Marrying a MUSLIM

This is for all the non-muslim girls trying to marry a guy who is muslim!!

So you are in love with a guy who happens to be a Muslim. He is perhaps very smart, handsome,
considerate and gels so well with you! You believe that love knows no religion, and hence you
would not let religion disrupt your romantic future. It does not matter to you if your life partner is a
Hindu, Muslim, Christian or Atheist. It only matters that he is a good human and a loving life
partner. For his love, you can go against the whole world, you can defy the wishes of your parents if
they object, and can even risk your life. Love sees no boundary, no religion, no walls and no man-
made obstacles. Love only sees a loving partner who understand you so well and can keep you
happy forever!

We shall not preach moral policing here. We shall take that in a less-preaching and completely
practical manner sometime later.

Like you, we firmly believe that there is only one religion – humanity – and there should be
absolutely no restrictions of religion, caste, language, geography to connect with other humans.
Marriage is a relation between two souls and religion has no role to play here. We fully respect the
fundamental thought behind your love for this guy and do believe that if the same fundamental
thought is behind every human interaction, the world would be an amazingly lovely place to live!

But before you take this greatest decision of your life of choosing a life-partner, you should
definitely ensure two things:

a. Your life-partner should also have exactly the same feeling for you and should be convinced that
love sees no religion. If need be, he should be eager to rebel against the religious forces for sake of
your love.

b. Your self-respect and dignity should be supreme for him. You would agree that self-respect and
dignity are above all emotions including love. Love is true love only when one is concerned more
about self-respect and dignity of his or her partner than anything else. Especially for a woman, these
are your greatest assets gifted by none other than God. Women is the most critical driver of society
and hence respect for women and concern for her dignity are the two most important sentiments for
humans that are above everything else in life – including love, hatred, fun, and passion.

Let us now narrate a short story from Islamic scriptures. This would help you understand the typical
mentality of Islam regarding women. This story is about the founder of Islam – Muhammad as
described in Quran and associated scriptures that Muslims consider authentic:

Muhammad once went to his (adopted!) son’s home and saw his daughter-in-law (Zainab) in nude.
This afflicted his heart and he forced Zaid, his son, to divorce Zainab and then he married her. (In
fact he did not even marry. He just kept her with him and when questioned about their physical
relationships, he claimed that their marriage happened in sky!). This opened a Pandora’s box. He
was now scared that other men may also see his wives’ in revealing clothes and may run after them.
So once, after he heard some news about his wives going for toilet in open, he immediately revealed
Ayats that Muslim women should cover themselves completely.

Had this Ayat been revealed before Muhammad saw Zainab in nude, it would have saved the man
from such a big disgrace of getting physical with one’s own daughter-in-law!
We do not know if the story is true or fabricated. But what is unfortunate is that this is considered to
be authentic by all Muslim scholars. And that has made matters worse for Muslim women! They
cannot trust anyone as brothers or fatherly figures.
You must have heard about Imrana case a couple of years ago, when a father-in-law raped a married
woman. Now Maulvis issued a fatwa (directive) that the woman is to be considered married to her
rapist, and the husband should consider her as his mother henceforth!

They are at mercy of their husbands who can divorce them at will. Even the Qazi cannot force a
husband from divorcing his wife, if he has decided so. And once the husband divorces, even father-
in-law can marry the isolated woman, or keep her as a sex-slave!

So if you are planning to marry a Muslim guy, you should know very clearly the following about a
Muslim wife -

a. Now her future is in hands of her husband. He can divorce her at will and not even a Qazi or
Imam can stop him from this.

b. If she is raped, she will have to bring four witnesses who have seen the actual act of rape. So if
the husband decides to indulge his wife in flesh-trading, she has no escape mechanism. And if a
woman gets pregnant after being raped, she gets lashes. Further, use of contraceptives is prohibited.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/asia/bangladesh/7073191/Rape-victim-receives-101-
lashes-for-becoming-pregnant.html

http://creepingsharia.wordpress.com/2010/03/25/justice-virtually-impossible-for-rape-victims-
under-sharia-law/

c. She cannot interact with any male anywhere, unless his husband is present and consents for this.
So she cannot work in offices, she cannot visit doctors, she cannot move freely out of house.

d. She can be thrashed by her husband, and she cannot oppose. She cannot even ask why she is
being thrashed.

e. She has to satisfy sexual needs of her husband whenever he demands. She simply cannot say no.

f. She has to live in Hijaab. And in case she wears a normal dress in public, she deserves lashes. She
should normally stay indoors. (This has led to most Muslim women to suffer from Vitamin D
deficiencies. Many die due to this deficiency coupled with frequent child-births.)

g. She has to be prepared to share husband’s bed with 3 more wives of his Shauhar and unlimited
number of sex-slaves he may choose to keep.

h. If she is marrying a Shia, she should also be prepared to Mutah – where her husband is permitted
to marry any women for an hour, day, month etc, have sex with her to his satisfaction and then
discontinue the marriage.

i. She has no rights to take divorce. She can at best request, but if the husband refuses, she has
simply no options.

k. She cannot work in offices. Deoband recently came with a fatwa banning this once again. The Al-
Azhar University of Egypt, which is the topmost Islamic institution of world, recently cited two
Hadiths (sayings) from authentic Islamic books to provide a method of permitting the woman to
work. According to scriptures, this would be possible if she breast-feeds her male colleagues 5
times a day!

l. If her husband gives her divorce but later wants to repent and accept her back, that is impossible
unless she marries another person, compulsorily has physical relation with new husband, stays for a
minimum number of months, and then divorces the new husband. This ‘tasting of wife’ by new
husband is necessary for a woman to go back to her original husband.

