Introduction

Divorce is one of the worst things that the married couples face. Divorce has

psychological, social and emotional effects on women; not only women but also on men children

and other family members. Divorce is also associated with increased depression loss of dreams

and life styles but divorce effect different people differently. According to class variations

divorce effects differ such as in lower class and in high class women feel less stress and better

adjustment than in married life.

For many possible repercussions of divorce in the lives of families it has been

examined after a long practice of divorce that it affects. Well-being of children is a very complex

in post divorce situations and it is an interactive process and multi factors influence it (Lee,

2002).

According to shari’ah nikah is a contract and its meaning is knot or tie. In wedding a

man and woman are tied together by a knot so it is called wedlock. ‘Aqad’ is another word used

for nikah and it means a contract (Isfahani, 1971).

Marriage type is different some people married for love and some go for arrange or

survival marriages, they see the partners and come into love each other. But extremely strong is

the survival or drive to reproduce otherwise human race will become extinct.

Divorce is end of marital relationships with specific words or allegorically between the

spouses; it may be personally or through a delegate and it may be immediately or consequently

(Tanzil al Rahman, Dr, vol.2, p. 357).

Now a day a number of couples are getting divorce by making divorce agreements and

behind it there may be a lot of causes of divorce. There are a number of reasons for dissolutions
of marriage; one of them is disloyalty and adultery which is basic and fundamental reason of

divorce (http://ausesof-divorce.com).

Abusive behavior is considered as second cause and this is exist even they are bare to

the illumination of the day. There are many kinds of abuse such as physical, emotional and

verbal but it needs a lot of counseling and sincere commitment with an action to adjust

(http://ausesof-divorce.com).

Third cause is the evil of all causes which is addiction and persons who develop it they

no longer distinguish how to refrain from it. These are the main causes that disturb a person’s

ability to maintain priorities on family relationships because with this every thing become less

important (http://ausesof-divorce.com).

There are many other things that create conflict among couples such as back child

support, finance, spousal support, the management of the family circle and public commitments

and these lead to divorce and court briefings. With the passage of time loss lose of concentration

in partners and collapse of communication take place and they prefer individual responsibilities

and careers. Another powerful disagreement between couples is sexual and academic

inappropriateness and in such cases couples find divorce as finest solution. Criminal behavior or

mental illness in a spouse leads to separation (http://ausesof-divorce.com).

Divorce is the end of marriage before the death of any one of the spouse. The purpose of

this study is to see that how divorce effects and what are social and psychological effects of

divorce on women. Previous studies have also mentioned the social and psychological effects of

divorce but it was hoped that this research would shed new light in this perspective.

Here the research question is that how divorce effects women socially and psychologically. The
purpose to find out the effects such as social aspect and psychological aspect of divorce and how

they effect divorced women. And also shed light on marriage that what type of marriages leads

to conflict and confusion and finally divorce.

Methods

Sample

The sample consisted of four divorced women two of whom were forty plus age and two

were of twenty six years old. All of them were belong to different classes. Two were from lower

middle class, one from middle class and one from upper middle class.

Measures and procedure

To collect data interviews were conducted individually. Actually semi structured type of

interview is used in this research. Another method is used that is coding and in coding of text

Strauss and Corbin technique of coding is applied on text. This coding includes open coding,

axial coding and selective coding. For this qualitative research first of all interviews were being

conducted of divorced women individually at different places and interviews were in audio form.

So I transcribed the audio material in written text so that coding could be applied on it. Through

open coding I coded the every line of text and then did axial coding. For selective coding I

selected the common features from all the interviews that would be helpful for constructing a

new theory.

The major question of this study was that “what is social and psychological effect of

divorce on divorced women. It has been noticed in society especially in middle class family that

divorce has negative effect on women, but in higher and lower class case is somewhat different.

The purpose is to explore the effect of divorce on women. For this purpose I conducted a semi
structured interview. During the initial stages of interview it became clear that most of divorced

women were married in a very young age and range were from 15-18 years.

