2 7 M A R C H 2 0 1 1 M E S S A G E F O U R

avoiding slips in
RELATIONships
C A R E E R M I N I S T RY F E L LOW S H I P . . . m a k i n g a c a r e e r o f l i v i n g f o r t h e L o r d !

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Avoiding Missed
Thesis: Communication z

Failed communication
▉▉▉▉▉▉ relationships
PROVERBS 18:21,13
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AN EXPERIENTIAL EXEGESIS OF BUILDING EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

YOUR RELATIONAL VEHICLE 1. Build __________, Matt 5:37
1. All vehicles have the potential to end up in the ____-
____________ lane, on the shoulder of the highway FOUR WAYS WE
2. We got there because we were not paying attention, ERODE TRUST
and to get going again we need to add some A. ___________
________ to the vehicle B. ___________,
3. All Psalm 12:3
I. SPEAKING PERSON (A), 1-9 C. Broken
relationships are
II. SAFE PERSON, 10-11
fueled by time, promises
III. SPEAKING PERSON (B), 12-19
A. Secure, 12 shared D. ___________
B. Shame, 13 experiences, and
C. Stricken, 14
D. Seeking, 15
____________-
E. Success, 16 _____________ 2. Guard your _______________, Matt 12:34
F. Striving, 17-19 3. Use your ________, Psalm 116:1; Prov 18:13;
IV. SATISFIED PERSON, 20-24 21:23;10:19
Point 1.
A. By Taming Your Tongue, 20-21
1. Filling, 20 Communication 4. Empower your __________, Prov 18:21
2. Fruit, 21 is not an exact
B. By Winning a Wife, 22 Point 2. To destroy communication, all you have to
science but an
C. By Minding Your Mouth, 23
______. do is inject ____________________________.
D. By Finding a Friend, 24
Point 3. Trust has to be
____________—one declaration,
one deed, one day at a time.
Point 4. It’s your head that’s filling
your heart, and your heart that’s
filling your mouth, so _________-
_________ your life by renewing
your mind with the thoughts of
God in his word.
Point 5. Learn to ____________
and you will change the lives of
people you relate to.
SIX SIMPLE STEPS TO IMPROVE
LISTENING SKILLS
L—________ at them
I—____________ in them
S—________ everything else
T—__________ about what is said
E—________________ with them
N—____________ body language
SUGGESTIONS FOR
HEALTHY COMMUNICATION
A. Be ____________, Prov 24:26
B. Use __________, Luke 5:13
C. Ask _____________, Mark 8:29
D. Give _____________, John 3:3ff
AVOIDING SLIPS IN RELATIONSHIPS
Sun, Apr 3 Persistence in Resistance, Psalm 122
MARRIAGE
Sun, Apr 10 Avoiding Irregular Relationships, Gen 29:1-13
Sun, Apr 17 Avoid Missing Your Marriage Makeover, Matt 19:4-6
Sun, Apr 24 EASTER: Living the Morning After, Matt 28:1-7
Matthew 5:37 But let your
communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay:
for whatsoever is more than these
cometh of evil.
Psalm 12:3 The LORD shall cut off
all flattering lips, and the tongue that
speaketh proud things:
Matthew 12:34 O generation of
vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak
good things? for out of the abundance
of the heart the mouth speaketh.
Mark 7:15 There is nothing from
without a man, that entering into him
can defile him: but the things which
come out of him, those are they that
defile the man.
Romans 12:2 And be not conformed
to this world: but be ye transformed by
the renewing of your mind, that ye
may prove what is that good, and
acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Psalm 51:9–10 Hide thy face from
my sins, and blot out all mine iniquities.
Create in me a clean heart, O God;
and renew a right spirit within me.
Psalm 116:1 I love the LORD,
because he hath heard my voice and
my supplications.
Eph. 4:15 But speaking the truth in
love, [we] may grow up into him in all
things, which is the head, even Christ:
Luke 5:13 And [Jesus] put forth his
hand, and touched [the leper], saying, I
will: be thou clean. And immediately
the leprosy departed from him.
Mark 8:29 And [Jesus] saith unto [his
disciples], But whom say ye that I am?
And Peter answereth and saith unto
him, Thou art the Christ.
John 3:3 Jesus answered and said unto
him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee,
Except a man be born again, he cannot
see the kingdom of God.
Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt
communication proceed out of your
mouth, but that which is good to the
use of edifying, that it may minister
grace unto the hearers.
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