PUBERTYWISE

Vice Principal Administration, Al-Hikmat College , Lagos Nigeria.

By Soetan Olawale Rasheed

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PUBERTY Puberty is the time in which a child's sexual and physical characteristics mature. It occurs due to hormone changes. Adolescence is the period between puberty and adulthood. The exact age a child enters puberty depends on a number of different things, such as genes, nutrition, and gender. During puberty, endocrine glands produce hormones that cause body changes and the development of secondary sex characteristics. * In girls, the ovaries begin to increase production of estrogens and other female hormones. * In boys, the testicles increase production of testosterone.

The adrenal glands produce hormones that cause increased armpit sweating, body odour, acne, and armpit and pubic hair. This process is called adrenarche. The child will often need an underarm deodorant or antiperspirant during this time.

PUBERTY IN GIRLS

Breast development is the main sign that a girl is entering puberty. The first menstrual period (menarche) usually follows within about 2 years. Before the first menstrual period, a girl will normally have: * An increase in height * An increase in hip size * Clear or whitish vaginal secretions * Pubic, armpit, and leg hair growth Menstrual cycles occur over about 1 month (28 to 32 days). At first, the menstrual periods may be irregular. A girl may go 2 months between periods, or may have two periods in 1 month. Over time, periods become more regular. Keeping track of when the period occurs and how long it lasts can help predict when the next menstrual period will occur. After menstruation starts, the ovaries begin to produce and release eggs, which have been stored in the ovaries since birth. About every month after menstruation starts, an ovary releases an egg, called an ovum. The egg travels down a Fallopian tube, which connects the ovary to the womb. When the egg reaches the womb, the lining of the womb becomes thick with blood and fluid. This happens so that if the egg is fertilized, it can grow and develop in the lining to produce a baby. (It is important to remember that fertility comes before emotional maturity, and pregnancy can occur before an adolescent is prepared for parenthood.) If the egg does not meet with sperm from a male and is not fertilized, it dissolves. The thickened lining falls off and forms menstrual blood flow, which passes out of the body through the vagina. In between the menstrual periods, there may be a clear or whitish vaginal discharge. This is normal.

During or just before each period, the girl may feel moody or emotional, and her body may feel puffy or swollen (bloated). Premenstrual syndrome ( PMS) may begin to develop, especially as the girl gets older. In girls, puberty is usually finished by age 17. Any increases in height after this age are uncommon. Although a girl has reached full physical maturity at this time, her educational and emotional maturity continue to grow.

PUBERTY IN BOYS The first sign of puberty in boys is enlargement of both testicles. Afterward, boys will normally experience: * Faster growth, especially height * Hair growth under the arms, on the face, and in the pubic area * Increased shoulder width * Growth of the penis, scrotum (with reddening and folding of the skin), and testes * Nighttimes ejaculations (nocturnal emissions or "wet dreams") * Voice changes The testes constantly produce sperm. Some sperm can be stored in a structure called the epididymis. Sometimes the stored sperm are released as part of the normal process to make room for new sperm. This can occur automatically during sleep (nocturnal emissions) or following masturbation or sexual intercourse. Nocturnal emissions are a normal part of puberty. ADOLESCENCE Adolescence is the time between the beginning of sexual maturation (puberty) and adulthood. It is a time of psychological maturation, which a person becomes "adult-like" in behavior.

Adolescence is considered to be the period between ages 13 and 19. The adolescent experiences not only physical growth and change, but also emotional, psychological, social, and mental change and growth. A New Stage in Life

Some girls can't wait for them to come and look forward to their arrival as they would their birthday, first kiss, or a soccer championship.

Other girls dread them as much as eating a big plate of Brussels sprouts or changing the kitty litter.

But most girls have mixed feelings and are not quite certain why they have them and what to do about them. Boys don't have them, but they're likely to be curious about them.

