6 Ways Husbands Fail God & Their Wives & Risk God's Disciplinary Chastening

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A husband fails and can drive his wife into sin when - - - - -

[1] he chooses to forsake, leave, divorce or separate himself from

his wife, causing her to be tempted by Satan because of her normal
and natural failure to abstain from immorality:
***1Cor 7: 5 Do not be denying each other [sexually], unless, it may
be, by consent for a time, that you may devote yourselves to fasting
and prayer, and again be conjugally cohabiting [sexually reuniting],
that Satan tempt you not because of your failure to control yourself.
. . 10 I command the married —not I, but the Lord—a [believing] wife
is not to leave, depart or separate from [Strong's 5563] her [believing]
husband. 11a But if she does leave, depart, and/or separate [Strong's
5563], she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband . .
***Mat 5:32 But I tell you, everyone who divorces his wife, except in a case of
sexual immorality, CAUSES her to commit ADULTERY. And whosoever shall marry
her when she is put away (sent away, left, divorced, forsaken) commits adultery.
***1 Cor 7:11b—and a [believing] husband/man should not forsake, lay
aside, leave, put (send) away and/or divorce [Strongs 863] his
wife/woman . . . 39 A [believing] wife is bound to her [believing]
husband by [God's] Law as long as he lives. But if her husband dies,
she is free to be married to anyone she wants—only in the Lord.

[2] he chooses or fails to reverence, venerate and treat her with

deference.
This reverence, venerate and deference DO NOT HAVE TO BE EARNED,
for they are commanded by God Almighty. A husband should submit to
the Word of God seen in her lifestyle, to Christ who lives in her, and do
for her what he would do for Christ (Matt 25:31-46). In Solomon's Song
of Songs the husband shows us that reverence, respect and veneration
of a wife takes the form of his regularly telling her what he appreciates
and likes about her and/or what she does, thanking her when she does
something he appreciates and respects..

***Eph 5:21 Submit yourselves to each other in the reverential fear and
awe <Strong's 5399> of Christ
<Strong's 5399>: to fear (i.e. hesitate) to do something (for fear of
harm -weighing the consequences-); to reverence, venerate, to treat
with deference or reverential obedience
***1 Peter 2:16 As God's slaves, . . . . 17 Give respectful Honor to
everyone. Love those who are in Christ. Reverently fear God [for He is
the Consuming Fire]. Honor the Emperor. . . . submit yourselves to
those in authority over you with all respect, not only to the good and
gentle but also to the cruel. . . . 21 For you were called to this,
because Christ also suffered for you,
leaving you an example [of godly suffering],
so that you should follow in His steps. . . .
23 when [He was] verbally abused,

He did not revile in return;

when suffering, He did not threaten,
but committed Himself to the One who judges justly. . . . [See
Strong's, WEY, NASB, ESV, HCSB, AmpB, NKJV]

[3] he fails to {a} wash her with the Word by teaching her the Word;
{b} Love her in the same way he loves and cares for himself; {c}
nourish, cherish, provide and care for her; {d} and call on and ask Father
to work and will in him and so enable him to Love her after the manner of 1
Cor 13^ with a Love that has long patience, is kind; is not emulous/envious; is
not insolent and rash, is not puffed up, does not behave in an unseemly
manner, does not seek its
own, is not quickly provoked, does not impute or take account of evil, does not
rejoice at iniquity/unrighteousness but rejoices with the truth; that patiently
endures; that always believes and hopes; that patiently remains, perseveres,
and abides; and that never drops away, never is driven out, never fails, falls
away or becomes ineffective.
***Ephes 5:25 Husbands, Love^ your wives, just as also Christ Loved^
the church and gave Himself up for her, 26 to make her
holy/sanctified~, cleansing her in the washing of water by the Word. 27
He did this to present the church to Himself in glory and splendor,
without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but holy~ and blameless. 28
In the same way, husbands should Love their wives as their own
bodies. He who Loves his wife Loves himself. 29 For no one ever hates
his own flesh, but nourishes, cherishes, provides and cares for it, just
as Christ does for the church, 30 since we are members of His body.
31 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother

and be joined to his wife,

and the two will become one flesh.
. . . 33 To sum up, each one of you is to Love his wife as himself, . . .

