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SIX STEPS TO MOVING THE MOUNTAINS IN YOUR LIFE

By Cherri Walston Transition Coach

Table of Contents

INTRODUCTION ................................................................................................................................... 3 STEP #1 CHANGE YOUR VIEW ........................................................................................................... 4 STEP #2 VISUALIZE YOUR IDEAL SITUATION ........................................................................................ 6 STEP #3 BUILD A FIGHTING SPIRIT ...................................................................................................... 8 STEP #4 FACE YOUR FEARS ............................................................................................................ 10 PRACTICE DOING WHAT YOU FEAR BY TAKING SMALL STEPS ..................................................... 10 STOP PUTTING SO MUCH EMPHASIS ON THE THING YOU FEAR ................................................... 10 PRAY ABOUT WHAT KEEPS YOU WALKING IN FEAR.................................................................... 11 ANALYZE YOUR FEARS TO PUT THEM INTO PERSPECTIVE .......................................................... 11 MOVE YOURSELF FROM FEAR TO FAITH .................................................................................... 11 STEP #5 ACT LIKE AN OLYMPIAN....................................................................................................... 12 HERES HOW YOU CAN BECOME AN OLYMPIAN: ........................................................................ 12 STEP #6 FIND A WAY TO MOVE THE OBSTACLE .................................................................................. 14 STOP MAKING EXCUSES .......................................................................................................... 14 GEAR UP FOR THE CLIMB......................................................................................................... 14 GETTING STARTED ........................................................................................................................... 16

Six Steps to Moving The Mountains In Your Life INTRODUCTION


Women have been moving mountains for centuries. Yet some have been paralyzed by those same monumental challenges and situations that seem so hard to climb. What does it take to move the mountains in your life? Is it a determination to go against all odds? Mountains come in many shapes, dimensions and curves that stand tall and seem unmovable. They may appear as: illness, loss of a relationship, career transition, lack of confidence, financial strain, loneliness and death. Even our attitude about life can become a hindrance. These and many other circumstances can cause us to shrink and not move to the desired place of peace, happiness, joy and life fulfillment. I have struggled with issues, challenges, setbacks and loss that seemed impossible to successfully handle or overcome. And some of these mountains, I dragged from place to place instead of kicking them into the sea of forgetfulness. Ive learned that you cannot always escape the mountains in your life. They exist to give you insight as to who you are, where you need to go, what you need to let go of or prepare for. I will show you six steps that will help you scale any mountain experience and how to gracefully push away one stone at a time to reach victory on the other side. Are you ready for the climb? Lets go

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Six Steps to Moving The Mountains In Your Life STEP #1 CHANGE YOUR VIEW
Sometimes the situations or circumstances we encounter may appear larger than life and cause us to become paralyzed in our ability to see and think clearly. Every person in their lifetime will be confronted with a mountain experience where it feels as though you cant climb it, cross it or survive the blizzard-like conditions. Nonetheless, at these seemingly bleak times, we can find the courage to face the obstacle or trial with steadfast determination to chip away one stone at a time. You cant get a glimpse of the mountaintop, until you begin moving the small stones, only then will you gain perspective on the obstacle. Changing how we view our adversity can be a slow, yet, achievable plight. In her book, Courage: The Heart and Soul of Every Woman, Sandra Ford Walston writes: Vision is how you see yourself and your choices in life. Is your life filled with courage and choices, or is it one mired in a repetition of mistakes? Self-deception can be a problem when you try to create your vision. Blindness is not a virtue! Yet your vision must be designed by your heart, not your eyes.

Changing your view means simply looking at yourself and the mountain you are encountering with new eyes. Do you see yourself as helpless? Or, do you see yourself as a conqueror? What are you saying to yourself? I keep making the same mistakes over and over, Im not smart enough to, I cant see myself doing that, or I dont see my situation getting any better. How tempting it is to just crawl under a rock and wait to be crushed? You leave no space for your circumstances to change by planting weeds, instead of seeds. Every time you look through the window of your life, all you will see is frustration and disappointment. But you can start changing how you see your situation today.

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Here are things you can start doing:

Accept your current realityIt is what it is. Stop focusing so much on the negative aspect of your situation. The more you do this, the more drained and depressed you will become. Speak powerfully to yourself and situation. For example, I am coming out of this a stronger and wiser person. Be grateful every day for what you have, not what you dont have. Stop living in regret and work toward what you can change in the present.

