Forgiveness leads to Anger Management for Healthy Life Forgiveness:Forgiveness may be considered simply in terms of the person who

forgives including forgiving themselves, in terms of the person forgiven or in terms of the relationship between the forgiver and the person forgiven. In practical terms, it may be necessary for the offender to offer some form of acknowledgment, apology or even just ask for forgiveness, in order for the wronged person to believe himself able to forgive. Most world religions include teachings on the nature of forgiveness, and many of these teachings provide an underlying basis for many varying modern day traditions and practices of forgiveness. Some religious doctrines or philosophies place greater emphasis on the need for humans to find some sort of divine forgiveness for their own shortcomings, others place greater emphasis on the need for humans to practice forgiveness of one another, yet others make little or no distinction between human and divine forgiveness. Forgiveness, is still, and quietly does nothing. It merely looks, and waits, and judges not. He who would not forgive must judge, for he must justify his failure to forgive. But he who would forgive himself must learn to welcome truth exactly as it is. Do nothing, then, and let forgiveness show you what to do, through Him Who is your Guide, your Savior and Protector, strong in hope, and certain of your ultimate success. He has forgiven you already, for such is his function, given Him by God. Now must you share his function, and forgive whom he has saved, whose sinlessness He sees, and whom He honors as the Son of God. So, we are responsible for our scripts, and therefore only we can deprive ourselves of the peace of God: thus, we forgive others for what they have not done to us, not for what they have done.

TRUTH AND CONSEQUENCES OF FORGIVENESS:Say youre standing in line at the Post office and someone accidentally steps on your toe. They quickly move back and say Sorry! and you say No problem. Its over and quickly forgotten. But what if they say Sorry! and then continue to stand on your toe? Are you still going to say No problem? What exactly is forgiveness? Is it condoning the other persons behavior? Denying your own pain so another person can feel better? Letting another off the hook, and then carrying their shame for them? Is it as simple as letting go of a balloon that floats away into the atmosphere? I think it is much more complex than that. Forgiveness is a huge buzzword these days. Everyone says you should do it. Oprah says you should do it. Doctors say youll be healthier if you do it. Jesus did it on the cross. Stanford University even has a Forgiveness Project, where researchers say it is a skill that can be learned, a decision you simply make. But I dont see it as a decision any more than falling in love is a decision. Forgiveness is a spontaneous shift in the heart, and like love, it cant be forced. It is an unwritten contract between two souls. A door of genuine understanding and remorse must be opened before you can cross the threshold of forgiveness. You cant bang that door down yourself. In other words, forgiveness is not a one-way street. On the other hand, when a person is sincere in opening the door to forgive you, you feel it in your soul and it changes you. True forgiveness is grace in action. I know because I have experienced this. What is forgiveness? I dont know that I could encapsulate it into simple words. Like love, I know it when I feel it. When it happens, it is a beautiful miracle, like a butterfly landing on my shoulder. But I think it is a different experience for each person.

Anger Management:ANGER:
Anger is a natural emotion that every human and many non-human animals experience. Mild forms of human anger may include displeasure, irritation or dislike. When we react to frustration, criticism or a threat, we may become angry and usually this is a healthy response. Anger may be a secondary response to feeling sad, lonely or frightened. When anger becomes a full-blown rage our judgment and thinking can become impaired and we are more likely to do and say unreasonable and irrational things. Anger is not just a mental state of mind. It triggers an increase in heart rate, blood pressure and levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. Anger has survival benefits, and forms part of our fight or flight brain response to a perceived threat or harm. When a human or animal decides to take action to stop or confront a threat, anger usually becomes the predominant feeling and takes over our behavior, cognition and physiology. In many cases humans and non-human animals express anger by making loud sounds, baring teeth, staring and specific posturing as a warning to perceived aggressors to stop their threatening behaviors. It is unusual for a physical attack to occur without these signs of anger appearing first. If a stranger approaches some newborn puppy-dogs the mother will most likely growl, bare her teeth and adopt a defensive or ready-to-attack posture, rather than silently attack without any warning. If you trespass into the private land of a farmer in a remote area, his approach may be similar; his voice may be hostile, as may his body language, and posture. Instinctively, anger may surge in humans and non-human animals to protect territory, offspring and family members, secure mating privileges, prevent loss of possessions or food, and many other perceived threats. Experts say anger is a primary, natural emotion with functional survival value, which we all experience from time to time. The raised heart rate, blood pressure, and release of hormones prepare us physically for remedial action - which is either to fight or run away at top speed (fight or flight).