What's the mystery subject? We're talking about breasts. If you're a girl, look down and there they are or will be soon. They are just two mounds of flesh, but they get a lot of attention. As a girl matures and goes through puberty, breasts tell the world that this girl is leaving girlhood and entering a new stage in her life.

Because large breasts get attention (just look at magazines, TV, or movies), some girls may worry if their breasts are small or if they mature more slowly. Girls with large breasts may be unhappy, too, because their shape attracts attention they don't want. The truth is that beauty doesn't come in just one bra size. There are all sorts of female shapes and sizes in the world, and all are beautiful.

But breasts do more than just look nice. Girls have them so they can do an important job later in life. Someday, if the girl grows up to have a baby, her breasts can provide the milk the baby needs. Breast milk is the very best food for babies and mom is the source. And it doesn't matter if those breasts are small, medium, or large. All sizes can produce enough milk to feed a baby. When Do Breasts Start Growing?

Breasts can start growing as early as age 8 or as late as 13. Some girls' breasts grow slowly and others grow quickly. Some girls may feel like their breasts will never start growing. But it's just that girls start developing at different ages and different rates. One girl might have more developed breasts at 12, whereas her friend could be still flat as a board.

Breast development happens in stages. The first stage starts during the early part of puberty, when a girl's ovaries enlarge and estrogen, an important female hormone, begins to circulate in the body. Doctors often refer to the early stages of breast development as "breast budding." Get it? Budding like a flower has buds.

A breast bud is like a small raised bump behind the nipple. After breast budding happens, the nipple and the circle of skin around the nipple (called the areola) get bigger and a little darker. Then the area around the nipple and areola starts to grow into a breast.

As breasts keep growing, they may be pointy for a while before becoming rounder and fuller. For some girls, one breast might be a little bigger than the other one. A girl's breasts may continue to grow during the teen years and even into her early twenties. Fully developed breasts come in all shapes and sizes.

Breast size gets a lot of attention and many girls may wonder how they can make their breasts grow faster or bigger. Despite what some magazine ads say, there isn't any magic cream or pill that can speed up the process or make a girl's breasts larger than they are. In fact, breast size is mostly determined by heredity and a girl's weight. So if a girl's mother has big breasts or small breasts, the girl can expect to have breasts of similar size. And a girl who has more body fat is more likely to have larger breasts. Getting a Bra

Once a girl has breasts, a bra is a good idea, especially when the girl is exercising and playing sports. Bras can protect breast tissue and keep the breasts supported. Some girls may also like that bras smooth out their silhouettes and make them feel more comfortable. A bra can make a girl feel less exposed when she's wearing a light shirt, such as a T-shirt. Some girls look forward to getting their first bras, but others dread that event. Like anything new, wearing a bra can be tough to adjust to. They can be difficult to fasten and adjust. Once a bra is on, it can bag or gap, ride up, dig in, or pop open. The straps can slide off a girl's shoulders or dig into them. And a bra can peek out of a girl's clothing. Not only that, but a girl's brother might think it's just hysterical to pull it so it snaps against her back. (If you are a boy, do not do this!) The ABCs of Bra Sizes Wearing the right size bra can decrease the number of other problems a girl will have with her bra. For instance, a bra that's the right size won't pinch, gap, or slide around. So it makes sense to spend some time learning about bra sizes. There are two parts to a bra's size: the chest size (also called the band size) and the cup size. The chest or band size is represented by a number (32, 34, 36, etc.) and is the part of the bra that runs across a girl's chest and around her back. The cups are the parts of the bra that hold the breasts and come in letter sizes (AA, A, B, C, etc.).