It is so easy to get caught up in regrets, disappointments, anger and feelings of despair. I am not saying that you shouldnt feel this way. There are times when we must go through a grief process. However, dont allow yourself to get emotionally hand-cuffed in this mode. Changing your view may simply mean you have to remove yourself from the situation, if you can. Also, your thoughts have a way of shaping your actions and feelings. What are you thinking about most of the time? What are you saying to yourself? Are you constantly worrying? Sitting around and thinking about what isnt working, will not move you forward. Shift your thoughts to new ways of thinking. For instance, ask yourself the following types of questions: What can I do differently that I havent tried before? How can I create the circumstances I want and not be created by my circumstances? Look at your adversity with new eyes to see the possibilities, opportunities and personal growth. Your situation may not change right away, but you can change how you view it. Will you choose to view it negatively or positively? The choice is yours. I guarantee that a better and positive outlook will keep the stones from piling up and make it easier to move forward. Change your view so you can begin to see a brighter side of the mountain.

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Six Steps to Moving The Mountains In Your Life STEP #2 VISUALIZE YOUR IDEAL SITUATION
My mother has been in the interior design business for over 30 years. Before she started her own business, she worked for an interior design company where she made custom draperies. As a little girl, I loved going to work with her sometimes, because the company had different showrooms staged like a complete home. I can remember going from one room to another with excitement visualizing one day I would have a home like that when I grew up. When I was in high school, I envisioned being a successful professional woman. When I looked at pictures in magazines of vacation spots and homes, I would close my eyes and see myself in the pictures. I learned at an early age to visualize my ideal situation. This technique has been life-changing for me in my adult life. It gave me something to look forward to when I faced the most difficult challenges in my own life. Instead of focusing on the pain, hurt, fear and disappointment, I would visualize what I wanted for myself. I could feel the burden start to lift and my focus would shift to how to get what I envisioned for myself. This is where vision begets dreams, dreams beget goals, goals beget actions and your actions beget the results you want in your life. Most people who have achieved greatness had a vision and dared to dream. In Step #1, it is more about changing your attitude and looking at your situation from a different perspective - a more positive and solution-oriented view. However, in Step #2, you have an opportunity to create the life and situation you want for yourself. Whatever your mountain experience is, you can conquer it simply by moving this one stone - visualize your ideal situation. Have you ever wondered why climbers are so fascinated with the adventure of climbing the highest summit? Do you believe they just woke up one morning and said, I think Ill climb Mt. Kilimanjaro today? NO. It is usually a vision they have held for years.

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I watched a documentary about a group of climbers making the trek to reach Mount Kilimanjaro in Tanzania, Africa. It was about a week-long journey and a perilous one too. There was one woman in this group who had a ten year vision to one day reach the summit of Mount Kilimanjaro. Several members of the group could not continue on because they suffered horribly from altitude sickness. However, this woman kept moving one stone at a time through fatigue, climate changes and even an injured toe. What kept her focused during this mountainous experience? Her vision to reach the summit of Mount Kilimanjaro. Like a climber, you may not have the most optimal conditions. But when you have a clear vision of where you want to be, you can still reach your highest peak - your ideal situation. Even when adversity is staring you in the face, it will be an act of courage to continue the journey. First of all, understanding what it means to have a vision is important. A vision is the ability to anticipate possible future events and developments. Here is the key word, anticipate, which means to act in hope and expect something to happen. Having a vision for your life will support you when you are stuck or going through difficult times. Without a vision, it is easy to give up. Heres what you can do to help you overcome the obstacles in your life: Write a vision for your life. You can do it with a timeline anywhere from 6 months to 5 years. Make it as detailed as possible. You should include the following: Where you are? What are you doing? How do you feel? What does it look like? Who are you with? Now, your vision may have to be tweaked along the way, especially when life-altering events take place. The point here is to have an expected end when trouble arises. You can steadily climb when you know where you are going. When adversity strikes, let your vision be a beacon of hope. You are sure to reach the summit, because that is what you are expecting to happen.

