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Table of Contents
Introduction ......................................................................................................................... 4
Masturbation: Statistics of Frequency, Sex, and Age ......................................................... 7
FUN FACT ................................................................................................................. 9
Masturbation and Your Health.......................................................................................... 10
Your Manly Swimmers ............................................................................................. 10
Benefits of Masturbation........................................................................................... 10
Blood Pressure .......................................................................................................... 11
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 12
Masturbation in Society and History ................................................................................ 13
Our Ancient Times, B.C. .......................................................................................... 13
Other Religious Views, Yesterday and Today, A.D. ................................................ 14
Detrimental History We‘ve Inherited ....................................................................... 14
Our Most Recent History .......................................................................................... 14
Just Plain Bull ........................................................................................................... 15
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 15
Your Important Pubococcygeus Muscles, It‘s PC ............................................................ 16
Functions ................................................................................................................... 16
Love for Dr. Arnold Kegel........................................................................................ 16
Kegel Exercises for You and Her ............................................................................. 17
And Relax ................................................................................................................. 18
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 18
*Genesis of My New Method ........................................................................................... 19
A Feeling of ―Not Quite‖ .......................................................................................... 19
A Journey of Total Frustration .................................................................................. 19
It Happened On Night ............................................................................................... 20
*Why Traditional Masturbation Is Inferior....................................................................... 21
Jerking Off Is Harmful .............................................................................................. 21
*Why My Ecstasy Rock Method Works ........................................................................... 23
Why a man takes it in the butt. ................................................................................. 23
Method Requires No Anal Insertion ......................................................................... 24
Massaging Your Prostate, WITHOUT Insertion ...................................................... 26
*My NEW Ecstasy Rock Method! ................................................................................... 27
The Ecstasy Rock Method ........................................................................................ 27
―Warning, Warning, Will Robinson!!‖© ................................................................... 29
*How to Shoot Your Load, Like a Huge Porn Star! ......................................................... 31
ERM Plus PCs = Porn Star ....................................................................................... 31
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 32
*Tantric Sex ...................................................................................................................... 33
Neotantra and the Sacred Sensual Spirit ................................................................... 33
Tantra‘s Erotic, Sacred Consciousness ..................................................................... 34
ERM Plus Tantric Sex .............................................................................................. 34
Advanced Tantric Master Exercise ........................................................................... 36
The Heart-Opening Experience—Yes, Mushy Stuff ................................................ 37
In Love ...................................................................................................................... 37
Truer Power .............................................................................................................. 38
Be Magnetic—Personal Magnetism ......................................................................... 39
Health, Vitality, and Spirit ........................................................................................ 39
―Love Thyself‖.......................................................................................................... 41
Back on Point ............................................................................................................ 41
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 42
*Ecstasy Rock Troubleshooting: Bladder Techniques ..................................................... 43
Using Your Bladder in ERM .................................................................................... 43
*Surfaces ........................................................................................................................... 45
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 45
More Health Benefits ........................................................................................................ 46
Revamping Old School Masturbation ....................................................................... 46
Exquisite Torture ...................................................................................................... 47
PreSex Guide .................................................................................................................... 48
Healthy Penis, Healthy Sperm .................................................................................. 48
Sperm Research ........................................................................................................ 48
Tiptop and Potent Sperm .......................................................................................... 48
Seek Medical Advice ................................................................................................ 50
Prostate.............................................................................................................................. 51
Recent News and Stats .............................................................................................. 51
Anti-Cancer Benefits ................................................................................................ 52
Prostate Disorder: Prostatitis..................................................................................... 52
Prostate Disorder: Prostate cancer ............................................................................ 52
Male sexual response ........................................................................................................ 53
Benefits of Kegel Exercise........................................................................................ 53
FYI: Benefits for Women, and Therefore, You ................................................................ 54
Improving Sexual Function....................................................................................... 54
Benefits for Men, Benefit Her .......................................................................................... 55
Preventing Incontinence............................................................................................ 55
Improving Sexual Function....................................................................................... 55
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 56
She Doesn‘t Like S-E-X ................................................................................................... 57
Slow Approach to Sexual Play ................................................................................. 57
―I feel nearly nothing from sexual intercourse.‖ ....................................................... 58
Clit............................................................................................................................. 58
Hindering Great Pleasure .......................................................................................... 60
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 61
You Mean I Have to Talk, Too? The Other Sex Talk ...................................................... 62
A Useful Communication Skill ................................................................................. 62
Sexual Criticism ........................................................................................................ 63
For Her for You—The End of It: Stimulating His Prostate .............................................. 65
Why? ......................................................................................................................... 65
Talk With Her ........................................................................................................... 65
Exterior P-spot Action .............................................................................................. 65
How to For the Adventurous..................................................................................... 66
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 67
Taoist Sexual Practices ..................................................................................................... 68
Qi (Life Force) and Jing (Essence) ........................................................................... 68
Male Ejaculation Control .......................................................................................... 68
Jing (Sexual energy) ................................................................................................. 68
Yin/Yang ................................................................................................................... 69
Kama Sutra........................................................................................................................ 70
Pleasure and Spirituality ........................................................................................... 71
Information to Inform and Help ........................................................................................ 72
Guide to Making the Ecstasy Rock Method Yours .................................................. 72
―More, More, More. How D‘You Like It?‖©............................................................ 72
Masturbation Lowdown ............................................................................................ 72
Masturbation and More for Two ....................................................................................... 74
And…........................................................................................................................ 77
More for Two—Prostate Sensation .................................................................................. 78
Exterior Anal Stimulation ......................................................................................... 78
Anal Pleasure ............................................................................................................ 78
Toys! ......................................................................................................................... 79
Prolonging Pleasure .................................................................................................. 79
Downside?................................................................................................................. 79
For the Brave, Peg..................................................................................................... 80
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 80
*ERM Conclusion ............................................................................................................. 81
FUN FACT ............................................................................................................... 81
Introduction
Welcome, and thank you for taking a great leap of faith with me, in order to
change your life forever. For thousands, well, millions of years, actually, we men the
world over have sought new ways to pleasure ourselves. We‘ve tried everything and done
everything just to receive those few intense seconds of orgasmic bliss.
Whatever you can think of, whether edible, inanimate, alive or dead, if it‘s
existed, someone somewhere has tried to hump it or masturbate with it.
Man will always seek new ways to give himself pleasure, but today, you, lucky
man, are going to be one of the exclusive few, who‘ll learn how to put an end to all the
other traditional, yet highly inefficient and physically numbing masturbation techniques,
with this one and only method, my technique.
The ECSTASY ROCK METHOD (ERM) is the ONLY masturbation skill you‘ll
ever need now for the rest of your life.
Okay, traditions are familiar and you do have the skills, so you can regress back
to old school, if you like, but you won‘t want to, not after you learn my easy to learn,
NEW TECHNIQUE.
It‘s fun!
It‘s great, and NOTHING compares to ECSTASY ROCKING and NOTHING
will ever come close.
Not even a little bit.
So, fellas, say, ―GOODBYE FOREVER,‖ to rubbing yourself raw and callused,
GOODBYE FOREVER to the ineffectual, and especially GOODBYE FOREVER to
those expensive and embarrassing sex toys, you don‘t want your new significant other,
your mom, or your kid‘s play friend to find, because someone always seems to stumble
upon something so private at the worst times.
Now, my friend, say, ―HELLO,‖ to the SIMPLEST, MOST COMFORTABLE,
and EASY WAY to GIVE YOURSELF AN OUTSTANDING ORGASM; naturally and
nearly without effort. And look, man, no hands.
And with this knowledge I bring you, my friend, also comes the big O. The
HUGE O.
And not in the form of a long-winded, complicated process, but a simple, easy to
learn skill, in an uncomplicated method that‘ll end penis-numbing, jerking off, and the
use of expensive, cumbersome sex toys which need special storage and special care. Yes,
end all that, except when you want to do it the OLD way.
But, you won‘t want to.
I know that sounds like a huge claim for one man to make, but this isn‘t about
making outrageous, boastful, and false claims, this is about change. And one lone man
can grab the world by the proverbial balls and change it forever.
One man; one huge change. It‘s happened before, and you‘ve see it.
Our world has changed in an instant, countless times, because one man took the
first, unbelievable walk on the Moon‘s surface—on soil not of this planet.
Because one man, some common, unspectacular man removed the first tiny
pebble that insured the collapse of the wall that fear and hate-built, the Berlin wall.
Because one man, named Gutenberg, made a machine hundreds of years ago
which changed our process of writing, from beautiful, but overlarge and too heavy to
carry books, made by a method that was time-consuming, as each individual human hand
made a fragile goose quill scribble in ink on a page. Writing was highly exclusive to only
a chosen few of the church; and only if you belonged to that particular church and were
wealthy enough and male enough, until Gutenberg‘s durable printing press invented
portable, handheld books for the masses of both sexes to take home or travel with, as
writing one page a day was replaced by printing an entire book.
And now, print travels the invisible structure and processes of the internet, with
its profound freedom for nearly everyone, including built in translations and sound and
video along with the printed word, making it accessible to even those who can‘t read, or
read your language, including those barricaded behind other invisible walls of oppressive
governmental bans.
One man, one huge change.
Profound and lasting change happens in an instant, in one explosive flash, and
after THAT MOMENT OF BRILLIANT CHANGE passes through you, electrifying
your body and your mental conscientiousness, by illuminating a new path before you,
you‘ll take a deep breath and wonder how you ever lived the old, traditional, numbing
way you did before, for so long.
