2015-02-06-RAS - Day One 001 - States of Affairs - Understanding Genders Today

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David:
But the interesting thing is, when you put out these workshops on sexuality or romance, you get
hundreds of women that just raise their hands, but the ones who actually show up are the men.
(laughter) Right? You have to use very specific key words when you're talking to a female audience.
They're not the same words that men respond to, right? You say 'sex', women run. I mean, they'll, they'll
say they're interested, but they actually won't show up. You say 'romance', they're all there.
Male:
Hm.
David:
And then the guys are there hoping for the women, right?
Male:
Mm-hmm (affirmative).
David:
This is what, this is the whole happy hour psychology, right? Why do, why do women get free drinks at
happy hour? So the men'll come in and buy them for them, right? (laughs) It's, that's how it works.
Male:
Yeah.
David:
And everything in our society is geared that way. Everything in s-, our society is geared to get the money
out of your wallet by giving the women free stuff, everything from Ho-, Hollywood down to the bar
scene. It's all designed that way. That's why those dating sites are all free for women, 'cause they know
the men will pay ...
Male:
Will follow.
David:
... because we're very linear that way.
Male:
David:
We're used to being the hunter, right? And that's okay. The problem with being the hunter in terms of
dating and relating is that (coughing) it changes what we call the frame or the prizability or the, or of, of
the, of interaction. What does that really mean? It means that if I'm the hunter, there has to be
something I'm hunting, right? Well, if it's something I'm hunting, that means in my mind, it intrinsically
has more value than me. Otherwise it would be hunting me, right? This is what, this is the psychology
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that we have to understand because in a woman's world, she ... I can, I'm going to get a little bit
politically incorrect, and I will wax a lot politically incorrect because it's primar-, today it's primarily a
male audience, but these are the things we need to understand as men. Even though we're not
misogynists by any stretch of the imagination, the biggest challenge that we're having with male/female
relationships is a confusion in terms of what is masculine and what is feminine.
David:
And that is causing women a whole bunch of problems because men don't know how to be men
anymore, right? And in spite of all the, the inroads and the successes that women have made in terms of
their education, their job opportunities, their business opportunities, the basic hard-wired programming
in them is that they are still fundamentally hard wired to seek a strong, dominant male. Nature didn't
change that just because, you know, a couple thousand years of social ch-, social changes have cha-,
have happened, right?
David:
So no matter what the outer dressing is, if you don't embody certain key traits, and it has nothing really
to do with your physical, your physicality, although we'll talk about body language and, and things that
you can use and, and, and ways to apply these things. And nothing we're doing here is about
manipulating wom-, or, uh, uh, lying or deceiving women. It's about understanding their psychology and
their frame of reference, and developing sets of skills that allow us to kind of see the matrix so that we
can have more freedom and power and choice with the women we meet, right?
David:
We a-, and I said it at the workshop, was, um, the ironic thing is that the vast majority of women that
you meet actually do want you to come talk to them.
Male:
Mmm.
David:
But there's so many elements in their life, so many barriers and hurdles that they have to deal with that
men don't really get, that they have to adopt certain behaviors, and we'll talk about those. They have to
adopt certain behaviors as, uh, as a [bay 00:04:00] to survive the, the ons-, the assault or the onslaught
of guys just hitting on them, right, and, and, and like I was telling Bob when he came in, even an, an, of a
low average, uh, no-, you know, a woman, attractive, on the attractiveness scale gets hit on a reasonable
amount of times.
David:
It's like ... Think about it like this. Let's say that, um, you're going through the world and a guy walks up
to you and he says, "Hey. Um, gimme a dollar. Can I have a dollar? You look pretty, you look pretty rich.
Can I have a dollar?" Right? He's like, no. (laughs) Right? Two minutes later, the same guy comes up to
you, or another guy comes up to you, says exactly the same thing. "Can I have a dollar?" That gets old
pretty fucking quick, right?
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Well, the psychology for beautiful women is pretty much akin to that. Every guy that comes up to her,
whether, you know, regardless of how high, how tall, how fat, how, how good looking, are all saying
exactly the same thing. They all start to sound alike and it becomes just uncontrollable. It becomes
outrageous, right? And so they have to start, and they want, they want to be approached, but the same
kind of guys keep approaching. They keep doing the same thing, and she's programmed by nature to
sort for the exceptional ones. Right? So she starts developing these behaviors to put people off, to make
people kind of separate themselves as a way to tur-, determine who's worth their time and who isn't.
David:
It really has not a lot to do with their appearance beyond just the first fraction of a second. It really has
to do with the feelings that they have, and the way that you respond to her tests, right? So going back to
this whole hunter/seeker metaphor, anything that we're intrinsically seeking or going after, in our mind
we've given more value. So in the relationship, remember when I was covering, talking about the mating
dance, that classic, you know, perpendicular orientation ... well, it tells you right away, whoever has
more frontal facing real estate is the seeker in that relationship. As values change or as, as your
prizability, as my friend Swing Cat likes to call it, in the relationship changes ...
Male:
David:
... this happens, right? Now the pickup artists, they'll spend a lot of time doing this.
Male:
(laughs) Right.
David:
Right?
Male:
Absolutely.
David:
Because that's a hypnotic process known as fractionation, right? In their terms, they call it push/pull,
right? Um, and the more you do that, the, every time they go back into that connection, they go deeper,
right? The problem is most people don't do push/pull really well.
Male:
Mmm.
David:
Like David Decon, the, coined the term 'cocky funny'. The problem I found with most guys when I was
coming up through those, those ranks was they were all cock and no fun. They didn't know how to be
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have that playful energy, right? You've got to come in with the mindset either, either ... and again,
there's different ways to, uh, to approach that. Um, I want you to eventually get to the point where you
just embody the idea that you know more about how to please a woman than any man on the planet,
and we want it to be literally true. We'll give you the skills to do that.
David:
Matter of fact, depending on, on how fast we move through materials and things like that, I may break
out some of my unlimited lover stuff, which is a completely different seminar on sexuality, sexual
programming and things like that. And we'll show you how to just rock women's worlds in unfair ways,
(laughter) um, because, you know, (laughs) all's fair in love and war, [crosstalk 00:07:52] and sometimes
love is a lot like war, right?
David:
But, um, but I want to kind of start with just the most basic fundamen-, and, and if some of this is
review, I apologize in advance, but, you know, uh, and I also want to target things that you want. Yes?