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Six Steps to Moving The Mountains In Your Life STEP #3 BUILD A FIGHTING SPIRIT
Women have been getting mixed messages for a long period of time about being the weaker sex , deeming us incapable of handling tough situations. It takes courage to bear a child, to walk away from an abusive relationship, to be a single parent, to fight breast cancer, to be a full-figured woman and still feel good about yourself, to be a single woman and not have settled for Mr. Wrong just to have a man, and to live authentically, not worrying about what others might say. It is an act of faith and will. My favorite female she-ros on primetime TV in the late 70s were Wonder Woman and The Bionic Woman. They were so amazing to me. Although they were made for entertainment and not the real world we live in today, that was televisions portrayal of courageous women. But in the real world, we know it takes more than leaping tall buildings and fighting crime. Its an act of courage just to get up and face what lies ahead some days. I believe women are built with sustaining power to endure pain, suffering and disappointment. A prime example is the mark of the 150th anniversary of the Womens Rights Movement in 1998, a movement by women to achieve civil rights in this country. Staggering changes for women have come about over the past seven generations in family life, religion, government, employment, and in education - but not without a struggle or a continuous fight over a period of time. Women were deliberate in their actions and stood shoulder to shoulder in the plight for equal rights. Women worked together to create a better world and have hugely succeeded. The movement was a tremendous mountain to move, but the suffragists during those times were determined to carry the burden on their shoulders to chip away one stone at a time until they could see the other side to victory.

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I believe in building and maintaining a fighting spirit that will carry you through the seasons of change you will encounter. I liken a fighting spirit with a tree that seemingly thrives through the winter season. Winter can be a bitter and harsh time, especially in the mountains. A tree forms four types of walls that compartmentalize, thus preventing the spread of decay of organisms. These are natural responses to wounds and pruning cuts. That is so amazing to me! You can build similar walls that will prevent your own spirit from decaying as you are challenged to move the mountains in your life. You can start building the same fighting spirit to withstand the seasonal changes. Here are four vascular walls you can build like a tree to strengthen your spirit vessel:

Perseverance - Often during the cold winter you may feel lonely and question the reason for the change, you may even tremble with anxiety. Call on the power within - a small yet steady voice that says, You CAN make it., and continue on with steadfast action.

Self-determination There will be days when you feel brittle, as though you are breaking, and your roots are paralyzed in the earth and unable to bend. Resolve to stand strong and not let any external forces or interference shake you. The heavens always send a warm ray of sunlight to remind you that you are not alone.

Confidence See yourself standing tall even when the leaves are falling, when the ice is forming, and as the buds are in bloom. You have the capability to thrive - just believe in yourself.

Hope Fill your heart with the desire of what you want and expect to happen. Someone is waiting for the fruit of your season. You are growing and strengthening your spiritual walls for the seasons to come.

When winter is over, you will be overcome with joy in the realization that you have thrived. From the vantage point of the summit, you can stand on the mountain top with wonder of how you made it over.
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Six Steps to Moving The Mountains In Your Life STEP #4 FACE YOUR FEARS
What keeps us from moving beyond our circumstances is Fear. It is usually the fear of the unknown or the what ifs. Fear clouds our thinking and our decision-making. It leaves us paralyzed and ill-equipped to take the necessary action to move the stones that are blocking our path. Fear is debilitating; it robs our energy, joy and peace and it holds us back from stepping out on faith. Courage is the one thing you need to get anything done that challenges you or takes you from your comfort zone. To help you face your fears, you MUST Practice Doing What You Fear by Taking Small Steps For instance, I always feared speaking in front of a group of people, but I knew I had to overcome that fear, because I wanted to train people in the workplace. The thought of speaking in front of a group made me feel nauseous, anxious and sometimes I felt like I was losing oxygen to my brain. I knew I could not be successful as a speaker and trainer, if I continued to let fear paralyze me. So I took action and enrolled myself into a speaking club called Toastmasters, where you learn the basics of public speaking and learn to overcome your fear of speaking. That was the best practice I could have put in place for myself. It gave me confidence, courage I needed to believe in myself and my ability and most importantly, it helped me overcome my fear of public speaking. Now, Im not saying I dont get nervous or frightened at times, but I have learned how to not let that fear stop me. Stop Putting So Much Emphasis on the Thing You Fear We make ourselves crazy when all we do is think about what scares us. The more you focus on and talk about what you fear, the more it becomes a reality for you. Get to know people who are doing the things you want to do you will be surprised that they have some of the same fears you have but the difference is they felt the fear, but did it anyway. You may not always feel comfortable or competent, but taking the first step builds courage.
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Pray About What Keeps You Walking in Fear Rely on God to help you and strengthen you to make that journey of faith walking. Believing that God is with you everywhere you gois comforting. Analyze Your Fears to Put Them Into Perspective What are you afraid of? What is the worst thing that could happen? Compare the worst-case scenario as it relates to your fear to a concrete way that you know things actually are. This will help you rediscover reality. The more you can concentrate on what you know and the way things actually are, the more you will be able to focus and think about reality. Dont allow yourself to get stuck to the point where you cannot function. Incorporate a spiritual practice that you can do on a regular basis to help you through this process. Move Yourself From Fear to Faith If you do not have faith, you will doubt; if you doubt, you will fear; and if you fear, you will relate yourself in your mind to that which you fear. If you want to be able to move mountains, then your thoughts must be conceived in faith. Thoughts without faith have no form or creative energy. If you do not have faith in what you believe can happen, then it is really a waste of time thinking about it. Moreover, you must commit faith with action. Not doing anything will not eliminate the fear. Moving from a place of comfort will help you began the journey of walking by faith - where you will feel the fear, but act any way. Step out with your head held up, your chest out and with a brisk step. Refuse to consider yourself as anything less than a confident, competent and courageous woman.

