How to LOVE yourself?

Exploring
love inside YOU.
Self-love is something which I believe should be practiced before anything in the world. If you
are not in love with yourself, not happy with your existence, and think that others will love you, it
won't happen. There is a famous quote about self-love: "Love yourself and everything else will
fall into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything in the world right". Self-love should
be practiced to love yourself and others and create a fulfilling life around you, keeping you
happy all the time.

I don't understand why people are searching for love in the outer world when you can start by
loving yourself. However, most of us have no idea and aren't sure what self-love looks like, and
how can we practice it?

Well, let's see what loving ourselves means.

Self-loving or loving ourselves​ is a process of saying ourselves, "I am just worthy of loving
myself and others whatever may be a condition of myself, whatever my bank balance looks like,
no matters whatever are my qualifications, continuing to love yourself flawlessly even if we fail
again and again. Don't just pretend that you don't need anyone. Rather than this, accept your
current situation and start loving others but don't expect the same love from others.

Loving ourselves in simple words is having some courage and grace to accept the imperfect
you. When you follow this from that day, you will get the real meaning of self-love.

Let's get deeper into this topic:

Now you have some idea of what self-love is, let us understand the real meaning of self-love in
real life. For instance, self-love can be just skipping the workout throughout just because your
body does want to do it, or self-love is just taking naps at the time of working hours just because
your eyes are restless due to binge-watching. Or it can just be found in waking up early just
because your body wanted to move a little bit. It can also be termed as going to a night out with
your friends to fulfill your cravings.

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Also, it can be termed in the way to stay up at home alone just because you do not want to
mingle up or are not willing to go out. It can also be escaping the bad habits of drinking just
because you have realized that drinking alcohol is not decreasing your pain, but it increases
your pain deep inside and kills yourself from inside. There is no rocket science to understand
the word "Self-love" . It just can be practiced easily, and this is just going to change your life and
increase your self-esteem.

Four simple ways by which you can practice to love yourself more:

​1. Giving up the need to be perfect:-

Are you also having a continually criticizing or judging mindset, whether it is based on looks,
actions or behaviours?

Do you have a mindset that is always speaking and won't shut up?

Have you ever noticed that this is your internal voice or something which is just happening just
because of the outside world?

Your mind is just not made to judge yourself or others, but it is made to make you fearless and
grow ambitions inside yourself. But by just not appreciating your mind and criticizing yourself
that you are not perfect or judging yourself due to your looks, you are just killing its ability to
grow up the self-esteem inside you.

Let's talk about the solution. So if you have a persistent and robust mind full of self-doubt or
self-judgment, you must take your own time, sit in a quiet place, notice your breathing, and allow
all the thoughts that are just coming into your mind, whether excellent or harsh. Now slowly
open your eyes. It would help if you thanked your mind for protecting you from the evil thoughts
and feeling you safe. Just know the real truth that there is nothing to fix or change. You are
perfect the way you are right now—no need to change yourself for others.

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2. Stop comparing others from yourself:-

This is an essential step in which you should ​practice loving yourself​. Just stop looking outside
your world for fulfilment. You don't know from which problem the other person is going through.
Whether the person is also finding itself inside you and thinking the same, you are thinking of.

Stop at the moment, take a long breath and notice the activities and thoughts inside your mind.
Now, after this step, notice what things you are grateful for?

It can be your family, health, partner, or the air itself you are breathing.

Make a list of all the grateful things in your life, Weather it can be all the people you have to
meet in your life, or the experiences of the things you are grateful for, or some places which you
wanted to visit and visited after that, or the dreams which you made real or the food you have
eaten or just the things which you love the most.

Just by this small step, you will feel how grateful you are and will love yourself and stop
comparing others. Having a competition to win is way different than comparing others' lives.

​3. Just stop caring what are other people thinking:-

Now here comes the main point that we are just thinking about what the other people around us
are thinking. Let's be honest, many of us, or I might say 99% of us, sometimes and somewhere
start to judge or start thinking that whether the person is thin/fat, loud/quiet, rich/low,
successful/failure. We know that those thoughts are never going to affect this person, but we
just kept on murmuring and judging them. We also know that like us, someone should also be
thinking the same about us.

When the person in front of you is not having problems and not caring about what you are
thinking, why do you always affect yourself for what other people are thinking? Why are you just
spoiling your mindset? The choice is yours. Just keep thinking that what others will think or live
a grateful life full of self-love and caring.

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4. Give up the search of self- love outside of yourself:-

This is the main problem with most of us that we crave love outside of us. Just criticizing and
judging ourselves and making useless thoughts. We start making compression with others,
which creates self-doubt inside us.

Even if we are getting enough attention and love from the outer world, we are never fulfilled with
that and want more love. It is just like an endless pit. It is merely that the more love we crave
from others, the far away we are from that person.

Just think for a second that what if you could feel the whole without confirming or craving for
love from others?

You should be happy and proud of every part of your body. Even the parts of which you are not
so proud of. Grabbing someone's love or affection won't make you fulfil. You have to start loving
yourself first.

I hope these four simple steps will increase the self-love and self-care inside you.

Conclusion:
The primary purpose of writing this blog is to make you aware that no love is more significant
than self-love and self-care. Today in this world full of people who do not care about themselves
and running out to grab the love and affection outside, become someone who makes​ self-care
and practices self-love. You will automatically see how the world around you is changed in
seconds. Just follow the simple steps and watch the positive results. Do not underestimate
self-love. You truly need it.

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