Such situations often happen when husbands doubt their wives and later find their doubts baseless,
or he has been in fits of anger. But once three talaqs are uttered, its irrevocable. Some charlatans
will argue that three talaqs in anger are equal to one talaq. Even if this be so (which is not the case
as per all major Muslim fatwas), 9 talaqs uttered in frustration imply wife should marry someone
else, let him ‘taste’ her and then take a similar talaq to return to old husband. There is no limit to
such a wife-swapping and it merely puts a woman in position of a prostitute!

Review the fatwa here: http://islamweb.net/emainpage/index.php?

page=showfatwa&Option=FatwaId&Id=84170

In Islam, divorce is a process that is easy for men as uttering three ‘talaqs’ in a row. And it can be
initiated only by the husband and not wife, as discussed above! Recall the recent case of Shoaib
Malik – Sania Mirza marriage. Shoaib married a girl through telephone, took her ‘taste’, and then
when media cried, divorced her by writing Talaq three times on paper! I only wish that government
departments run so smoothly and rapidly, but not process of marriage and divorce with a girl! And
immediately he married Sania to ‘taste’ her in Islamic vocabulary.

And finally after all this exploitation of women, Muhammad claims in a Hadith that he hardly sees
any woman from earth in Paradise and sees Hell to be full with women! That is why, even the
Paradise as described in Islam has 72 virgins with whom men can have sex. Islam could not rise
above fetish for sex, when it comes to characterizing women!

Recently court has also come up with a ruling that a girl has to convert necessarily before marrying
a Muslim. So you have no escape. If you aspire to marry a Muslim man, do only at cost of your
dignity, self-respect, freedom and basic rights. Do only if you think Jehadi Love is more important
than even most basic dignity of life!

The typical mindset of a Muslim regarding women remains the same – she is a commodity for child
production and sexual-gratification. Women rights are limited and at mercy of husband. In Shah
Bano case, after the woman was divorced, the husband refused to pay her compensation. And even
the legal system could do nothing for him.

So think before you leap in Hell!

Please note that all is not lost. You can still have your love along with your self-respect and dignity.
To know how, please continue reading:

If one looks at the Vedic concept of marriage, amply reflected (though not fully) in Hindu Marriage
laws:

a. All rights are equal for husband and wife.

b. If one beats her wife, and wife complains, the husband has to face jail.
c. Divorce is not unilateral. Both husband and wife are on same footing. A woman has rights to
reject her husband if he commits adultery or indulged in nefarious acts.

d. Polygamy and adultery(temporary or permanent) are illegal and not acceptable.

e. There is no dress constraint, except that one should not wear a dress that attracts immoral
attention.

f. Property rights are equal.

g. Rape cases reply primarily on victim’s witness and one is not expected to bring 2 live spectators,
as in case of Islam.

h. Any denigration of women is against Vedas and demand strictest punishments.

i. A woman cannot be constrained from working and need not breastfeed her colleagues.

j. Women are considered to be most important part of society because of their inherent natural traits
and the role they play in nurturing the future and being first teachers of coming generation.

k. Vedas are the only texts to declare that unless women are happy, there can be no bliss in society.

l. Vedas are the only texts that declare that education and progress of women is more important than
that of men.

Also, as per current marriage laws, divorce is not as easy for a Hindu husband as for a Muslim
husband. A minimum period of 2 years of separation has to be proven, along with fixing of
compensation as per consent of the wife. The concept of three talaqs to get rid of old wife, to get a
new one, does not hold for monogamous Vedic society.

Please read the following articles:

http://agniveer.com/islam-and-women-rights/

http://agniveer.com/islamic-women-commodity/

http://agniveer.com/muslim-wife-concubine/

and compare with

http://agniveer.com/women-in-vedas/

http://agniveer.com/polygamy/

to know for yourself!

Dear Sister, in case, you are indeed resolved to marry a person, make sure he converts to Vedic
Dharma (Hinduism), rather than you converting to Islam.

If indeed he loves you, he will readily agree because it is win-win situation for both partners. You
both want to break boundaries of religious dogmas and hence this is the only way to do so
maintaining your dignity and self-respect. He may be very loving today, but you never know what
can happen tomorrow. So this is the only respectful option for both of you.