Bras come in many sizes, which are different combinations of the chest sizes and cup sizes 32AA, for instance. It's important to get both the chest and cup sizes right to ensure a proper fit. Some bra manufacturers are now starting to offer cup options in half sizes in addition to regular cups to help girls get a better fit. What Size Bra to Buy? A girl might feel shy about her growing breasts and not want other people talking about them, looking at them, and measuring them. But it's wise for a girl to get measured so she knows her correct bra size. The women who work in the bra departments of stores can help a girl with this measurement. A girl also can do it at home if she has her mom or a friend help her. If you are a girl, here are instructions for how to do it: * Run a tape measure just under your breasts, all the way around your back and rib cage. The tape measure should rest flat on your skin and lie straight across your back not so tight that it digs in, but not so loose that it sags down in back. * Make a note of your measurement and add 5 inches. That's your chest size. * To measure cup size, take the tape measure around your body across the fullest part of your breasts. * Write down this number and subtract your chest measurement from it. The difference between the numbers is a way of figuring out your cup size. If the difference between the two numbers is less than 1 inch, your cup size is AA. If it's 1 inch, your cup size is A; 2 inches, you're a B; 3 inches you're a C, and so on. For instance, if your cup measurement was 33 and your chest measurement was 32, that's a 1-inch difference. Your bra size is 32A. * If your chest measurement comes out as an odd number (such as 31 inches or 33 inches), it's usually a good rule to round up to the next number. Most bras have a few sets of adjustable hooks and eyes, so you can adjust the tightness. It's a good idea to round up, rather than round down, because when

you buy a new bra that hooks on the first or middle hooks rather than on the last you can leave room for growth. What Kind of Bra to Buy? A first bra used to be called a "training bra" it was for girls who didn't yet fit into the cups of standard-size bras, but needed basic support and comfort. These days, many girls' first bra is a sports bra, a type of bra worn by active women of any age. Sports bras prevent fully grown breasts from jiggling around when a woman is playing sports. Because they're flatter in the cup area, sports bras also make really good first bras for many girls. In fact, because of sports bras, and dresses and tops that have built-in bras, a girl might not need a training bra or a more traditional bra early on. Not all sports bras are alike, so a girl should try on a few to figure out which ones she prefers. In addition to sports bras, there are a lot of other types of bras. The most natural-looking bra is a soft-cup bra and doesn't do much to change the shape of a girl's breasts. Soft-cup bras come in different fabrics and thicknesses and some may have underwires. Underwire is a U-shaped wire inside the fabric that goes under the breasts to help support them. If a girl's breasts are C cup or larger, an underwire bra is a good choice. Other bras may have more structured cups and some come with padding inside. Minimizer bras are also available for girls who want their breasts to appear smaller. These bras are usually made of relatively thick fabric and often have substantial backs and straps. A Girl's Changing Shape Breasts are just one sign that a girl is getting older and on her way to becoming a woman. If a girl has questions or concerns about breasts or bras, the good news is that there are plenty of women and older girls to ask. And if a girl is worried about how slowly her breasts are growing, her doctor is also a good source of information. More often than not, a girl is growing in the normal range and before she knows it, she'll be bra shopping, too.

LOVE We've all experienced love. We've loved (and been loved by) parents, brothers, sisters, friends, even pets. But romantic love is different. It's an intense, new feeling unlike any of these other ways of loving. Why Do We Fall in Love? Loving and being loved adds richness to our lives. When people feel close to others they are happier and even healthier. Love helps us feel important, understood, and secure. But each kind of love has its own distinctive feel. The kind of love we feel for a parent is different from our love for a baby brother or best friend. And the kind of love we feel in romantic relationships is its own unique type of love.

Our ability to feel romantic love develops during adolescence. Teens all over the world notice passionate feelings of attraction. Even in cultures where people are not allowed to act on or express these feelings, they're still there. It's a natural part of growing up to develop romantic feelings and sexual attractions to others. These new feelings can be exciting or even confusing at first.

The Magical Ingredients of Love Relationships

Love is such a powerful human emotion that experts are constantly studying it. They've discovered that love has three main qualities:

1. Attraction is the "chemistry" part of love. It's all about the physical even sexual interest that two people have in each other. Attraction is responsible for the desire we feel to kiss and hold the object of our affection. Attraction is also what's behind the flushed, nervous-but-excited way we feel when that person is near.

