity 3. Their Role Their Play 20
What I have Learned 21
Activity 4. Thank You For The Love 21
What I can Do 21
Activity 6. Word Cloud 21
Assessment 22

References 26
 What I Need to Know

For the Learner:

In this module you will be able to describe the importance of

relationships in the adolescent stage, express your ways of showing
attraction, and discuss tips on maintaining healthy relationship.

This module will help you value your friends, your family, and
significant others as they can influence your physical health, promote self-
esteem and a sense of belonging and assist you in the development of
problem solving and social skills. Also, you will be able to distinguish various
roles in society, and identify factors that society contributes in shaping a
person.

This module has 2 lessons:

Lesson 1 – Personal Relationships
Lesson 2 – Social Relationships in Middle and Late Adolescence

Welcome to this module on “PERSONAL AND SOCIAL

RELATIONSHIPS.”

Lesson 1: Personal Relationships

After going through this lesson, you are expected to:
1. discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships, including the
acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions. EsP-
PD11/12PR-IIa-9.1
2. express your ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment;
EsP-PD11/12PR-IIa-9.2
3. identify ways to become responsible in a relationship
EsP-PD11/12PR-IIb-9.3

Lesson 2 – Social Relationships in Middle and Late Adolescence

After going through this lesson, you are expected to:
1. distinguish the various roles of different individuals in society and
how they can influence people through their leadership or
followership EsP-PD11/12SR-IIb10.1
2. compare your self-perception and how others see you;
EsP-PD11/12SR-IIc10.2
3. conduct a mini-survey on Filipino relationship EsP-PD11/12SR-IIc10.3

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 How to learn from this module?

This is your guide for the proper use of the module:

1. Read the items in the module carefully.
2. Follow the directions as you read the materials.
3. Answer all the questions that you encounter. As you go through the
module, you will find help to answer these questions. Sometimes,
the answers are found at the end of the module for immediate
feedback.
4. To be successful in undertaking this module, you must be patient
and industrious in doing the suggested tasks.
5. Take your time to study and learn. Happy learning!

For the Facilitator

The two lessons in this module will open the areas in discussing the
relevant concepts on Personal Relationships in Middle and Late
Adolescence. The importance of getting involved in the community will also
be discussed.
Different activities in each lesson are prepared. Proper assistance
and guidance in this module will be much expected for the deeper
understanding of the learner. The more the learner engages, the deeper
will be their understanding and significant learning experience.
It is therefore important to remind the learners on the above-
mentioned guidelines in working with the module.

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 What I Know

Multiple Choice
Direction: Read the questions carefully and select the letter of the correct
answer. Write your answers in your journal notebook.

1. This refers to close connections between people, formed by emotional

bonds, and interactions. This is known as ______________.
A. Personal Relationship C. Mutual Benefit
B. Personal Bias D. Mutual Understanding
2. Which of the following does not belong to the group?
A. Family C. Enemy
B. Friendship D. Partnership
3. The following are the most common relationship problems EXCEPT
__________.
A. Affairs/ Infidelity/ Cheating C. Lack of communication
B. Prolonged period of stress D. Thoughtfulness of the
partner
4. In a healthy relationship, both partners:
I. Are treated with kindness and respect
II. Are honest with each other
III. Like to spend time together
IV. Take an interest in things that are important to each other
A. I and II are correct C. All are correct
B. I, II, and III are correct D. Only I is correct
5. Ms. Bea Alonzo doesn’t know how to avoid date pressure. If you are one of
her friends, what can you suggest to help her?
A. Say “NO” and mean “NO” if that’s how you feel.
B. It’s ok to hang out on a date so as not to be rejected by friends
C. Hang out with friends who also believe that it’s OK to not be ready for
dating
D. Go out with a group of friends rather than only your date
6. In creating a long-lasting relationship, the following serves as your basis
EXCEPT:
A. You must love yourself first
B. You must nurture the relationship for it to thrive
C. You need not to express yourself openly to your partner
D. Your relationship will be challenged by change

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7. The following are statements showing the signs of a healthy relationship
EXCEPT:
A. You can express your opinion without fear or dread.
B. You and your partner can make decisions together and fairly.
C. Each person takes responsibility for their own actions.
D. Your partner tries to control how you spend time and who you hang out
with.