Results

When you face a divorce, you are facing the end of a dream. Even though you may know

it is the right decision to make, you still had a dream when you first married that is now dying

before your eyes. The effects of divorce often hit you when you least expect them, and can affect

you in ways you may not have known. Life as you know it is over, but now you have a chance

for new beginning. If you have children, you have more to think about than just yourself.

There are different categories with their sub categories according to our research

question. According to research question data were consisted of divorced women and most of

them were married in lower than 20 years old and their husbands’ age were greater than 20 years.

Only one of them was greater than 20 years when she got married. So if we see divorced concept

regarding age then younger age marriages usually comes to end at divorce. At younger age one

aspect irrespective to the others is the maturity level.

Another category that was same in all divorced women that all marriages were arranged

and were cousin marriages. It is usually done according to the will of parents as was in all cases.

Parents want to make their strong relationships in family and do all this without any inquiry

about the behavior of the family and the man with whom they are going to tie their daughter.

Data shows that parents usually do not go for inquiry when marriages are in family. It is done for

the respect of family and for parents people out of family are not trustworthy.

Maturity level is very important most of the female at younger age do not have much

information about marriage and married life; all story opens after marriage that leads to a lot of
confusions and disturbances and such stories usually end at dissolution of marriages; the ultimate

of marriage episode becomes divorce.

Data shows that all females produced babies after the first year of their marriage even the

whole personality of the husbands opened to them and the complete story of marriage life. So the

baby’s birth is the result of sexual satisfaction or it become necessary after marriage. After

divorce a female has to face a lot of problems including financial problems and husband do not

provide expenditure for their children so the divorced life becomes more difficult with children.

So inquiry is also important element a family should inquire or get full information about

the families before to make a new relationship.

Divorced type is another category which is also common except in one case. In three

cases divorce was decided by the heads of family and in exceptional case divorce was got

through court. This shows that people has some knowledge about these things but limited

knowledge. Data shows an important role of family members either it was marriage or divorce.

Decisions of marriages were also of family heads and same for divorce. The role of concerned

male and female was not apparent. These things indicate that if marriages are arranged then

divorces also. It seems that the phenomenon of understanding each other whether they are

couples or families is becoming fail. Though being a member of same family how these things

differ is very important and it shows individual differences.

In all cases first they tried to go for the court to find out the solution of their problems but

they did not involve the court in their matters due to the long processes of court. Another thing is

also important in this matter that is family pressure that is another hurdle in contacting with court

and resulted in general way of divorce.

 Then the question arises here is that why people are afraid of court? There may be many

reasons behind this attitude. May be the families feel insult or disgrace to contact with court or it

may be their ego problem that they want to decide their matters by themselves and do not want

any interruption in their matters. Or it may be a fear of exposing matters before others. All these

issues are important to explain. It has been noted in families that usually people do not go to

court due to its long procedures and families also feel insult to contact with court because they

think that in this way they become expose to others, so they have to be ashamed before others.

Although divorce does not have the stigma attached to it that it had in past centuries, divorcing

couples often feel a sense of guilt or shame. This is especially true if marital infidelity is involved or if

there are young children in the household. The authors of "Collaborative Divorce," Pauline H. Tesler,

M.A., J.D., & Peggy Thompson, Ph.D., state that guilt and shame are a natural reaction to society's

perceived or actual disapproval, as well as one step in the process of emotional adjustment to

divorce( Chris Blank, 2010 ).

Divorce has become conditional with many other things so the women have to face all

these problems which make their life complicated and create confusions in taking decisions.

Matter of “Haqmeher” was similar in all cases of divorce. None of the women got their

“Haqmeher” whether it was in form of gold or rupees because it was conditioned with divorce

that women have to choose one thing between the two that were divorce and “Haqmeher”

amount. This attitude shows materialistic nature of people and preference to materials rather than

relations. “Haqmeher” is the right of women but usually they deprived from it.