Male:
Just a quick question. Um, are their notes or anything that you're to hand out on the website or should
we be taking notes or ...
David:
I actually have notebook paper for you. I wasn't sure, uh, if I should print out, 'cause what I'm going to
be teaching you a lot is from, uh, from another course that I'm tea-, I, I have called CPI, which is actually
a conversational hypnosis course. And, um ...
Male:
[crosstalk 00:08:31]. Thank you.
David:
Mm-hmm (affirmative). And so if you want, uh, I can, I can ... gave you copies of that manual. It's
downloadable, actually. It's actually in my Killer Influence site. Uh, this is my Killer Influence course.
Male:
Mmm.
David:
This is a $2,000 training, and I do, um, which is an expens- ... These are all just bullet points, by the way.
(laughs) Uh, it's a very intense course. Matter of fact, the last time I taught the course ... Actually, the
first time I taught the course, one guy had a meltdown.
Male:
Really.
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On day three, he literally looks at the camera and goes, "I can't take it anymore. I suck," right? And he
actually went on to do very well, but, um, when I, when I train people in this stuff, it's not just a little
light dusting. I mean, I want you guys to really, uh, really get it, right? Um ...
Male:
Do we get access to the videos later or anything or ...
David:
Yeah, I'll give you access ...
Male:
All right.
David:
... to the videos. In fact, I'll give you access to some of the other videos where I have, where I've, we're
actually teaching some of the girls some of this stuff. I had one girl ...first time we did it was called Real
World Romance. It was a two-day intensive. This is the first ... This is the second time I've done it as a
three-day. So, uh, I'm actually giving, putting more material in it that's cross contextual, right? And we'll
have time for doing some inner game work and stu- ... I don't know if you guys are having any, any
background in hypnosis or in LP or in anything like that ...
Male:
No.
David:
... so, uh, I spend a lot of time on inner game. We need outer game, but we, more importantly, we need
to understand the psychology of the people that we're dealing with, 'cause the more we understand
their psychology and, and the signals that they give off, the more deeply we can, we know what to do
when. In my first course that I ever created back in 2004, it was called, uh, Secret Orgasm Tips. Uh, I, I, in
one, I had one chapter called The One Thing That Makes Every [Successful 00:10:12] Form of Pickup and
Seduction Work. And it's all about the, the biggest problem I see, and like I was telling ... you weren't
here, but I was telling Bob ... back when I was coming up through ... when, when I was really doing this
stuff ... I started, I started really doing this stuff hard core in the '90s; 2002 is when I think I moved to LA.
Male:
Yeah.
David:
And, uh, one of my friends was a guy named, uh, Joseph Matthews who ran a blog called The Art of
Approaching. And Thundercat Seduction there was his, was his [who, who 00:10:40] and name. And at
that time, this was before, you know, guys like Mystery and Style, uh, all these guys became famous, but
they were all on his blog ...
Male:

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David:
... exchanging ideas and this is when the pickup community was still underground, right? And so Matt
was on a first-name basis with all these guys (clearing throat) and of course I became on a first-name
basis, 'cause Matt and I were very good friends. Um, in fact, I spent a lot of time coaching Matt and a lot
of the people who would go on to write these books on some inner game stuff and things like that. Um,
another good friend of mine is Swing Cat, which you guys may have heard of. He wrote a book called
Real World Seduction which a lot, a lot of the material we're going to be sharing with you today is, is
stuff that Josh actually originally ... Josh was one of the most powerful speed seducers that I've ever
seen.
Male:
Well ...
David:
Okay? This guy was unstoppable. I mean, and he's not ... I mean, (laughs) every time I see him, I keep
thinking Rico Suave because he was this little, little Jewish guy. He was maybe, I might, I mean, I
shouldn't say little. He was about my height, maybe an inch or two different [from women 00:11:43]. Big
thick curly hair and he would always wear these like satiny shirts with open down to here (laughter) and,
and I'm like, first time I was like, "What the fuck?" (laughs) Right?
David:
But this guy, and when you hear him talk, he sounds super edu-, and he is super educated. He's really
smart. Um, but he just loves going out and picking up women. That's his thing, right? And I won't tell you
about the Tijuana trip as it was, it was not pretty. But, uh, but he, he w-, he, he was one of Ross' top
guys, uh, but he would just go out in the field, but he was a machine. And he could walk into any bar,
any strip joint, and just riff, you know, better than most hypnotists I've ever seen, you know, even the
tops guys, you know.
David:
In fact, a lot of the top guys were his peers, right. Um, and he eventually went his own way [crosstalk
00:12:34] and formed his, you know, he broke away from the speed seduction stuff, developed his own
ideas, which is ... He was the one who actually came up with the term 'prizing'. Have you ever heard that
prizability or, uh, push/pull?
Male:
David:
That was his. That was, he, he developed that concept. It's always existed in one form or another, but
he's the one that put that term out there. I mean, he came up with a lot of stuff that, that we take for
granted in the modern pickup world, right? But he was one ... he, he, he's one of those guys, you know
how sometimes those girls come to your door, they're trying to sell magazines and shit like that? He
actually, a girl came to his door, hot girl, selling these magazines subscriptions. (laughter) He seduced

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her right at the front door, (laughter) banged her like the screen door, sent her home, didn't even buy
any magazines, right?
Male:
(laughs) Wow.
David:
(laughs) [inaudible 00:13:24], right? You know, um, [crosstalk 00:13:27], yeah, he's a, you know, and I
keep toying with the idea that, uh, you know, uh, and bring him down as a, as one of my guests
sometime, but he's kind of weird. (laughter)
Male:
[inaudible 00:13:38].
David:
He's a, he's very effective, you know, almost scary effective. If you've read the book, um, the, The Game,
the character Rasputin is based on him.
Male:
Hm.
David:
It's ac-, Rasputin is actually a combination of several people in the seduction community, so, uh ...
Male:
Hm.
David:
... so, yeah. I, I know Steve P, and I know [Penonica 00:14:05], and I know, you know, I hung out with
Neil several ti-. Matter of fact, I might be seeing Neil again. I just got an invitation to speak at the, uh,
Limitless Man Summit out in Vegas in June. And all the heavy guy-, heavy hitters are out there. I'm
surprised they reached out to me 'cause I'm just kind of a little guy, but ...
Male:
You know that woman that's in the field? She's super hot, um ...
David:
There's a bunch of them now.
Male:
Uh, I g-, I have one of her book-, [inaudible 00:14:32]. Um, I'll look it up and tell you.