8. Which of the following is NOT an element of a healthy relationship?

A.Negotiation is required for a relationship to last
B.Lack of communication about important matters
C. Partnering is a choice
D. Creating love is a process

9. How will you nurture your relationships?

A.Practice gratitude, learn to forgive, connect with your family
B.Neglect your partners concern
C. Love your partner as long as he/she satisfies your needs
D. Be patient but not all the time

10. Patience is essential to a healthy relationship. There are times when

others will respond to us in a way that is disappointing. When this occurs,
what will you do?
I. Give the other person space
II. Communicate your disappointment
III. Be willing to give the person some time to reflect
IV. Leave the person
A. I,II, and III are correct C. Only item III is applicable
B. I and II are correct D. II and III are correct

11. A type of relationship which tends to be less intimate, with lesser self-
disclosure involved, but may still be exclusive, and may demand certain levels
of loyalty.
A. Personal Relationship C. Family Relationship
B. Social Relationship D. Relationship with siblings

12. The following are the things that you can get when you are involved in
community activities EXCEPT:
A. You can come in contact with like-minded people
B. You can understand yourself better
C. Inferiority and shyness
D. Skills and competencies

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13. Getting involved with community organizations and activities gives you the
following:
I.It will encourage you to see the world in different ways
II.You can come into contact with like-minded peers and positive adult
role models
III. It puts your own family into possible threat
IV.Gives you a lot of responsibilities and stress
A. I and II items are correct C. I, II, and III are
correct
B. Item I is correct D. Item IV is only
correct

14. Community activity is part of ____________. It’s about doing things in our
community because we want to or feel we should, rather than because we
have to by law.
A. Civic Responsibility C. Political Responsibility
B. Economic Responsibility D. Personal Responsibility

15. You can take social responsibility and be active in your community by:
I. Joining a Youth Club, a scouting group or a local environmental or
clean up group
II. Helping a primary school play, or coordinating or coaching junior sport
III. Being part of a youth advisory group through the local council
IV. Staying at home and taking no care outside your community
A. I and II items are correct C. I, II, and III are correct
B. Item I is correct D. Item IV is only correct

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 LESSON

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Personal Relationships
During adolescence, young people learn how to form safe and healthy
relationships with friends, parents, and romantic partners. Both adolescent
males and females often try on different identities and roles during this time,
and relationship contribute to their development. Peers, in particular, play a
big role in identity formation, but relationships with caring adults – including
parents or guardians – are also important for adolescent development.

What’s In

In this lesson, you will be able to explore the value of having

relationships with your family, friends, and partners. You will also be able to
identify the ways how to become responsible in a relationship.

What’s New

Activity 1: “My Personal Views on Relationship”

Directions: Using a graphic organizer below, categorize the following
statements according to your personal view on relationship. Place the number
inside the heart if the statement expresses truth about a healthy relationship,
and place the number to the box if it does not relate to a healthy relationship.
1. Communication is important in every relationship
2. We must love our self-first before loving someone
3. Good relationship does not contribute anything to us having good
health.
4. It is important to forgive the ones that we love
5. Our loved ones have nothing to do with our stress.
6. Positive mindset is the tool to have a good relationship
7. Saying thank you is very important in every relationship
8. We are happy in our relationships when our loved ones allow us even
the things that can harm us.

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 What is it?

What do we mean by Personal Relationships?

The concept of relationship is very broad and complex. Personal
relationships refer to close connections between people, formed by emotional
bonds, and interactions. In our model there are three kinds of personal
relationships:

Family
• The concept of “family” is an essential component in any discussion of
relationships, but this varies greatly from person to person. The bureau
of the Census defines family as “two or more persons who are related
by birth, marriage, or adoption and who live together as one
household.”
• Some typical characteristics of a family are support, mutual trust,
regular interactions, shared beliefs and values, security, and a sense of
community.
Friends
• A friendship can be thought of as a close tie between two people that is
often built upon mutual experiences, shared interests, proximity, and
emotional bonding.
• Friends are able to turn to each other in times of need.
• Note that online frined don’t count toward close ties – research
indicates that a large online network isn’t nearly as powerful as having
a few close, real-life friends.
Partnerships
• Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships
formed between two people that are built upon affection, trust,
intimacy, and romantic love.
1.“Taking Charge of your Health and Well-Being”, accessed October 29, 2018,
https://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/enhance-your-wellbeing/relationships/what-do-we-mean-
personal-relationships

25 Most Common Relationship Problems

Here is the list of the most common relationship problems most often
encountered by couples:
1. Affairs/ Infidelity/ Cheating. This includes emotional infidelity, one-
night stands, internet relationships, long- and short-term affairs and
financial infidelity.
2. Sexual issues, particularly loss of libido and including questions
around your gender, or your partner’s gender.
3. Significant differences in core values and beliefs.