Now, good friend, before you learn my new life changing skill, let‘s get a solid
grip on the root basics and learn a few things about masturbation, men, and sex and then
we‘ll get started, one man at a time, with rocketing off on OUR NEW REVOLUTION.
THE ECSTASY ROCK REVOLUTION.
Masturbation: Statistics of Frequency,
Sex, and Age
Sex is as necessary as food, and, like food, we start our relationship with it in the
womb, where most of us were alone. So, I think you‘ll like the following stats.
Our frequency to masturbate is determined by factors, such as our resistance to
sexual tensions and stimuli, our hormone levels influencing our sexual arousal, our sexual
habits, peer pressures and influences, our general health and even our personal attitudes
about masturbation, which are influenced by culture and family.
Sex researcher Alfred Kinsey‘s scientific studies from the 1940s and ‗50s—which
were the first of their kind in the world, about sexual practices in our everyday lives—are
still quite current, stating that about 92% of men and 62% of women have masturbated
during their lifespan. A British national probability survey since then gave similar results;
that 95% of men and 71% of women masturbated, at some point in their lives.
A Canadian 2004 survey in the Toronto magazine NOW showed that 81% of
males began masturbating between marker ages 10 and 15.
And just because you‘re wondering, they found that the female number was a
more modest 55%. But do remember that surveys on our sexual conduct often suffer from
a tendency toward self-censuring, as we strategically edit our answers, or conveniently
withhold or forget the truth.
In beginning masturbation behavior, it‘s not unusual for both sexes to begin at a
much earlier age than mentioned above, especially females, of which 18% began by age
10 and 6% were already an old hand at it, shall we say, by age 6.
The same Canadian survey has male masturbation frequency progressively
declining after the age of 17, although many masturbate daily well into their 20s, and
often beyond.
This decline is much more drastic among the females around us.
Females aged 13–17, generally, masturbate once a day on average (almost as
often as their male peers), but adult women, in general, only masturbate 8–9 times a
month, compared to their male friends at 18–22, which is almost every day.
Many Canadian teen males in the study reported their ability to self-stimulate to
ejaculation about six times a day, while some older men in the late middle age group
reported being hard pressed to ejaculate once per day.
However, healthy males of ages 21-28 are often able to, or at least do, masturbate
at least 8-10 times per day. IF THEY AREN‘T STRESSED.
And until the painful chafing, callusing, and numbness stops their frequency and
effectiveness.
Females appear less likely to simultaneously self-stimulate, while they‘re in a
heterosexual relationship, than men. Popular belief usually asserts that individuals, both
male and female, who‘re not in sexually active relationships, masturbate more frequently
than those who are, but since masturbation alone or with a partner is often a sexual
feature of a relationship, this becomes not true.
And, contrary to street wisdom, several studies have actually revealed a positive
connection between the frequency of masturbation and the frequency of full sexual
intercourse.
Meaning that more self-diddling generates more mutual canoodling.
We all know that there are a lot of dangers outside our bodies; and so science and
reasonable, open minds are now allowing masturbation to become accepted as a healthy
practice and a safe method for sharing pleasure, without the dangers which can
accompany sexual intercourse.
It‘s even possible now to find group masturbation events online, and masturbation
marathons are yearly events across the globe. No. I‘m not telling you where, half the fun
is finding them for yourself.
Think of the postponed agony and final release.
But, anyway, such events are providing a supportive and growing environment
wherein masturbation‘s self-stimulation can be removed from its secret hiding and
performed in the open, among others, without embarrassment. Participants can even talk
with onlookers, while masturbating, to both share technique and to describe their
pleasure.
FUN FACT
I love film studies classes. The first guy I recall ever seeing masturbate to climax in a
mainstream film was Don Johnson in his first film ―The Magic Garden of Stanley
Sweetheart‖ (1970), long before he became Sonny Crockett of ―Miami Vice‖ fame; and,
of course, we just know Sonny NEVER had to touch his own goods, except when he
wanted to.
Because of tons of lovely, bikini-clad, feminine beauties, and NOT his handsome partner,
goofy. Unless, of course, you swing that way, in your head or otherwise; so swing on.
Masturbation and Your Health
Your Manly Swimmers
Masturbation really does clean out the pipe, so to speak, as it flushes out old
sperm with low motility (movement rate), that are just lying around and lazy about in the
male‘s genital tract.
The next ejaculate will then contain more and fresher sperm, which give you
higher chances of achieving conception with your partner during intercourse.
FYI: If more than one male has intercourse with a female, the sperm with the
highest motility will compete more effectively against the male competition, and the
hostile to sperm environment of the female reproductive tract. So, the faster, stronger
swimmers, just as at the Olympics, wins the big egg.
Benefits of Masturbation
Having an orgasm and/or ejaculating, besides creating heightened arousal within
you, causes the adrenal hormone epinephrine to surge through your body, giving you a
flushed face, shallowing out your breathing, and giving you that wonderful after climax
euphoria.
Some mental health professions say that masturbation relieves stress, depression,
and can make us more self-assured, about our bodies in particular and sex in general.
Personally, I didn‘t need an ―expert‖ to tell me that.
However, a study published in 1997 found an association between death from
coronary heart disease and frequency of orgasm, despite the given risk that heart failures,
especially in males, can be triggered by sexual activity.
―The association between frequency or orgasm and all cause
mortality was also examined using the midpoint of each response
category recoded as number of orgasms per year. The age adjusted odds
ratio for an increase of 100 orgasms per year was 0.64 (0.44 to 0.95).‖
Which is a convoluted manner to say a noticeable difference was clear between
any two guys, when one man ejaculated at around two or more times per week more
often than the other man.
Or, assuming an average of 3 to 5 ejacs per week for healthy males, then 5 to 7
ejacs per week is better, which is consistent with a 2003 Australian article on the benefits
against prostatic cancer.
Sexual climax, whether from masturbation or other sources, leaves us in a relaxed
and contented state. Plus, this is so often followed by peaceful drowsiness and sleep,
most particularly when masturbating or having sex in bed.
A Cardio Workout?
Many people even consider masturbation a cardiovascular workout, since, like
other more formally accepted exercises, of running a few stairs or dancing, it gets the
heart rate and breathing rate up, plus giving off endorphins after a certain level is
reached.
Doctors and researches say they have no unequivocal scientific lab proof of this
actually being true, so they recommend that those suffering from cardiovascular disorders
(particularly if recovering from myocardial infarction, or heart attacks) should only
resume physical activity gradually and under the professional eye of their heart specialist
or family physician—including sexual intercourse and masturbation—with the
frequency and physical rigor that their particular bodily status will permit, plus they stress
encouragement to continue physical therapy sessions to help improve overall endurance.
However, do recall that doctors and researchers have a ton of legal concerns and
their own prejudices and personal hang-ups about sex, and that many have boards of
directors they have to answer to that are in charge of their funds.
Then, also think of the logic that walking, as mild to mildly strenuous exercise,
and sexual intercourse as well are considered a type of exercise, so why should sex for
one be different?
Blood Pressure
Both sexual intercourse and masturbation lower blood pressure. A small study has
documented that those in one monitored test group, having had recent full intercourse had
the lowest average blood pressure in stressful situations. However, they also found that
those participating in lone masturbation sex also had lower blood pressure, more so than
those who had absolutely no recent sexual activity.
FUN FACT
―Dawson‘s Creek‖ star James Van Der Beek, by masturbating to it on screen, has ruined
the amusing little Starland Vocal Band‘s song ―Afternoon Delight‖ for me. Not a great
song, but it amuses me. Film—‖The Rules of Attraction‖ (2002), based on the novel of
the same name by ―American Psycho‖ and ―Less Than Zero‖ author Bret Easton Ellis.
Masturbation in Society and History
Our Ancient Times, B.C.
Ancient Sumer in the Mideast was the earliest civilization in the world, as yet
documented, with its first settlement, approximately begun in late 6000s BC through the
4000s BC. Through materials like pictured decorated pottery that they left behind, we do
know that they had a relaxed attitude about sex, with masturbation a popular technique
for enhancing potency, whether alone or with a partner.
Images of male masturbation were even more important in ancient Egypt, and
when performed by a god, it was considered a god-creative, highly magical act. The
super ancient god Atum (Complete One) created our universe by masturbating himself to
ejaculation; and the great rise and fall, the very ebb and flow of the mighty Nile River
was caused by the frequency of god Atum‘s ejaculations. Early Egyptian pharaohs, who
were considered the earthly representative of their highest male gods, in imitation, were
required to masturbate ceremonially into the Nile.
And, yes, their imperial jack-off was formally witnessed and documented. Beware
the royal sir, whether Egyptian or Hebrew, who couldn‘t get his royal member up. He
usually died soon after such failure.
Now, that gives one a new perspective on erectile dysfunction.
The Ancient and sexually infamous Greeks had a more relaxed attitude about
masturbation than the Egyptians, regarding it as not only normal function, but also as a
healthy substitute for other forms of sexual pleasure. They considered it a reasonable and
viable safety valve against destructive sexual frustration.
Masturbation‘s invention, in early Greek times, was credited to the multi-talented
god Hermes (aka the Roman Mercury), who invented oratory speaking, literature, and
commerce, and who also governed traveling, boundaries of all kinds—including death,
liars, athletes, messages, and thieves. He took pity on his son Pan, who was pining in love
for Echo, and unable to seduce her to be his, well, he was half goat. So, Hermes taught
Pan to masturbate; in order to relieve his suffering. Pan, in turn, taught the habit to young
shepherds.