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All right. The only one I really know personally is Marnie from Wing Girl Method. Uh, but there's a lot of
them.
Male:
Wing Girl Method is what I was thinking when you mentioned the woman out in the field.
David:
Yeah.
Male:
I don't, I don't know her, but I know Wing Girl Method.
David:
Yeah, I hung out at her house once, twice. We used to have a mastermind, because I belonged to what
they call a seduction syndicate, which is about 30 or 40, uh, people in the, the internet marketing
space ...
Male:
David:
... who focus on dating seduction. I'm in there with all those guys, David Shade, Carlos Suma, you know,
uh, Ja-, uh, Hugo ... I, I know a lot of these guys by their ral-, real names, not so much their pen names,
but ...
Male:
Yeah.
David:
... but Marnie's in there. Marnie's been ... Marnie was one of the founding members, actually. Uh, she's
got some good stuff, you know.
Male:
Noble is her name. Uh ...
David:
No, I don't know her. Keisha Noble?
Male:
Uh ... the Noble Art of Seduction is her book. I think it's her last name.
David:
I think it's Keisha Noble, if it's, if it's ...

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Male:
Sounds right, yeah, yeah.
David:
... if it's ... she's in the synd-, yeah, she's in the syndicate. I don't know her personally, but ...
Male:
[inaudible 00:15:36].
David:
... yeah. So basically, uh, let's, let's, let me just make sure my camera's on and running, [crosstalk
00:15:43] so, but, uh, so what I'll do is, um, as we go through the day, in a couple of days we'll set up
things for you guys and, uh, I'll p-, I'll actually put up video ...
Male:
Okay.
David:
... of, of other classes I've taught, uh, like, like you saw with me when I brought Yelena up and I did the
mating dance with her.
Male:
Yeah, that was fun.
David:
That was fun, right? You see what was happening to her? The more we put her in those positions, the
more exuberant she became. It's not the first time that's happened. It happens actually quite often, uh,
because the ...
Male:
She was definitely open to it and the enthusiasm that she portrayed when she volunteered.
David:
Yeah.
Male:
Because when you asked for a volunteer, she was into it.
David:
Yeah. (laughter) Right. And that's, that's what we want, you know. We, we have a tendency to look at
women who are too easy to get as low value, right? Well, the same thing happens with, from a woman's
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Male:
Right.
David:
... is low value, right, so one of the things that we want to do is we want to start to cont-, to do what we
call controlling the frame. Controlling the frame means that the woman comes to see you as the prize,
right, period, end of story. But h-, but there's two ways that we can do that. We can start by creating
that, that impression or that frame right from the beginning, or we can come in as an equal and then as
we go through the, as we go through the interactions, slowly raise our value, okay, which is generally
what initially happens when you, when you approach a woman. She's going to evaluate our h-, your,
your level of health and resources. That's kind of what she's going to sort for. And if it, if she, she
evaluates that unconsciously as good, then you have a slight, a slightly higher value, but the moment
you open your mouth, you can drop it (laughs) because that's usually what happens.
David:
A guy approaches; he's demonstrated some level of strength and confidence by being able to come up
and talk to her ...
Male:
David:
... but the minute he opens his mouth, he frames himself either as an equal, a subordinate, or a higher
val-, a, a dominant. Does that make sense? And those are the primary three positions that you can hold
in a frame. Do you guys understand what I'm saying when I'm, what I mean when I say frame?
Male:
David:
Right, okay. Um, and there are many different kinds of frames, and in fact, framing is probably one of
the most powerful psychological tools that you can bring to bear, not just in pickup or in attraction, but
in business. Uh, there's a whole book written on the idea of framing. It's called Pitch Anything, by Oren
Klaff. It's a direct steal from Swing Cat, okay. He actually took a lot of these, these pickup and seduction
tactics and applied them in the business world to pitching venture ... to deals to ... multi-million deals to
venture capitalists.
Male:
So, so what is framing? Is it coming with the right context?
David:
Framing is the idea ... is the, is, is cre-, is managing the meaning of your p-, of your interaction. So in
other words, the common frame that people deal with, and the, and I liken a frame to a movie where
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get to decide who's playing what part in your movie. So the way most movies are written, you have hot
girl. You have ... eh ... [margalee 00:19:24] to hot guy, but in most dynamics, the hot guy is trying to get
the attra-, the attention of the hot girl. The frame, the meta frame of that is that she has more value.
She is the dominant. She is the prize in that interaction. And so therefore, anything that he does to get
her still ac-, frames her as what he's seeking.
David:
But if we reverse the frame, where she's seeking him, now he's the prize, right? In any frame, both sets
of behaviors are hard wired psychologically into the human being, right? So you only get one frame per
person. If you occupy the prize frame and you hold it long enough and strong enough, her neurology will
take on the hunter frame and she will start initiating validation seeking behavior. She will start seeking
your favor, your ... to, for you to grant your benefits to her, for lack of a better word.
David:
So the thing that we unders-, that we need to understand about frames is all frames are equally true,
right? So, um, and the classic way of understanding frames is to talk about what we call reframing, and
to do that, we're going to step outside the seduction community a little bit just to understand ... Like if
somebody says to you, guns are evil. Guns kill people. All guns should be outlawed. I would nev-, or I
would never kill somebody, right? Well, can you come up in a ... depending on how you frame that or
what context you wrap around it, that may or may not be true, right?
David:
If I'm going to wa-, if the context that we're thinking about is walking up and shooting somebody point
blank, right, then of course, that's, that context makes perfect sense. But if we say, well, what if
somebody's attacking somebody you deeply care about and they're going to kill them, the only thing you
can do is shoot them? Right? Many times, when you change the context, that same behavior is, is okay.
When we start looking at pickup and seduction, a lot of the things that we do are based on the context.
Both the, the idea of being a prize or the hunter, both sets of behaviors, both sets of perspectives, are
hard wired to every human being.
David:
Whenever two people get together, male/female, male/male, female/female, a framework takes place.
This little unconscious battle takes place to see who the dominant figure, who the dominant person in
that interaction will be. As a rule, the dominant person has the highest value, okay? Remember that
women are trained to sort for dominance, right? If, by definition, you're the, you're the hunter and you
are seeking her validation, she's the dominant one in the frame, which means you intrinsically have
lower value and social status in her world. Does that make sense?