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4. Life Stages – you have outgrown each other or have changed
significantly for whatever reason.
5. Traumatic and/or Life-Changing events.
6. Prolonged period of Stress – work related stress, long term illness,
mental health issues, financial problems, problems with children,
infertility and many more
7. Bored in or with your relationship
8. Dealing with a Jealous partner
9. Having blended family issues
10. Domestic violence, which includes verbal as well as physical
abuse: The MOST serious relationship problem.
11. Knowing you should not have got married in the first place!
12. Lack of responsibility regarding finances, children, health and many
other issues
13. Unrealistic Expectations – still thinking your partner/ spouse is the
princess/ knight and not seeing the ‘real’ human being
14. Addictions – substance abuse
15. Excessive reliance on social media, at the cost of the relationship
16. Lack of support during particularly difficult times from people that
matter to you
17. Manipulation or over involvement in your relationships with family or
friends.
18. Lack of communication about important matters
19. Poor division of and / or one-sided lack of responsibility for chores
and tasks.
20. Perceived lack of concern, care and consideration/ attentiveness:
feeling that relationship is one-sided
21. Significant personal disappointments and traumas that lead to a
change in relationship dynamics
22. Long term depression or other mental health issues suffered by one
partner or both
23. Significant differences in opinion on how to discipline/ dealing
with children
24. Long term stress, particularly when not taking responsibility for doing
something positive to address the cause, or about learning to handle it
if it cannot be changed.
25. An unsupportive partner during pregnancy and/or significant
problems after the birth of baby.

We wouldn’t be surprised if you have found that you are experiencing

several of these relationship problems, but you know what? However
difficult this time is for you we promise you that this too will pass. We are
rooting for you and we know that you will be happy again. You don’t have

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 to wait and hope for better times – together we can do something about it
now!
We can become better at solving our relationship problems by taking
responsibility for ourselves.

2. “Fixing your relationship issues” accessed October 30, 2018, http://www.professional-

counselling.com/common-relationship-problems.html

Ten Rules for Finding Love and Creating Long-Lasting Relationships

1. You must love yourself first

Your relationship with yourself is the central template from which
all others are formed. Loving yourself is a prerequisite to
creating a successful and authentic union with another.
2. Partnering is a choice must nurture the relationship for it to thrive
The choice to be in a relationship is up to you. You have the
ability to attract your beloved and cause the relationship you
desire to happen.
3. Creating love is a process
Moving from “I” to “we” requires a shift in perspective and
energy. Being an authentic couple is an evolution.
4. Relationships provide opportunities to grow
Your relationship will serve as an unofficial “life shop” in which
you will learn about yourself and how you can grow on your
personal path.
5. Communication is essential
The open exchange of thoughts and feelings is the lifeblood of
your relationship.
6. Negotiation will be required
There will be times when you and your partner must work
through impasses. If you do this consciously and with respect,
you will learn to create win-win outcomes.
7. Your relationship will be challenged by change
Life will present turns in the road. How you maneuver those
twists and turns determines the success of your relationship.
8. You must nurture the relationship for it to thrive
Treasure your beloved and your relationship will flourish.
9. Renewal is the key to longevity
Happily ever after means the ability to keep the relationship
fresh and vital.

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 10. You will forget all this the moment you fall in love
You know all these rules inherently. The challenge is to
remember them when you fall under the enchanting spell of love.

3. Department of Education, Republic of the Philippines, Personal Development Reader 1st

edition, Ten Rules for Finding Love and Creating Long Lasting Relationships (Quezon City: Sunshine
Interlinks Publishing House Inc., 2016), 69.