Another thing associated with divorce that was noticed in interviews is the child father

relationship. It was common in all cases that father was irresponsible for his child and also for

his wife. In all cases father did not show attention and care for his children even they wrote in

divorce papers that children will be with their mother and they had no concern with them. Or if
they did not wrote children custody in divorce papers after divorce did not show any concern

with children and finally children had to live with their mothers.

There may be many reasons behind this matter. May be children presence can create

problems for their future life or property may be the cause because they will have to share

property. So in all cases father did not want to take responsibility of his children. But with these

things they also create problems in giving child under custody of mothers.

90% of women will receive custody of any children - even if they did not receive custody

in court. Courts tend to award custody to mothers over the fathers, but statistics reveal, that even

if the court is not involved women are the caregivers.

Financial issues tend to affect women more than men after divorce. 60% of those under

the poverty line are divorced women and children. The fact that men tend to make more in their

careers than women and the fact that this support is no longer present adds to this. (Marcy

Burlock, 2009).

Dowry is another essential component in this matter. Dowry is a material or things that

are given to daughters from their parents. But it becomes a great problem for most of women

that’s why it is said that dowry is curse. After divorce “in-laws” create a lot of problems in

returning dowry to resource woman. It was noted that in all cases none of women could get back

her complete dowry and it was conditioned with divorce and child custody.

By doing this whether the males got self satisfaction or it might be the way to take

revenge. All divorced women were not given the right to ask for their dowry because they had

the label of divorce and according to people women have no right to ask about dowry after their

divorce. Why is this still a stigma in our society? Divorce is the reality of society and it has been

a continual phenomenon among generations though it is considered as bad. But people’ thinking
are the same though many changes have been occurred in societies. Women still feel fear to ask

for their rights, they think that what were happen to them is the will of ALLAH and they have to

just accept it. Even most of the women do not know about their rights and how to get them and

have no information about the terms and conditions of nikah and divorce. What other people say

they accept it as right way.

Some women also strongly believe on charm and magic and on it that amulets work and

show their effect on the life of people. Having fits is considered as the arrival of giants and

ghosts. But it may be a psychological problem or may be another disease. This shows deficiency

of knowledge and education even in cities of Pakistan.

But with divorce class differences also exist. For middle class people it is considered as

great stigma of life and a bad sign and symbol for women. It plays a great role with their ego and

respect and many serious cases occur. For middle class women facing the end of dream is facing

the end of life. Most of the women do not go for remarriage after divorce, even if they got

divorce after one or two years of their marriage. They usually feel depress and there were also

feeling of shame anger and guilt among divorced women. According to them they have to

ashamed before the family society and their children that they are divorced and people seen them

in very strange way. They also repent on their decision whether they were happy or not.

Effects of divorce vary for each person and will be different among men and women.

Although there are common feelings and thoughts, divorce will not affect the sexes the same

way. For women feelings of depression, anxiety and frustration seem to be the most common.

Grieving the loss of a partner and financial security adds to the emotional aspects that may be

hard to overcome. An interesting fact is women will initiate divorce twice as often as men will.
Women are less likely to tolerate cheating and emotional abandonment than men (Marcy

Burlock, 2009)

They have to face a lot of difficulties such as financial problems, problems to live life

and mainly they have to face a lot of objections from society and family. Psychological effects

are also apparent. Their life becomes disturb and complicated. Such women disturb mentally a

lot. They face a lot of problems in living their life and if they have children the complexity of life

increases and then they rarely think for remarriage. Tension, anxiety, depression and confusions

become common feature of their personality. So it disturbs not only their psychological health

but also mental and physical health.

