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another is still emotionally tied, and often as a result, manipulated and controlled, by a meddlesome parent. So, interestingly enough, we see that the first Bible reference to a soul tie is an admonition to break a soul tie.
Here we see the men of Judah bonding with their leader David. This depicts the soul tie thats needed between believers and their spiritual authorities. Again, the Hebrew word here is dabaq for glue. The men were glued to their authority. We see a similar tie of devotion between Elijah and Elisha, Moses and Joshua, and Jesus and His disciples. Such a bond is essential for a pastor or spiritual leader to pass on anointed ministry to those submitted to him in the Lord. There has to be a soul trust - a soul tie thats rooted in a shared passion and sense of vision. As a pastor, Ive found this to be true time and again over the years. When such a trust bond was lacking, the results were invariably disappointing. But, when Ivebeen privileged to have someones heart, then that person was able to catch the vision and run with it in a way that those without that soul trust could not.
Unhealthy dependence on the childs part for the parent (often the result of spoiling). One indication of unhealthy dependence is excessive clinginess and crying whenever mom or dad leave to go somewhere. Often, unhealthy dependence is fostered out of a sense of guilt on the part of the parent. The results can often be as damaging as neglect. Gods balance can be seen in nature. As a piece of fruit ripens, so does the tie that connects it to the tree. If you try to remove an apple while its still green, youll need to twist and pull to snap it loose. However, when the apple is fully ripe, it will fall off with just the slightest tug. So it should be with children. The dependence that was so essential in the early years needs to gradually give way to a parent-tochild respect that will enable them to leave the nest on their own when its time. Tendency to yield to the childs manipulation, thus making consistent discipline difficult. Allowing the child to dictate and control the parents activities and relationships. At this point, the soul tie between the parent and child has become quite unhealthy. Theres even a passage Isaiah that describes such a state and the curse that goes with it:
As for my people, children are their oppressors and women rule over them. Oh my people, they which lead you cause you to err.... (Isaiah 3:12) Results of Unhealthy or Absent Parent / Child Bonding Unhealthy (or absent) parent-child soul ties can produce lifelong insecurities in the child. This invariably results in their pursuing unhealthy relationships with others of similar personality weaknesses. At the same time, when a healthy bonding is lacking, a child may spend the rest of his or her life looking to have it fulfilled. This is one reason why a woman will end up marrying a man who displays the same abusive tendencies as her dad. Because she never properly bonded with her father, she finds herself, often without realizing it, attracted to men like her father. Why? Because shes trying to close the gap in her soul caused by the lack of a healthy paternal soul tie. Shes still trying to find his love. When a boy is not properly bonded with his father or with his mother, a similar thing happens. Hell find himself bouncing from relationship to relationship, ever seeking the deep bonding he lacked as a child. This is one of the reasons divorce is so rampant today. The grown up child is trying to find the soul tie that never properly formed in the rearing years. The good news, though, is that Jesus can bring healing and restoration. David tells us in the Psalms: When my mother and my father forsake me then the Lord will take me up. (Psalm 27:10) There are two things absolutely necessary in raising children: parameters and consistency. Clearly define the rules, then be consistent in enforcing them. In other words, build a fence and dont waver with the consequences when the fence is crossed. Most child-rearing problems stem from either the lack of established rules of conduct, or inconsistent insistence that the rules be observed.
that such relationships should not be able to form unhealthy soul ties where ones witness and walk with the Lord is compromised. To bond with someone emotionally or spiritually who is unrepentantly angry, or someone who is given over to a vice, can be extremely dangerous. The evil spirits at work in them can then pass through the soul tie to affect you. The result would be that you might find yourself at some point justifying and rationalizing their actions and eventually joining them. Birds of a feather tend to flock together, were told. How then should you relate to such persons? Simply keep your discernment tuned in when youre around them so that if theres any transferring of spirits, it will be the Holy Spirit from you rather than an unclean spirit from them. One way these principles are often compromised is in the area of missionary dating. Thats where a believer gets romantically involved with an unbeliever and justifies it on the basis that they are helping that person come to the Lord. Such reasoning is extremely faulty. The truth is, when one has romantic feelings for someone, they are the last person with any kind of ministry to them. Why? Because the emotional tie in the relationship prevents them from any objectivity and discernment to the others true spiritual state. Since, as the saying goes, Love is blind, missionary dating is often nothing more than the blind leading the blind. And Jesus said when that happens, they both fall into the ditch. So what should you do if youre already romantically tied with an unbeliever? Break the soul tie! It can and must be done. Submit yourself to the Lord, fast for a few days and have someone pray under the anointing to sever the bonds of emotional attachment. By doing this you wont have to go through a lengthy process of pining away as you let the relationship die. Complete obedience in this area will bring about the Lord's deliverance from a dangerous and ungodly soul tie.
Patterns of anger, blame and accusations in a relationship. Fear of being real with or speaking truth to another (intimidation and fear of man). Psychic or occultic phenomena within a relationship.
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