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Even today when a cat crosses the road, we dont dare move Chettri ko choro yo pau ahead. Our liberal perspectives runs out although we know that it chhunchha ghina le chhudaina, Maanisa thulo dila le hucha is nothing but an absurd notion. Sangeet Sangroula jaata le hudaina Laxmi Parsad Devkota Though the system of un We Nepalis are becoming so- touchability exists in our society, phisticated but our knowledge is we call ourselves a modern, libernarrowing. In Nepal, especially in alised society. In this context, one rural areas, the system of un- of the prominent taboos defamtouchability still exists. Why cant ing the whole nation is the Chauwe accept and understand that padi system in Far Western rethe so-called untouchables gion which still is pervasively Kami, Damai, Satar... are also hu- practised. In this system, women man beings. Dont they have feel- who are having their periods ings like us? Dont they feel hu- have to stay in a cowshed for five miliated? Dont they have a heart days. This is embarrassing and like us? Its time to think about insulting to the women. Not only in the remote areas of this ill system. The caste system has unwarrantedly divided our the country, even in urban areas, society into mutually hostile and basically in Brahmin community, conflicting groups and sub- menstruating women are restricted from touching others, groups. Untouchability has given cooking and even doing the puja, scope to inhuman practice. The which in my view is nothing more so-called lower caste people are than a mockery of religion. Swati Dhakal, converting into other religions Battishputali,Kathmandu due to the tyranny of the upper
As our nation Nepal is a south Asian country , our cultures, customs and traditions come with certain types of taboos. Its good to get rid of some taboos which are not suitable in our daily life
passengers and conductors are both aware of their rights? Whats your view and suggestion?
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Prem
WHEN SISTERS STAND SHOULDER TO SHOULDER, WHO STANDS A CHANCE AGAINST US? PAM BROWN
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Since then I have become an emotional wreck its been almost six years but the scar is still there. Life is a confusion. He has tried to rectify but I think it is not genuine. I have been abusing the antidepressants the doctor has prescribed. I have two sons who are abroad .There are many factors leading to this situation, but I do not want to be dependent on this medicine. I have a busy life but I feel empty inside. Hope you can just say something nice so that it will make me feel better. No more psychiatrists who will just give me medicine. Name withheld Dear Disillusioned, I am glad that you wrote to me. Let me tell you that a lot of women from all walks of life are in a situation just like yours, but you want to feel good, get off medication and feel better about yourself, your life. It is a very good decision! But you need to start making the right choices and find ways to enjoy life, be happy from within yourself, only then can you start afresh. You wrote that your husband has changed his ways. So, instead of having doubts and wasting your energy about him being genuine, try and work it out with him in your own way. Women can adapt, be flexible and adjust, unlike men. YES, men with sound financial background have their ways. Why dont you go along with it and maybe it will all eventually change for the better. I do believe that you are not at fault but if you want the marriage to work and at the same time not feel empty inside, then you have to start enjoying life if not with him, only for yourself and to get out of the years of abuse. By being depressed and disillusioned with your life you cannot do so. You have to become strong and selfish by simply enjoying all that life has to offer. Think about the good lifestyle you can have, let go of the past and your scar will definitely heal if you want it to by taking advantage of all the good that you have as you are already a smart and well-educated woman. You need to stop hurting by protecting your emotions. Life is not what we all want it to be, but one can get the best out of it. You know what you want from it as it is your life always keep that in mind and you will find immense joy in living. Just remember as the saying goes when the going gets tough, the tough get going. Dont let anything get to you which harms you, its not worth it. Instead turn the tables around. I am advising you as a woman to woman and not a professional, like your psychiatrist. Hope it works! And why wont it, if you set your mind to take things into control yourself? And we all live only once! I truly wish you all the very best from the depth of my soul.
I met a girl in college last year and we became friends. Slowly I fell in love with her. Now she is on my mind 24x7. She is a very kind girl, frank with everyone. But she doesnt believe in love. She calls me which she doesnt do with other friends. She shares everything with me. Should I tell my true feelings for her? How do I know whether it is just friendship from her side or that she also really loves me?
ing to you as you may be a good listener, who is worth being a great friend. Well you wont know it all until you talk to her openly. Just hope and pray that she feels the same and reciprocates. Be prepared that you could also lose her. But you will know only when you tell her your true feelings. When in love, honesty is the best policy, and the right way to go. I truly wish you all the very best and a lot of good luck.
Dear Prem, You have to be honest and tell the girl about your feelings. Tthere are no ifs and buts about it because she maybe considering you to be her very good friend only. And if you dont express how you feel about her, then of course you will never know. It seems to me that even though she is kind and frank with everyone, you could be her very best friend, and if she does not believe in love, then chances are that maybe she feels good sharing everything with you as she sees a lot more in you that makes her like you more as a friend than everyone else. Also, probably she is comfortable talk-
Chaya Gupta believes in making life better, not bitter. She feels passionately about helping others. So, if you feel there is no one to turn to, that no one understands you or that you just plain feel alone, Chaya is here, ready to lend you an ear and answer questions bothering you. Relationship problems? You feel your parents do not understand you? No idea how to deal with peer pressure? Or are you generally disillusioned with life and dont know what to do or where to turn next? Write your worries and problems to your Soul Sister Chaya and share your aches with her.
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