FORGIVENESS LEADS TO ANGER MANAGEMENT AND HEALTHY LIFESTYLE

Submitted By: Rishabh Arora Section E A1802011176

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INTRODUCTION Forgiveness is letting go of grudges and bitterness. When someone you care hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge- or embrace forgiveness and move forward. Letting go of grudges and bitterness makes way for compassion, kindness and peace. FORGIVENESS LEADS TO Greater spiritual and psychological well being Less stress and hostility Lower blood pressure Lower symptoms of depression, anxiety and chronic pain Lower risk of alcohol and substance abuse HOW FORGIVENESS LEADS TO A HAPPIER LIFE Not forgetting the bad things that have happened in the past and keeping anger in your heart against those persons who have acted negatively or have hurt you, will not make you a completely happy person. In order to go on fully with life and face new challenges and experiences ahead, a person must let go of past anger. Why Do I Need to Ask for Forgiveness? Forgive and forget how many times have you heard these phrases? Most people would say forgive those who have hurt you and have done you wrong and just let go of the past. It is easy to say but much harder to do. Why is it important to ask for forgiveness? Ask for forgiveness to help you physically. Ask for forgiveness with an eye toward an emotionally healthy you. Ask for forgiveness to have a happier life ahead What is Anger? Anger though commonly felt and expressed is never an emotion to take lightly. When it reaches heightened intensity, anger becomes wrath. Effects of Anger Depression Loss or Reduced Ability to Comprehend Logic Increased Physical Strength and Courage Violence How to Forgive Someone Absorb your upset feelings as you inhale, and feel what is there for you. Utilize your upsetness to help generate forgiveness. Remain emotionally balanced as you feel a wider range of your emotions.

HOW DO I REACH A STATE OF FORGIVENESS A way to begin is to recognize the value of forgiveness and its importance in your life at a given time. When youre ready actively choose to forgive the person who has offended you. Move away from the role as a victim and release the control and power the offending person and situation have had in your life. WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO ASK FOR FORGIVENESS Ask for forgiveness to help you physically. Ask for forgiveness to have a happier life ahead Ask for forgiveness to renew a relationship Ask for forgiveness for peace of mind Ask for forgiveness for a better you Ask for forgiveness for an emotionally healthy you Anger, love and forgiveness are huge issues in our world, and maybe in our own home. You can learn to forgive, but you may well have to learn how to release and express ur anger in healthy ways first! If you make anger the "bad guy," u just won't get to the true benefits of forgiveness. Anger has to be fully understood and released before u get to move on to the freedom of total forgiveness. Love and forgiveness have to be fully understood before u can let go of resentments and be emotionally whole and free. It All Starts With Love We are born with the need to love and be loved, and no one, even the best parents, can meet that need perfectly. Therefore we all feel hurt as a natural part of life. And of course, there are those hurts that are inflicted by abuse, abandonment and neglect, in some cases extreme. From this pain, fear and anger naturally emerge. It makes perfect sense to be angry when you're hurt. Anger is an important place to visit, u just don't want to live there. Here is where love and forgiveness come in. Total forgiveness is the process of letting go of anger and resentment so that you can go on with your life. Love and forgiveness are 4 u, not 4 the forgiven. That is essential to understand. Anger and forgiveness seem very different from each other, in the sense that anger involves an intense focus on the "wrongdoer," and forgiveness involves shifting focus off of that person and moving on with your life. Yet there are some ways that anger and forgiveness are the same.