Activity 2: I Know The Signs Of A Healthy Relationship

Directions: Put a shape before each statement that you think is a sign of a
healthy relationship; put an X mark on each statement that you think is a sign
of an unhealthy relationship. Write this on your journal notebook.
1. Mutual respect is present in every relationship
2. Partners should place trust in each other
3. Each partner should speak honestly and openly
4. Your partner uses force to get his or her way
5. One partner tries to control aspects of the other’s life
6. Express your anger in a healthy way such as deep breath, counting, or
talking it out.
7. Each partner should take time to understand what the other might be
feeling
8. Your partner makes all the decisions
9. Your partner tries to keep secrets and information from you.
10. Your partner makes fun of your opinions and interests

Processing Questions:

1. What were your thoughts and feelings while answering the activity?
______________________________________________________________
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2. What did you discover about yourself after doing the activity?
______________________________________________________________
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3. With previous activities, how would you describe your relationship with your
parents? Siblings? Possible or current romantic relationship? Friends?
______________________________________________________________
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4. If your relationship is not doing very well, what can you do about it?
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
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Keeping Healthy Relationships

Good relationships are fun and make you feel good about yourself. The
relationships that you make in your youth years will be a special part of your
life and will teach you some of the most important lessons about who you are.
All relationships should be based on respect and honesty, and this is
especially important when you decide to date someone.

In a health relationship, both partners:

o Are treated with kindness and respect
o Are honest with each other
o Like to spend time together
o Take an interest in things that are important to each other
o Respect one another’s emotional, physical and sexual limits
o Can speak honestly about their feelings

How To Communicate
Talking openly makes relationships more fun and satisfying; especially
when you both talk about each other’s needs for physical, emotional, mental
and sexual health. You can’t expect a partner to know what you want and
need unless you tell them. The simple fact is that none of us are a mind
reader – so it’s important to be open about your needs and expectations.
In a romantic relationship, it is important to communicate openly on
issues of sex and sexual health. The decision to enter into a sexual
relationship is entirely up to you, and you always have the right to say “no” at
any time to anything that you don’t feel comfortable with. Remember, there
are many ways to express love without sex.

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 Making the Decision
The decision of whether or not to have sex is up to you, and you alone.
Therefore don’t be afraid to say “NO” if that’s how you feel.
Having sex for the first time can be a huge emotional event. There are
many questions and feelings that you may want to sort out before you actually
get “in the heat of the moment.”

Ask yourself:
o Am I really ready to have sex?
o How am I going to feel after I have sex?
o Am I doing this for the right reasons?
o How do I plan to protect myself/my partner from sexually
transmitted infections or pregnancy?
o How am I going to feel about my partner afterwards?

The best way to prepare for the decision to have sex is to become
comfortable with communicating about your needs. If you don’t feel right
about something, say NO! Anyone who challenges your choices about
whether or not to have sex is not giving you the respect that you deserve. Pay
attention to your feelings, and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for making
decisions that are right for you.

There are countless nonsexual ways to show someone you love them.
You can show a person you care for them by spending time with them. Go to
the movies. Or just hang out and talk. If you are with someone you really like,
then anything can be fun.

How to avoid peer or date pressure

If you’re worried about being pressured or you are currently
experiencing it, know that you are not alone and there is something you can
do about it.
• Hang out with friends who also believe that it’s OK to not be ready for
sex yet
• Go out with a group of friends rather than only your date
• Introduce your friends to your parent
• Invite your friends to your home
• Stick up for your friends if they are being pressured to have sex
• Think of what you would say in advance in case someone tries to
pressure you.

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 • Always carry money for a phone call or cab in case you feel
uncomfortable
• Be ready to call your parents or a friend to pick you up if you need to
leave a date
• Never feel obligated to “pay someone back” with sex in return for a
date or gift
• Say “NO” and mean “NO” if that’s how you feel.

4. Department of Education, Republic of the Philippines, Personal Development Reader 1st edition,
Keeping Healthy Relationships, (Quezon City: Sunshine Interlinks Publishing House Inc., 2016), 72-75.

What’s More

Basic Rights In A Relationship

• The right to emotional support
• The right to be heard by the other and to respond
• The right to have your own point of view, even if this differs from your
partner’s
• The right to have your feelings and experiences acknowledged as real
• The right to live free from accusation and blame
• The right to live free from criticism and judgment
• The right to live free from emotional and physical threat
• The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage
• The right to be respectfully asked, rather than ordered

In addition to these basic relationships’ rights, consider how you can

develop patience, honesty, kindness, and respect.

