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Q:
good way to
I’ve heard that positive reinforcement is a
gh, I’m not
get my child to behave better. Honestly, thou
plicated?
sure what it’s supposed to look like. Is it com
How to instill honesty
A:
llent, effective
You heard right: Positive reinforcement is an exce
And it’s Teach your child to tell the truth,
way to nudge your child toward better behavior.
orcement involves and he may grow into a trustworthy
not complicated at all. Simply put, positive reinf
opria tely and then praising adult. To reinforce the “honesty
“catching” your child when she behaves appr
vior and hopefully matters” message:
her for it. By doing so, you’re reinforcing that beha
• Expect honesty. Let your child
inspiring her to behave properly again the next time.
ng her schoolwork know that “In our family, we
For example, say your child has a habit of leavi
does put her things away, always tell the truth.”
scattered all over the living room. When she
• Explain why lying is wrong.
reinforce that behavior. Here’s how:
“Being dishonest hurts other
• Praise her. Let your child know that you
people and might make them
noticed. “I really appreciate how you
stop trusting you.”
cleaned up after yourself, Maggie!”
• Challenge him. When your child
• Be sincere. Speak with enthusiasm, but
fibs, ask, “Would you like it if I
don’t go overboard. It will sound hollow.
lied to you?”
• Avoid backhanded compliments. Don’t
point out how your child often messes up. Source: Michele Borba, Ed.D., No More Misbehavin’,
ISBN: 0-7879-6617-7, Jossey-Bass.
“You did a great job this time, Maggie.
Too bad you usually leave a mess.” (That’s
Firm, Fair & Consistent®
negative reinforcement.) Guiding Students for School Success
e what your child did
• Offer specifics. The more precisely you defin Publisher: John H. Wherry, Ed.D.
do next time. “I
right, the clearer picture she’ll have of what to Editor: Erika Beasley.
r and then stuck
really like how you put your papers in your folde
Writers: Susan O’Brien, Holly Smith.
Illustrations: Maher & Mignella, Cherry Hill, NJ.
your folder in your backpack.” Copyright © 2011, The Parent Institute®, a division of NIS, Inc.
nting/ P.O. Box 7474, Fairfax Station, VA 22039-7474
” HealthyPlace.com, www.healthyplace.com/pare
Source: “Reinforcing Positive Behavior at Home,
parenting-skills/reinforcing-positive-behavior-at-h
ome/menu-id-61. 1-800-756-5525
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