Making up with your ex

The Joy of a sweeter beginning

CHAPTER 1
Hello, friend, I want to congratulate you in advance because I know, after going through this material and acting upon the formula written herein, your making up is imminent. In fact, you have started making up already. I can see you moving toward your ex, getting back with your ex and going deeper in love with your ex. Are you ready to experience a deeper, loftier and a life transforming love life than you ever imagined? Then it is for you that this very day was made. I wouldnt want to get into what chanced before the seeming cold or already broken-up relationship, because I am fully aware that there are more than a million doors that lead to shaky or broken relationships; and yours may just have taken one of them. Neither am I going to set the tone for a blame gamethat is the only race that ends without a winner. Be comforted. Your very love life is not over, neither is your ex beyond your grip. You have already shown the very ingredient that commands all the power of possibility-desire. You have already gotten that special one back in your heart, right? You can see it in you and all you are presently doing is how to bring it to a physically reality. I believe this because no sane person can ever take a step without seeing clearly where he is going, neither do one take a dive without having depth at heart.

Separateness is an illusion Everything is interconnected. It is said that not a leaf falls or a child is left to suffer without each of us somehow being affected. We have finally come to accept the fact that it is a small world which is becoming smaller all the time. There is no longer a place to hide from each other. No wall is high or strong enough to separate us from one anothers loneliness or despair. Even if we convince ourselves that we do not need each other people, they need us. Love is the most effective connection to all things. It has the power to enlighten, heal, unite, enrich and restore. All we need do is be open to it.

CHAPTER 2 Getting back with your ex is so easy once you work out the following steps: 1) You must take a proper evaluation of the relationship before the break-up to know if you both were truly in love, or if it was just mere infatuation or lust. You are not in a hurry to have your ex back just to lose him/her again, right? You deserve something better, dont you? A lavish of love from waking time to sleeping time: even in your very mind and dreams. Now that that special one is not all about you thereby giving you no time to know if you are in love or experiencing infatuation, it is the best time for evaluation. The trademark of true love is unselfishness. True love is acceptance despite odds. It is unattached to things. It is a sharp focus on the heart alone. Other things may play around but the focus is on the very individual. It is not based on how good the person is or how bad; that is why love is beyond human reasoning. How can the human mind reason about what doesnt have shape, colour, taste, feeling, voice or smell? Love is like water. Although water has no shape, it assumes that of every container. This means that love neither discriminates nor criticize; it can accommodate itself and find friendship even in tight corners. Love doesnt go sour so it cant smell. Love is also like water that has no taste. This doesnt mean love is tasteless, it means whether in rosy times or challenging times, love doesnt behave unseemly. It is never carried away by the time. Love not having feeling doesnt mean it is heartless and cruel, it simply means sex, foreplay, kissing and all other flesh things doesnt mean those involved are in love. Love, although like a rose, has no voice; yet it sends the strongest message across hearts and nations. Love doesnt count wrong but is patient and long-suffering. It prevails through every adverse circumstance through its power of endurance.

Love sees things the way they can become and not the way they are How best can you describe the times you spent with him/her? If in doubt, seek for counselling with trusted relationship experts near you. It is very important so you dont go back to illusion just in case it wasnt true love. A successful way to determine how much you truly love and care for someone is to discern how high his/her happiness and welfare are on your priority list. This doesnt mean that you should be constantly readjusting your life for the sake of others. It does suggest that you might be more able to judge how much you value your loving relationships by taking an honest look at your behavioural priorities. To love is to place your happiness in the happiness of others. It is really true that it is the most complex of all human mechanics. Note: Please, do not continue unless you are well sorted out with the first step. 2) Congratulations! It is very important that you were actually in love [or rather, still in love because love never grows sour remember?]. You may be asking , If love is all that why, even after being certain that it was love, am I experiencing pain and other disturbing matters?. The answer to that is either one or both of you lost concentration. Something else has stolen the concentration that held both of you together. Some characteristics of love are endurance, patience and long-suffering. Sometimes love comes under fire/trial. It is the shaking of a tree to separate green leaves from dead leaves. Although this is not the time to start the blame game, I have to let you know that the change toward getting your ex back starts with you. That is absolute truth even if it is crystal clear that your ex was the very cause of the present situation.

Do you know someone you would like to change and regulate and improve? Good! That is fine. I am all in favour of it. But why not begin on yourself? From a purely selfish standpoint, that is a lot more profitable than trying to improve others-yes, and a lot less dangerous. When a mans fight begins within himself, said Browning, he is worth something. From Dale Carnegies scrapbook

The point I am trying to make is that love sees things the way they can become and not the way they are. If your ex was the cause, how do you see him/her in the now? Is your quest for making up a way of proving yourself right or a way of expressing that same message I still love you to your ex? Be very sincere with yourself in answering those questions. If you seek for love you will find her standing apart from things. Forgiveness begins where blame ends. Note that failure is nothing but an opportunity to begin more intelligently. At this very moment: 1) Clear every blame, doubt and negative thoughts you harboured for your ex in your heart up till now. Abandon your ego-the greatest barrier to relationships. I know it will hurt you but love is the prize for the strong. 2) Have and nurse those sweet thoughts you once had and concentrate your thoughts on them as long as you can. 3) See both of you together again at this moment onwards in your thought. Dream it; eat it, wear it, talk about it, feel it so strong that it is noticeable. 4) Speak well of him/her affectionately to all concerned-even when you are alone. 5) Start preparation in earnest to receive him/her back. 6) Concentrate on getting that one back despite all external appearances. It is where the heart is that matters. I am certain that by the time you move toward him /her, your charm will be irresistible. He/she may resist you but not your charm. You will have his/her heart and in a moment of little time, where her heart is will eventually become her home. At this very moment he/she needs you. Now go get that special one back.

Suggested reading for successful relationship Knowledge is very important, and the truth is that we can never have enough of them. I still read and grow deeper in my love relationship. Getting to know better is a sign of love. For further studies I have selected these few for you with absolute knowledge of their potency. 1)