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INTRODUCTION ................................................................................................................................... 3 STEP #1 CHANGE YOUR VIEW ........................................................................................................... 4 STEP #2 VISUALIZE YOUR IDEAL SITUATION ........................................................................................ 6 STEP #3 BUILD A FIGHTING SPIRIT ...................................................................................................... 8 STEP #4 FACE YOUR FEARS ............................................................................................................ 10 PRACTICE DOING WHAT YOU FEAR BY TAKING SMALL STEPS ..................................................... 10 STOP PUTTING SO MUCH EMPHASIS ON THE THING YOU FEAR ................................................... 10 PRAY ABOUT WHAT KEEPS YOU WALKING IN FEAR.................................................................... 11 ANALYZE YOUR FEARS TO PUT THEM INTO PERSPECTIVE .......................................................... 11 MOVE YOURSELF FROM FEAR TO FAITH .................................................................................... 11 STEP #5 ACT LIKE AN OLYMPIAN....................................................................................................... 12 HERES HOW YOU CAN BECOME AN OLYMPIAN: ........................................................................ 12 STEP #6 FIND A WAY TO MOVE THE OBSTACLE .................................................................................. 14 STOP MAKING EXCUSES .......................................................................................................... 14 GEAR UP FOR THE CLIMB......................................................................................................... 14 GETTING STARTED ........................................................................................................................... 16
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Six Steps to Moving The Mountains In Your Life STEP #1 CHANGE YOUR VIEW
Sometimes the situations or circumstances we encounter may appear larger than life and cause us to become paralyzed in our ability to see and think clearly. Every person in their lifetime will be confronted with a mountain experience where it feels as though you cant climb it, cross it or survive the blizzard-like conditions. Nonetheless, at these seemingly bleak times, we can find the courage to face the obstacle or trial with steadfast determination to chip away one stone at a time. You cant get a glimpse of the mountaintop, until you begin moving the small stones, only then will you gain perspective on the obstacle. Changing how we view our adversity can be a slow, yet, achievable plight. In her book, Courage: The Heart and Soul of Every Woman, Sandra Ford Walston writes: Vision is how you see yourself and your choices in life. Is your life filled with courage and choices, or is it one mired in a repetition of mistakes? Self-deception can be a problem when you try to create your vision. Blindness is not a virtue! Yet your vision must be designed by your heart, not your eyes.
Changing your view means simply looking at yourself and the mountain you are encountering with new eyes. Do you see yourself as helpless? Or, do you see yourself as a conqueror? What are you saying to yourself? I keep making the same mistakes over and over, Im not smart enough to, I cant see myself doing that, or I dont see my situation getting any better. How tempting it is to just crawl under a rock and wait to be crushed? You leave no space for your circumstances to change by planting weeds, instead of seeds. Every time you look through the window of your life, all you will see is frustration and disappointment. But you can start changing how you see your situation today.
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Accept your current realityIt is what it is. Stop focusing so much on the negative aspect of your situation. The more you do this, the more drained and depressed you will become. Speak powerfully to yourself and situation. For example, I am coming out of this a stronger and wiser person. Be grateful every day for what you have, not what you dont have. Stop living in regret and work toward what you can change in the present.
It is so easy to get caught up in regrets, disappointments, anger and feelings of despair. I am not saying that you shouldnt feel this way. There are times when we must go through a grief process. However, dont allow yourself to get emotionally hand-cuffed in this mode. Changing your view may simply mean you have to remove yourself from the situation, if you can. Also, your thoughts have a way of shaping your actions and feelings. What are you thinking about most of the time? What are you saying to yourself? Are you constantly worrying? Sitting around and thinking about what isnt working, will not move you forward. Shift your thoughts to new ways of thinking. For instance, ask yourself the following types of questions: What can I do differently that I havent tried before? How can I create the circumstances I want and not be created by my circumstances? Look at your adversity with new eyes to see the possibilities, opportunities and personal growth. Your situation may not change right away, but you can change how you view it. Will you choose to view it negatively or positively? The choice is yours. I guarantee that a better and positive outlook will keep the stones from piling up and make it easier to move forward. Change your view so you can begin to see a brighter side of the mountain.