Male:
David:
So we have two ways that we can begin to change that. We can come in as an equal. Actually you can
come in as a subordinate, but it's really hard to go from subordinate to equal to dominant. It can be
done but it's, it takes a lot of skill, right? It's better off to come in as an equal or at least close enough to

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an equal, uh, for her to pay attention, and then slowly raise your value in her world. That's the concept
of prizing.
David:
Another way that we can begin to change that is we can come in and we can intrinsically lower her
value. We call that 'negging', okay, whereby pointing out things about her that reduce her self esteem or
sense of self worth, we can bring her down and change that dynamic. So there's a lot of different ways
that we can shift who's the dominant one in the frame. Now I'm not a big fan of negging, personally. I'm
a big fan of teasing, and the concept behind the c-, idea of negging is, it's ... and originally when it was
brought out in the seduction community, it was really only about the 10s, the nines and the 10s out
there, the super hot ones, right, because they're s-, they're so used to being, uh, compl-, complimented
on their shit, you know. Your hair is so beautiful. You're so br-, beauti-, dista-, and everybody's saying
the same friggin' thing, right?
David:
Here's a concept I want you to get. I call it the Achilles heel principle. The desire that gets fed the least
has the most power. Everyone on the planet is seeking what we call validation. Guys seek validation
through quantity of women that they have and the amount of sex that they get. This is why we're always
like chasing puntang, right? We want breeding rights. Why? Because the more women we can get to
accept us, the more we're spreading our genes, the more we feel like we're living the mission, right?
We're fulfilling our purpose in life, which at its most primal fundamental level is to spread our seeds.
That's what we do. We feel better about ourself because somebody has approved of us. Somebody has
given us something that we didn't have enough of, right? That's how we calibrate validation. Attraction.
Who's attracted to us? How many women we can get. How much sex we get.
David:
Now. You'll find this behavior a lot because most guys will sleep with any woman who actually, uh, even
remotely shows any, any desire for them. Why? Because they're in such a state of ste-, sexual scarcity
that they jump at anything that comes at them, right, because it's not actually the sex many times,
although we have that strong drive. It's that social, that psychological, the emotional validation we get
from being accepted and s-, and being wanted by another human being.
David:
Women have that too, but they get s-, approached so much and it happens so often, they, they have to
develop armor and filters and all these other things, right? W-, men, it's very different, but for a woman,
they still want validation too. Matter of fact, they need it more than we do because their whole method
of survival is based on being accepted by their group and by their psychology. You understand?
Male:
David:
It's subtle. This is one of the things I was talking about at the workshop is that when, um ... make sure
my ... yeah, make sure my, my microphone's on so we're getting all this good stuff. And again, we're
going to cover fundamentals, uh ... yeah, okay. (coughing) So in women's psychology, remember, her,

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she has two things that she needs to do in ter-, in order to ensure survival for her, her 'chillens', right? A,
she needs to attract the strongest male humanly possible. When we say strong, we're going to talk
about the five plus two characteristics that women are fundamentally programmed to become sexually
aroused by. Okay? We're going to work on actually developing those attributes in ourself, okay.
David:
This is what I call a passive attractor. People who have these traits start turning on women just by
walking in the room, right, and they automatically become more successful in life, okay. Um, so we're
going to wo-, work on that aspect, but one of the things that she wants ... and so a male, is someone
who's strong, who's assertive, who's dominant, who is a little bit on the cocky, cynical side, has a good
sense of humor, but mostly what they're looking for is somebody who has the power and the resources
to protect them, and many times to command them. Okay?
David:
Remember that as we evolved, a female had to ally herself with a strong mate to survive and take care
of the offspring. Now nowhere in the lexicon of evolution does it say strong equals nice, right? This is
why, throughout history, you see barbarian masc-, you know, these warlords just go and take women
and women just submit. They're hard wired for that actually. It's w-, it's, there's a weird ... they're hard
wired for it. In fact, um, maybe I'll give you guys ... just because you're putting up with my shit this next
three days ... (laughter) I'll give you a copy of a, a very special erotic hypnosis training that I taught with
Steve P, uh, four or five years ago.
David:
Now I don't know if you've ever been in a, a workshop with Steve. You guys know what I'm talking about
when I say Steve P?
Male:
I don't know.
David:
Well, if you've read The Game, right, you know that hypnotist that Style went to see that gave him his
outrageous inner game? That was Steve P. He's a friend of mine. He lives here in San Diego. Uh, and
Steve, when he does his workshops, is all about alpha ... not alpha ultra. (laughs) I mean, he is the
most ... if you didn't know the guy personally, you would swear he's the most misogynist motherfucker
on the planet, (laughter) but actually when you see him interacting with women, he's the most charming
guy ever, but he's a 55-year-old ex-biker with hair down to here, right? Big into Shamanism and stuff like
that. But one of the things that he understands is that the most primal circuits in a woman's body are
based on dominance. So we taught, uh, I teach erotic hypnosis; he does erota-, he's one of the people
who really pioneered erotic hypnosis out here.
David:
Um, and really, he's kind of like the grandfather of the seduction community. He's the guy that actually
taught Ross Jeffries a lot of the stuff that Ross came up with, and then, uh, Kendrick also got, Ross also
got a lot of stuff from Kendrick Cleveland. So I'm kind of a historian with that stuff, so I can tell you
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the, the sweetness and light, refined classy dude. Steve comes in and says, "Down, bitch. Come for me."
Right? And he's the one who starts orgasming left and right (laughter) because he understands the
primal circuitry.
David:
Now trust me. It, it, I mean, he's a very funny guy, but you'll see in the videos ... maybe I'll just bring
them in and let you watch them or some-, or something, just to understand the idea of being strong and
dominant, and that women are primarily hard wired in spit of their social programming. They're very,
very much hard wired to respond to this kind of approach, but it's often way too strong for the average,
socially, you know, social male to, to even want to go there.
Male:
Yeah. I feel that. I, I, it's funny, 'cause you say it, and I've seen it ...
David:
Male:
... and you know, I, I've heard it from both men and women. It's, you know, you see (coughing) the more
masculine a man is, it almost allows the woman to be more feminine.
David:
That's exactly right.
Male:
And ...
David:
100% right.
Male:
... they come in strong and cocky and, and almost to the point of being rough, and that's when you see
the women just ...
David:
Melt.
Male:
They're feminine and that's where they feel more comfortable being vulnerable in their little dresses ...
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... and high heels 'cause they're, you know, uber masculinity here ...
David:
Yeah.
Male:
... and then they just kind of go away.
David:
They can play. yeah.
Male:
yeah.
