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Lesson 5:
The Excellent Wife
Homework
I. Introduction
A. Review: The Doctrine of the Trinity and its implications for marriage.
1. The relationships existent within the Trinity are models for our own roles in marriage,
5. Is a caring shepherd
8. Glorifies God
C. The Holy Spirit: The Excellent Wife's primary role model. It is our goal today to study the
role of the wife in light of the Trinity, Scripture, and in particular, the Holy Spirit.
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II. Completing the Husband:
________________ of him.”
C. Adam was not so much alone in the sense of _________________. (He had perfect
communion with God) He was alone in the sense of being ______________________, and
incapable of fulfilling the ______________ of creation. Until Eve was created, God had not
completed his intention in Genesis 1:26,27—to make mankind in His image, including the
2. The sin nature tends to ___________________ over the authority of the husband and
3. Paul's warning against reversing the roles is based on the reversal which occurred in
Eden.
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5. Therefore, a _____________________ wife preserves the __________________ and
4. How to change your __________________. (The following is from The Excellent Wife,
by Martha Peace, pg. 42-44)
B. Interceding
1. The wife has a particular way of ____________________ that especially blesses the
family.
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2. Pray for:
2. The excellent wife __________ her family. Her husband has full _______________ in
her. (31:11-12)
4. The excellent wife prepares for the future and possible circumstances (31:19-22)
a) These verses (vs. 10-31) are an alliterated poem. Each line begins with a
consecutive letter of the alphabet. Think of the noble wife passage as a poetic
tribute to wives and mothers. Don't take the passage as a command to wives, but as
a description of the ideal.
b) Verse 10 opens the passage with a rhetorical question. The noble wife is rare.
c) The passage is an encouragement to the man-seeking-a-wife to set his standards high
and seek a Godly woman (31:3)
d) Notice that much of the qualities attributed to the noble wife is described throughout
Proverbs, usually addressing the authors' son.
e) It is an honor to use your gifts to the glory of your husband. It is the husband's
responsibility, as the agent of redemption in the home, to aid and guide the
development of these gifts in his wife. But she deserves to be honored by her
husband and family publicly (31:31)
f) It is the Glory of God that is the ultimate result.
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8. The home is: _______ __________ _________________ _________ _____ _________.
(Titus 2:3-5)
1. The wife is a ______________. She vastly improves and enables the husband to be
2. How?!
3. Sexual Intimacy
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Of Proverbs 5:18-19, Martha Peace writes:
The Noble and Excellent Wife lives a joyful life as she seeks to fulfill God's design for
her and the use her gifts and talents in whatever situation she and her family encounter. Her
primary relationship is with God. Therefore, regardless of circumstance, she is conscious of
the blessings and joys of being God's daughter.
The joy-less wife creates a joy-less family.
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3. She is daily ____________________ and __________________.
a) She daily points out God's blessings to her family. “Did you notice what God did
for us today.....”
a) Harsh legalism represents Christ in a repulsive manner. The legalistic wife and
5. Loving
needs” philosophies.
your actions and sins, leaving the responsibility for others' actions and sins to them.
A. By the power of the Holy Spirit, who dwells within you. (2 Cor 3:4-6)
B. Through prayer.
E. God has sovereignly gifted and equipped you to be the wife and mother---the image of
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Common False Gods for Wives
Idols are things that you worship instead of God, or desire more than God. As long as you are getting
or doing what you want, you feel okay. But as soon as you are no longer receiving what you desire,
you become frustrated, desperate, and anxious. You will become more and more willing to do
whatever it takes—even sin—in order to restore your idol.
God will purposely frustrate your idolatrous desires in order to cause this desperation and anxiety.
The design of this frustration is to point you back to the One True God.
Once you have your heart right with God, then many of the idols (such as a Christian marriage, others'
approval, etc.) may be given to you.
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Common Signs of Bitterness
Gossip and Slander: A complaining wife who slanders, berates, or otherwise tears down her
husband to others. This defiles herself, her husband, and those who are subjected to her gossip.
(Hebrews 12:15-17)
Ungrateful and Complaining: A wife who is not grateful for her husband or children. She
murmurs to herself and complains to others. (Phil 2:14)
Judge of Motives: She is distrustful of her husband's every action.
Self-Centered: The wife thinks mostly of herself. She is absorbed with self. She is concerned
mostly with her own needs and nursing the hurts she has suffered from others. (Phil 2:4)
Excessive Sorrows: Grief and hurt replace joy, peace, love, patience, kindness...She is
overwhelmed by her own hurts and pains (John 16:6)
Vengeful: The wife avoids her husband. She may leave when he is at home, pout, or ignore
him. She is exacting revenge rather than forgiving. (Romans 12:17,19)
Brooding: Similar to being self-centered. The wife think often about what her husband or
others have done to her. She replays the situations and hurts to make them fresh again. (1 Co
13:5)
Loss of Joy: Sin has crowded out her love for God, delight in the Lord, and joy. She is
miserable emotionally and spiritually. (Psalm 119:47)
Critical and Judgmental: She is so focused on what her husband has done wrong that she
cannot see or refuses to admit her own sins. (Matthew 7:5)
The Excellent Wife, by Martha Peace. Published in 1999, by Focus Publishing, Inc. Bemidji,
Minnesota.
The Exemplary Husband, by Stuart Scott. Published in 2000, by Focus Publishing, Inc. Bemidji,
Minnesota.
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