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Six Steps to Moving The Mountains In Your Life STEP #5 ACT LIKE AN OLYMPIAN
When there is something great that you want to accomplish, the greater the opposition you will have to face. A perfect example of this is the Olympics. The athletes overcome incredible odds to be selected for the competition. They dare to dream and push themselves beyond their limitations. Although they may miss the gold by a fraction of a second, giving up is not an option. They continue by honing their talent and opening their mind to new possibilities for the gold medal. Thats what you have to do. The obstacle is there to ignite the power thats within you and to offer a new way of doing things. Sometimes we can be our own obstacle. You must change your attitude about yourself and your situation. Olympians are always pushing themselves to new heights and they come out a better person than they were before. Heres How You Can Become an Olympian: First, you must begin with the end in mind. Think about the results you want and how it feels to be on the other side of victory; it will give you the fuel you need to propel you forward. And second, you must show up ready for the challenge. Olympians are focused and devoted to the training that is required of them. Even when they face an obstacle like injuries, they dont let that keep them down, instead, they get right back into the game. Disappointments will happen and the feeling of defeat will cause you to lose your footing and make it hard for you to climb back up. Keep running and let the wind of determination keep you on track. There is an Olympian in each one of you waiting to be pushed to new heights. You cant just throw in the towel because something didnt work the first, second or even the third time. You have got to fail forward! Olympians arent made overnight. If you watched the 2008 Olympics, Dara Torres, age 41, was the 1st American swimmer to compete in five Olympics and was the oldest to qualify for the Games. Dara won several medals, retired in 1992 and for the next seven years, she married and divorced, did broadcasting for a Gold Channel and had a baby.
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She resumed training for two years to qualify for the 2008 Olympics. She also had surgery to repair a rotator cuff tear in her right shoulder and missed four weeks of training, but didnt skip a beat at the Olympic Trials. The media repeatedly harped on the fact that she was the oldest swimmer. I liked her comment about the fact that , the water doesnt know how old you are. Winners understand the power of discipline - you cannot give what you never had unless you are willing to do what you have never done. You can train your body to be an Olympian. However, the difference in winning or losing is not going to be training the body; its going to be training your mind to think positively. Its those powerful thoughts that believe you can do it. Olympians are committed to their goals. They know first hand that it may take them years to compete and qualify for the Olympics. Giving up is not an option for them. Their eye is on achieving an excellent start and finish. Sure they have setbacks, heartaches and disappointments, but they understand that this is what it takes to compete. Theyre not focused on what they will have to give up, but what they will gain in the process. It is a journey and like most journeys, they can be paved with obstacles. Olympians know the cost and the valuable lessons that come along with them. Success isnt about winning - it is about saying Yes, I went all the way, in spite of..