Yes, I am smiling at that.
Other Religious Views, Yesterday and Today, A.D.
Our world religions vary broadly in views of masturbation, all the way from
outlawing it entirely on penalty of death, to encouraging its practice, as a way to achieve
greater spirituality.
FUN FACT
Depictions of male masturbation in prehistoric rock paintings (think at least 8000 BC!)
are common around the world. Most early people seem to have connected human
sexuality with abundance in nature.
There is a clay figurine dated from the 4th millennium BC (4000 BC) from a temple site
on the island of Malta, which depicts a woman masturbating.
However, in the ancient world, depictions of male masturbation are far more common.
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One must consider, though, that if we once used to connect ―human sexuality with
abundance in nature‖ might it not say something about our sexually stressed and
oppressed present, as we cut down trees and displace deer into busy city thoroughfares.
What is our connection, as nature diminishes?
Your Important Pubococcygeus
Muscles, It’s PC
My ―pubo‖-what?
The pubococcygeus [pue-boe-cok-seh-gee-us] muscles or PC muscles are a
hammock-like group of muscles, found in both sexes, that stretch along the base of your
pubic bone to your coccyx (tail bone), forming the floor base of your pelvic cavity and
supporting your pelvic organs—your reproductive organs and excretion organs—which
means it surrounds, supports, and protects the rectum, your penis, her vagina, and the
bladder openings in both sexes.
Functions
The PC muscles control urine flow and contract during orgasm. They aid in
urinary and stool control, in penile strength, and in childbirth, so the healthier and
stronger they are, the better they do their important jobs. Your PCs are muscles, so
always remember that the stronger and healthier they are, then your…
…well-developed PCs will enhance sex with better orgasms in both sexes.
Strong PCs reduce urinary incontinence (urine leakage in both sexes and semen
leakage in men) and help to properly position a baby‘s head during childbirth, for safe
and efficient delivery.
Strong PCs are also part of that wonderful grasping feeling a healthy and
responsive vagina has on a penis or finger.
The PCs in men allow us to move our penis up and down, while it‘s erect.
Y‘know, like that one guy in the locker room who always shows off how he can hold up
a towel like a coat rack, which is probably all the action he gets anyway.
Hold your PCs contracted for one second and then relax, do ten times in a row
(hold and release), three times a day. Steadily increase the number of
contractions, so by a month‘s end, you‘re doing ten holds, twenty times a day.
Vary the exercise by holding the contraction for a slow count of three and then
relaxing. Vary your exercises, do some short and some long. Do the Morse Code:
dash-dash-dash, long-long-long, dash-dash-dash, and you‘ve just signed SOS.
Flex your PCs at different times while having sex, for extra pleasure for you and
your partner.
Do your Kegel exercises for a minimum of six weeks in a row. Results won‘t be
immediate, but be patient, it‘s like strength training your arms or stomach, in time, you‘ll
notice a difference.
And Relax
Relaxation is extremely important. When we tighten our bodies with tension
during sex, we block flows of energy, both esoteric, hormonal, and the very oxygen we
need to do any physical activity well. So, breathe deeply, to relax and enjoy yourself, and
relax and enjoy another, while strengthening and relaxing your PCs.
FUN FACT
Relaxation technique (aka Relaxation training) is any method, activity, or procedure,
which helps you relax; to attain a state of calmness; or otherwise reduce anxiety, stress,
or tension.
Relaxation is often one element in a wider program in stress management and will
decrease muscle tension, lower your blood pressure, and slow both your heart and breath
rates, among other health benefits. Hm, sounds like whacking off pays off to me.
*Genesis of My New Method
I was a normal kid, just like you, and grew up really liking girls and feeling a lot
of sexual desire for them. It was like electricity without insulated cables running through
me, and the first time I got an erection, it was a phenomenal feeling, and it lasted
about two hour’s straight, and wouldn’t go down.
That was the first time I tried to masturbate by hand and I used everything:
lotion, soap suds, petroleum jelly, even my own saliva, but rub as I might, I just couldn‘t
get any pleasure from it. It was like running hard, and not getting anywhere, and so no
way did I even get the smallest ―runner‘s high.‖
Later on, girls, who wanted to take sexual intimacy slowly, before intercourse,
would graciously give me hand-jobs, and I would smile at their generous offers, but
think, ―When is this joyless crap going to end?‖
It Happened On Night
I‘d sat on my bed and accidentally knocked something behind it, and in repeatedly
maneuvering to retrieve it, I felt a weird, gratifying sensation. Definitely sexual. And
most definitely gratifying.
I felt a fantastic feeling of sensual pleasure radiating from my groin that took
me by total surprise.
I‘d NEVER FELT ANYTHING like it before. NEVER!
So, of course, I kept experimenting with getting and repeating that wonderful
sensation, while improving my technique to take less time and less of my energy, and
soon THE PLEASURE DOUBLED and then QUADRUPLED. I nearly fell off the bed, it
was so good.
I WAS ACHIEVING THE MOST EXPLOSIVE ORGASMS I‘D EVER
EXPERIENCED! In just TWO WEEKS!
I experimented over the next 12 years and honed and perfected my
technique.
Besides having sexual intercourse, my ECSTASY ROCK METHOD became my
main technique for achieving sexual gratification. Whenever I felt horny and knew I
wasn’t going to be able to have sex with anyone anytime soon, I still had a totally
FOOLPROOF METHOD almost as wonderful to rely on.
I got so good at it, that sometimes, after having sex with someone, who couldn‘t
bring me to orgasm, I‘d use my self-taught method I‘d discovered, and I‘d have great
orgasms anyway. Just like a professional porn star.
And so can you, once YOU LEARN MY NEW METHOD.
My ECSTASY ROCK METHOD.
*Why Traditional Masturbation Is
Inferior
Have you ever gotten so horny that you just needed to release right away? But
was your first thought ever, ―I need to purchase a $200 plus faux (insert favorite porn
queen‘s name here) combined vagina and butt toy and a huge bottle of warming gel or
gliding lube?‖ There are men who‘re willing to spend ridiculous amounts of money on
sex products that are cumbersome to use and embarrassing to be seen with. Think
detailed suitcase check at the airport, or your visiting mom ―helping out‖ by ―just
cleaning up‖ around your place, or that certain someone looking for that spare shirt you
said you had, and finding...? Place indignant female rant here.
And the guys with less disposable cash?
Well, most guys, who‘re circumcised and who whack off, need excessive amounts
of lube to duplicate that slick and wet, gliding feeling so native to a penis sheathed in a
warm, snug vagina.
Or those guys, like that old ―Mad TV‖ skit, who use the same crusty sock sheath
over and over again YUCK! Wash it, dude. Unless, of course, a crusty vagina is your
fave? YUCK.
Or even those who microwave fruits and vegetables, to get off. I don‘t even want
to imagine the skin burns. Let alone having it ruin a perfectly great apple pie.
Your bladder, as you can see above, sits right on top of the prostate, so any
pressure received on or caused by your bladder is also felt by your prostate; just like the
weight of a water balloon sloshing back and forth on the palm of your hand. The heavier
your bladder is with fluid, the more you‘ll feel its weight on your sensitive prostate.
Therefore, as the bladder is stimulated, your prostate is stimulated, which leads to
momentum of sexual build up, which, in turn, creates pleasure within the prostate, as
continued stimulated rhythm from the bladder’s weight and motion results in a full
blown prostate orgasm.
Just think what you could do with a lovely partner, your bladder and prostate in
partnership, and a good lap dance. Hm, let‘s come back to this one later.
Massaging Your Prostate, WITHOUT Insertion
I‘ve discovered a way to use the natural anatomy and physics of your bladder and
your prostate in full concert together, in a way that activates and thoroughly massages
your prostate, FROM THE OUTSIDE, without ever inserting any object of any kind
into your rectum. Except, of course, unless you want to.
This Frontal Prostate Massage (FPM) is my NEW Ecstasy Rock Method
(ERM). Cool, huh?
Now, aren‘t you just bursting to learn how to do it, how to get your rocks off, and
how to come like you‘ve never come before? 1-2-3. Get ready for the method.
*My NEW Method! AKA Ecstasy
Rock Method
My method‘s not hard at all to learn or do, but the first time or two can be just a
little tricky; so, please, follow each step carefully, and warily gauge where you are, in
learning to execute this new skill set, by being always aware of taking care of your body,
it‘s priceless and irreplaceable in its exquisite sensitivities, and always be aware of how
your body and you, inhabiting your body, both feel; your body, physically, and you,
emotionally.
Remember: This is a skill and that this should be comforting, not stressful; so,
don‘t strive; relax into my new rock method
Plus, if you don’t get the hang of it the first few times, don’t get frustrated.
You didn‘t learn all the skills of your favorite physical sport and what you‘re best at
playing in that game, all on your first few tries, and definitely not in the first half hour.
Okay, SOME of you may have aced all things football or sexual intercourse in your first
half hour run to the goal line, but most of us didn‘t and don‘t.
So, read on.
Tool Warnings:
I really suggest that you DON’T take ANY substance which hardens your tool for
hours on end, when using this procedure, because you could bend or break your
favorite body part.
Also, do be careful of any piercing(s) you may have, as they may snag onto something
and rip at your precious flesh, or merely be ground into it, causing harm. Ouch!