Depression manifests itself in many forms. For women going through a divorce,

depression often appears as overeating, insomnia or sleeping too much, excessive drinking or

substance abuse, according to Tracy Achen, author of "Divorce 101: A Woman's Guide to

Divorce." Divorce is a very real loss, and grief is a natural part of the process, explain Tesler and

Thompson. Nonetheless, Achen recommends placing limits on the grieving process, devoting no

more than 15 minutes per day at a specific time to concentrate on the pain of the divorce (Chris

Blank, 2010).

Positivity element decreases in their life, their thinking mostly include negative elements

of past life and fear of future. They usually think who was responsible for all that? Why did it

happen to them? Why do people object them? Why does society considered them as bad? Why

do they become a target and stain for a society? These things disturb their life a lot and they have

to face a lot of problems in their living life. These things not only affect their life but also their

children who are growing up.

 Social aspect plays a significant role in divorced women’s life. Society creates a lot of

problems in the life of divorced women. To live a satisfactory life becomes difficult for divorced

women. Many questions arise from different people for them. They become a question mark for

the society. Actually ignorance of people is creating a lot of problems in their life.

Previous research shows that the relationship between divorce and development in later

life is a complex multidimensional relationship. Many divorced families experience years of

interfamily conflict after divorce, with over a fourth of divorced families have conflicted parental

relationships as much as three and one half years after the divorce occurs (Lee, 2002).

Societal objections were common features in all cases of divorced women. They have to

face all those whether they belong to higher, middle or lower class of people. If they go for

remarriage they have to go for a lot of inquires and questions about their past life and even after

that there is no guarantee that they will live a safe and satisfactory life free from objections and

taunts. All these things shows that people always keep in mind such issues and discuss it where

ever they find time and place.

Divorce was granted only because one party to the marriage had violated a sacred vow to

the innocent spouse. In cases wherein both husband and wife were guilty, neither would be

allowed to escape the bonds of marriage. In the long run, the idea that a marriage could be

dissolved in cases parties violated the holy vow gradually allowed expansion of the grounds

upon which divorce could be granted from those grounds which existed at the time of the

marriage to grounds which occurred after the marriage, but which exemplified violation of that

vow, such as abandonment, adultery or extreme cruelty.

Another common element that was common for all divorced women is fear from males or

harassment after the divorce. Many women lost trust in men and they live life in fear. After
divorce protection element matters a lot, they always remain worry and fearful about their

protection and about their future because society never let any one free. It is big questions that

why males harass females. Is it only limited to working women or all females are their target? It

is not only limited to our society but near about in all societies this element is prominent.

Divorced women face this problem a lot. But this thing requires a complete research.

Educational factor was also common in all divorced cases. Though for all women

education were not too important to live better and successful life. But one thing that was

important in all cases was that all women were more educated then men and all males were

under metric. Whether woman was M.A, B.A, and F.A or metric she was married to a man with

minor level of education. This is important to understand that males were either conservative or

were in inferiority complex regarding education. They cannot afford females who are higher in

education then them or it may become their ego problem.

Another similar feature in all women was their silence about their decision. They did not

protest against it and accept that what ever happened to them. It seems they were just viewers of

this drama and their decisions were in the hands of others.

Along with difference in personalities or individual differences many things differ. Such

as under coding of “reason of divorce” different reasons come to knowledge. Every divorce was

with different reason. One of those reasons was drug addiction that is evil of our society and

destroying families and societies. Psychological problems along with sceptic nature, physical

torture gay personality were other reasons of divorce.

It shows that a lot of problems are apparent and in all these causes ignorance is common

element. To gain information before to take step forward is rare in our society. In such cases

responsibility is implied on both families. If one conceals some important information then other
party should not go for to make new relationships because it becomes dangerous to both families

and for the coming generation. It has been noted that sceptic nature of male is very cruel even

they refuse to accept their own children. To charge on a female by a male is very common in our

society that leads to a lot of problems, disturbances and confusions in their life. To pressurize

women to get benefit is also common in our society and this pressure may be from family society

or husband.

