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All Scripture references are from the New American Standard Bible: 1995 Update,
unless otherwise noted. 1995. LaHabra, CA: The Lockman Foundation.
Other references are quoted from The Holy Bible, New International Version. 1973.
International Bible Society. Zondervan Bible Publishers.
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I. INTRODUCTION
A. GOALS
1. Salvation
A. PSALM 19:1-10
LORD: YHWH. The name for The law of the LORD is perfect,
God first revealed to Moses at
the burning bush. Among other
reviving the soul.
things, the name indicates a The statutes of the LORD are trustworthy,
personal involvement in our making wise the simple.
lives rather than a detachment. The precepts of the LORD are right,
Theologically called the giving joy to the heart.
“tetragrammaton” (greek for
“four-letter word”). No one
The commands of the LORD are radiant,
really knows how to pronounce giving light to the eyes.
it. The fear of the LORD is pure,
enduring forever.
The ordinances of the LORD are sure
Stats from Ps 19:7-10-- and altogether righteous.
6 statements,
-each with 3 elements
A. VERSE 7A: The law of the LORD is perfect, reviving the soul.
6 titles for the scripture
(underlined)
6 characteristics of the scrip- Law of the Lord: torah. A very often used word for scripture. Divine
tures (italicized) instruction. God teaches truth to humanity.
6 benefits of the scriptures
(boldfaced)
“It pictures Scripture as a complete manual laying out God’s law for
our lives. In other words, the Bible is the law of the Lord for human
Biblically, there is no distinction living. As such, it is perfect.”1
between mind and soul and
spirit. The terms are sometimes
used interchangeably. When perfect: comprehensive, exhaustive, complete, lacking nothing, whole,
they are used together (soul and flawless, entire, absolutely, totally, undeniably sufficient.
spirit), the emphasis is “entire
being.” Therefore, there is no reviving the soul: nephesh, soul. The inner person. The being, the
such thing as “believing it in my
person, the mind/body/spirit. The entity.
mind, but not in my heart.” We
either believe it, or don’t. The
measure of your faith is evi- The scriptures are sufficient to completely renovate the human soul. They
denced by the measure of your are utterly, totally, and completely capable of making dead souls live.
obedience. They can transform sinful thinking. They can restore faith. They can
grow a person to perfection.
FOR WISDOM IS BETTER THAN
JEWELS, AND ALL DESIRABLE THINGS
CANNOT COMPARE WITH HER . “The statement is made without any equivocation,
(PROV. 8:11) without any caveats.”2
SIMPLE: DOES NOT KNOW THE B. VERSE 7B: The statutes of the LORD are trustworthy, making wise the simple.
TRUTH , THEREFORE IS UNABLE TO
ABIDE BY THE TRUTH.
statutes: divine witness. God is witness to Himself. He is personally
FOOL: KNOWS THE TRUTH, AND
DOES THE OPPOSITE .
testifying about who He is.
WISE: KNOWS THE TRUTH AND
OBEYS OR APPLIES IT. trustworthy: unmistakable. It is reliable and completely dependable.
There is no doubt of its reliability.
WARNING: IT IS BEST TO GO FROM
SIMPLE TO WISE, wise: the character of a person who applies Godly truth to daily living.
AND SKIP FOOL. Applied intellect. One who makes right choices, has righteous conduct,
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and lives on earth with heaven on the brain.
C. VERSE 8A: The precepts of the LORD are right, giving joy to the heart.
radiant: lit. clear, plainly observed, purely seen. They are not a conun-
drum. They are not confusing, contradictory, or purposefully
counfounding. They can be comprehended.
Hebrews 4:12
You may have learned this stuff
before. 2 Timothy 3:16
Allow yourself to be impressed
by the authority and sufficiency Isaiah 55:11
of scripture again.
It will make all the difference in
your marriage. 1 Corinthians 2:13
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be pleasing in your sight,
O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.