Steps to the Ecstasy Rock Method (ERM) aka the Frontal Prostate Massage (FPM)
Comment [NS1]: Illustration Pix for each of your
ERM Step 1 steps would be good. Never underestimate the ability
for those following instructions to imagine it
completely wrong, or to misread and so do the
ABSOLUTELY DO NOT TRY the ERM WITH A HARD ON. I know it opposite.
sounds counterintuitive, but your penis MUST be flaccid (fully relaxed) for you to
make the proper rhythm and range of physical motion, without strain or damage to
yourself. If you do try this method with an erection, you will hurt yourself.
So, don‘t overachieve. Be protective of your body, and begin with your penis
flaccid.
Lie on your stomach on a flat surface; it can be a table, a nightstand, or even a
bed, the later of which is what I suggest. Your surface of choice should be around knee
level, but can be higher or lower, according to your liking, just make certain you feel
comfortable—I know, this is all completely new, but relax. Be certain you‘re totally
secure from falling off, while using whatever ―study‖ materials you normally choose to
masturbate with: DVDs, magazines or your fertile and familiar imagination.
You can leave your trousers on, but it will make a mess. So, unless you don‘t
mind doing a special load of laundry or explaining that stain on your dry cleaning, I
recommend trousers off. With or without underpants is your choice. Alternatively, you
can use a condom.
Comment [NS2]: Illustration Pix--Feet up, off
ERM Step 2 the floor? On the floor?
Line up the bottom of your pubic bone (right above your groin) to the very edge
of the surface. (Illustration)
Spread your legs apart, about shoulder length. You may ―travel‖ a little, while
you‘re in motion, and have to reposition yourself from time to time, so remember this
beginning position, your default spot. When you have a better understanding of the ERM,
then you may inch yourself up or inch yourself down to suit you, whenever you like, and
also you may then place your legs closer or farther apart, or bend or cross them or
whatever feels most comfortable—or sensually interesting—AFTER you properly learn
these basics.
Basics first and then restyling your ERM to fit your own personal needs. Flaccid,
check; flat surface, check; settled into your position; and ready to learn how to rock....
ERM Step 3
Now, don’t hump your chosen flat surface like a mad man.
Slowly rock backward and forward, head to hip bone, or knee, whichever feels
better, but not side to side. Do not roll left and right. Rock back and forth, using a rhythm
of ―1 and 2 and 1 and 2…‖ to time it right (Illustration). Comment [NS3]: Agree on illustration.
Next, start bringing your legs closer together, but do make certain your feet don‘t
clunk together, which would stop your foot and leg motion, and decrease your ERM
motion‘s build up of energy. (You physics whizzes can figure out that formula later.). So,
don‘t smack your legs or feet together, at this point, because your legs‘ movement is
doing most of the work for you.
Experiment with different leg motions: legs coming closer together; one leg
moving left to right in a semi-circle, while the other is stationary; both legs moving in a
semi-circle; scissoring; frog swim kicks; or whatever you discover feels right for your
body.
When you notice the first initial signs of pleasure, gradually increase the speed of
your leg motion.
Warning: DO NOT move side to side, rolling left and right, because it will decrease
your proper motion and, therefore, DECREASE YOUR PLEASURE.
As you feel the sexual pressure growing and rising inside you, increase the speed
of your legs even more, until you feel yourself come to climatic orgasm.
2. When you feel the first signs of pleasure, contract and squeeze your PC
muscles and stop, to contain your gratification and postpone from building to
crescendo.
3. Wait about two minutes, relax or walkabout even, and then begin your
motions and build up again.
5. Now, if you want to shoot your massive load alone, continue with ERM.
But, if you want to explode during sexual intercourse, then ERM isn‘t
necessary, from this point on. Just have sex as you normally would, but do use
ERM to build your pleasure to its topmost fullness; and when you feel or
finally decide that you‘re entirely ready to climax, and to release and enjoy
coming like you‘ve never come before, position your penis—at a 45 degree
angle trajectory [like this ∕ ], and prepare for THE MOST INCREDIBLE
ERUPTION!!!
FUN FACT
Legendary porn star Ron Jeremy [Ron Jeremy Hyatt] was a school teacher who formerly
posed for Playgirl, after his girlfriend submitted his candid photo to the magazine, and
subsequently went into the adult film industry.
He started using his first and middle name professionally, after his poor grandmother was
pestered at all hours by prospective women suitors, who‘d seen him in his full masculine
glory in Playgirl, calling grandma‘s number thinking they were contacting Ron, since his
Grandma Rose was listed in the phone book as R. Hyatt.
―She had to move out of her apartment for a month,‖ Jeremy says and also that his father
warned that, ―If you want to get into this naked, crazy business, so be it, but if you use
the family name again, I‘ll kill you.‘‖
Jeez. Talk about performance pressure.
*Tantric Sex
Tantric sex, for a male lover, is based on him using his PC muscles, like you do
to control your flow of urine, to delay orgasm. The practice is said to come from
Buddhist and Taoist religion and lore.
Similar activity can be practiced by your female lover.
As Tantric practice became known in western culture—a development that started
at the end of the 18th century, and which has completely escalated since the 1960s—it‘s
become identified with its sexual methods for improving healthy sexual intercourse.
Consequently, its essential nature as spiritual practice is often overlooked by many in the
west.
Sexuality‘s roles in both Tantra and in Neotantra, while related, are actually quite
different, reflecting substantial differences in their cultural contexts.
Step 1
Progress through ERM, slowly.
Step 2
When you feel like you‘re about to ejaculate—STOP! Stop ALL sexual
movement and additional sensation. Just be still, and relax. Get up and walk around, if
you can, or do a load of laundry, if it‘s available.
If you’re building toward sex with another, who’s present, tell them what you’re
doing—controlling your ejaculation, or distract them with naughty jokes or unexpected
foreplay or a playful fake fight (careful with that one), and would this kind of foreplay be
interruptus play.
Step 3
Slowly, take a few long, deep breaths; they should fill down into your belly and
up through your chest. Wait 5 minutes and slowly get back into the method.
Step 4
Now build up your particular momentum again, but go further than before. Feel
the pressure building and Stop again. Repeat step 3.
Step 5
Get back into position letting the pressure build and this time progress even
further than the last, and come closer to climatic orgasm. Just when you‘re about to
release, squeeze your PC muscles tightly, and gently concentrate on not letting any semen
come out, much as if you were pausing or holding a stream of urine from bursting forth.
It can be done, if both you‘re muscles and your concentration are trained. So, practice,
boy, practice.
***
Be patient and remain relaxed.
You may have to add extra stop times to get the full benefits, especially if semen
is still slipping out, but keep practicing, by flexing and exercising those PCs of yours, and
increase the number of times you stop and start.
Be dedicated, my friend, don‘t get discouraged and soon you’ll be able to pause
or stop your ejaculation, whenever YOU want.
In Love
Be ―in love‖ with everyone and everything, as if you were in love with ―the one,‖
which will give you that great, happy feeling that sloshes bliss over everything and
everyone you encounter or think of. Feel completely at peace and physically perfect as
you are because you can feel this love, and can express it as you like, and because it is
completely yours, to hold, and to give.
Relax and become love.
I know, sounds mushy and all ‗60s trippy, but not when you‘re really in love with
a great woman. Then, it‘s easy, and a completely tangible feeling within you, but for
now, imagine yourself with that particular great woman, or that you‘re about to meet her,
and your heart will clearly open bit by bit. You know, that sigh and ―ah, yeah, I love
being with this woman‖ feeling.
And, no, this won‘t kill you, and if you feel like it is, you have control and can
stopper it down, little by little, but never suddenly, because that can injure you.
But try to open and let the warm, happy feeling happen, and don‘t stopper it just
because you feel, be brave and ride it out. Don‘t fear that you‘re wasting time and energy
on something so stupid and imaginary. ―Star Trek‖ was an imagining and it‘s generated
billions of dollars of actual products, made millions of fans happy, and given us the space
shuttle program.
Imagining rules.
Think of your heart like a camera shutter or water faucet‘s washer inset opening
wide to receive love, and so, generally wider is better, to give love AND RECEIVE IT,
but when closing it down, narrow that shutter aperture or close down that water stream to
slow that love overflow down like a faucet‘s stream; heavy flow, medium slow, a trickle;
or to cut it fully off.
Ouch. No more love for you.
But for now. Don‘t trickle and don‘t narrow for this exercise, except to get used to
how you feel doing it as practice. Remember: trickling and narrowing your heart center
chakra (its aperture or faucet) means you‘re being unloving, but wide open is loving. If
you don‘t know the diff I‘m sure the women and daughters or sisters, who know you, no
matter how little or how old, will be able to tell when you‘re unloving and when you‘re
openly loving.
Just ask, and watch the look on their faces, because in loving you, they may lie, in
order to not hurt your feelings, but their face and eyes won‘t.
Truer Power
You want to open yourself to accept the true you and open yourself to those who
will love that true you. We don‘t want façade and surface, we want the deep down stuff,
because surfaces and façades get scraped off, scarred, or merely changed; the true deep
down is forever, and you need that recognized and working for you.
Open and loving is the useful ability to express love to others, to be more patient
with them and yourself, to be less afraid of their judgments and disapproval, or your own.
Visualize, even without ERM or any sex, and learn to put your energetic attention
in your heart, to pull whatever energy is within and near you together. Do this while
talking to a good friend or your best client and know that, in that unspeakable, but real
alchemical magic that happens between people of a like mind, that whatever they need
and however you can give it to them will be yours to give, if you choose.