In case he does not, reject him. Understand that you have been a victim of love jehad. (Huge
number of Muslim youths are being paid by certain forces to lure Hindu and Christian women for
marriage and then convert them, divorce them and find new preys). Burn the past and look ahead. It
happened to you, because you ignored the tenets of our culture and were misled by fraud
environment all around. But better late than never.

We had a case from Delhi where a girl was lured by a cool Muslim dude. She was about to leave her
parents, convert and marry him, when we chanced to intervene. We merely asked her to setup an
online discussion on yahoo messenger where both of them and an Agniveer expert would be
present. The expert started asking the cool dude about his views on Islam. Soon he was forced to
admit that all that is written in Quran and Hadiths are final word of Allah and unchangeable for him.
Then we took him to specific verses relating to women and marriage, and gradually the fanatic
Mullah emerged who justified sex-slaves, restricting women indoors, forcing her to have hijab and
have no career, having multiple wives, absurd rape laws and even talaq.

Dear Sister, in case, you already made a blunder and became a Muslim to marry a Muslim, not all is
lost.

Insist your husband that both of you convert to Hinduism. This would be win-win for both of you.
In case he refuses to, again understand that you have been a victim of love-jehad. Be strong, know
your roots, have faith in Ishwar, take divorce from your husband and start afresh. Do so even if you
have children.This will save their future.

In case he plans to relocate to a Muslim country, hurry up! Once you leave a non-Muslim country,
the ball will no more remain in your court. You shall be doomed. In case you have already
relocated, remain tactfully silent, keep him in good humor, convince him to come to India or any
non-Muslim country, even for a short break. And once you are in a non-Muslim country, assert your
right to dignity. Ask him to either convert or divorce. Make sure you have carried all your papers, in
case you need to fight a legal battle.

Divorce may not be easy due to anti-women Islamic laws, but if you live in India or a non-Muslim
country, you can still wriggle out through court-battles on pretext of your Fundamental Right to
profess any religion. It may be a hard pill to swallow, but the only one to save you and your future
generations from ignominy. Remember, dignity and self-respect are far above any short-term
conveniences.

Welcome to Vedic dharma and live the life you aspire for – devoid of inequality and discrimination!

Dear Sister, if you have been born as a Muslim woman and have married/ are about to marry a
Muslim:

Convince your husband/ would-be to convert and become Hindus. You will find huge number of
articles on agniveer.com on why you should do so. But more importantly, as a woman, you would
be able to live with head held high and with dignity. You would have equal rights and no
discrimination compared to men. If your husband/ would-be indeed loves you, if would be only
more than happy to gift you such pride and right to live with dignity.

PLEASE NOTE THAT NO OTHER RELIGION OR PHILOSOPHY INCLUDING MODERN

FEMINISM GIVES THE LEVEL OF RESPECT AND DIGNITY TO WOMEN THAT VEDIC
DHARMA OFFERS TO THEM.
And if he indeed loves you, these dogmas of being a die-hard Muslim should not count anything in
front of your self-respect and dignity that only Vedic Dharma can guarantee.

So come what may happen, to preserve your dignity and self-respect, embrace the Vedic Dharma.
Do this at whatever cost. Even life counts nothing in front of dignity. Better to die than to be loved
like a sex-toy!

So take that bold step, and embrace the Vedic dharma. Reject the cult of the barbaric who
dehumanize women!

“Women have such honorable rights as obligations, but men have a (single) degree above them”.
The Koran 2:228
“Men are the managers of the affairs of women because Allah has preferred men over women and
women were expended of their Rights”. The Koran 4:34

Quran 4:34
Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength)
than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are
devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to
those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse
to share their beds, (And last) beat them ; but if they return to obedience, seek not against them
Means (of annoyance): For Allah is Most High, great (above you all).

The favouritism of god towards men, Quran 012.109

Nor did We send before thee (as messengers) any but men, whom we did inspire,- (men) living in
human habitations. Do they not travel through the earth, and see what was the end of those before
them? But the home of the hereafter is best, for those who do right. Will ye not then understand?

*Women are equal to dogs and donkey

Sahih Bukhari Volume 1, Book 9, Number 490: (Narrated by Aisha, wife of Muhammad)
The things which annul the prayers were mentioned before me. They said, "Prayer is annulled by a
dog, a donkey and a woman (if they pass in front of the praying people)." I said, "You have made us
(i.e. women) dogs. I saw the Prophet praying while I used to lie in my bed between him and the
Qibla. Whenever I was in need of something, I would slip away. for I disliked to face him."

*People ruled by women will never be successful...

Volume 5, Book 59, Number 709Narrated Abu Bakr)

During the days (of the battle) of Al-Jamal, Allah benefited me with a word I had heard from Allah's
Apostle after I had been about to join the Companions of Al-Jamal (i.e. the camel) and fight along
with them. When Allah's Apostle was informed that the Persians had crowned the daughter of
Khosrau as their ruler, he said, "Such people as ruled by a lady will never be successful."