PATIENCE: Patience is essential to a healthy relationship. There are

times when others will respond to us in a way that is disappointing. When
this occurs, it is important to communicate our disappointment, but also to
give the other person space. Be willing to give the person some time to
reflect, indicating that you are ready to talk when they are ready. If the
person is never ready to discuss the situation, you may need professional
help to resolve the issue, or ask yourself whether or not you want to
continue the relationship.

HONESTY: Honesty is another essential quality in healthy relationships.

To build honesty in a relationship, you should communicate your feelings
openly, and expect the other person to do the same. Over time, this builds
trust.

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KINDNESS: Kindness is extremely important to maintaining healthy
relationships. You need to be considerate of others feelings and other
people need to be considerate of yours. Be kind when you communicate.
Kindness will nurture your relationships.

RESPECT: Respect is a cornerstone of all healthy relationships. If you

don’t have respect for another person, it will have a negative impact on all
of your interactions. Think of a time when you encountered someone who
didn’t respect you. How did it feel? What are some ways that you show
respect to others?

5. Department of Education, Republic of the Philippines, Personal Development Reader 1st

edition, Basic Rights in a Relationship (Quezon City: Sunshine Interlinks Publishing House Inc.,
2016), 76.

Activity 4: “The boat is sinking”

Scenario: You are spending a holiday with your (1) family, (2) friends,
and (3) partner in a yacht. You enjoyed the whole day but upon going
home, you encountered a storm. There are safety rings and an inflatable
boat but these are not enough. You called for help until a small boat came
for rescue.

Direction: In your journal notebook, you draw these pictures below and
decide for your family, friends, and partner for the following:
1. Who will use the safety ring
2. Who will ride the inflatable boat
3. Who will ride the small rescue boat
4. And where are you going to ride

Safety ring Inflatable boat Small boat

A. What were your thoughts and feelings while answering the questions?
___________________________________________________________
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 B. Which relationship is most important to you? Why?
___________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________
__________
C. In what way, do you express your feelings, whether positive or
negative?
___________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________
__________

What I Have Learned

Activity 3: “From now on, I Declare…”

Direction: In your journal notebook, accomplish the personal declaration

statement below citing how will you become responsible in your relationships

Name: _____________________

Grade Level: ________________

MY PERSONAL DECLARATIONS

I _____________________, hereby declare to do

the following actions in order for me to become
responsible in my relationships.

1.
_________________________________________
________________

2.
_________________________________________
________________

3.
_________________________________________

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 What I Can do

Often, when we think of being in a relationship, we think of only the

romantic form of love. But truly healthy relationships exhibit all kinds of love –
love of oneself, for children and family, for dear friends, romantic love and
intimacy, and compassion for the greater world’s needs.

During adolescence personal relationships can undergo significant

change and can be difficult for you to navigate. This is why relationships with
friends, family and significant others should be strengthened for this provide
great support for your personal development.

Activity 5: “My Relationship Artwork!”

On a piece of ¼ illustration board, sketch, draw, or design a poster

which shows one’s basic rights in a relationship. Here’s a sample below:

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 LESSON

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Social Relationships

What’s In

Previously, you learned about the importance of personal

relationships in the adolescent stage and how it assists you in the
development of problem solving and social skills.

In this lesson, we will expand the relationships of adolescents to a

wider group of people. As a learner in this module, you will be able to identify
your role in the society and how these roles can affect your development and
influence your perception and views.

What’s New

Activity 1: “Me and My Community”

Direction: In your journal notebook, draw a person representing yourself and
draw the institutions in your community where you belong. Cite your roles/
position in that particular organization/ community and your responsibilities. A
sample drawing is shown below.

LGU

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 What is it?

What is Social Relationship?

Social relationships tend to be less intimate, with lesser self-disclosure
involved, but may still be exclusive, and may demand certain levels of loyalty
as in fraternities or religious organizations, and to a lesser extent, loosely
knitted social clubs like practitioners of certain specialized professions.

Middle and Late Adolescents usually find themselves in the company of

their peers, usually from the school or the neighbourhood.