No questions, no doubts.
Your heart which has its own chakra, its own energy center, is the direct center of
your body and of your spiritual power-centered chakras, with those below the heart
needing less energy and thought to use and those above requiring more energy and more
focused mental control to reach and use properly. It‘s the complete difference between an
only lust-filled feeling burning in your groin or a gut-based feeling of jagged-edged hate
and the most elevated love you can generate out to the universe straight up and out
through the top of your head, like a beacon of pure, loving light. For those men with little
daughters, it‘s that feeling.
My personal fave is to try this on an enemy or anyone giving me hell about just
about anything, and they‘ll come up against an impenetrable, untroubled smile, a benign
and generous passion that is unrelenting and not meeting fire with fire, which only
engulfs everything and kills us all. Let them be fire, while you are air, now, how long do
you think they‘ll burn, without you feeding them?
Be Magnetic—Personal Magnetism
But back to things sexual, you‘ll actually become more magnetic; drawing to you
to those things and people you want in your life and repelling those you don‘t need.
You‘ll have more satisfaction, with greater ease and pleasure within your sexual
experiences with others. It‘s a tangible, real thing.
It‘s personal magnetism, which attracts. You don‘t have to be Matthew
McConaughey, with his perfect smile and perfect abs, which is not my opinion, but that
of certain lovely females I know, but with your own personal brand of personal
magnetism, you‘ll be just as they imagine Mr. McC to be, and find that sex is easy.
Without personal magnetism, sex becomes a definite chore.
And yet, masturbation exercises which truly open your truest personal energies up
and let the real you flow through your body unhindered and bypassing the noise and
clatter of past ―advice‖ and ―help‖ from parents, clergy, and school administrators who
were terribly in error, about you, increases a person‘s personal magnetism. A clean mirror
reflects your true face best.
It‘s the same as a generator strengthening your force field to protect you, or
strengthening your tractor beam to invisibly attract and pull in the best quality of people
you need straight into your life, straight into your arms, and bed, where you can do a little
Double Ecstasy Rocking of your own making. Now, that is really cool.
Back on Point
For your masturbation exercises, remember to raise your body‘s sexual energy
nearly to the point of climatic orgasm, but instead of letting all that energy spurt out,
without thought or concentrated feeling, channel it, like a steam engine does, but with
your mind and feelings, by letting your energy rise upward through the center of your
body, and into your heart.
At the point just previous to an orgasm, a channel opens in everyone‘s body, and
if you lay off achieving your orgasm now, and pause to rest at that moment, to guide your
intentional focus to your heart, that energy, your powerful sexual energy, that you‘ve
generated for yourself, will flow naturally and unimpeded straight upwards, like juice
through a straw, to make your warm heart even warmer.
It’s your energy, why waste it, why throw it away, to wipe it up, when you
can recycle and get every bit of pleasure and love out of it that you can?
Be green, and recycle your love.
So, just rest at that crucial, pre-orgasmic moment, and you‘ll not have to do
anything else, but focus and let it happen. Don‘t worry about analyzing how it feels, or if
it truly is happening, just do it, just LET it happen!
FUN FACT
One method of sexual intercourse that falls into the Tantric and which is why famous
rock musician and actor Sting is infamously known for his sexual stamina, and so
beloved by his wife, Trudy, is the method of inserting the penis into the vagina and lying
still.
This can be a soft penis, yes, a soft one can be inserted by you or your loved one, with a
finger positioned to either side of your big cigar, like, well, a big cigar—and then feed
your softened length in, a little at a time, using those two fingers for a guide wall.
I repeat.
Lying still. No friction. No movement is necessary to start it.
One can converse or kiss and pet or lie quietly, just breathing together, telling jokes,
stories of your past, dreams about the future, or singing to each other—just experiment,
and don‘t strive to make sex, and whoa, your body and hers will recognize that they are
together and will, like magnets in full attraction, act accordingly on their own, without all
the rubbing together like you‘re making a campfire, because your male parts and her
female parts love being together.
And, without friction, the penis will normally grow up into and custom fill the vagina,
and some have reported sublime, yes, completely sublime ecstasies.
Now. Raise your hand. Who DOESN‘T want that?
*Ecstasy Rock Troubleshooting:
Bladder Techniques
The urinary bladder, in anatomy, is a hollow, muscular, and distensible (or
elastic) organ that sits on the pelvic floor in mammals. It is the organ that collects urine
excreted by the kidneys prior to disposal by urination. Urine enters the bladder via the
ureters from the kidneys and exits via the urethra. For the urine to exit the bladder, both
the autonomically controlled internal sphincter and the voluntarily controlled external
sphincter must be opened.
Problems with these sphincter muscles can lead to incontinent leakage problems
of both urine and semen.
The urinary bladder, just so you know, usually holds 400–620 ml of urine, but it
can hold twice that without rupturing, if, for example, the outflow is obstructed; think
swollen prostate.
The desire to urinate usually starts when the bladder reaches around 75% of its
working volume capacity. If that person is distracted, the desire to piss can fade and
return with more urgency as the bladder continues to fill.
Warning: The bladder may rupture if overfilled and not emptied. This can occur in the
case of binge drinkers who pass out after consuming large quantities. Bladder rupture
is a condition that is rare in women, but does occur. Symptoms include localized pain
and uremia (poisoning due to reabsorbed waste).
***
Bladder—Completely Empty
The best way to do it, with all of the control being yours, without the addition of
the added weight and liquid vibration from your bladder, but some may have to build up
to this. And some men may prefer this in the long run.
Bladder—Partially Filled
This is for the beginners. The technique may take some time to develop in some
men. When you feel like your bladder is somewhat filled, use this method slowly. Feel
the pleasure and work with it, and when you orgasm a few times, with this method, you‘ll
be able to do it without having to use the bathroom in the middle of your fun.
Bladder—Full
This method isn‘t really recommended, but can be used. I suggest you only try
this, if a partially filled bladder really isn‘t working for you.
Bladder—Overfull
If you have an urgent, bad need to use the bathroom, DO NOT USE this
technique. If you have any bladder damage already, DO NOT USE this technique.
Relieve the stress on your body first, by first relieving your bladder‘s stress, as the tense
stress from an overfull bladder will be felt throughout your entire body.
You may even cause actual damage to your body.
Or just piss all over everything. And I‘m not teaching you that.
A reminder from before: Just think what you could do with a lovely partner, your
bladder and prostate in partnership, and a good, loving lap dance. Hmmmm.
*Surfaces
This is probably going to be the simplest and yet trickiest part because people‘s
preferences vary from person to person. I myself like surfaces between hard and soft; i.e.:
firm mattresses. It all depends, like sleeping surfaces, on what you like, so start off with
hard or soft and work your way to the level of firmness or softness, and flexibility with
which you feel most comfortable.
Do make certain your surface of choice is secure and won‘t topple over or
collapse with your weight and motions.
Do make certain you have enough surface space to lie comfortably on it and to
rock away in contentment, without any concerns for bodily harm.
Soon you‘ll be able to do it on any flat surface, even surfaces with limited areas
like stools. Hm, bars.
Warning: Do look out for sharp or pointed corners, and if you’re hurting because of
the surface, do stop and find another that doesn’t hurt. Unless, of course, pain is
your thing, but do protect your nature-given equipment, that’s been designed over
billions of years to its present perfect perfection, as there are many things first rate
doctors and surgery cannot fix or replace.
FUN FACT
There are ways to have prostate fun with toys, without insertions, think a vibrator
applied, by you or the one you love, to your exterior P-spot, m-m-m-m-m.
Or how about an adventurous tongue or humming lips kissing your sweet spot?
Or both, as there are fingertip and tongue vibrator attachments.
Now, that‘s a new angle to your girl‘s perpetual tongue wagging.
More Health Benefits
Some people use masturbation in relationships where their sex partner may not
want as much sex as they; and for them, this provides a more harmonious balance in that
relationship.
Mutual masturbation is the act of two or more stimulating themselves in one
another‘s presence. Witnessing your partner masturbate teaches you the way(s) that
particular lover uses to please herself, and allows her to learn exactly how you enjoy
being touched and handled.
An Australian research team of The Cancer Council Australia, in 2003, concluded
that frequent male masturbation seems to help deter growth of prostate cancer.
This study also indicated that masturbation ejaculation may prove more helpful
than ejaculation through sexual intercourse, since intercourse with another can transmit
diseases which may add to the risk of cancer. Also, frequent jacking is easier to do and
maintain through masturbation instead of through the coordination of two for intercourse.
Exquisite Torture
Some wonder how any man can stand to approach so close to climatic orgasm,
and yet hold off not coming. It will, at first, seem a type of exquisite self torture. And
you can not come, if you so choose. But, generally, just make a friendly deal with
yourself, previous to raising your energy five or six times, prior to coming, and promise
to reward yourself with climaxing, but AFTER the agreed upon number of cycles.
Soon, it‘ll not be torture at all, only energetic pleasure of feeling your own energy
rev up and circulate within your own body.
Some even find it more pleasurable than the orgasm itself, which normally, ends
your playtime, so that shouldn‘t be your only goal, if you want more from a sexual
experience, alone or with another.
PreSex Guide
Healthy Penis, Healthy Sperm
One single ejaculation discharges 50 million sperm from a normal healthy male,
from which only one or two will successfully make it anywhere near a mature egg deep
inside a woman, that is ready for fertilization.