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Six Steps to Moving The Mountains In Your Life STEP #6 FIND A WAY TO MOVE THE OBSTACLE
Stop Making Excuses Dont get caught up in the blame game thinking that it is somebody elses fault for why things are the way they are in your life. Be conscious of your own actions. Take responsibility of your circumstances and work with what you have. Even when life events such as divorce, illness, retirement, death, loss of job and many others may throw you into a tailspin, dont let it be about whose fault it is. Life happens and it is not always in your control. Work with what is in your power to change. Be aware that the change may need to be within yourself. If you are in debt and you want to become debt-free, then find a way to stretch those dollars. You know better than anyone what you can eliminate. If you lack the skill or knowledge to advance to the next level in your life, seek out the resources you need. There are tons of them out there. You just have to be willing and disciplined to do the research. If it is time management youre lacking, work on making some minor adjustments in your schedule. Small sacrifices will take you a long way. If you continue to make excuses, you will realize five years from now that you will still have to face that same mountain and it will seem bigger and taller than ever. Gear Up for the Climb Be prepared for oppositions that may show up as disapproval from family members and friends or any distraction that tries to throw you off track from pursuing your goals or dreams. See it for what it is - an obstacle that wants your attention. Embrace it with understanding and love. Every time you have to scale a mountain, always carry a backpack filled with grace to sustain you in times of trouble. Having faith and belief in yourself will help keep you in position should the altitude change in your situation. Stepping out of your comfort zone will be an act of courage especially when your situation might require you to take a different route to get to the other side of the mountain. Dont
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allow yourself to be overcome by fear. Just push one stone at a time while using your fighting spirit: perseverance, self-determination, confidence and hope. Soon, youll be pushing boulders. You can move any obstacle that is hindering you from experiencing the life you want, by again changing your view of the situation. How do you see yourself? Do you see yourself as a strong oak tree that withstands the seasons of change or a broken branch waiting to be tossed in the fire? Everything you need to get you over, around or to the mountain top is inside of YOU. It is waiting for you to make the choice to change your view. Hopelessness, despair, anger, or fear will not move you to the desired state of courage. You can decide that in spite of what you feel, you have the strength, power and the sheer fortitude to transform that situation into sizable chunks and gear up for the climb. You have got guts! You just need an opportunity to use them. There is no time to quit now - keep it moving!

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Six Steps to Moving The Mountains In Your Life GETTING STARTED


Now what? I hear you asking. Where do I go from here? Implementing new changes will not always be easy to do. But know that it is achievable. I had to learn these steps over a period of time as I faced some of the biggest obstacles in my life. These Six Steps to Moving the Mountains in Your Life helped me continue on a path of self-realization. I am a stronger woman because of them and I know that you will be too as you implement them. Facing any difficult challenge, situation or circumstance will require you to make some necessary changes to help you maintain stability and some semblance of sanity. Here are a few things I would suggest you start with as you begin the journey of moving the mountains in your life:

Deal with the obstacle - Dont hide from it or ignore it. That wont make it go away. Know what you are dealing with.

Assess your immediate need(s) - Do you need to remove yourself from a situation or person, so you can get clarity? Do you need counseling/therapy to help you deal with past issues?

Start where you can - You dont have to take on the whole world. Pushing small stones builds muscle and strength. Learn from the view where you are. Soon you will have the victorious view from the mountain top.

If you need help with living your vision or in creating a vision for your life, contact me or visit my website for more information http://www.coachcherri.com. I will help you move beyond your limitations.

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#1 It Aint Easy Moving A Mountain This is the key strategy that you need to begin. Sometimes the situations or circumstances we encounter may appear larger than life and cause us to become paralyzed in our ability to see and think clearly. Nonetheless, at these seemingly bleak times, we can find the courage to face the obstacle or trial with steadfast determination to chip away one stone at a time. You will learn how to change your perspective of the obstacle and begin to visualize your ideal situation. #2 Build A Fighting Spirit You will learn how not to sit back and let life overtake you. If you do, you will become overwhelmed and give up in the process. You will need to build your reservoir with self-determination, perseverance, confidence and hope to get to the other side of victorious living. #3 Move From Fear To Faith So many times we get trapped by our fears and become paralyzed by them. We have to find a way to move beyond those fears. You will learn some steps to take to move you towards faith and belief in your ability to take action.
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#4 For Every Mountain There Is A Small Miracle Oftentimes, those mountainous experiences overtake us leaving no room for exploring the possibilities that are hidden in the obstacle. In this section, you will learn how to shift your thoughts about your situation to discover small miracles that are awaiting you on the other side of the mountain. #5 Awaken the Olympian In You Ever wonder how athletes prepare themselves for the Olympics and how they stay focused on the Gold Medal? You can do the same too, by developing the mindset of an Olympian. You will see how they leap over their obstacles when faced with adversity and continue on the track of victory. #6 You Can Move That Mountain Sometimes we find so many reasons why we cannot move beyond our circumstances. You have to make changes within yourself and start climbing. In this section, you will learn some things you can do to prepare for the climb.

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