David:
Because they know that they're safe, you know.
Male:
Yeah.
David:
And this is the thing we need to understand, that regardless of how accomplished a woman is, there's a
part of her that needs that strength, but the success and the evolution of women in our society has
eroded ...
Male:
David:
... the masculine gender's ability to do that. I mean, if you look at the, the television shows from the
'70s, and there were some really good shows in the '70s, right, and there's always a ditz, right? Who are
the ditzes? The dumb ones?
Male:
The hot ones are the dumb ones. (laughs)
David:
Right, but were they, were they male or female?
Male:
[inaudible 00:31:36] women.
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Almost predominantly female, right?
Male:
Suzanne Sommers.
Male:
Right.
David:
Suzanne So-, yeah. And if there was, if there was a smart one, it was always a brunette, right? Here's my
point, and actually that hasn't changed all that much, but if you look at sitcoms today, where there are
families and there's always a ditzy person in the family, right, who is it? It's a male.
Male:
Yeah.
Male:
Yeah.
David:
The gender ha-, the gender roles have reversed. Now that has connotations and ramifications in our
social life too. It's because, it's caused our men to become more feminine, less dominant ...
Male:
Yeah.
David:
... and to be viewed at as basically and inherently stupid.
Male:
Hm.
David:
Right? There's the problem. It's not the fact that a woman isn't allowed to be strong and dominant and,
and be successful and educated. It's that in order for her to be fully feminine, she needs a guy who can
equal or surpass that level of dominance. It's not there. [crosstalk 00:32:37] The frames have been
reversed, right, and the guys who can do that are going to clean up.
Male:
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Right? The women can never fully relax because they can e-, they either can't find a guy who will stay
with them, or the only ones they can get are so beta that they let her run the show. And while that's,
that's safe and fun and okay for a while, it gets boring really quick because there's this thing we call
decision fatigue, and it's one of those things that happens when you are constantly having to make
decisions. You just don't want to make them anymore. You get tired. You start craving for somebody to
make the decisions for you. This is why a lot of ...
Male:
Yeah, women always say they want to be led.
David:
Yeah. All the ... And simply a lot of your CEOs, the ones who are like high level, always making decisions,
they come home, they strap ... they, they put on their leather and have somebody whip them, (laughter)
tell them what to do because they just need to, to just not think about things anymore. Right? Now it's
not all of them, but, but al-, the vast majority of your Fortune 500 CEOs are hyper suggestible, which
means they're very, very open to being influenced in spite of the outer façade that they put on, you
know. You guys are in [rapport 00:33:51] here. You're all scratching at the same time.
Male:
Oh, I'm sorry. Yeah.
David:
Don't be sorry. (laughter) You know. [crosstalk 00:33:56] Uh, so we really want to understand what
we're seeing when people put on these behaviors. Women, women want a strong ... They don't want to
be, they don't necessarily want to be ... They want a dominant male. They don't necessarily want to be
dominated, although parts of, you know, of, a, a certain percentage do. And I'm not necessarily saying
be like Steve, but ste-, Steve deliberately goes way off the deep end in his seminars 'cause there's a
psychology behind it. He knows that no one in that room is going to go that far, but he knows if he takes
it to that extreme, you'll go farther than if you went main-, middle of the road. And that's how he does
it. That's what he does what he does.
David:
So and we talk, so when we talk about about frames, think about a movie where you get to decide who
plays what role in the frame. Now here is the secret to frame control, and it's going to fly in the face of
what even NLP likes to tell you. The person who controls the frame the longest and the strongest
dominates. The dynamics of frame control are such that anytime two or more people meet and actually
not even ... it's one person. You can have a frame war inside your own head, right, and that's usually
why we either approach or we don't approach, right, because we've changed the frame around ... we've
changed the meaning around what we're doing to either help us or hinder us, right?
David:
But anytime two or more people get together, there's a battle for who's going to control the frame. The
person who controls the frame controls the interaction. Period. End of story. Whether they actually
consciously do anything or not, the moment you become the dominant person in the frame, you control
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prize, in your own mind and in the frame, and they buy into your frame, they start taking on validation-
seeking behaviors. They start doing things to court your favor. They take your attention or the lack of it
either as a bonus or a vi-, a minus.
David:
You understand that? So, and both sets of behaviors are hard wired into every human being on the
planet. If I take on, on the prize frame, even if I didn't have it, f-, if I walk up to someone who's a
smoking hot 10, and I take on the [fime 00:36:31] that I'm the one that she wants, whether she
consciously believes it or not, if I hold that frame long enough and strong enough, one of two things
happens. She either leaves or she buys into the frame. Can't not happen. Those are the only two things
that can happen, right? She either has to get sucked into your reality, or she has to leave.
Male:
David:
Okay? Many times they leave, in which case, problem solved, but a lot of times they will buy into the
frame and take on supplication-seeking behaviors if you know what behaviors to exhibit that
demonstrate that mindset, right? So that's kind of where we're going in terms of what our inner game
should be about. Everything that we're going to be learning and, and practicing is about either
developing the ability to hold and maintain that frame, to reinforce the idea and the understanding that
we actually have the skills and abilities to justify holding that frame. And then of course, actual tactics
and [tendings 00:37:42], how to walk into a venue, how to sort for the people that actually want you to
approach versus the ones who are neutral versus the ones who just don't want to be approached. You
know, uh, how to psych yourself up if you need to, how to clear out your shit, how to talk to a woman so
that you become the most fascinating person in the room. Right? This is, there's no lying, there's no
trickery.
David:
We're going to talk about, we'll talk about ... as we get deeper and deeper into the conversational
aspect of things, we'll talk about storytelling and nested loots and push/pull and, and prizing and
prizability. These are all things we'll evolve to. Do you need them? No, not really, but they're good to
have in your toolkit, right? The truth of the matter is, when a woman meets another person, male or
female, really what she wants to see are the parts of herself she likes the most. If I had to sum
everything that we're doing up, when a woman is talking to you or when you're talking to a woman,
once you got the whole idea of boobs and butts out of the way, on an emotional level, she wants to see
herself reflected back to her. Okay?
David:
This is why, and you guys may know this, you may not, but most of the most, the most successful ... the
vast majority of the most successful seduction and pickup techniques that men have learned to use with
women are actually behaviors that women use on men. Okay? It's literally an NLP-ish approach because
that's how you seduce. That's how you create that push/pull effect. That's how you create that want for
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As a rule, anything that comes from your nervous system has the most impact on your nervous system.