[~ = set apart for God's purposes; See Strong's, WEY, NASB, ESV,
HCSB, AmpB, NKJV]

[4] he fails to recognize that sex is not a priority for most women and
so fails to make his body pleasant and desirable to her, making it
harder for her to respond intimately as she should. Nothing like a dirty
body, bad breath or body odor to kill desire.
***Song of Songs 1:3 The fragrance of your anointing oil is
intoxicating; your name is perfumed oil poured out. No wonder
young women adore you. . . .13 My lover is to me a sachet of myrrh resting
between my breasts. 14 My love is a cluster of henna blossoms to me, in the
vineyards of En-gedi.. . . 3;6 What is this coming up from the wilderness like
columns of smoke, scented with myrrh and frankincense from every fragrant
and scented powder of the merchant? 7 It is Solomon's royal traveling
couch . . . [WIFE] 5:13 His cheeks are like beds of spice, towers of perfume. His
lips are lilies, dripping with flowing myrrh. . . .16 His mouth is sweetness. He
is absolutely desirable. . . . [See NASB, ESV, HCSB, AmpB, NKJV]

[5] he sins by disobeying the following Scriptures that confirm that marriage is a
sexual relationship, by wrongfully regularly refusing to let his wife be sexually having
him; by refusing to regularly render the kindness, intimate marital duty, benevolence
and good will that is due, owed and obligated unto the wife; by regularly refusing or
failing to be satisfied/intoxicated/saturated with her breasts and affectionate loving; by
regularly refusing to accept and acknowledge his wife's sexual authority over his body;
by denying her sexually and refusing to conjugally cohabit with her without mutual
consent:
***1 Cor 7:2 but because of and to avoid sexual immorality each man
should be [sexually] having his own woman, and each woman should
be [sexually] having her own man. 3 The husband should render unto the
wife [the] kindness, intimate marital duty, benevolence and good will <Strong's 2133>
[that is] due, owed and obligated <Strong's 3784> ; and likewise also the wife [should
render the kindness, intimate marital duty, benevolence and good will that is due, owed
and obligated] unto the husband.
***Prov. 5:18 Your [sexual] fountain should be blessed; and rejoice
and be glad with the wife of your youth. 19 . . . her breasts should
satisfy/intoxicate/saturate you at all times; you should be
intoxicated continually with her affectionate loving
***1 Cor 7:4. The woman doesn't have [sexual] authority over her
own body, but the husband [does]; in like manner also the man
doesn't have [sexual] authority over his own body, but the woman
[does]. 5 Do not be denying each other [sexually], unless, it may be,
by consent for a time, that you may devote yourselves to fasting
and prayer, and again be conjugally cohabiting [sexually reuniting],
that Satan tempt you not because of your failure to control
yourself.

[6] he chooses or fails to reverence, venerate and treat her with

deference; failing to live with her intelligently with knowledge and
understanding of her weaker body and nature, so that his prayers
won't be hindered and he won't suffer God's chastening (1 Cor 11:30-
32; Heb 12). Psychologist Doctor Harley in his book, "His Needs Her
Needs" documents that a woman's primary needs in marriage are
sincere affection, meaningful conversation, honesty and
openness, adequate financial support and commitment to
family. Sex doesn't even make it to the top five. For a
woman, sex without affection is like driving a car without
enough engine oil. It doesn't work for long. Read the
Bible's Song of Songs/Solomon to see how it is done right.
If any of these needs are not met by the husband, the
marriage has a significant problem.
***1 Peter2:16 As God's slaves, . . . . 17 Give respectful Honor to
everyone. Love those who are in Christ. Reverently fear God [for He is
the Consuming Fire]. Honor the Emperor. . . . submit yourselves to
those in authority over you with all respect, not only to the good and
gentle but also to the cruel. . . . 21 For you were called to this,
because Christ also suffered for you,
leaving you an example [of godly suffering],
so that you should follow in His steps. . . .
23 when [He was] verbally abused,
 He did not revile in return;
when suffering, He did not threaten,
but committed Himself to the One who judges justly. . . . 3:7
Husbands, IN THE SAME WAY [like Jesus did in 1 Peter 2], live with
your wives intelligently with knowledge and understanding of their
weaker nature/vessel, yet showing them honor as co-heirs of the
grace of Life, SO THAT YOUR PRAYERS WILL NOT BE HINDERED.
[See Strong's, WEY, NASB, ESV, HCSB, AmpB, NKJV]

He can cause her to sin by failing to remember that his wife is the weaker vessel, possibly a
weak believer or of weak faith, and so failing to live with her according to Romans 14.
Marital applications are found in text in [brackets].

