1. ALWAYS EVALUATE THE SITUATION 2. THREE FOOT RULE 3. START FROM A NON-THREATENING MANNER. 4. CONTROL THE FOCUS. 5.

MOTION CAUSES MOTION 6. ELEMENT OF SURPRISE 7. STRIKE FROM THE CLOSEST POINT 8. CHANGE THE FOCUS 9. HIGH AND LOW CONCEPT 10. YOU CAN MOVE FASTER FORWARD THAN A MAN CAN MOVE BACKWARDS. STEPS TO TAKE IN A SELF DEFENSE SITUATION 1. STATE OF READINESS 2. STATE OF EXPLOSIONG 3. INTERRUPTING VISION 4. INTERRUPTING BALANCE 5. INTERRUPTING THE BREATHING 6. STATE OF CONTROL SCENARIO #1: You are waiting for a friend outside a local convenience store. Suddenly you notice large man walking rapidly toward you. He is looking directly at you and his clothes are in disarray. You feel panic, but you force yourself to remain calm. Unfamiliar with the effects of adrenaline and uncertain what to do, you do nothing. The man steps right up to you. Before you have time to react, he grabs you by the throat, squeezes and demands your wallet. Unable to breathe or speak, you are barely able to comply. After pocketing your wallet the man departs. But not before he gives a final vicious squeeze that permanently damages your vocal cords. SCENARIO #2: Same situation as scenario #1, but this time you have recently attended a self defense seminar in which your practiced situations similar to the one described. As a result of your training you recognize the impending danger. Confident from your training, you remain calm. You think to yourself, If he grabs my throat with his right hand I will kick him in the groin with my left foot, then I will pivot and use a downward strike with my left elbow to remove has hand. Next I will grab the rear of his neck with both my hands and knee him in the stomach; finally I will knock him out with a side strike to his neck. But if he grabs me with his left hand I will You prepare yourself for the throat grab as the man reaches for you. But instead of grabbing your throat he grabs your hair and slams your head against the stores brick wall. After you fall unconscious to the ground, the man removes your wallet and walks away.

The strategy is divided into four separate stages; decide, deter, disrupt, & disengage. The first stage is to decide what injury you are willing and capable causing to another person in order to protect yourself or loved ones from harm. The second stage is to deter your aggressor from attacking by use of your assertive attitude and determine his intent via verbal boundary setting. The third stage is to disrupt your aggressors plan, actions, and motivation to do you harm by any means necessary. Finally, upon creating the opportunity to disengage, you escape from your aggressor and seek safety. The essence of the Not-Me! strategy is to convey to your aggressor through verbal and physical means that he will be injured if he begins or continues his aggression. You replace his motivation to do harm with his greater aversion to pain and injury. You disrupt his plan and create opportunity to escape to safety. DECIDE is executed with the conscious mind mode, the body in neutral state, and with emotions in the calm/controlled mode. DETER is executed with the transitional mind mode the body in the adrenaline state, and with the emotions in protective mode. DISRUPT is executed with the subconscious mind mode, the body in fight state, and the emotions in violent mode. DISENGAGE is executed with the transitional mind mode, the body in flight state, and the emotions in escape mode. The main elements of the tactics and techniques of Not-Me! are strategic, verbal, and physical. The tactics and techniques are used in conjunction with each state of the Not-Me! strategy of decide, deter, disrupt, disengage. Strategic tactics involve the concepts of realistic training, decision making, confirmation of malicious intent, trigger to act, attacking the attacker, and seeking safety. Verbal tactics involve the use of conflict de-escalation, verbal boundary setting, empowering shouts, and calls for help. Physical tactics involve the use of physical conditioning, body language targeted unexpected, focused explosives strikes (TUFES), and various techniques to cause injury, unconsciousness, and release from holds. The tactics and techniques of Not-Me! are intended to be natural and effective when used with the correct combination of mind mode, physical state, and emotional mode during each stage of the Not-Me strategy. The specific verbal and physical methods used during each phase of the Not-Me! strategy create the tactics and techniques of Not-Me!