And that's true whether you're gaming the search engines, 'cause they actually use NLP to get higher
search engine rankings for my websites, right, or talking to a woman. What a woman does to you is
almost textbook what works the best on her. When you write a sales letter, you write any kind of,
anything that's persuasive, the person that will have the most persuasive impact on is you because you
wrote it.
Male:
Makes sense, yeah.
David:
Right? So this concept in NLP called matching and mirroring, you just take it to a global scale. When you
watch a woman laying with a man, if you mirror those behaviors back, it's going to click. And she won't
even consciously understand what's happened. She'll just feel connection, right? She'll just feel
connection. So at the end of the day, all techniques aside, if you just learn to pay attention to what a
woman or man ... you know, if I'm, if I'm talking to a woman, especially ... The last time I did this
workshop, I actually had a woman sitting right here. Her name was Cynthia. She was actually at the
workshop. She went out and put the whammy on the guy out at the front desk. They wound up dating
for a couple of weeks and he was 12 years younger than her. (laughter) She's in her 50s and she was ...
right? She just ... zap, right? And she's done it several times now with people, you know, but one of the
things that happened is as you develop these skills, you start to get a little bit more picky.
David:
The problem we have with guys is that there's, the game is so weighted against us that we'll just take
what we can get.
Male:
Yeah.
David:
Right? And that lowers our self esteem. That's what sucks, is that we want to be strong and dominant
and attract more people, but the social, the game is rigged. And it's only getting more rigged, right? So
what we need to do is we need to go back to fundamentals, okay? I don't care what movies and
television and all this shit are telling you now, as far as, you know, what a, what the classic Melrose
should be, or the, the modern Melrose should be. That's not what women respond to. We want to get
responses, either positive or nega-. We don't want this 'in the middle' shit, right? Now, keep in mind, as I
teach you these materials, your ability to just walk up to any woman and become the most fascinating
person in her life is going to exponentially skyrocket. There's nothing deceitful about it.
David:
In fact, as powerfu-, I'm going to show you things ... Have you guys been to my Three Magic Questions
training at all? Well, that's where you're going to start. Um, there's, the videos are online, uh, where I
teach the three, the basic structure of the Three Magic Questions, which is extraordinarily powerful, but
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does. But with it, you'll be able to walk up to any woman anywhere, go from complete stranger to deep
attraction and connection, many times in as little as 20 minutes. Okay?
David:
I wouldn't recommend you do it in 20 minutes. I would recommend you just take your time and play
with it. And when I teach people these Three Magic Questions, they go, "Well, it can't be that easy."
Well, yeah it is. Yeah it is, because a lot of what you're doing with the Three Magic Questions is you're
asking a specific category of question that causes her to talk and keep talking and keep talking. And as
she talks, two things happen simultaneously. A, you're generating higher and higher levels of attraction
and connection, and (coughing) a need for validation.
David:
It's validation-seeking behaviors that generate or lead to attraction. Okay? And I'll, I'll explain more
about this whole idea as we go through the process.
Male:
That's good, 'cause that's where, if you go by your textbook, I think that's probably where I end up
ejecting.
David:
Ejecting? [inaudible 00:43:24]?
Male:
No, no, not ejecting, but stalling.
David:
Okay.
Male:
Um, great conversation in the beginning and, and [keno 00:43:33] and touch and, and attraction, and
then I stumble a bit on the validation, and then I think that's kind of where things ...
David:
Okay.
Male:
... stop moving forward [crosstalk 00:43:42].
David:
Okay. Write down the, the sticking points that you have, and when we get to relevant points throughout
the training, then we'll hot seat that and, and kind of work through it.
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David:
Right? Um, so the first thing we want to talk about, and again, and everything that we're going to do is
going to ... you're going to keep coming, you're going to keep hearing this word. And here's really what I
want you to think about when you hear the word validations. Two things: acceptance and approval.
That's what it comes down to. I want to know in my world that you approve of me, that you've, I've
passed your standards, or that you accept me. That's a reptilian-based response. At the, at the seminar, I
told you, you have three brains. Okay? You have your paleo cortex, which is your, your reptile brain,
right? Survival, reproduction, fight, flight, fornicate, right?
David:
Around that you have what Swing Cat likes to call the mammalian brain. It's also known as your limbic
system. This is your emotional brain. Okay. This is the one that feels love, that feels sadness, that feels
grief, or anger or whatever. Your reptile brain doesn't really have those emotions. It, it has aggression
which is a drive, okay. All drives are feelings, but, uh, on ... how can I put this? All emotions are feelings,
but not all feelings are emotions. When you're hungry, it's a feeling, right? It may gener-, if it goes on
long enough, you may start to get angry or irritable, right? And what you've got there is a classic case of
a drive not being satisfied, and the reptile brain generating an emotion to reinforce the behavior to get
it satisfied.
David:
Does that make sense? So in the book Reptile, there's a saying. "I am the reptile. I don't get afraid. I
make you afraid so you'll do what I want. I am the reptile. I don't get angry. I make you angry so you'll do
what I want." You understand that? In all human beings, the drive that goes least satisfied becomes
dominant. That'll become extremely important when we start to understand how to actually
compliment a woman, right? Remember, the thing that gets fed the most has least value. If you're going
up to a beautiful woman, and you're telling her how beautiful she is, well, guess what? Pfft.
Male:
Hears it all day, every day.
David:
All day, every day. You just lowered your social va- ... Even if you're a smoking hot guy, the moment you
say exactly the same thing every other doofus on the planet has said to her, you've dropped ... You could
be Brad Pitt. Now that's an extreme. You can still have like a ... (laughs) you know, if this is all things
being equal, right, and he's up here and he says, "Oh, you're beautiful," he still, he still has higher social
va-. But here's the thing to understand. When we, when we give a compliment to a woman, depending
on our social status, it can work or not work. If a woman perceives you as an equal, it can go either way.
If a woman perceives you has having lower social status, and you compliment her, it will actually lower
your status even more. Okay?
David:
Most of a woman's psychology of attraction is based around sexual arousal and the perceptual filter that
allows her to justify acting on it. A lot of the things that lead to sexual arousal are social status and
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Rob:
Yeah.
David:
Okay. So, and it sounds like it's, it's hard to do. It actually isn't. I'm going to show you some very, very
powerful ways to begin to build these things into your natural way of moving through the world. But
understand that most the time, what's really holding us back from being successful women isn't the
woman. It's us. It's the way we're running the psychology and the neurology inside our brains, how
we're representing those experiences to ourselves, that determine the emotional states we take on,
right? At the end of the day, it's not how good you look. It's not how rich you are. It's the feelings you
generate in a woman that determine how she's going to respond to you.