Submission to the scriptures results in “great reward.” Forgiveness is
found. Resistance from sin is possible. Freedom from the bondage of
sins is acquired. Submission is not just a chore. It is immediately re-
warded. It is rewarded with forgiveness and innocence and freedom.
Paul tells us that our marriages are to reflect the relationship that Christ Husbands, you are the agent of
has with the Church. The Church is His bride. The Christian Husband redemption in your marriage.
Woah.
should be self sacrificial, selflessly loving, and always giving, like Christ.
The husband has a God-ordained duty to be sanctifying his wife.
The Wife is to be respectful, submissive, and always seeking the best for
her husband. She is to be like the Holy Spirit to her husband, meaning she
is finely tuned with God’s Word. She is indispensable as a counselor for Q. Are you still improperly
her husband. connected to your parents,
grand-parents, siblings, etc.?
3. THE ESTABLISHMENT OF MARRIAGE
When God married Adam and Eve, certain precedents and purposes Q. What does “becoming one”
were made a part of every marriage. mean to you?
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You were taught, with regard to
your former way of life, to put 4. BIBLICAL CHANGE
off your old self, which is being
corrupted by its deceitful
desires; to be made new in the GOD’S FORMULA FOR CHANGE:
attitude of your minds; and to
put on the new self, created to Put Off sinful behavior
be like God in true righteousness Change your Thinking
and holiness. (Eph 4:22-24, NIV)
Put On Righteousness
5. RESPONSIBILITY TO GOD
MANY BOOKS AND TEACHING ABOUT MARRIAGE MAKE YOUR SPOUSE AND FAMILY AND EVEN
YOUR MARRIAGE THE CENTER AND PURPOSE OF BEING MARRIED.
THIS CAN LEAD TO IDOLATRY. THE PRIMARY PERSON IN OUR MARRIAGE IS NOT OURSELVES.
NOR IS OUR SPOUSE THE PRIMARY FOCUS FOR US IN MARRIAGE. THE FOCUS AND CENTERPOINT
OF OUR MARRIAGE IS OUR GOD. OUR MARRIAGE IS ABOUT GOD. WE ARE TO BECOME MORE
GODLY SPOUSES NOT FOR OUR SPOUSE’S SAKE (THAT’S A BONUS). NOT FOR PEACE IN THE HOME
One Day. (THAT’S A PERK).
In One Day, WE ARE TO BECOME MORE GODLY AS SPOUSES BECAUSE OF WHO GOD IS, AND WHO WE ARE IN
God created mankind. RELATIONSHIP TO HIM.
In One Day, OUR MARRIAGES ARE ALSO MEANT TO SHOW A DYING WORLD THE SACRIFICIAL, COVENANTAL,
God drowned the Egyptians AND UNENDING LOVE THAT EXISTS BETWEEN CHRIST AND THE CHURCH.
and saved the Jews.
MARRIAGE IS WORSHIP.
In One Day,
Jesus made atonement for all MARRIAGE IS THE TRINITY IN ACTION. IT IS CHRIST REVEALED.
sins.
In One Day,
your marriage can be better.
To-Day.
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The Fruits of Pride
Adapted from C. J. Mahaney
1. SELF-SUFFICIENT
I tend to be self sufficient in the way I live my life. I don’t live with a constant awareness that my every breath is
dependent upon the will of God. I tend to think I have enough strength, ability and wisdom to live and manage my life.
My practice of the spiritual disciplines is inconsistent and superficial. I don’t like to ask others for help.
I ————————————- I
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2. ANXIOUS
I am often anxious about my life and the future. I tend not to trust God and rarely experience His abiding and
transcendent peace in my soul. I have a hard time sleeping at night because of fearful thoughts and burdens I carry.
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3. OVERLY SELF-CONSCIOUS
I am overly self-conscious. I tend to replay in my mind how I did, what said, how I am coming across to others, etc. I
am very concerned about what people think of me. I think about these things constantly.