***1 Accept anyone who is weak in faith, but don't argue about doubtful [marital]
issues - - - AS FOR the man [or wife] who is a weak believer, welcome him [or her
into your fellowship], but not to criticize his [or her] opinions or pass judgment on
his [or her] scruples or perplex him [or her] with discussions [about controversial
marital issues]. . . 10 But thou, why judgest thou thy brother [or wife]? or again,
thou, why dost thou make little of thy brother [or marital partner]? For we shall all
be placed before the judgment-seat of God. 11For it is written, *I* live, saith [the]
Lord, that to me shall bow every knee, and every tongue shall confess to God.
12So then each of us shall give an account concerning himself to God [in the
matter of harmless Biblical marital intimacy]. 13 We should no longer therefore
judge one another ; but judge ye this rather, not to put a [spiritual] stumbling-
block or a fall-trap before his brother [or his marital partner]. . . .15But if your
brother [or marital partner is being pained or his/her feelings hurt], [then] you
are no longer walking in LOVE. [You have ceased to be living and conducting
yourself by the standard of LOVE toward him/her.] Do not let what you eat [or do
in the matter of personal lberty] hurt or cause the ruin of one for whom Christ
died! 16Let not then your good be evil spoken of; . . . 19 So then we should
pursue the things which tend to peace, and things whereby one shall build up
another. 20 For the sake of meat [or some act] do not destroy the work of God. All
things indeed [are] pure; but [it is] evil to that man who eats [or does something]
while stumbling [another spiritually in doing so]. 21[It is] right not to eat meat,
nor drink wine, nor [or do something] in which thy brother [or wife spiritually]
stumbles, or is offended, or is weak. 22 Do you have faith [based on the Word of
God [about something]? Have [your faith about it ] to thyself before God
[privately and/or discretely]. Blessed [is] he who does not judge himself in what
he allows [in his personal liberty]. 23 But he that doubts [that it is right to do this
or that], if he eat [or does this or that], is condemned; because [his behavior is]
not of faith; but whatever [behavior is] not of faith [based on the Word of God] is
sin. 15:1 But we that are strong [in our faith and its liberty in Christ], *we* ought
to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves [in controversial
matters]. 2 Each one of us should please his neighbour [or marital partner] with a
view to what is good, to edification. 3For the Christ also did not please himself; . . .
[From Darby and AMPB]

Now in giving the following instruction I do not praise you,

***1 Cor 11:17
since you come together not for the better but for the worse. 18 For, to
begin with, I hear that when you come together as a church there are
divisions among you, and in part I believe it. 19 There must, indeed, be
factions among you, so that the approved among you may be
recognized. 20 Therefore when you come together in one place, it is not
really to eat the Lord's Supper. 21 For in eating, each one takes his
own supper ahead of others, and one person is hungry while another is
drunk! 22 Don't you have houses to eat and drink in? Or do you despise
and look down on the church of God and humiliate or embarrass or
shame those who have nothing? . . 30That's why many of you are sick
and weak and why a lot of others have died. 31If we carefully judge
ourselves, we won't be punished. 32But when the Lord judges and
punishes us, he does it to keep us from being condemned with the rest
of the world. [See CEV, WEY, NASB, ESV, HCSB, AmpB, NKJV]

The marital application of this passage would go like this:

Now in giving the following instruction I do not praise you, since

you come together maritally not for the better but for the worse.
For, to begin with, I hear that when you come together as a
couple there are divisions between you, and in part I believe it.
There must, indeed, be faction [disputes, discords, strifes,
conflicts, frictions, arguments, disagreements, quarreling,
wrangling, bickering, squabbling, disharmony, disunity] between
you, so that the one approved may be recognized. Therefore
when you come together in one place, it is not really to be godly
in your marriage. 21 For one takes or gets what he/she wants
with no thought or care for the other, so that one has and takes
and the other doesn't have or take. Why don't you act like that
when you are alone? Or do you despise and look down on your
mate and humiliate or embarrass or shame your mate who
doesn't have what she wants/needs while in front of her you
please yourself with what you want/need? . . 1 Cor 11:30 "That's
why many of you are sick and weak and why a lot of others have
died. 31 If we carefully judge ourselves, we won't be punished. 32
But when the Lord judges and punishes us, he does it to keep us
from being condemned with the rest of the world."

If a wife's husband is sinning against her as stated above, she should

do all of Matt 18:16,6,7; Gala 6:1; 2 Tim 2;24-26; 1 Cor 5:11; 2 Thess
3:6; and remember what the Word says about her being maritally
bound to him.