2. Closeness is the bond that develops when we share thoughts and feelings that we don't share with anyone else. When you have this feeling of closeness with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you feel supported, cared for, understood, and accepted for who you are. Trust is a big part of this. 3. Commitment is the promise or decision to stick by the other person through the ups and downs of the relationship. These three qualities of love can be combined in different ways to make different kinds of relationships. For example, closeness without attraction is the kind of love we feel for best friends. We share secrets and personal stuff with them, we support them, and they stand by us. But we are not romantically interested in them. Attraction without closeness is more like a crush or infatuation. You're attracted to someone physically but don't know the person well enough yet to feel the closeness that comes from sharing personal experiences and feelings. Romantic love is when attraction and closeness are combined. Lots of relationships grow out of an initial attraction (a crush or "love at first sight") and develop into closeness. It's also possible for a friendship to move from closeness into attraction as two people realize their relationship is more than "just like" and they have become interested in one another in a romantic way. For people falling in love for the first time, it can be hard to tell the difference between the intense, new feelings of physical attraction and the deeper closeness that goes with being in love. Lasting Love or Fun Fling? The third ingredient in a love relationship, commitment, is about wanting and deciding to stay together as a couple in the future despite any changes and challenges that life brings. Sometimes couples who fall in love in high school develop committed relationships that last. Many relationships don't last, though. But it's not because teens aren't capable of deep loving. We typically have shorter relationships as teens because adolescence is a time when we instinctively seek lots of different experiences and try out different

things. It's all part of discovering who we are, what we value, and what we want out of life. Another reason we tend to have shorter relationships in our teens is because the things we want to get out of a romantic relationship change as we get a little older. In our teens especially for guys relationships are mainly about physical attraction. But by the time guys reach 20 or so, they rate a person's inner qualities as most important. Teen girls emphasize closeness as most important although they don't mind if a potential love interest is cute too! In our teens, relationships are mostly about having fun. Dating can seem like a great way to have someone to go places with and do things with. Dating can also be a way to fit in. If our friends are all dating someone, we might put pressure on ourselves to find a boyfriend or girlfriend too. For some people dating is even a status thing. It can almost seem like another version of cliques: The pressure to go out with the "right" person in the "right" group can make dating a lot less fun than it should be and not so much about love! In our late teens, though, relationships are less about going out to have fun and fitting in. Closeness, sharing, and confiding become more important to both guys and girls. By the time they reach their twenties, most girls and guys value support, closeness, and communication, as well as passion. This is the time when people start thinking about finding someone they can commit to in the long run a love that will last. What Makes a Good Relationship? When people first experience falling in love, it often starts as attraction. Sexual feelings can also be a part of this attraction. People at this stage might daydream about a crush or a new BF or GF. They may doodle the person's name or think of their special someone while a particular song is playing. It sure feels like love. But it's not love yet. It hasn't had time to grow into emotional closeness that's needed for love. Because feelings of attraction and sexual interest are new, and they're directed at a person we want a relationship with, it's not surprising we confuse attraction with love. It's all so intense, exciting, and hard to sort out.

The crazy intensity of the passion and attraction phase fades a bit after a while. Like putting all our energy into winning a race, this kind of passion is exhilarating but far too extreme to keep going forever. If a relationship is destined to last, this is where closeness enters the picture. The early passionate intensity may fade, but a deep affectionate attachment takes its place. Some of the ways people grow close are:

* Learning to give and receive. A healthy relationship is about both people, not how much one person can get from (or give to) the other. * Revealing feelings. A supportive, caring relationship allows people to reveal details about themselves their likes and dislikes, dreams and worries, proud moments, disappointments, fears, and weaknesses. * Listening and supporting. When two people care, they offer support when the other person is feeling vulnerable or afraid. They don't put down or insult their partner, even when they disagree. Giving, receiving, revealing, and supporting is a back-and-forth process: One person shares a detail, then the other person shares something, then the first person feels safe enough to share a little more. In this way, the relationship gradually builds into a place of openness, trust, and support where each partner knows that the other will be there when times are tough. Both feel liked and accepted for who they are. The passion and attraction the couple felt early on in the relationship isn't lost. It's just different. In healthy, long-term relationships, couples often find that intense passion comes and goes at different times. But the closeness is always there. Sometimes, though, a couple loses the closeness. For adults, relationships can sometimes turn into what experts call "empty love." This means that the closeness and attraction they once felt is gone, and they stay together only out of commitment. This is not usually a problem for teens, but there are other reasons why relationships end.

Why Do Relationships End? Love is delicate. It needs to be cared for and nurtured if it is to last through time. Just like friendships, relationships can fail if they are not given enough time and attention. This is one reason why some couples might not last perhaps someone is so busy with school, co-curricular, and work that he or she has less time for a relationship. Or maybe a relationship ends when people graduate and go to separate colleges or take different career paths. For some teens, a couple may grow apart because the things that are important to them change as they mature. Or maybe each person wants different things out of the relationship. Sometimes both people realize the relationship has reached its end; sometimes one person feels this way when the other does not. Losing love can be painful for anyone. But if it's your first real love and the relationship ends before you want it to, feelings of loss can seem overwhelming. Like the feelings of passion early in the relationship, the newness and rawness of grief and loss can be intense and devastating. There's a reason why they call it a broken heart. When a relationship ends, people really need support. Losing a first love isn't something we've been emotionally prepared to cope with. It can help to have close friends and family members to lean on. Unfortunately, lots of people often adults expect younger people to bounce back and "just get over it." If your heart is broken, find someone you can talk to who really understands the pain you're going through.

It seems hard to believe when you're broken-hearted that you can ever feel better. But gradually these feelings grow less intense. Eventually, people move on to other relationships and experiences. Relationships whether they last 2 weeks, 2 months, 2 years, or a lifetime are all opportunities to experience love on its many different levels. We learn both how to love and how to be loved in return.

Romance provides us with a chance to discover our own selves as we share with someone new. We learn the things we love about ourselves, the things we'd like to change, and the qualities and values we look for in a partner. Loving relationships teach us self-respect as well as respect for others. Love is one of the most fulfilling things we can have in our lives. If romance hasn't found you yet, don't worry there's plenty of time. And the right person is worth the wait.

MASTURBATION Most teens masturbate at some point. Masturbation is part of the way people explore their bodies and learn about their sexual feelings. Because masturbation is a private thing, sometimes people feel embarrassed or worry if they should stop.

Masturbation is when people rub their own genitals (the penis in males or the area around the vagina in females) because they like the way it feels. Masturbation is such a habit which a young person adopt very easily and of his own. The reason is that when a boy or girl attains puberty the growth in his/her body creates in him a sense of amazement and curiosity. Are there bad effects of masturbation? Once a young person comes to know the pleasure of emission he makes it a practice to do it as and when he / she finds the opportunity. Thus he /she becomes a slave to the most harmful and damaging habit which weakens his health most rapidly as the semen he/she is wasting is part of the products of his/her blood that the body needs to function normally. Gradually a time comes when mere sex-exciting thoughts may cause seminal discharge without even touching and rubbing the organ. The other dangers of masturbation is that it affects the mind badly, causing restlessness, weakness of mind and eyesight, deficiency in willpower and mental complexes of serious nature. As a result, all the avenues of mental

peace, progress and healthy life are blocked. A masturbator becomes victim of organic diseases turns impotent psychologically and mentally. Masturbation is often considered a private topic and some people may feel embarrassed to think or ask about it. And when people are too embarrassed to talk about something, they might hear and believe things that aren't accurate. If you have worries or questions about masturbation, talk to a doctor, nurse, health counsellor, or a trusted morally upright member of your family, as most of your friends will give you wrong information about it. CONCLUSION The Future: Your future begins from today, a good student should have the following characteristics in order to have a secure, rosy and peaceful future: Fear of Allah(SWT) Feeling of love and obedience to the Messenger of Allah Holding fast to Religious ethics Observe the following also : PREVENTIVE CODES ON HOW TO AVOID PRE- MARITAL SEX.