Sperm Research
The health of sperm traditionally has been determined by identification through
microscopic observation of sperm speed and shape. Recent genetic advances can analyze
its actual composition, leading to better details and accuracy in identifying healthy sperm.
Hot Tubs
Frequent hot tub sitting lowers sperm counts. Think boiling your boys.
Alcohol
Alcohol damages sperm; it plays havoc with blood circulation for starts.
Limit alcohol intake when trying to improve sperm motility for your fertility.
Drugs
Fertility killers include steroids; cytotoxic drugs such as used in cancer
treatments which kill cells—and may not differentiate cancer cells from your
hardy swimmers; and opiates (the various narcotic alkaloids derived from
opium—morphine, codeine, and others).
Warning: Contact your physician if taking any long-term medication and ask about any
concerns you have on anything which might affect your fertility for fathering. Doctors
should inform you of any side effects, but if they don’t, just ask, and if you get no
answer again, get another opinion. Or another doctor.
Environment Toxins
There is conflicting data on what exactly may cause damage to sperm;
however, radiation does cause damage and birth defects. Others thought to cause
damage are some ingredients in perfumes, some pesticides, organic mercury,
estrogens in the water supply, and other substances. The arguments still rage, with
companies that make these substances and with their lucrative bottom line, so be
healthy and be wary.
Smoking
Smokers have often proven to be half as fertile as nonsmokers. Smoking
constricts the blood vessels in the lower extremities—it‘s the lack of blood to
your favorite parts, again. This can easily be seen in heat imagining.
Dietary Supplements
Folic acid, which has also been proving useful for memory and in cutting
birth defects, when combined with zinc sulfate often dramatically effects sperm
counts. Some men, with these supplements, have increased their count by as much
as 74 per cent.
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Aneros. A line of patented male sex toys designed to stimulate the prostate. Originally developed by HIH,
LLC in 1996, as a device for prostate massage, it was intended as an alternative to treat a variety of prostate
problems like prostatitis and BPH (benign prostatic hyperplasia). Health users noticed sexual benefits. The
device converts the anal sphincter‘s natural motions and contractions directly into stimulation of the
prostate and perineum, without manual intervention. It can be used for masturbation or sexual intercourse.
The Aneros is the Enemagra in Japan.
Male sexual response
During orgasm, sperm are transmitted from the vas deferens into the male urethra
via the ejaculatory ducts, which lie within the prostate gland. The prostate is often
referred to as the ―male G-spot.‖ Some men achieve orgasm solely through stimulation of
the prostate gland, sometimes called prostate massage.
Men, who account the sensation of prostate stimulation, often give similar
descriptions to that of women‘s reports of their G-spot stimulation.
Preventing Incontinence
Regarding post prostatectomy urinary incontinence, the Cochrane Collaboration
found ―some benefit of offering pelvic floor muscle training with biofeedback early in the
postoperative period immediately following removal of the catheter, as it may promote an
earlier return to continence.‖
FUN FACT
Porn super queen and ex-stripper Nina Hartley is a Registered Nurse (RN), who
graduated magna cum laude, and is an outspoken sex-positive feminist. She says, ―Sex
isn‘t something men do to you. It isn‘t something men get out of you. Sex is something
you dive into with gusto and like it every bit as much as he does.‖ Hear, hear, Nurse
Nina.
She‘s an advocate for the adult film industry‘s right to exist, and has often been called on
when television news programs and talk shows require an articulate, A-list adult film
actress to support the pro side. She appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show with fellow
porn actress Ona Zee where they came under hard scrutiny from the mostly female
audience. Ms. Hartley and Ms. Zee refused to back down and were outspoken in their
positive and willing support of the industry.
Editor Note: Most women still haven’t seen a good porn film, that THEY like, nor have
they EVER seen a live strip show with women or men, but traditionally assume the
worse about such things, especially about other women stripping for money and in public
for male strangers’ pleasure.
And in particular, that the female stripper or porn goddess is ALWAYS abused or
extremely low in self-esteem, and probably education and moral rightness, more so
than herself, of course, and that evil stripping and evil porn are fully equal to really
evil prostitution and really evil sexual enslavement with a really evil, abusive man
somehow ALWAYS behind it.
Your significant she, barring a few out there, of course, may deny these arguments in
logic’s defense, but she most likely deeply feels this way. The past two or more
thousand years have not been kind to women in this respect, so it is culturally deeply
ingrained, because historically it used to be true. A lot.
So, bear this in mind about women’s prejudices about female strippers and female porn
actors.
A friend’s aunt, who writes hardcore erotica, went with him to his favorite large strip
club, on a slow Tuesday afternoon. She chatted with the ladies, as a new friend not an
analyzer, and watched them and those men in the audience do their thing. And it was
full nudity girl on girl for guy lap dances in the back room. No. She didn’t get one,
although she was asked, but she observed and took mental notes, for great writing
about real women and men, not prejudices.
She Doesn’t Like S-E-X
The reasons for unpleasurable sex can be complicated.
The reasons that women may not be enjoying sex are numerous and often
complex. Sexual experiences always reflect the meeting of the mind and the body. What
goes on in the mind is affected not only by what is going on sexually and non-sexually
between the partners, but by everything that has gone on in the woman‘s life.
Sometimes even experiences from childhood can be relevant. This means that
what she feels or believes she‘s perceiving when her body is being stimulated, depends
not only on her partner‘s skill, gentleness, care, and ability to be guided by her needs, but
also by what is going on in her mind; including flashbacks to highly uncomfortable
previous moments because of a scent, a word, a sound, or nearly anything.
Editor’s Note: Rewatch the film “The Silence of the Lambs,” and watch for the
numerous moments director multi Oscar-winner Jonathan Demme highlights of men
intrusively staring at, or touching, or lying to the female lead and to the lead female
“victim.” It’s a true insight into highly accepted negative male behavior towards women;
which all females, whether adult or child, whether someone’s wife or daughter, deals
with every day. And bring to bed, when they are lovers. So, think John Mayer’s song
“Daughters.”
Despite the complexity of these issues, many women and their partners can be
helped, by information on the many ways women can receive sexual pleasure. So, seek
competent consul, ask your local or online librarian for research materials, and pay full,
easy attention to your favorite her and what she says, cleverly avoids, or does with
reluctance for you or with seeming compulsion against her own will.
It‘s complicated, man, but not hard, not if you love her, and yourself with her.
Clit
A woman‘s clitoris is much more extensive than the tiny part that may peek out
from under her clitoral hood. Its head is extremely sensitive and is anatomically
equivalent to the head of your penis.
Many women prefer their clit NOT be stimulated directly, much as some men
prefer the tip of their penis not be touched.
The clitoral body extends up to the pubic bone, then divides, running along the
two sides of the pubic arch. Indirect stimulation of her clit through her mons pubis
(pubic mound) or from the sides, through the labial lips, can be vastly rewarding, as can
direct stimulation of the shaft, but not the head, although oral stimulation (cunnilingus)
here may be enjoyable.
And try using your penis as a gentle teasing stimulator along this glory path.
The clitoris is made of spongy flesh called ―erectile‖ tissue that fills with blood,
as she becomes sexually aroused, just like your penis does.
A little more of this erectile tissue extends around her urethra, and can be
stimulated by a fingertip inserted about 1 inch into her vagina, stimulating the front pubic
wall. In some it feels corrugated. Some women initially find this sensation reminds them
of an urge to pass urine, but on repeated occasions, pleasure, high arousal and orgasms
can be experienced.
There‘s more erectile tissue on either side of the vagina, but beneath the labia, and
under a thin layer of muscle. It can be stimulated by fingertips massaging through the
labia on either side of the vagina, but this stimulation needs to be firm and consistent.
Because the erectile structures are so well protected here, the feeling of
hypersensitivity from touching the head of the clitoris doesn‘t occur.
Perhaps, it’s a place to gently masturbate your penis against, and stimulate you
both.
The unfortunate thing about these feminine anatomical structures being hidden is
that they cannot be effectively stimulated during regular penis in vagina intercourse,
not without both bodies being particularly close. Sometimes, once the man‘s ejaculated
and his penis regresses in size, both pelvises move closer, and she can rub against him,
and stimulate her mons area and indirectly stimulate her clitoris.
But, be heartened, there are some women who get aroused to orgasm by
vaginal intercourse, BUT MOST DO NOT, and most, like their men, don‘t know it.
“But, women really get off on it like they do in those wild porno scenes.” No,
those are fantasies, with actresses FAKING IT. This is real science about real women.
Why not 100% vaginal orgasm?
Approximately less than 50% of all women reliably have orgasms during
intercourse, so it‘s certainly not abnormal to find that high arousal and orgasm does not
fully go hand in hand nor occur solely through intercourse.
And, consider that, men desensitize their sturdy penises by hand rubbed friction,
so what must the more delicate inner tissues of the vagina suffer from aggressive friction
and by being struck with aggressive force. Strike your fist against the inside flesh of your
own arm just below the elbow for the same amount of time you‘d have full out
intercourse. At least two minutes? Does your inner arm hurt?
This is another reason why low to no friction Tantric practices are growing in
popularity.
Other reasons for the less than 50% include the following:
Anatomical fit. If the fully inserted penis and both pelvises press directly
together, she has more ―outside‖ stimulation. Many women say that if
they‘re very highly aroused, with the vaginal walls swollen with blood,
they sense a pleasant, deep pressure with penile entry and thrusting, which
is enough for some to orgasm.