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Six Steps to Moving The Mountains In Your Life STEP #2 VISUALIZE YOUR IDEAL SITUATION
My mother has been in the interior design business for over 30 years. Before she started her own business, she worked for an interior design company where she made custom draperies. As a little girl, I loved going to work with her sometimes, because the company had different showrooms staged like a complete home. I can remember going from one room to another with excitement visualizing one day I would have a home like that when I grew up. When I was in high school, I envisioned being a successful professional woman. When I looked at pictures in magazines of vacation spots and homes, I would close my eyes and see myself in the pictures. I learned at an early age to visualize my ideal situation. This technique has been life-changing for me in my adult life. It gave me something to look forward to when I faced the most difficult challenges in my own life. Instead of focusing on the pain, hurt, fear and disappointment, I would visualize what I wanted for myself. I could feel the burden start to lift and my focus would shift to how to get what I envisioned for myself. This is where vision begets dreams, dreams beget goals, goals beget actions and your actions beget the results you want in your life. Most people who have achieved greatness had a vision and dared to dream. In Step #1, it is more about changing your attitude and looking at your situation from a different perspective - a more positive and solution-oriented view. However, in Step #2, you have an opportunity to create the life and situation you want for yourself. Whatever your mountain experience is, you can conquer it simply by moving this one stone - visualize your ideal situation. Have you ever wondered why climbers are so fascinated with the adventure of climbing the highest summit? Do you believe they just woke up one morning and said, I think Ill climb Mt. Kilimanjaro today? NO. It is usually a vision they have held for years.
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Six Steps to Moving The Mountains In Your Life STEP #3 BUILD A FIGHTING SPIRIT
Women have been getting mixed messages for a long period of time about being the weaker sex , deeming us incapable of handling tough situations. It takes courage to bear a child, to walk away from an abusive relationship, to be a single parent, to fight breast cancer, to be a full-figured woman and still feel good about yourself, to be a single woman and not have settled for Mr. Wrong just to have a man, and to live authentically, not worrying about what others might say. It is an act of faith and will. My favorite female she-ros on primetime TV in the late 70s were Wonder Woman and The Bionic Woman. They were so amazing to me. Although they were made for entertainment and not the real world we live in today, that was televisions portrayal of courageous women. But in the real world, we know it takes more than leaping tall buildings and fighting crime. Its an act of courage just to get up and face what lies ahead some days. I believe women are built with sustaining power to endure pain, suffering and disappointment. A prime example is the mark of the 150th anniversary of the Womens Rights Movement in 1998, a movement by women to achieve civil rights in this country. Staggering changes for women have come about over the past seven generations in family life, religion, government, employment, and in education - but not without a struggle or a continuous fight over a period of time. Women were deliberate in their actions and stood shoulder to shoulder in the plight for equal rights. Women worked together to create a better world and have hugely succeeded. The movement was a tremendous mountain to move, but the suffragists during those times were determined to carry the burden on their shoulders to chip away one stone at a time until they could see the other side to victory.
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Perseverance - Often during the cold winter you may feel lonely and question the reason for the change, you may even tremble with anxiety. Call on the power within - a small yet steady voice that says, You CAN make it., and continue on with steadfast action.
Self-determination There will be days when you feel brittle, as though you are breaking, and your roots are paralyzed in the earth and unable to bend. Resolve to stand strong and not let any external forces or interference shake you. The heavens always send a warm ray of sunlight to remind you that you are not alone.
Confidence See yourself standing tall even when the leaves are falling, when the ice is forming, and as the buds are in bloom. You have the capability to thrive - just believe in yourself.
Hope Fill your heart with the desire of what you want and expect to happen. Someone is waiting for the fruit of your season. You are growing and strengthening your spiritual walls for the seasons to come.
When winter is over, you will be overcome with joy in the realization that you have thrived. From the vantage point of the summit, you can stand on the mountain top with wonder of how you made it over.
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Six Steps to Moving The Mountains In Your Life STEP #4 FACE YOUR FEARS
What keeps us from moving beyond our circumstances is Fear. It is usually the fear of the unknown or the what ifs. Fear clouds our thinking and our decision-making. It leaves us paralyzed and ill-equipped to take the necessary action to move the stones that are blocking our path. Fear is debilitating; it robs our energy, joy and peace and it holds us back from stepping out on faith. Courage is the one thing you need to get anything done that challenges you or takes you from your comfort zone. To help you face your fears, you MUST Practice Doing What You Fear by Taking Small Steps For instance, I always feared speaking in front of a group of people, but I knew I had to overcome that fear, because I wanted to train people in the workplace. The thought of speaking in front of a group made me feel nauseous, anxious and sometimes I felt like I was losing oxygen to my brain. I knew I could not be successful as a speaker and trainer, if I continued to let fear paralyze me. So I took action and enrolled myself into a speaking club called Toastmasters, where you learn the basics of public speaking and learn to overcome your fear of speaking. That was the best practice I could have put in place for myself. It gave me confidence, courage I needed to believe in myself and my ability and most importantly, it helped me overcome my fear of public speaking. Now, Im not saying I dont get nervous or frightened at times, but I have learned how to not let that fear stop me. Stop Putting So Much Emphasis on the Thing You Fear We make ourselves crazy when all we do is think about what scares us. The more you focus on and talk about what you fear, the more it becomes a reality for you. Get to know people who are doing the things you want to do you will be surprised that they have some of the same fears you have but the difference is they felt the fear, but did it anyway. You may not always feel comfortable or competent, but taking the first step builds courage.