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Know your body signs and act on them wisely.

2. AVIOD FLIRTING Flirt according to oxford advance dictionary by AS Hornsby means show affection for amusement without serious intention or pretend to be interested in, think about, but not seriously. Another dictionary define flirting as behaving frivolously amorous or a sexually enticing behaviour. A flirt is therefore one who signals romantic interest with no intention of marriage.

You can only avoid flirting if you limit where and how often you see the person that attracts you emotionally. Also, avoid being isolated with the individual and if in a school or work environment, limit the nature of conversation with him/her. It is recommended also that you do not look directly into the eyes of an opposite sex when conversing. This means that you should conclude with your eyes to avoid looking at the nakedness for an opposite sex. It may even be necessary to terminate all contact with the person that could emotionally hook you into thinking about snare or traps of pre marital sex. On this wise strict-control must be applied regarding ones eyes thoughts, feelings and behaviours. However, it is necessary to note here that a couple about to marry (within their short courtship period) can have special interest in each other, provided they have good intentions and they are avoiding means that can lead them to pre-marital sex e.g. romance or staying together in isolation. Hence make it your manner to avoid flirting and treat members of the opposite sex with chasteness and respect.

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LEARN TO PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR STUDIES/PRE OCCUPATION

As you attain puberty your emotions and hormones may contribute a lot to your distraction, for instance, hearing the voice of an opposite sex can trigger the hormones controlling the sexual impulses in you. This is a common experience that comes with changes of puberty. It is part of being an adolescent; this is the time your sexual desires are at their peak, so the best you can do to help yourself is to control your emotions and deaden your body members by avoiding being pre-occupied with sexual thoughts if you can do this, you will be able to concentrate on your studies.

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HAVE A PURPOSE IN LIFE

At puberty you are now young men and women. You now need to plan your life, so that you can have a sense of direction. No matter how much knowledge and ability you posses, you are doomed to experience minimal success if your efforts lack direction. Having a purpose is what keeps a person going; this means you must have some concrete ideas of what you are going to be doing tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, in order to achieve your future ambition

PLUS A LONG TERM THINKING

It is better for you to have long term plan and begin from the day you set up the plan to work assiduously towards achieving the plan (dream). The planting of bamboo illustrates the long term thinking that every young man must learn to inculcate into his/her way of life.

A bamboo farmer plants the shoot under the soil and cover it with clay, where it lies dormant for four years. Every morning, the farmer waters his potential crop, and at the end of the fourth year, the shoot finally breaks through the ground. Then in only ninety days, the bamboo grows sixty feet! Now during that four years period, the farmer does not even know for sure whether the plant is alive. But he keeps the faith and does not abandon it. A longterm thinker must have this kind of conviction.

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BE PLAN DISCIPLINE

Write your daily, weekly, monthly and annual plan of activities, towards achieving your lifes goal/ambition.

Work strictly with the program longs enough to get used to the success oriented routine.

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REPORT

Give reports of somebody disturbing you with sexual related proposals or signals. Always give correct report, give it clearly, and give it in good time. Always be sure that you get the counselling of a trustworthy elder whenever you are in a dilemma.

MOVING OUT

Before going out of your home always look at yourself critically with respect to what you are wearing, wear better covering clothes, that you are sure covers your nudity and avoid making other members of the society emotional upset. In a nutshell, do not wear underwear outside your room, talk less of wearing them on the street. It is a shameful civilization.