Delaying ejaculation, through Tantric skills, can give her more internal
stimulation for a longer period. Plus combining mental stimulation with
other physical stimulation besides penis in vagina alone can accentuate
excitement and heighten arousal and chance of orgasm.
FUN FACT
Speaking of Ecstasy Rocking.
Women can rock for ecstasy on horseback which is why horseback riding for women was
required to be side saddle, not straddle. And even in recent years an American TV show
was pulled off air, before it aired its premier, because some idiots got overexcited about a
teenage girl—approx 17-18 years old—riding her horse to her pleasure.
Jeez, she was fully dressed and you know girls love their ―my little, uh, big, HUGE
pony.‖ –The show? A TV spin-off of the film ―Cruel Intentions.‖
PS: It‘s pretty much the same reason, I think, so many men love their motorbikes. Their
nuts and P-spot are sitting on a huge vibrator.
You Mean I Have to Talk, Too? The
Other Sex Talk
Communication in any relationship of two or more people is vital. Sexual
communication is even more so and often the hardest, since we are naked on so many
levels.
We are generally given no tools for this and end up doing things we don‘t enjoy
or aren‘t getting what we want sexually because we don‘t know how to ask for it. Often
we feel embarrassed about expressing our ―selfish‖ desires for fear of what our partner
will think or respond. We also don‘t want to hurt their feelings.
This lack of communication leads to sexual dissatisfaction, which causes its own
problems, including creating a general unhappiness about not being able to fully express
yourself in life and love.
It‘s important to understand that as fearful as you are of opening up sexually, your
partner is probably just as frightened or nervous. See, already you have something in
common.
Questions in Bed.
Questioning during lovemaking can be a little different. While touching your
lover you ask them for feedback.
Kiss her nipple in a particular way and ask: ―Does that feel good, or would you
like it harder, softer, faster, slower?‖
Each time you ask a question and do something different, wait for her to answer.
It gives the control to her and lets her see that she can trust you while in such a vulnerable
state. You can also allow her to guide you by using simple words: harder, softer, slower,
faster, left, right, up or down. This avoids negative criticism and words more ambiguous
than yes and no.
And do feel free to ask your questions closely, so she can feel the heat of your
body and breath upon her.
Sexual Criticism
Because sex is so important to us, as is the image of being a good lover, when
we‘re told we‘re doing something negatively and wrong, we tend, as humans, to
withdraw, emotionally and physically, in order to distance ourselves from the hurt.
I‘m afraid to say that men are often at fault here, thinking that in having sex with
one or two or thousands, let alone a million times with ourselves, that we know
EVERYTHING, particularly about sex, even sex with this new partner, or a long-term
partner, who wants something new.
But really the fact is that the only way to know if something feels good and
pleasurable to her is to ask her. And listen. Because this gentle approach should open the
door to communicating honestly between you, about sex and more. So, respect her
communication and guidance. This will build deep trust and safety between you, and
perhaps a repeat offer to come again.
For Her for You—The End of It:
Stimulating His Prostate
The prostate is the size of a walnut and is located 4 cm in from the anus on the
anterior wall, down from the bladder and in front of the rectum.
The function of the prostate is to lubricate the ejaculation process (adds to semen
and other seminal fluids) and to increase pH, making the vagina more hospitable for
sperm and, therefore, more conducive to fertilization. The prostate produces prostatic
fluid when you‘re aroused and contracts during ejaculation to empty out your load.
Why?
Pleasure. A high concentration of nerve endings here makes stimulation very
pleasurable for many men. You like pleasure, right?
Intensity of orgasm can increase two or three-fold, with prostate stimulation.
It can also delay ejaculation. Some men shy away from prostate stimulation
because of the social and religious taboos associated with anal play in our culture, and the
fear or receiving sex and having someone inside your. Deep-rooted and scientifically
unsubstantiated beliefs leave men feeling shame and a general concern that they will
become or will be considered homosexual.
Or of becoming some sort of ―wussy,‖ a woman, as if becoming what you seek,
all the time, is abhorrent.
And if you think a long-term lover won’t suss this negative attitude out about you and
internalize it as hatred towards her, you are wrong. Or you found the stupidest girl in
the universe. Lucky you.
FUN FACT
Pegging describes a sexual practice in which a woman penetrates a man‘s anus with a
strap-on dildo.
The pegging name origination is from a winning entry in a 2001 contest for Dan Savage‗s
Savage Love sex advice newspaper column. It‘s a specifically heterosexual term; since
the competition was held after reader observations that there was no common name for
the practice of females penetrating heterosexual men with a dildo.
Because the term is quite new, many people use different terms for ―pegging‖, such as
“bend over boyfriend” (commonly shortened to BOB) from the popular video series of
the same title, and the non-pornographic 1970 film Myra Breckinridge, based on the
novel of the same name by Gore Vidal.
Taoist Sexual Practices
Qi (Life Force) and Jing (Essence)
The basis of all Taoist thinking is that qi is part of everything that exists. It is
related to another energetic substance contained in the human body known as jing, and
once all has been spent, you will die. Jing could be lost from the body in a variety of
ways, most notably the bodily fluids.
Ancient Taoists would use practices to conserve their bodily fluids to great
extents, and some reportedly recycled and composted their own fecal matter (night soil).
The fluid that contained the most jing was male semen. Therefore, Taoists traditional
belief includes that men should avoid ejaculation, in order to conserve their life essence.
Yin/Yang
The concept of yin/yang, and opposite attractions strengthening each other, is
important in Taoism, and consequently also holds special importance in sex. Yang
usually referred to the male gender, whereas Yin could refer to the female gender. Man
and Woman were equivalent to heaven and earth opposites, always together yet always
disconnected.
Every interaction between Yin and Yang has significance, making every position
and action in lovemaking have importance, including special sexual positions that served
to cure or prevent illness.
Kama Sutra
The Mallanaga Vatsyayana‘s ―Kama Sutra,‖ is a widely published manuscript and
can be found in various translated and edited forms, in its entirety online, or in print. It
has 36 chapters, organized into 7 parts. The contents of the book are generally structured
into 7 parts:
1. Introduction
On the book‘s contents, three aims and priorities of life: acquisition of knowledge,
conduct of the well-bred townsman, reflections on intermediaries assisting the male lover
in his sexual enterprises (5 chapters).
2. Sexual Union
On desire stimulation , types of embraces, types of caressing and kisses, marking
with nails, biting and marking with teeth, on copulation positions, slapping by hand and
corresponding moaning, virile behavior in women, superior coition and oral sex, preludes
and conclusions to the game of love. It describes 64 types of sexual acts (10 chapters).
Although Kama Sutra did not originally have images, part 2 of the work describes
different sex positions, and more recent editions have graphic images of positions.
3. Acquiring a Wife
On forms of marriage, relaxing her, obtaining her, managing alone, union by
marriage (5 chapters).
4. Your Wife
On conduct of the only wife, conduct of chief wife, and other wives (2 chapters).
5. Others’ Wives
On behavior of woman and man, acquaintance encounters, examination of
sentiments, go-between tasks, king‘s pleasures, behavior in female anatomy (6 chapters).
6. Courtesans
On assistants‘ advice on choice of lovers, seeking a steady lover, making money,
renewing friendship with former lover, occasional profits, profits and losses (6 chapters).
7. Attracting Others to You
On improving physical attractions, arousing a diminished sexual drive (2
chapters).
Dharma, Artha and Kama are aims of everyday life, while Moksha is release from
the cycle of death and rebirth.
The Kama Sutra (Burton translation) says:
Virtue is the highest goal, a secure life the second, and
pleasure the least important; and when motives conflict, the
higher ideal is to be followed. Thus, making money virtue
must not be compromised, but earning a living takes
precedence over pleasure, but there are exceptions.
The Kama Sutra is sometimes wrongly thought of as a manual for Tantric sex.
While sexual practices exist within the wide tradition of Hindu Tantra, the Kama Sutra
isn‘t a Tantric text, and doesn‘t touch on any sexual rites associated with most Tantric
practice.
Information to Inform and Help
Many men, just like women, don‘t know or haven‘t reevaluated the information
they know or thought they knew about their own bodies. Things we were taught change,
with knew information. Things we were taught were misdirections; by ignorance, fear, or
malicious intent.
If you are having ANY problems or having ANY concerns whatsoever, contact a medical
profession
Masturbation Lowdown
Both masturbating and not masturbating is normal. Don‘t worry if you do and
don‘t worry if you don‘t.
Masturbation is a normal and healthy part of sexual development, and both girls
and boys masturbate.
Masturbation is a good way of finding out what pleases you sexually, which
sometimes makes later sexual relationships easier.
I repeat. Don‘t believe any of the terrorist scare stories. You won‘t go blind,
insane, turn into a perv, or get an STD from yourself, if you masturbate. You will
also not become sterile or get yourself pregnant, whether male or female.
Masturbation is not evil, dirty or harmful. So chill out.
Masturbation brings sexual relief, without any of the dangers of sexual intercourse
with another (and all the partners they‘ve ever had before you, whooh!). There is
no unwanted pregnancies and no STDs, provided you weren‘t touching someone
else‘s and then touched yours. So, hands to yourself.
Masturbation is a way of exploring the body and even young children and babies
do it on their own, without prompting.