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Six Steps to Moving The Mountains In Your Life STEP #5 ACT LIKE AN OLYMPIAN
When there is something great that you want to accomplish, the greater the opposition you will have to face. A perfect example of this is the Olympics. The athletes overcome incredible odds to be selected for the competition. They dare to dream and push themselves beyond their limitations. Although they may miss the gold by a fraction of a second, giving up is not an option. They continue by honing their talent and opening their mind to new possibilities for the gold medal. Thats what you have to do. The obstacle is there to ignite the power thats within you and to offer a new way of doing things. Sometimes we can be our own obstacle. You must change your attitude about yourself and your situation. Olympians are always pushing themselves to new heights and they come out a better person than they were before. Heres How You Can Become an Olympian: First, you must begin with the end in mind. Think about the results you want and how it feels to be on the other side of victory; it will give you the fuel you need to propel you forward. And second, you must show up ready for the challenge. Olympians are focused and devoted to the training that is required of them. Even when they face an obstacle like injuries, they dont let that keep them down, instead, they get right back into the game. Disappointments will happen and the feeling of defeat will cause you to lose your footing and make it hard for you to climb back up. Keep running and let the wind of determination keep you on track. There is an Olympian in each one of you waiting to be pushed to new heights. You cant just throw in the towel because something didnt work the first, second or even the third time. You have got to fail forward! Olympians arent made overnight. If you watched the 2008 Olympics, Dara Torres, age 41, was the 1st American swimmer to compete in five Olympics and was the oldest to qualify for the Games. Dara won several medals, retired in 1992 and for the next seven years, she married and divorced, did broadcasting for a Gold Channel and had a baby.
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Six Steps to Moving The Mountains In Your Life STEP #6 FIND A WAY TO MOVE THE OBSTACLE
Stop Making Excuses Dont get caught up in the blame game thinking that it is somebody elses fault for why things are the way they are in your life. Be conscious of your own actions. Take responsibility of your circumstances and work with what you have. Even when life events such as divorce, illness, retirement, death, loss of job and many others may throw you into a tailspin, dont let it be about whose fault it is. Life happens and it is not always in your control. Work with what is in your power to change. Be aware that the change may need to be within yourself. If you are in debt and you want to become debt-free, then find a way to stretch those dollars. You know better than anyone what you can eliminate. If you lack the skill or knowledge to advance to the next level in your life, seek out the resources you need. There are tons of them out there. You just have to be willing and disciplined to do the research. If it is time management youre lacking, work on making some minor adjustments in your schedule. Small sacrifices will take you a long way. If you continue to make excuses, you will realize five years from now that you will still have to face that same mountain and it will seem bigger and taller than ever. Gear Up for the Climb Be prepared for oppositions that may show up as disapproval from family members and friends or any distraction that tries to throw you off track from pursuing your goals or dreams. See it for what it is - an obstacle that wants your attention. Embrace it with understanding and love. Every time you have to scale a mountain, always carry a backpack filled with grace to sustain you in times of trouble. Having faith and belief in yourself will help keep you in position should the altitude change in your situation. Stepping out of your comfort zone will be an act of courage especially when your situation might require you to take a different route to get to the other side of the mountain. Dont
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Deal with the obstacle - Dont hide from it or ignore it. That wont make it go away. Know what you are dealing with.
Assess your immediate need(s) - Do you need to remove yourself from a situation or person, so you can get clarity? Do you need counseling/therapy to help you deal with past issues?
Start where you can - You dont have to take on the whole world. Pushing small stones builds muscle and strength. Learn from the view where you are. Soon you will have the victorious view from the mountain top.
If you need help with living your vision or in creating a vision for your life, contact me or visit my website for more information http://www.coachcherri.com. I will help you move beyond your limitations.
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Here the Six Lessons you will learn:
#1 It Aint Easy Moving A Mountain This is the key strategy that you need to begin. Sometimes the situations or circumstances we encounter may appear larger than life and cause us to become paralyzed in our ability to see and think clearly. Nonetheless, at these seemingly bleak times, we can find the courage to face the obstacle or trial with steadfast determination to chip away one stone at a time. You will learn how to change your perspective of the obstacle and begin to visualize your ideal situation. #2 Build A Fighting Spirit You will learn how not to sit back and let life overtake you. If you do, you will become overwhelmed and give up in the process. You will need to build your reservoir with self-determination, perseverance, confidence and hope to get to the other side of victorious living. #3 Move From Fear To Faith So many times we get trapped by our fears and become paralyzed by them. We have to find a way to move beyond those fears. You will learn some steps to take to move you towards faith and belief in your ability to take action.
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