Drug addiction is curse of our society. Many families and societies have been destroyed

due to this drug addiction. It destroys not only one family but its effects remain for many

generations though they are economic married life social or psychological. Though it is evil of

society but still people have no knowledge about it and its harmful effects. There are different

shapes of taking drugs but using drug injections is considered as last stage from where it is

difficult for people to come back and many few people go for treatment and very few of them got

recovery and live a normal life.

It also destroys socioeconomic status and creates a lot of problems for family, society and

for the people around them. Many problems are associated with an addict person such as social,

economic, psychological problems etc but an addict person does not care all of these things

because he is not in his consciousness. If all these things are attached with a married person then

definitely marred life disturbs and approaches to divorce event.

Though now a days families are more educated then ever before but they did not inquire

more for making relations, their wrong decisions not only destroy a woman life but also a

destruction of new generation. Such relationship becomes horrible dream that ends with horrible

reality.
 Most of the women in this case got divorce without any contact with court except one

who took this step and involve court for the decision of divorce. And the woman who took this

step her parents was not willing for her step and ended every thing with her. Usually society does

not appreciate women for such steps. Though many organizations and NGO’s are working for

women’s right and their development but still the situation is not better as it should be. It was

common phenomenon for all of the women that in case of any disturbances in their in-laws house

they usually move toward parents and think parents as great supportive element. May be it is due

to that they accept this life because of parents. Parents also support them; want to save their life

and home but they have to accept unwanted situations and decisions only those parents stop

support for their daughters when they go beyond their decisions. And in such cases women either

destroy their life or they become rebellion. May be in such cases they contact with court or want

a third person support to save their life or want appreciation in their decision.

In such cases parents and other family member do not like their step and breakup all

relations with that woman and she has to live life either alone with someone by getting

remarriage. But it has also been seen that there are such families who do not make divorce as

stigma and the resource woman also. They accept all this happily and willing for remarriage very

happily usually such cases are in higher middle, elite or in lower class. So which element is

important here whether feelings, sensations, emotions etc have been ended among relationships

or aggression, anger and revenge overcome all these things? Women especially of middle class

family after bad experience of marriage and divorce and especially when they have children with

them; they usually do not show willingness for remarriage or the do not want another experience

whether their parents want it or not.

 Anne Newton Walther coined the phrase "divorce hangover" to describe the syndrome of

anger and resentment that frequently motivates women toward acts of revenge against their

spouses. Dragging out the divorce proceedings or making it difficult or impossible for their ex-

spouses to exercise visitation rights are just two of the most common tactics many women take to

lash out against their ex-husbands. Holding onto their anger and expressing it in inappropriate

ways prevents women from moving on with their lives, according to Walther (Chris Blank,

2010).

After divorce usually women do something to live their life they do not want to be

burden on other family members that is also another disturbing thing if another person is

providing you all to live life and in such way riots or quarrel generate in families. In this research

four women were interviewed and one of them was self employed two were doing job as

teaching and one was doing nothing as she got remarriage and was enjoying life with his new

husband. But an important issue is the looking after of children whether a woman gets

remarriage or not.

Remarried women also worried about their children same as the women not go for

remarriage because new husbands do not care their children as their own and the women have to

face all that because they were divorced and they have built new houses on new foundations and

they have to care all these things because a society has no better place for divorced women. Even

they have to face objections, taunts and difficulties at job place and they have to do that

otherwise their life become too critical to live. Financial problem comes ahead and there are not

other then parents to support them and this remain continues only to their life. Relationships with

relatives do not remain the same as before marriage or in married life.

 Usually after divorce life becomes a challenge for women. In these four cases three

women were not remarried and only were remarried and that was love marriage and from those

three women one was strongly agree to remarry but two were unwilling for this. But regarding

children all were worried except one who want to remarry with an educated and financially

strong person. So this matter is different with upper middle class because divorce is nit

considered as stigma as in middle class and females usually go for remarriage either children are

with them or at their parents house. They fully enjoy their life. They show no great concern with

their children and do not repent on their past life according to them it all to be happen so it was.

