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If you're new to negotiating or find it difficult, here are some missteps to avoid.
By Mike Hofman | Jan 31, 2011
Focus on people. Separate the people from the issues to avoid personalizing them.
Make sure each party understands the other's perception of what is involved. Listen
actively and speak to be understood -- not to argue a position.
Focus on interests. Behind each position lie compatible interests as well as conflicting
ones. Put yourself in the other person's shoes; it'll help you identify interests. Ask
yourself: "Why does she take such a position?" "Does any aspect of my proposal
conflict with those interests?"
Focus on options. Work with the other party to generate a variety of options.
Brainstorm before you start the decision-making process. Look for areas of agreement;
you'll find them through your shared interests. Look for ways to dovetail differing
interests; explore options that are of low cost to you and high benefit to the other party,
and vice versa.
Other pointers:
• Do your homework. Use the Internet and other sources to learn about the issue
at hand.
• Ask questions. The answers and information can lead to an agreement.
• Don't be intimidated by "industry-speak." Always ask for clarification.
• Cultivate the use of calculated silence; it may impel the other party to offer a
concession.
• Thank the other party at the conclusion of a negotiation, leaving the door open
for future opportunities.
Have you always gotten what you've wanted in a negotiation? I have yet to meet a
person who got everything he or she "wanted." However, there are ways to always get
what we "need." Do this by creating a comfortable environment. Here are four ways to
create win/win negotiations:
2. Always remember the needs of the other side throughout the process
When you reach an agreement on something, take the time to summarize it. This allows
both parties to recognize that progress is being made.
Negotiating can be fun, empowering and enjoyable for both parties. It works only when
all those involved feel as if they have won.
Copyright© 1999, SalesDoctors Magazine and the Author. All Rights Reserved.
Bargaining for Advantage
Oct 13, 1999
“Every minute you're not negotiating skillfully is an opportunity cost,"says Richard Shell,
chair of the legal studies department at Wharton and author of a book that takes its
name from Wharton's Executive Negotiation Workshop, Bargaining for Advantage. "We
are all tempted to compromise in negotiations and this may be the right move, but
compromise may not be the optimal result when many issues and needs are on the
table."
"Test, probe, set the standards, determine if there's going to be reciprocity," Shell
advises. "Check yourself when someone triggers a feeling of obligation in you to be sure
you're moving in incremental steps."
One technique Stuart Diamond endorses is constant practice in all sorts of consumer
and personal interactions. He stresses that negotiators should begin with close attention
to detail. When you call a toll-free number for customer assistance, for example,
Diamond advises that you learn the name of a customer service agent.Write down that
name and, if the agent is willing to help you, don't let him or her transfer your call to an
unknown person.Ask your contact to stay on the line with you and make that person
your ally.
Shell and Diamond purposefully match participants with partners based on their
personal styles-some who are much like themselves and then others who work quite
differently. They are also encouraged to experiment with new behaviors and note the
results. Knowing what puts other people at ease, which topics excite them and how to
read non-verbal cues are all critical pieces of information gathered during negotiations,
Diamond says.
"There's a natural tendency to lean back when someone else leans in toward you. Fight
that impulse and lean in. People will trust you more," he says. "Eye contact and body
language are also important. The more you know, the more you can affect the process,"
he adds.
As someone who negotiates $500 million in real estate transactions in a year, workshop
alumnus Wayne R. Crosby III looks for any advantage. Crosby is chairman of Resort
Property International of Naples, Florida. Having the chance to test out several
strategies -- as the amiable compromiser one day and the hardnosed combatant the
next -- gave Crosby a broader understanding of how to seal a deal during a week of
intensive negotiation training. It also proved profitable.
"On the fourth day of the class," says Crosby, "I applied a lesson I learned to close a
major acquisition for a property in the $75 million range. There were several suitors for
this parcel, but we reconsidered our position and had the seller spell out what his goals
were. Then we worked on meeting his needs. Putting his needs first was the grease that
helps get things done. You both become partners trying toreach a goal." Another key
strategy Crosby picked up was being sure to talk to the right person. Bargaining with
someone who lacks the authority to act can both waste time and benefit an adversary.
"We don't want people to leave until they have either solved or started solving the real
problems that brought them here," Shell emphasizes.
All materials copyright © 1999 of the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania.
7 Tips for Masterful Negotiating
Whether you're trying to close a major account or get a better rate from a vendor, here
are expert pointers on how to win in negotiations.
Think confidence, machismo, and stamina are the keys to winning a negotiation?
Then your bargaining skills need a reboot. Over the past decade, a growing field of
literature on the subject has come to the conclusion that checking your ego at the
boardroom door is a must. Compromise and kindness are the new rules of negotiation.
How does this gentler approach work? We've compiled a short list of pointers to get you
started.
3. Avoid Storytelling.
In a negotiation, "the important thing is for you to be completely truthful about your
situation," veteran entrepreneur Norm Brodsky has said. This is especially true when it
comes to negotiating a loan or another financial arrangement. You don't want to win a
particular negotiation at the expense of your credibility. The more forthright you are with
the other party, the more likely you are to arrive at a satisafactory outcome. "When
you're negotiating about money you owe, don't make up stories," Brodsky says. "Just
tell the truth." Read more.
4. Study Up.
Remember, the more knowledge you have of a situation before going to the negotiating
table, the better off you will be. There are many reasons preparing yourself with the best
research will be to your advantage, but one lesser-known perk comes from
psychological studies. It's called the "consistency principle," which refers to a person's
intrinsic need to appear reasonable. That means your counterpart will likely abide by
certain standards, and defer to your authority if you are able to demonstrate that you
absolutely know what you are talking about. With greater knowledge, you will be able to
set the parameters of the discussion in your favor. Read more.
5. Ditch the Dog Metaphors.
Negotiating: It's two pit bulls locked in a room and one is going to be forced to roll over.
Ick. That mentality is not only outdated, but will get you nowhere. That's because,
frankly, baring teeth and barking the loudest doesn't have the power it might seem to
when bargaining. When dealmaking gets tense, no one ever wants to back down. In
Roger Fisher and William Ury's negotiating text, Getting to Yes, the experts suggest that
instead of viewing your counterpart as the adversary, you focus instead on the merits of
the case and search for ways to acheive reciprocity. The idea is to "attack" the
underlying issue, rather than the other negotiator. Read more.