David:
Feelings control frames because they control perceptions. Okay? Fastest way to change a woman's
feelings are to change yours. Okay? So around the emotions that we generate, we have another layer
called the neo cortex. The neo cortex, aka the new layer, is called your rational-, your rationalizing brain,
is kind of what functionally it does. I call it your rational lying brain because the rationalizing function of
the brain is designed to create a frame. This is where frames come in. It's designed to create a frame
that allows you to understand the context of what you're operating in.
David:
Now, I'm a hypnotist, professionally, so I deal with people all day long who have everything from OCDs
to social anxiety to pain that just won't go away. And by and large, the reason they're in my chair, the
reason their shit won't go away is because this brain wants something; this brain wants something else.
And there's d-, there's a, there's a war going on between parts of the brain that are ... at one level they
want the same thing, but at another level they're refusing to accept or work with the other part, right?
David:
By and large, the person who comes into my room and tells me what their problem is is operating from
their neo cortex level. They have absolutely no clue what the real problem is. They've created a story for
why they think they're screwed up, which is logic, a lo-, they're, it's based on their logical brain. Here's
the problem with that. If your logical brain knew the answer, you'd have fuckin' fixed it already. All
right? So, this part of the brain lies to us. It's the part of us that hooks onto facts and figures and makes
it seem like that's why we're doing something, but it isn't. People always make decisions based on this,
the drives and the feelings in their bodies. That changes what they pay attention to. And then they're
un-, their nervous system sorts for the data or the information in the environment that justifies and
reinforces that decision.
David:
So when you communicate to a woman and you start telling her about your job, and about your car, and
where you went on vacation, all the things that, um, you know, the da-, the data about your life, you're
talking to her neo cortex, which has an attention span of less than 20 minutes. So she'll smile and she'll
nod and she'll be bored off her ass (laughter) because A, she's being polite, and she's smiling and she's
nodding 'cause that's what they're socialized to do. Consciously or unconsciously, they know that the
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David:
Here's the problem. The longer you talk, the more you're setting up a condition where you want them to
approve of you. If you want them to approve of you, who's the prize?
Male:
Them.
David:
Right. What happens to your social status?
Male:
Down.
David:
Right. You start ... By the end of the night, you're hooked on them because they've listened to you talk
and talk and talk, and you think they're awesome. And they might have said seven words. (laughter)
Right? And you take them home and you never fuckin' hear from them again. Why? You were talking
from here to there. When a woman talks to you, when a woman interacts with you, she wants feelings.
She wants emotional spikes. She wants to talk about her. She wants to do what you were just doing ...
Male:
Right.
David:
... but you don't let her because you were socialized into proving yourself to a woman. When you talk
about you, y-, it's like a job interview. You're like ... You're trying to spew all this stuff out hoping
something sticks, when in actuality, the less you say, the more attractive you become. It's just when you
speak, you got to say the right stuff. Right? I'm going to tell you what the right stuff is. It's actually very
easy, but you have to think and understand the interaction a little bit differently. But this is always
what's going on.
David:
Now, funny story, which is good, has direct relevance on this. One of the things you need to understand
about this dynamic is that the stronger the level of neurological arousal the human body experiences,
whether positive or negative, and sexual arousal and attraction are stresses. They're positive stresses.
But the more stress that gets entered into the system, the faster the neo cortex checks out. It starts to
drain el-, it starts to lose its ability to run the system, right?
David:
If human beings make decisions based on drives and feelings, and justify them with logic, the more
attraction you generate, the more sexual arousal that you generate in a woman's body, the flimsier your
logic can be, the flimsier your rationale can be to get her to sleep with you. My friend Swing Cat, in his,
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would talk to a woman. And he would get her super sexually aroused, and then invite him back to his
apartment to look at his stamp collection. And they would go.
David:
'Cause what could happen from just looking at a stamp collection? Right? The other thing we need to
understand about female psychology is they have this anti-sweat defense, as we like to call it, right?
They need plausible deniability ...
Male:
Mm-hmm (affirmative). (laughs)
David:
... right? But the more [crosstalk 00:54:50], but the more attraction and arousal you generate, the
flimsier that rationale can be. But you won't get there (coughing) talking to the neo cortex. You've got to
talk to the lizard. You've got to talk to the reptile. You've got to generate body feelings. You've got to
generate those emotional spikes. You've got to generate that perceived social status. All those things are
reptilian based. They have very little to do with the facts and figures of your life. Right?
David:
So that's the theory, right. How do we begin to tap into that?
Male:
Yeah. Good stuff. I have a, a first date tomorrow night with someone new, and then a second date with
someone, Sunday, with a tremendously long fuse, and I was surprised to even get in the door.
David:
Really?
Male:
So a lot of this is going to be applicable (laughs) within 48 hours.
David:
Oh, yeah. We're going to, we're going to, we're going to start talking about, um ... Well, what are your,
what are your biggest sticking points? What are the, you know, what are the things that, that you really
want to make sure you take away from, from the time we're here?
Male:
You mentioned, you know, tools in a toolbox, and that's really what I want to fill.
David:
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Um, you know, and talk about environment, it's day game or night game or coffee shop or bar. I don't
really frequent any of those, but I frequent all of them occasionally.
David:
Male:
So I would like to get to that point that wherever I am, day or night ...
David:
Male:
... venue to venue, uh, I can pull out the correct tool and interact and build attraction with a woman as,
as I, as I need to.
David:
Okay.
Male:
Um, and what you mentioned here, uh, hearkens me back to this date I'm having on Sunday with this
woman who ... and I think, looking at that, right, I think during our first date, I probably talked too
much ...
David:
Male:
... and I've had this stupid crazy infatuation with her for a couple of months. And I don't know why, and
it's probably because I did most of the talking. (laughs)
David:
We're going to invert that model, and what'll happen is when you do, you'll become the most
fascinating person in her life.
Male:
And that's the [dixie 00:57:00] ...
David:
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So I need to flip that now, come Sunday, uh, to see if I can, you know, change the interaction and
reframe ...
David:
Male:
... um, and hopefully again, part of the toolbox is the analytics to be able to look back at dates ...
David:
Male:
... and say, "Oh, you know where that one kind of turned on me?"