But for middle and lower middle class reality is different they feel sad on their divorce

even when they are not happy in their married life. Feeling of helpless is common in all women

and they think that they have no future; every thing has been end for them. In divorce whether

the mistake of males or females; the females have the right to live a happy life as like males.

According to a study conducted by Dr. Mark Hayward and Dr. Zhenmei Zhang through

the University of Texas, women are more susceptible to the physical and psychological effects of

divorce than their male counterparts. Their study illustrates that middle-aged divorced women

are 60 percent more likely to develop cardiovascular disease than women who stay married. The

authors found a link between heart disease in women caused by emotional suffering and financial

problems due to divorce.

Grieving the loss of a marriage is a healthy part of the divorce process that a woman must

endure in order to heal properly. Permitting yourself to experience the pain of this loss may be

terrifying at first; it may seem that your emotions and fears have consumed you and you can't

imagine a time when you can be free of the pain. However, no matter how intense the suffering

is now, take comfort in the fact that it won't last forever. In the meantime, allow yourself to
express your feelings. The sooner you cope with them, the more you'll be prepared to move

forward. This process of mourning is precisely what you need in order to recover your self-

confidence and the ability to find new flourishing relationships (Eric Althoff,2010)

Feeling a sense of guilt over a divorce is quite common, especially when there are

children in the middle of the situation. The woman may feel shame for failing to fulfill what she

promised when she entered into the marriage, which may include deception or infidelity.

Encountering feelings of guilt may or may not be warranted. It's important for you to accept

responsibility for your part in the divorce, but don't take undo blame for the failed marriage.

Understanding that while the behavior you may have exhibited within the marriage was wrong, it

doesn't mean that it should be internalized as unforgivable. Your actions don't define your

intrinsic nature. You've made mistakes, but you can learn from your actions and move forward

with this awareness (Eric Althoff, 2010)

Anxiety and depression cause extreme disturbances in women's lives, but especially when

they are going through a divorce. When a marriage fails, the divorce generates indefinite and

unexpected circumstances, which in turn causes tremendous fear. Likewise, panic attacks can

manifest themselves in severe physical symptoms like insomnia, chest pain and substance abuse.

It's vital for you to seek professional help if your feelings of anxiousness or depression worsen or

continue for longer than two weeks (Eric Althoff, 2010)

You may find yourself responding angrily to the divorce. You may feel the pain of

abandonment because of your ex's leaving or feel forced into the situation of having to divorce

him. Some anger is justified, but how you channel it is what confirms your ability to defeat your

struggles and get the healing you need (Eric Althoff, 2010)
 If we see all these cases deeply it comes to know that either male or female was not

responsible for the divorce. The whole responsibility was of both families if one not requires

more information the other also conceals the main secrets that end with divorce. They also create

problems in divorce, in delivering Haqmeher, giving child custody and in returning of dowry.

Families fully play their role to charge on females and to lead their son at wrong side.

None of the women were sexually satisfied with their husband and women who want

remarriage or remarried may want sexual satisfaction but others find the way of moral

satisfaction. They become morally good and very regular on religious pattern may be they accept

this way because it is socially acceptable. Purpose of life of most of women was to see their

children educated and good citizens.

Females reported about their husband that their personality was normal and no physical

attraction in them so they never feel satisfaction with them. They were not fully informed about

the past life of their husbands and except one case none of women had love experience before

marriage only one women who got love remarriage had experience of love and after divorce

found the same person for marriage. The husbands’ time passage at home was also limited they

usually spend their time with their friends and the gay who mostly try to live with a young boy

for his satisfaction. If someone is drug addict usually come to home with fully drunk and slept

away in his unconscious. All of women spent very short time with their husbands. Common

share of interests were also limited. To bear expenditure of their wives was so burden for them

that could not bear it at all.