How Anger and Forgiveness Are The Same Unhealthy anger and premature forgiveness both include: Judgment The "one-up" position Dishonoring to yourself When you are angry at someone and blaming them, u are definitely judging them and putting yourself in a "one-up" position. The way u are dishonoring yourself here is that u are failing to look at your own creative responsibility in the situation. This is the hazard of the "blame game." When u are into blaming others 4 your feelings, situation or plight, u are making yourself a victim and denying your own power and responsibility. Premature forgiveness is forgiving someone when you're not through being angry. You are still judging them, and therefore you're seeing yourself as "one-up." You are dishonoring yourself by pretending to forgive in your mind, when your heart and gut are still carrying anger and resentment. Total forgiveness is a matter of body, mind and spirit release and resolution, and it just can't be done if there is residual anger. Here are some important truths to remember when you're angry: The other person is responsible for his/her actions that triggered your anger. You are not responsible for their behavior. You are responsible for your emotional reaction and for your actions that result from your emotional reaction. They are not responsible for your emotional reactions or your behavior that results. Here are some other ways that anger, love and forgiveness are the same. When anger is healthy, and forgiveness is authentic, both involve: Forgiveness Quotes On Letting Go Forgiving is all about letting go--of anger, resentment, sorrow and the victim feeling. Forgiveness is more than a decision. It only happens when your heart and head agree that it is time to let go.
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When u forgive, your whole body lets go with a sigh of relief. This increases your relaxation, lowers your stress and enhances your immune function. The main benefits of forgiveness are, that it allows you two return to the kind person u really are. Sometimes, forgiveness means accepting the humanity of the person you're trying to forgive. Being human means to have choices, which means as humans we can choose to be wonderful and magnificent, or we can choose to be cruel, horrific and "inhuman." So, your words to this person (spoken in your mind) would be, "I accept u as a human being with the freedom to make choices, just like me. I don't like your choices, but I won't hurt myself by continuing to condemn you. I accept your humanness, and I give u my permission to be exactly who and what you are." Why Do I Need to Ask for Forgiveness? Forgive and forget how many times have you heard these phrases? Most people would say forgive those who have hurt you and have done you wrong and just let go of the past. It is easy to say but much harder to do. Forgiving is not an easy task. Letting go of the things that have caused you pain or suffering is not at all easy. Other people can forgive and forget easily but most have a hard time. But no matter how hard it is, it is important to forgive. Forgiving is healthy and holding grudges will only leave you suffering more. You are on the losing side if you do not forgive. It may do you more harm than good. Forgiving is one issue, asking for forgiveness is another different aspect of forgiveness. A person who is sincerely ready to ask for forgiveness has already let go of any negative pride that may have dwelled in his heart for a period of time. Sincerely asking for forgiveness no matter whose fault it is, is very courageous and admirable. Just because it is not your fault does not necessarily mean you should not ask for forgiveness. The other person may not be ready to ask for forgiveness or to forgive so it your duty to take the initiative and be the one to ask for forgives. So why is it important to ask for forgiveness? Ask for forgiveness to help you physically. Holding a grudge or anger has been proven unhealthy. It may cause health problems like cancer, hypertension and other cardiovascular diseases.
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Ask for forgiveness with an eye toward an emotionally healthy you. Not only is forgiving good for your physical well-being, it is also helpful in keeping you sane and away from depression. Anger causes depression, anxiety and other negative emotional thoughts and feelings. Ask for forgiveness for peace of mind. Being angry at somebody else does not give you a peace of mind and will always give you a feeling of uneasiness. Asking for forgiveness to those persons you have hurt or have hurt you will give you a sense of liberation and relief. Ask for forgiveness for a better you. The major benefactor of asking for forgiveness is not the person you have asked forgiveness of but it is you. You ask for forgiveness not just because of the other person but because you want to free yourself from anger, guilt and other negative feelings. You are not the one defeated here. You are actually making yourself a winner once you have asked for forgiveness. Ask for forgiveness to renew a relationship. Finding people to be friends or partners with in this world is a tough job. It may be difficult to find new people like the ones you have been angry with. Nurturing a relationship is tough and once that relationship is ruined with misunderstandings or quarrels, it is a big waste. Asking for forgiveness can rebuild those broken relationships. Ask for forgiveness to have a happier life ahead. Not forgetting the bad things that have happened in the past and keeping anger in your heart against those persons that you have acted negatively on or have hurt you, will not make you a completely happy person. In order to go on fully with life and face new challenges and experiences ahead, a person must let go of past anger. One can never be fully happy and satisfied if something keeps on bothering them like anger and guilt. Now that you are convinced, that asking for forgiveness is not only beneficial to the other person but for you as well, maybe you are asking, okay how do you do it? Think about what really happened and reflect on the things that have caused you and the other person pain. Now organize your thoughts and think of all the things you want to say to that person, how sorry you are, and how you felt about the situation. Swallow your pride and have the guts to ask sincerely for forgiveness from that person. After that give that person time to reflect and think about what just happened. That person may or may not be ready to forgive you but whats important is you already did your part and that is the first step in rebuilding your relationship with each other. Always remember that forgiving and asking for forgiveness are two of the most important things that we should practice, as this will lead to a happier and more peaceful life.