From highschool to college, adolescents mature faster socially, new

lessons are learned especially on how their social interactions affirm their self-
identity, increase their self-esteem, and develop their capacity to nurture
relationships.

HOW CULTURE SHAPES MANY ASPECTS OF ADOLESCENT DEVELOPMENT

As you have known by now, the relationships adolescents have with their
peers, family, and members of their social sphere play a vital role in their
development. Adolescence is a crucial period in social development, as
adolescents can be easily swayed by their close relationships. Research
shows there are four main types of relationships that influence an adolescent:
(1) parents, (2) peers, (3) community, and (4) society.

The lifestyle of an adolescent in a given culture is basically shaped by the

roles and responsibilities he or she is expected to assume. The extent to
which an adolescent is expected to share family responsibilities, for example,
is one large determining factor in normative adolescent behaviour:
adolescents in certain cultures are expected to contribute significantly to
household chores, while others are given more freedom or come from families
with more privilege where responsibilities are fewer.

Also, adolescents begin to develop unique belief systems through their

interaction with social, familial, and cultural environments. These belief
systems encompass everything from religion and spirituality to gender,
sexuality, work ethics, and politics. The range of attitudes that a culture
embraces on a particular topic affects the beliefs, lifestyles, and perceptions
of its adolescents, and can have both positive and negative impacts on their
development.

6. Ge, Conger, & Elder, 2001; Graber, Lewinsohn, Seeley, & Brooks-Gunn, 1997;Striegel-
Moore & Cachelin,1999.; https://www.boundless.com/psychology/textbooks/boundless-psychology-
textbook/human-development-14/adolescence-73/cultural-and-societal-influences-on-adolescent-
development-285

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Get Involved!
Getting involved in local community activities or volunteering can boost
your confidence and self-esteem and help you build new skills. You can get
started by finding activities that interest you.

Community activity is part of civic responsibility. It’s about doing things

in our community because we want to or feel we should, rather than because
we have to by law. You can take civic responsibility and be active in your
community by:
• Joining a Youth Club, a scouting group or a local environmental or
clean up group
• Helping a primary school play, or coordinating or coaching junior sport
• Setting up an arts space for the community or getting involved in youth
radio
• Being part of a youth advisory group through the local council
• Promoting causes - for example, clean environment, recycling, get
active in sports.

You might be interested in online civic or community activities – for

example, an online campaign to save a local area of wildlife. Online
community involvement can motivate you to get involved in face-to-face
community activities.

What you can get from being involved in community activities

1. Role models
By getting involved with community activities, you can come into
contact with like-minded peers and positive adult role models other than
your parents. It will encourage you to see the world in different ways. It
puts your own family experiences and values into a wider context.

2. Identity and connection

Being involved in community activities can give you a positive way of
understanding who you are. As a result, you might come to see yourself as
helpful, generous, and political or just a good person in general. It can also
help create a sense of being connected to your local community and the
wider world.

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 3. Skills
Community activities give you the chance to apply the skills you
already have. Voluntary work and community activities are also great
opportunities to show initiative and develop skills to get a job.

4. Self-Confidence, mental health and wellbeing

Community activities can boost one’s self-confidence. You can learn to
deal with challenges, communicate with different people and build up your
life skills and abilities in a supportive environment. This is also good for
your self-esteem. Being involved in some kind of community activity can
also reduce the likelihood of substance abuse, mental illness, and criminal
activity.

7. Department of Education, Republic of the Philippines, Personal Development Reader 1st

edition, Community Activity: Get involved, (Quezon City: Sunshine Interlinks Publishing House Inc.,
2016), 79-80.

What’s More

Activity 2: “Their Role, Their Play”

Direction: In your journal notebook, make a concept map and list down
various roles and functions of different individuals in our society (for example,
barangay captain, barangay health workers, religious leaders, school
principal, teachers, youth leaders)

Role Role Role Role Role

Functions Functions Functions Functions Functions

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Processing Questions:

1. What were your thoughts and feelings while answering the activity?
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
_______________
______________________________________________________________
_____
2. How did you distinguish the different roles and functions of individual in the
society?
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
_______________
______________________________________________________________
_____

Being able to connect and create friendship and form new attachments to
different individuals with various roles in the society is a vital component in
your development as adolescent as you shift to young adulthood.