Masturbation is personal and private and should not be done in public places or
around people who are not willing participants. Group masturbation is quite
common, especially among teenage boys, and groups can now be found through
the internet, if you so choose.
Masturbation and More for Two
When with a lover, relax and be yourself; because the key to being with a loving
sex partner is the same as being with yourself: to raise the energy in your body to the
point of orgasm and then, instead of coming to waste your energy, relax and let it rise up
to your heart.
In other words, there are no rules: no special breathing, no positions, no sequence
of events, no time allotments. Now that you know about Tantra, throw away your Tantra
rules and books and videos! Throw away your sex manuals!
You don‘t have to be at the brink together, either, which is for movies and erotic
fantasy stories and is highly unlikely in real life.
Some prefer to masturbate or be masturbated on during lovemaking, because it
keeps their energy high, but it‘s your sex and your lovemaking, so there are no rules. You
don‘t need any rules, because once your energy is flowing, it will take you without a plan
and you won‘t need a map.
If you find it difficult to delay your orgasm, while with a hot partner, try stopping
several strokes before orgasm and just relaxing, without doing anything else. You may let
her know this that you want to have a nice, loving, long session of pleasure with her, not
just a quick few minutes, and that you may have to stop a few times to keep from
blowing too soon, because she is really hot.
Women love that kind of stuff. Just don‘t say it sarcastically, or like you
committed it to memory, which you did, but she doesn‘t need to feel that you did,
because she thinks you‘re hot, too.
When you have accomplished delaying your orgasm, try focusing on your heart
with her, as you did while alone and let your energy rise or float up.
Just as in your private sessions, repeat the cycle of stimulation and rest as often as
you like, until you, not your glands, decide to have an orgasm. Being finished is
subjective.
You’re finished when you think you are, instead of coming because you’re
out of control.
Experiment with not coming at all, just to break the ridiculous belief that it‘s
harmful or unsatisfying not to come, or that your brain will explode clear out of your
head, like a jack-in-the-box; it won‘t. Trust me. My brain‘s exactly where it should be.
Sex is fun, so I suggest you take an attitude of play towards sex with your partners
(and with yourself, of course) and it will relieve you of undo stress, so you‘ll feel
satisfied and successful with your experiences more often. Because satisfaction and
success are great.
No Show.
Sometimes the body just isn‘t interested or you‘re too burdened spiritually or
emotionally with other things. If can just relax and be together, holding and caressing
each other and chatting in a loving way, laughing together, and the emotional upsets, the
performance anxieties and performance failures will ease away, and you‘ll be able to
make love when the tension is released, and your focus is on easy pleasure for pleasure‘s
sake and not sexual goals and striving for climaxes that MUST BE MET at all cost.
See. It‘s stressful, that.
In addition, just lying together nude and touching in a loving and non-goal
oriented manner is a great way to get turned on. It‘s as if the body remembers, ―Oh yeah,
I like this stuff. I LOVE it.‖
If you take an attitude of play, your lovemaking sessions will last longer, and
you will find that in the course of each hour you are together that the intensity of your
energy will rise and fall, naturally like breathing.
Sometimes you‘ll be hot and sometimes you‘ll be sensual, and sometimes you‘ll
just be friendly. We usually think that if it‘s not hot and heavy all the time there‘s
something wrong. Usually, if you just resume the attitude of loving play, your wave will
return and carry you home.
And if your energy abruptly drops away to nothing when you‘re in the middle of
an upward wave? Normally, one or both of you has had a negative thought, like: ―My
body‘s ugly,‖ ―She‘ll never give me what I want,‖ or someone‘s unspoken nonverbals are
negative. Again, just lie together and wait for your loving wave to come back.
Extra: If you can actually remember the negative thought and can talk about it, or
better yet, laugh together about it, its negative, downer power will be defused.
Fantasies are cool. Share one with your lover, don‘t be afraid there‘s something
wrong with your fantasies, or that she‘ll be offended. Couples, who open their fantasy
lives to each other, find it enhances their mutual attraction and the intensity of their
sexual experiences together, because they‘re sharing and can make new delights together.
And never forget, that the mind needs its own play, and that what it needs needn‘t
be fully acted out in life. Otherwise, I have a few exes who‘d really be dead now.
And…
Relaxation is important. When we tighten our bodies with tension during sex, we
block our literal flows of energy. So, breathe deeply to relax and enjoy yourself, and your
love.
It is important to be able to trust your lover enough to be able to experiment and
share, on an equal basis, the things which give both of you the most sexual pleasure. One
cannot simply translate past experiences with other partners onto this present relationship.
Because a previous partner enjoyed oral sex or anal stimulation does not necessarily
mean that is true for your new partner.
It‘s important to talk, to ask and to experiment with your lover.
If a face-to-face discussion is difficult, talk in the dark, or even better, follow the
maxim of ―Don‘t tell me, show me.‖
More for Two—Prostate Sensation
Men can experience full and ejaculatory orgasm through anal, rectal and prostate
stimulation alone, in the absence of direct genital touch. Then again, some men reach
orgasm and ejaculate when they are urinated or crapped on—such is the power of your
mind. So, ―free your mind, and the rest will follow‖©, as the song advises.
Anal Pleasure
There are also plenty of nerve-endings in the sphincter, the muscles that keep the
anus closed, which is why anilingus-salad tossing-rimming-rim jobs can feel so nice.
Your prostate is located towards the outer portion of your anus, a couple of inches
inside. Don‘t bother searching for your prostate when you aren‘t erect, as it‘s when
you‘re preparing to ejaculate that this gland secretes and fills with prostatic fluid, a key
component of ejaculate, which his why it swells.
When aroused, you can detect a swelling in the area, your G-spot, and it will,
when touched, feel fantastic, and enhance arousal and intensified sensation. Speaking of
sensation…
Toys!
Whether alone or with her assisting, it is undeniably easier to explore and enjoy
anal stimulation using sex toys. When shopping for toys, shop online together or go to a
woman friendly store, so you‘ll both feel comfortable with them. Get something for you
and something for her.
And don‘t forget lots of good lube, to keep you safe and comfy.
Start with a slender dildo, and one sufficiently inflexible (of silicon or seamless
material) to be able to aim towards the prostate. Or one with a bit of a bulbous head and a
slender shaft, so it‘s a bit of a pop getting it in and out.
Let her lube and insert the dildo, you can flex your sphincter open (PC muscles
skills), as she gives you oral sex or masturbates you, or concentrates on anal stimulation
alone, ask her to work the dildo around and in and out, which can feel highly intense.
Prolonging Pleasure
Anal and prostate stimulation can lead you to feel you‘re experiencing your most
raging boner ever. The urge to masturbate immediately and explode can be major. If you
do and you‘re with her, be prepared to offer her a lot of oral sex shortly afterwards, as a
huge, major thank you.
Or, when you feel the urge to come to be almost overwhelming, stop stimulating
your penis and have her pause the toy. When the urge has subsided, have her restart the
dildo or vibrator, and you should experience a mind-blowing, extended period—without
ejaculation, so you can experience it again shortly afterwards, with no refractory period
of recovery, as you would if arousal and the ability to sustain an erection were in conflict.
Downside?
Some whine that the pleasures of receptive anal sex play take the edge off the
urge to penetrate her. But, so does a blow job, man; and you rarely turn that down.
For the Brave, Peg.
Of course, to take things further, you could buy your loving, favorite her a strap-
on dildo. Some women say they‘ll try anal sex, if their man will take it in the butt, first.
Well, bend over, Bob.
FUN FACT
Pegging enjoyments.
The act of pegging can be enjoyable for both partners: men may find stimulation of the
anus, rectum, and adjacent organs, particularly the prostate, enjoyable, provided that
enough lubricant is used, and women may get direct stimulation from the dildo, from its
base against her mons, from a vaginal vibrator or anal ―butt plug,‖ or in the case of a
form of double-ended dildo, from vaginal penetration on the other end.
Additionally, a woman could use a secondary vibrator, between the dildo and her clitoris,
to get pleasure from pegging.
Some men and women may also find pleasure in the psychological aspects of submitting
and dominating, respectively, though as BDSM practitioners might point out, the act of
being penetrated is not necessarily experienced as a submissive act, nor is the act of
penetrating always experienced as a dominant act.
Given the stigma associated with anal sex (and its association with male homosexuality),
some people, many of them heterosexual, derive enjoyment from the taboo or gender-
transgression aspects of pegging. Some women may enjoy the feeling of having a
―simulated penis,‖ while some men enjoy the experience of receptive penetration in
addition to the ability to masturbate due to the fact that their penis is ―free‖ and at hand.
*ERM Conclusion
Congratulations on joining thousands of men who are discovering why the old
method was wrong, and didn‘t work as well for them as promised, but to make my
Ecstasy Rock Method truly your own, you have to play around with it, by developing
new ways to pleasure yourself that fit you and your comfort level.
Now that you know my wonderful, secret method, try to incorporate things you
like, by imagining and experimenting, and communicating with her to help you. You can
add anal play or feather quills tickling your nether parts (I just had to say ―nether.‖) or
even your favorite woman blowing you. And tickling your anus and P-spot.
My ERM is now yours to use as your method, in a way that fits you and pleasures
you.
So, remember, the sky‘s the limit when it comes to your own imagination. Now
there‘s a goal to shoot for.
FUN FACT
Tristan Taormina is an award-winning author, columnist, editor, pornographic film
director, occasional actress, and self-styled ―anal sexpert.‖ Her works can be found in
books and video. Enjoy.