Talkative and aggressive element was also present in males and these features were seen

also with an addict person. And usually females do not like to live his child with an addict person

and to demand for expenditure from such person is useless. What can an addict person do for
others even he left nothing in others hand. He even sale jewelry and dowry of his wife so to

expect something from him will be silly attitude. But parents have to answer the question of their

child and child gains information from the surrounding people and the relatives about the

separation and divorce matters of their parents and this effects not only child development but

also a disturbance for his/her mother. Parents by themselves try to explain the reason for the sake

of their child. In this case mother was aware about it and she tried to perform his duty so that

child could guess that who one on mistake and who was responsible for all that destruction.

To charge on woman by seeing her with another is common in our society. In the case of

drug addiction charge were apply on the women but for a women who wants to save her home

and life respect matters a lot and she has to leave home for the sake of her respect and this thing

also force him to go for divorce because to live with a blame on character is difficult. This thing

was also seen in another case and the women got out from his house and pressurized for divorce.

In-laws play best their role to see the matter at peak and result occurred in divorce and even her

husband did not accept his child. But in other two cases this thing was not present. But the

element of aggression, beating, slapping etc were present in one case the other on was totally a

different case because that person was gay.

Another coding, female’s role in attraction, also need explanation. It has been noted that

females were agree on this point that females play an important role in attracting their husbands

but this needs response but all females tried their best to attract their husbands but they had have

to do all this with in limits because they were living in joint family systems. In joint family

systems there are a lot of restrictions and mostly male apply a list of restrictions and the females

have to live according to them.

 Though all the women were married in young age except one, but they had no proper

knowledge about marriage and married life. Usually females are in fantasy and reality opens

after the marriage and all dreams comes to an end. Realization of being a wrong was absent and

if this thing came to knowledge, became the base of fights and quarrels. Love and respect is

necessary for good relationships but in all these case these elements were absent if any woman

demanded love she found no response.

There are many reasons for quarrels among couples. Such as according to males, females

are unskillful in house hold works, they do not permit females to do work according to their

willingness or they do not permit to go any where if they say to go any where quarrels start. Male

force females to say yes at their wish and refusal from female side create anger in males. Wish

may be related to physical relationships or others. Support from in-laws side is exclusively rare

in all these cases none of the case in which they reported support of in-laws to solve different

problems of their married life but the situation was vise versa. There were a lot of disagreements

among the couples they were rarely agree on any thing both were on different directions that has

to be end at any cost.

Every woman reported that their husband personality was just normal, not attractive,

normal physical health and no special characteristics to impress others even have no single

quality that create attraction in females. The women wanted to see some other characteristics in

their husbands like educated, well established, caring, loving, financially strong and trustworthy.

There were two different cases one that was including gay personality and the other one

full of the effects of magic and charms. According to people a gay should not marry because it

leads to a lot of destruction not only of one family but also of generation and society. It is

dangerous to society and is an evil of society. Gay marries just to save him from society and to
have babies is also a compulsion for him to survive in a society. Ignorance plays an important

role that is destroying our society.

In the other case the women was strongly believed I ghosts giants their charm and magic.

According to that case reporting aggression and anger like elements are due to the effects of

ghosts. But there may be psychological problem but people do not like to go to doctor in spite of

that they like to go to so called “peer” to find out the solution of their problems. In this case

women took the step to protest against physical and verbal torture and go to court to get divorce

and finally got remarriage with his ex lover.

Another thing that comes to knowledge is that language differences also exit in our

society. Usually families want family marriages or if not family marriage then go out side just to

their cast. If they are going out f cast for any new relationship they will find the people of their

language whether it is Urdu, Punjabi or Sraiki. These differences exist and people usually prefer

their own family, cast and language. And in this case women also remarriage out of family, cast

and language. But such females have to face break up with family and relatives. She is

considered as solely responsible for all that.