What I Have Learned

Activity 3: “Thank you for the Love”

Direction: Draw a heart shape on your journal notebook. Inside the heart,
write a reflective piece on how you have benefited from your social
relationships (within the family, community, friendships, society) and how you
have contributed to those relationships. Include your plan on how to contribute
more in the future to create a win-win situations for yourself and others.

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Social relationship is a broad definition of how we interact and behave with
other people, and how they interact and behave with us. In social
relationships, we learn to cooperate with others in achieving a common
objective. What differentiates personal relationship with social relationship is
the degree of intimacy we offer to other people.

The more intimate we are with another, the more personal our relationship is
with this person

What I Can do

Activity 4: Word Cloud

Direction: Conduct a mini survey on Filipino relationships. Create a word

cloud and write down at least five characteristics or social skills that you like in
friends, family, school, or community members. Use this to think about how
you can be an even better friend, family member or community member.

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1. What do you feel after citing the social skills that you like among your
friends, family, and community?

______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
__________

2. What are the desired steps that you will be taking to be a better individual in
your friendship, family, and community in general?

______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________
_______________

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 Assessment

Multiple Choice
Direction: Read the questions carefully and select the letter of the correct
answer. Write your answers in your journal notebook.

1. This refers to close connections between people, formed by emotional

bonds, and interactions. This is known as ______________.
A. Personal Relationship C. Mutual Benefit
B. Personal Bias D. Mutual Understanding
2. Which of the following does not belong to the group?
A. Family C. Enemy
B. Friendship D. Partnership
3. The following are the most common relationship problems EXCEPT
__________.
A. Affairs/ Infidelity/ Cheating C. Lack of communication
B. Prolonged period of stress D. Thoughtfulness of the
partner
4. In a healthy relationship, both partners:
I. Are treated with kindness and respect
II. Are honest with each other
III. Like to spend time together
IV. Take an interest in things that are important to each other
A. I and II are correct C. All are correct
B. I, II, and III are correct D. Only I is correct
5. Ms. Bea Alonzo doesn’t know how to avoid date pressure. If you are one of
her friends, what can you suggest to help her?
A. Say “NO” and mean “NO” if that’s how you feel.
B. It’s ok to hang out on a date so as not to be rejected by friends
C. Hang out with friends who also believe that it’s OK to not be ready for
dating
D. Go out with a group of friends rather than only your date
6. In creating a long lasting relationship, the following serves as your basis
EXCEPT:
A. You must love yourself first
B. You must nurture the relationship for it to thrive
C. You need not to express yourself openly to your partner
D. Your relationship will be challenged by change

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7. The following are statements showing the signs of a healthy relationship
EXCEPT:
A. You can express your opinion without fear or dread.
B. You and your partner can make decisions together and fairly.
C. Each person takes responsibility for their own actions.
D. Your partner tries to control how you spend time and who you hang out
with.

8. Which of the following is NOT an element of a healthy relationship?

A. Negotiation is required for a relationship to last
B. Lack of communication about important matters
C. Partnering is a choice
D. Creating love is a process

9. How will you nurture your relationships?

A. Practice gratitude, learn to forgive, connect with your family
B. Neglect your partners concern
C. Love your partner as long as he/she satisfies your needs
D. Be patient but not all the time

10. Patience is essential to a healthy relationship. There are times when

others will respond to us in a way that is disappointing. When this occurs,
what will you do?
I. Give the other person space
II. Communicate your disappointment
III. Be willing to give the person some time to reflect
IV. Leave the person
A. I,II, and III are correct C. Only item III is applicable
B. I and II are correct D. II and III are correct

11. A type of relationship which tends to be less intimate, with lesser self-
disclosure involved, but may still be exclusive, and may demand certain levels
of loyalty.
A. Personal Relationship C. Family Relationship
B. Social Relationship D. Relationship with siblings

12. The following are the things that you can get when you are involved in
community activities EXCEPT:
A. You can come in contact with like-minded people
B. You can understand yourself better
C. Inferiority and shyness
D. Skills and competencies

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13. Getting involved with community organizations and activities gives you the
following:
I.It will encourage you to see the world in different ways
II.You can come into contact with like-minded peers and positive adult
role models
III. It puts your own family into possible threat
IV.Gives you a lot of responsibilities and stress
A. I and II items are correct C. I, II, and III are
correct
B. Item I is correct D. Item IV is only
correct

