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Build Children’s
Self-Esteem
What is Self-Esteem
And Why is it So Important? 1 Teach your child skills. One
of the most important ways
children develop self-esteem is
by feeling competent and capa-
E xperienced educators say that self-esteem is an important
ingredient in school success. High self-esteem provides the
confidence students need to take on challenges at school and
ble. Every time you teach your
child a new skill—whether it’s
throughout life. Bright children who think poorly of themselves tying her shoes or riding her
may do poorly in school—while average children who believe in bike—you’re helping to build
themselves can excel. her self-esteem. When children
say, “I can’t,” they sometimes
Children who have high self-esteem are willing to tackle tough mean, “I don’t know how.”
learning assignments. They’re willing to try something new. And Help your child by showing
even if they don’t get the answer right the first time, they keep her each step of a new task.
trying until they get it right. Have her practice that step
As a parent, you are your until she learns it, then move
child’s first and most important on to the next step.
teacher. You have the most
influence in shaping your
child’s sense of self-worth. This
publication shares 25 parent-
tested ideas on how you can 2 Hold high expectations. Your expectations of your child
also shape his self-esteem. If you believe your child can do
well in school, he’ll probably think so, too. But sometimes
build your child’s self-esteem.
parents can hold expectations that are too high. If you expect
every school assignment to be perfect, or demand that your
Every child is unique, so we often
use the singular pronoun. We’ll child become an athletic star, you may actually harm your
alternate the use of “he” and “she” child’s self-esteem.
throughout this booklet.
16 Show your child how much you love him every day.
Here are 10 ways to say “I love you”:
17 Focus on the positive. Parents of children with high self-
esteem do more than just reward their children’s successes.
Don’t ignore behavior that falls short of your expectations. But do
1. Include him in your conversations when you and your try to focus on the positive.
child are around other adults.
2. Help him fix it if your child breaks something.
3. Take time to watch him when your child says, “Watch
18 Always keep two pictures by
your child’s bedside: a picture
of herself surrounded by family and
me.”
a picture of her doing something
4. Treat it as the most wonderful invitation you’ll receive she loves. The first picture will
all day when your child says, “Read me a story.” remind your child that she is loved.
5. Say “I love you” as often as you can. Make sure you say The second, that she is capable.
it just before your child leaves for school and at Change the pictures often and
bedtime before turning out the light. watch her self-esteem grow.
25 Ways Parents Can Build Children’s Self-Esteem is one of six booklets in The Parenting Series,
published by The Parent Institute®, P.O. Box 7474, Fairfax Station, VA 22039-7474. (800) 756-5525.
Copyright © 2009, 2004, 1998, 1991 The Parent Institute®, a division of NIS, Inc.
www.parent-institute.com
Photo credits: Corbis: inside cover
Getty Images: cover, pages 7, 11 and 13
iStockphoto: pages 1, 2, 3, 4, 8 and 9
Jupiter Images: page 5
Publisher: John H. Wherry, Ed.D. Writer: Kristen J. Amundson. Managing Editor: Patricia Hodgdon. Staff
Editors: Erika Beasley, Jennifer McGovern & Rebecca Miyares. Production Manager: Pat Carter. Translation
Manager: Michelle Beal-García. Business Manager: Sally Bert. Business Associate: Cristina Wilcox. Marketing
Director: Laura Bono. Marketing Assistants: Joyce Ghen & Andrea Ibach. Customer Service Manager: Peggy
Costello. Customer Service Associate: Cynthia Lees. Business Assistant: Donna Ross. Circulation Associate:
Diane Perry. Graphic Design & Illustrations: Joe Mignella, Maher & Mignella, Cherry Hill, NJ.