Helicopter parents have neurotic kids

Since the 1990s overparenting has been brought to a whole new level and the needle went way past the red line. Crime went down, yet parents stopped letting kids out of their sight; the percentage of kids walking or biking to school dropped from 41% in 1969 to 13% in 2001. Among 6-to-8-year-olds, free playtime dropped by 25%, and homework more than doubled. By the time the frenzy had reached its peak, employers like Ernst & Young were creating "parent packs" for recruits to give Mom and Dad, since they were involved in negotiating salary and benefits. Once obsessing about kids' safety and success became the norm, a kind of orthodoxy took hold, and heaven help the heretics the ones who were brave enough to let their kids venture outside without Secret Service protection. Although a certain amount of hovering is understandable when it comes to young children, nowadays, parental control goes far beyond childhood years making the issue alarming. University administrators increasingly find themselves in the position of interacting with over-involved parents about a range of issues their children are facing from roommate problems to academic disappointments and health concerns. While students of earlier generations may have reveled in their independence, current studentsthrough the wonders of communications technology are constantly in touch with their parents. Todays young adults, dubbed Millennials are one of the most protected populations in history. From bicycle helmets and mandatory child-safety seats to constant supervision, they are accustomed to overweening safety and security, scheduling and scrutiny. As a result, they tend to be high achievers and perfectionists who, consciously or not, link love and acceptance to academic excellence. They feel like trophy kids says Kathy Hollingsworth, director of Duke's Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS). What concerns observers of the helicopter-parent phenomenon is the inhibitive impact such continual supervision has on young adults at a time when they should be making the transition to adulthood. A new study finds students with helicopter parents tend to be less open to new ideas and actions, as well as more anxious, neurotic and self-consciousness, among other factors, compared with their counterparts with more distant parents. Because the new generation has been reared in a "risk adverse" way, they tend to be psychologically fragile, robbed of their own identities, and unable to feel a real sense of accomplishment for their efforts. For the first time depression is increasing among children, and not among people over 40. Many educators have been searching for ways to tell parents when to back off. It's a tricky line to walk, since studies link parents' engagement in a child's education to better grades, less substance abuse and better college outcomes. Given a choice, teachers say, overinvolved parents are preferable to invisible ones. The challenge is helping parents know when they are crossing a line.

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Have you ever met a helicopter parent? Do you believe their actions can be justified? Is it really that much more dangerous out there for kids than it ever was? Or are parents just projecting theyre own fears on their children? What are the possible effects of having overprotective parents? What consequences will it have in the future in personal and professional life? Do you notice any changes between the way youve been brought up and the way kids are parented today? Has the parents role evolved? Are only the parents at fault?