14. Community activity is part of ____________. It’s about doing things in our
community because we want to or feel we should, rather than because we
have to by law.
A. Civic Responsibility C. Political Responsibility
B. Economic Responsibility D. Personal Responsibility

15. You can take social responsibility and be active in your community by:
I.Joining a Youth Club, a scouting group or a local environmental or
clean up group
II. Helping a primary school play, or coordinating or coaching junior sport
III. Being part of a youth advisory group through the local council
IV. Staying at home and taking no care outside your community
A. I and II items are correct C. I, II, and III are correct
B. Item I is correct D. Item IV is only correct

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References:

“Taking Charge of your Health and Well-Being”, accessed October 29, 2018,
https://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/enhance-your
wellbeing/relationships/what-do-we-mean-personal- relationships

“Fixing your relationship issues” accessed October 30, 2018,

http://www.professional- counselling.com/common- relationship-
problems.html

Department of Education, Republic of the Philippines, Personal Development

Reader 1st edition, Ten Rules for Finding Love and Creating
Long Lasting Relationships. Quezon City: Sunshine Interlinks Publishing
House Inc., 2016

Department of Education, Republic of the Philippines, Personal Development

Reader 1st edition, Keeping Healthy Relationships, Quezon City,
Sunshine Interlinks Publishing House Inc., 2016

Department of Education, Republic of the Philippines, Personal Development

Reader 1st edition, Basic Rights in a Relationship, Quezon City:
Sunshine Interlinks Publishing House Inc., 2016

Ge, Conger, & Elder, 2001; Graber, Lewinsohn, Seeley, & Brooks-Gunn,
1997;Striegel-Moore & Cachelin,1999.;
https://www.boundless.com/psychology/textbooks/boundless-
psychology- textbook/human-development- 14/adolescence-73/cultural-
and-societal- influences-on-adolescent-development-285

Department of Education, Republic of the Philippines, Personal Development

Reader 1st edition, Community Activity: Get involved, Quezon City:
Sunshine Interlinks Publishing House Inc., 2016

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 ANSWER KEY

What I know
1. A 9. A
2. C 10. A
3. D 11. B
4. C 12. C
5. A 13. A
6. C 14. A
7. D 15. C
8. B

Activity 1 Activity 2
1. True 1. Heart
2. True 2. Heart
3. True 3. Heart
4. False 4. X Mark
5. True 5. X Mark
6. True 6. Heart
7. False 7. Heart
8. True 8. X Mark
9.True 9. X Mark
10. True 10. X Mark

Assessment
1. A 9. A
2. C 10. A
3. D 11. B
4. C 12. C
5. A 13. A
6. C 14. A
7. D 15. C
8. B

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Rubrics for Individual Work

Exceptional Admirable Acceptable Attempted

20 points 18 points 15 points 12 points

Understanding Factual Factual Factual Factual

the topic information is information is information is information is
accurate; and accurate; and accurate; and accurate; and
indicates a clear indicates a indicates a indicates a
understanding of clear clear clear
topic understanding understanding understanding
of topic of topic of topic

Accuracy and Point-of-view, Point-of-view, Point-of-view, Point-of-view,

believability of arguments, and arguments, and arguments, and arguments, and
solutions solutions solutions solutions
the role
proposed were proposed were proposed were proposed were
always realistic always realistic always realistic always realistic
and constantly in and constantly and constantly and constantly
character in character in character in character

Cooperation Accepts ideas of Accepts ideas Accepts ideas Accepts ideas

others; able to of others; able of others; able of others; able
compromise; all to compromise; to compromise; to compromise;
members all members all members all members
contribute contribute contribute contribute

Presentation Shows Shows Shows Shows

confidence; confidence; confidence; confidence;
informative; informative; informative; informative;
entertaining; entertaining; entertaining; entertaining;
engages engages engages engages
audience; audience; audience; audience;
speaks loudly speaks loudly speaks loudly speaks loudly
and clearly; and clearly; and clearly; and clearly;
appropriate use appropriate use appropriate use appropriate use
of body of body of body of body
language language language language

Adapted and modifies from PerDev Readers of the department of Education 1st
edition Sunshine Interlinks Publishing House Inc., 2016

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