What can make people angry?

The most common factors that make people angry are:

Grief - losing a loved one. Sexual frustration Rudeness Tiredness Hunger Pain Withdrawal from drugs or some medications Some physical conditions, such as pre-menstrual syndrome Physical illness Mental illness Alcohol, some drugs, alcohol abuse, drug abuse Injustice Being teased or bullied Humiliation Embarrassment Deadlines Traffic jams Disappointment Sloppy service Failure Infidelity Burglary Financial problems Being told you have a serious illness

Anger can make you ill:When we are angry the body releases stress hormones, such as adrenaline, noradrenaline and cortisol. The heart rate, blood pressure, body temperature and breathing rate increase. Regular episodes of anger can eventually make people ill.

Uncontrolled or unresolved anger can lead to the following health problems:

Backache Headaches Hypertension (high blood pressure) Insomnia Irritable bowel syndrome, or other digestive disorders Skin disorders Stroke Heart attack Lower pain threshold Weakened immune system, resulting in more infections, colds, and influenza.

Uncontrolled or unresolved anger can lead to emotional and mental problems, including:

Depression Eating disorders Alcohol abuse Drug abuse Self injury Low self-esteem Moodiness

What is Anger Management?

The term anger management commonly refers to a system of psychological therapeutic techniques and exercises by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger & aggression can control or reduce the triggers, degrees, and effects of an angered emotional state. In some countries, courses in anger management may be mandated by their legal system. Anger management is a procedure of acquiring the skills to recognize signs that you are becoming angry, and taking action to deal with the situation in a positive way. In no way does anger management mean holding the anger in or trying to keep from feeling anger. Anger is a normal human emotion, a healthy one when it is expressed appropriately. It is possible to learn how to control your frustrations by practicing anger management techniques on your own. However, seeing a mental health counselor or taking an anger management class is generally more effective. Anger management teaches you to recognize frustrations early on and settle them in a way that allows you to express your needs, while remaining calm and in control. Coping with anger is an acquired skill which involves unlearning some of the bad behaviors that result from frustration. Anger management helps you identify what triggers your emotions, and how to respond so that things work in your favor, instead of against you. We all feel angry sometimes and may say or do things we regret. This is a normal part of life, and may not necessarily mean you need anger management help. If your anger is having a detrimental effect on relationships, is making you unhappy, or is leading to violent or dangerous behavior, you probably need help.

Forgiveness leads to Anger Management:-

It is what we expect for controlling your anger. This way of anger management is very powerful when apply properly and at a suitable time. There is nobody can tell you how not to get angry, since it's like forcing some people to be kept in a dirty prison. However, there is a way that can be taught to all people how to control their anger. Forgiveness is not too hard to apply to all of anger situations. It's the first step to release your anger that works so good. Anger management is crucial to keep our moods controlled and block all negative tempers to get into your mind. Learning forgiveness will lead you to an easier anger management control that obviously get results. Forgiveness can obviously boost your overall health of body and mind. Most of the negative feelings will be worse if cannot be released by forgiving someone who hurts you. So, you must get rid of your anger as soon as you can by forgiving all people that might upset you by mistake. Forgiveness is very important for keeping yourself away from all kinds of anger. You can clear up your mind easily and instantly if you learn how to properly apply a forgiveness. Don't let anger destroy your life and keep all people run away from you fast. Forgiveness can help people manage their angers on any situation and from any kind of causes. This anger management technique requires sometime for learning, but it is worth your time to get to know about it. This is not a hard work to get rid of your anger, just know that forgiveness can lead you to a proper anger management that get results in the long term.

HEALTHY LIVING:To live a healthy life one should follow the following things: Giving up the thought of bitter past and looking forward towards a brighter future Let go off negative emotions that have taken over your life. By letting the offender off the anger hook, you can get of it yourself and live a happier life. You are no longer attached to the offender by a hook, and can let then go. To avoid the popular response of to feelings of hurt and insult. Organize your mind for six minutes every hour to control Anger and to live a Happier Life. For every 10 minutes you are angry you lose 600 seconds of happiness so to live happier and unstressed life one should avoid anger. Change yourself rather than changing others. Learn to forgive and move on with smile. Forgives should be done for ourselves so that we could Get well and Move On to live a happy life. Absorb your upset feelings as you inhale, and feel what is there for you. Move away from the role as a victim and release the control and power the offending person and situation have had in your life. And so to live a happier life Anger is to be avoided while Anger Management and Forgiveness should be applicable in our life.