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4. FEAR OF MAN
I fear man more than God. I am afraid of others and make decisions about what I will say or do based upon this fear. I
am afraid to take a stand for things that are right. I am concerned with how people will react to me or perceive my
actions or words. I don’t often think about God’s opinion in a matter and rarely think there could be consequences for
disobeying him. I primarily seek the approval of man and not of God.
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5. INSECURE
I often feel insecure. I don’t want to try new things or step out into uncomfortable situations because I’m afraid I’ll fail or
look foolish. I am easily embarrassed.
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6. COMPARE MYSELF
I regularly compare myself to others. I am performance oriented. I feel that I have greater worth if I do well.
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7. SELF-CRITICAL
I am self-critical. I tend to be a perfectionist. I can’t stand for little things to be wrong because they reflect poorly on me.
I have a hard time putting my mistakes behind me.
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8. DESIRE CREDIT AND RECOGNITION
I desire to receive credit and recognition for what I do. I like people to see what I do and let me know that they
noticed. I feel hurt or offended when they don’t. I am overly concerned about my reputation and hate being
misunderstood.
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10. DECEPTIVE
I tend to be deceptive about myself. I find myself lying to preserve
my reputation. I find myself hiding the truth about myself, especially about sins, weaknesses, etc. I don’t want people to
know who I really am.
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15. SELF-SERVING
I am self-serving. When asked to do something, I find myself asking, “How will doing this help me, or will I be
inconvenienced?”
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16. NOT EXCITED ABOUT OTHERS’ SUCCESS
I am not very excited about seeing or making others successful. I tend to feel envious, jealous or critical towards those
who are doing well or being honored.
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22. UNGRATEFUL
I often feel ungrateful. I tend to grumble about what I have or my lot in life.
I ————————————- I
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23. SELF-PITY
I find myself wallowing in self-pity. I am consumed with how I am treated by God and others. I tend to feel mistreated
or misunderstood. I seldom recognize or sympathize with what’s going on with others around me because I feel that I
have it worse than they do.
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25. INSENSITIVE
I am pretty insensitive to others. I feel that some people just aren’t worth caring about. I have a hard time showing
compassion.
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38. CONTENTIOUS AND ARGUMENTATIVE
When corrected, I become contentious and argumentative. I don’t take people’s observations seriously. I minimize and
make excuses or give explanations.
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43. UNACCOUNTABLE
I am unaccountable. I don’t ask others to hold me responsible to follow through on my commitments. I don’t really need
accountability for my words and actions. I think I can take care of myself.
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44. UNSUBMISSIVE
I am unsubmissive. I don’t like being under the authority of another person. I don’t see submission as a good and
necessary provision from God for my life. I have a hard time supporting and serving those over me. I don’t “look up” to
people and I like to be in charge. Other people may need leaders but I don’t. It is important that my voice is heard.
I ————————————- I
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49. CRITICAL
I tend to be critical of others. I find myself feeling or talking negatively about people. I subtlety feel better about myself
when I see how bad someone else is. I find it far easier to evaluate than to encourage someone else.
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Project Suggestions
Do one or more of the following before Lesson 2
1. Hire a baby sitter, turn off your cell, and go on a long date with your spouse. Take your notes with you. At dinner,
take about 30 minutes to discuss the notes from lesson 1. Ask each other the questions from the sidebars. What was
new to you? Did any of your thinking change as a result of this study?
2. Take some time separately and answer the following questions on separate paper:
3. Show your Fruits of Pride quiz to your spouse. Ask him or her to rate you on each question. Discuss your answers
for yourselves and for each other. Then pick the top 5 manifestations of pride in your life to work on. Let your spouse
advise you on where your pride is most obvious.
4. Pray wth your spouse this week. Thank God for His Word and revelation to us. During your prayer, read Psalm 19
back to God.
5. What has to change? What has God revealed to you has to change in your heart and in your family? Make a
prioritized list (The most important on top) and discuss this with your spouse.