David:
Male:
Troubleshoot that so I don't make the same mistake.
David:
Okay. Yeah. It's funny 'cause when I, when I teach these attraction skills, and really, the only place I
taught, directly taught, attraction, I don't like to use that word seduction. I don't ... it did ... it has, it has
a meta message that I think frames things in a less than positive way. Um, but romance, attraction,
they're, they're all synonymous, but they're words that have a different association so it frames what we
do in a much more pleasant, less manipulative thing. And I think you need to understand that. When a
woman talks about sex, you won't hear her say 'sex'. You won't he- ... very r-, very rarely will you hear
her say 'fuck'.
David:
Although that was one of the most endearing qualities when I married my wife. It's the first Chinese
woman I ever had who had a Ph.D. in [inaudible 00:58:08] the Sailor. I just, just really ... you know, we,
we fight like cats and dogs sometimes, but I got to tell you, she is, you know, sh-, she's one in a million.
She really is, but that's one of the cool things is, is as you go through these skill sets, and you go out ...
and don't believe anything I tell you. Go out, observe, and then play with it.
David:
I want you to start to develop three, three primary attitudes that become what I want you to, to aspire
to in terms of being the dominant mood you're in when you move through the world. The first one is
playful, okay. Every woman you meet wants to have fun. Just regardless of anything that comes out of
their mouth, if she's not having fun with you, you're not being attractive. Okay? So, and when you take
on that playful 'life is a video game' kind of energy, um, then you start to have a lot more fun cross
contextually. See, it's not just about attraction. Women don't want to be ... this is important ... women

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do not want a guy who makes them the center of her life, er, her the center of his life. She wants to be
part of a man's life who has a life.
David:
She's biologically programmed to sort for leaders, i.e., social status. The way you demonstrate social
status is by having a life people seek to emulate or be part of by moving through the world with a sense
of mission or purpose. Right? And if you happen to meet a attractive woman along the way that wants
to come along, great. Ross Jeffries used to say, and I don't really like a lot of things Ross says, but he did
actually do some good things for men, while simultaneously hamstringing them in many cases ... um, is,
uh, you know, you don't date women. Dating is for women you're already sleeping with. That's what he
liked to say.
David:
The whole idea is you have things that you want to do, that make your life fun. And you're going to go
do them whether a woman comes with you or not. But you happen to be going to do something, going
to do something cool, would you like to come along? When you have that 'hey I'm going to go do this'
energy, women are like, "Sure," right, as opposed to, "Hey, you want to go out to dinner or see a
movie?" Right? There's a much different frame that sets. Say, "I'm going to go do this. Want to come
along?" Changes the dynamic, right?
David:
One of the big things that ... When I was voted one of the top 10 attraction, er, seduction experts in
2005, it, a lot of it wasn't just because I could just, I had, you know, I could just walk up to women and,
and have them, you know, uh, just lining up, or ... That wasn't my, my, my biggest strength, although I
could do that because what I was actually nominated for presupposes that.
David:
My abil-, the reason I was nominated for it was because I was able to basically make these, close these
women on the first night. I, I never got a phone number closed. If I got a woman to kiss me, it was done.
Nine out of 10 women slept with me on the first date. But that wasn't even it. It was my ability to handle
multiple long-term relationships. I could have these women so hooked on me, so into me, so sexually
satisfied and fulfilled, that they just wouldn't leave. For me, getting sex was like ordering a pizza, right? If
you get my course Secret Orgasm Tips, there's actually an interview that Joe did with me where he ... it's
called harem management (laughs) where I'm talking about how, how I've had like four or five different
women that I'm seeing on a long-term basis. And I was having so much sex, I actually had to go see
(laughs) a chiropractor to fix my back.
David:
So I married her. But, uh, (laughter) her husband didn't like that very much. (laughs) Mostly a true story.
Uh, that the, that the, that the thing you got to understand is, once you get inside a woman's
psychology, and you're going to do it through her biology, it's kind of cyclical. Psychology to biology,
biology to psychology. You're going to discover that you're going to create such powerful, powerful
connections to you in the women you meet, that even if you break up with them, they won't get you out
of their mind.
David:

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That's why I, I only released the first level in Secret Orgasm Tips of how to sexually program a woman,
uh, because by and large, every woman I broke up with wound up dating someone who looked exactly
like me, had the same kind of job, dressed the same. You've literally installed in them your template and
they, they just go crazy trying to replace you. Right? It's, it's almost not fair, but that's actually how
women are hard wired to respond to a man who can fulfill them on those levels. You become so
neurologically embedded in her system that she, she can't deviate from it unless somebody can come
along and generate enough oxytocin that her neuroplasticity changes and she gets a new template. The
average man just can't even come close to that.
David:
Right? That was the whole point of Secret Orgasm Tips was, no pun intended, to lay the foundation for
that, and then in my Unlimited Lover Trainings, which took me almost 10 years before I had the balls to
actually teach the rest of it in a seminar format, uh, 'cause I was just afraid. I was afraid of what people
would do with it. It's crazy what these women will do. I, I had women paying my vacations, doing my
laundry, cooking my meals. I mean, I had one woman, took me on vacation; she paid for everything.
Women, women would take me out to dinner constantly. They'd call up and I ... I'd call up and say, "Hey,
where you taking me tonight?"
Male:
Hm.
David:
They'd take to me to dinner and movies and shit like ... I mean, I didn't pay for anything, because a
woman derives intense pleasure from taking care of the people who satisfy her drives. It, it's how nature
programmed her. The problem is, is that programming gets frustrated. It gets thwarted. It's not allowed
to operate because wo-, guys can't raise themselves up to match the template that a woman's carrying
around inside of her. So using the methods I'm going to show you, I'm going to share with you over the
next couple days, three days, however long we're together, you'll be able to match any woman's
template, fit yourself to it, and then take her beyond it. It's unfair, but it's everything she wants, and it's
not manipula- ... it is manipulative, but it's not manipulative in the sense that you're, you're taking unfair
advantage of a situation, although you could definitely do that. That's just one of the why, one of the
reasons why I didn't want to teach it for many years.
David:
But what you are doing by taking on a different mindset and paying attention to a woman in a different
way, a way she actually pays attention to men, um, you're giving her the everything she's ever wanted,
and then taking her beyond that. Every woman has a checklist. And that checklist determines how
connected and how aroused she becomes, how quickly. The more you match it, the faster she moves
through that process. Okay? It's, it's not fair, but it is. All right?

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