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BE WISE

Do not accept the advice of some agencies that are encouraging youths to use contraceptives like condom, pills etc. Be wise, by avoiding pre-marital sex and everything that can lead to it like alcohol, drugs, romancing, pornographic films, music kissing, petting, dating an opposite sex, boy & girl friendship or future partnership. Sincerely yours, all these breakdown your sexual inhibition and loss of self control, they prepare the body for active sex. The body can be lured to a point of no return. Please wear abstinence, not condom.

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MIND YOUR PLAY

You can be easily seduced if you move too close or play often with an opposite sex. Play with your gender group, this is important.

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BE HEALTHY

Make sure you are always physically, emotionally and mentally fit. This is possible by exercising and by having good health habits. You can pass your free time with beneficial sporting activities e.g. table tennis, football, martial arts, jogging or watching only educational programs on the television. All these can release the stress and overstocked emotions within you and may as well enhance your power of concentration.

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CHECK YOUR SEXUAL ACTIVENESS

If you notice that you are easily aroused by the opposite sex. Know that you are naturally sexual active, girl may in addition notice this during their ovulation hence you must avoid intimacy with an opposite sex, if you really value your futures outcome and the dignity if being chaste.

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BE CAREFUL OF OVER-EATING

Mind your dietary attitude by taking little food at a time; over-eating could make you have abnormal sexual stimulation.

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STRIVE FOR ACADEMIC EXCELLENCE

Occupy 90% of your time with your academic activities while not ignoring assisting your family when necessary.

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ENJOY YOUR FREE TIME PRODUCTIVELY

You can read newspaper, good story books, magazines and your religion books, engage in outdoor activities whenever you are free.

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TALK STRAIGHT

Talk in business like and formal manner and not in a seductive manner when relating with a member of opposite sex.

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AVIOD TV & MOVIES PROGRAM THAT PROMOTES IMMORALITY

TV and movies pornography is a form of addiction. Ted Bundy the serial killer in America admitted that his criminal behaviour began by watching movies on bondage and pornography.

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REPORT ALSO

Make it a rule to at least report immediately anybody who touches your breast, buttocks, cheeks, private part etc. consciously and if you think it is safe give him/her a dirty slap before reporting.

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STOP NUDITY

Stop showing your nakedness to anybody except you are sick and your treatment requires such. Being careless at showing your chest, breast, private parts, thighs, etc. to anybody even somebody of same gender with you removes completely from you shyness that every human being needs to become morally upright. Nudity can put you in the danger of being raped one day. It can also put the other people that unfortunately see your nakedness in a bad emotional state i.e. thinking about how he/she can become your sleeping partner.

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MIND YOUR SLEEPING HABITS

Your growing body needs sufficient sleep to help you develop physically and to allow your brain sort out the many new concepts and emotions you encounter daily. However many youths keep a schedule that affords them little time to sleep. A neurologist comments; the organism will not forget the hours o sleep that a person owes it.

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AVOID MASTURBATION

Do not engage in masturbation i.e. procuring or providing sexual excitement by manual or other stimulation of the genital organs. This is a negative behaviour. For your information, you will naturally have wet-dreams if your body system requires it without you procuring it. The effects of masturbation amongst others include leading to become promiscuous and worse still killing your natural sensations that you will still need when you are married, also it can turn you into homo sexual or lesbian for girls. May God forbid?

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KEEP GOOD COMPANIES

Avoid uncultured peer groups that flaunt about with their sexual escapades/experiences with their boy/girl friends.

In conclusion, if you abstain from pre-marital sex then you are free to go on with your future dreams and goals unhindered, free from STDs, from teenage pregnancy, emotional scars, lifelong painful memories, unwanted babies, disgrace to your family name, abortion leading to disease, damage to the reproductive organs or even death. A word is enough for the wise.