Premarital sex is not authentic love

Premarital sex is not authentic love because it is only an act of fulfilling the desires of our flesh as stated in Romans 13: 13-14, 13 Let us behave decently, as in the daytime, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and jealousy.
14

Rather, clothe yourselves with

the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the flesh. We, as Christians, we all believe that authentic love results in marriage and we were commanded to honor the marriage bed in all times as stated in Hebrews 13:4,Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. The definition of reallove.com for authentic love or real love is that Real Love is caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves. Its also Real Love when other people care about our happiness unconditionally. In short, real love is unconditional love and premarital sex didnt pass this definition because those who do it do not think for the negative consequences in which their partner might suffer for a long time. Contraceptive sex and sex outside of marriage not only leads to unwanted pregnancies; it also leads to bad marriages and divorce. One economist, Robert Michael from the University of Stanford claims that the increased use of contraception has led to and increased incidence of divorce. He noticed that the divorce rate in the United States doubled between the years of 1965-1975; contraception became available in the early 1960s and nearly every woman had access to contraception by the year 1975. Michael attributes 45% of

the increase in the divorce rate to increased use of contraception. He argues that when women use contraception they have fewer children and are therefore less financially dependent and thus are less likely to stay in bad relationships. catholiceducation.org As said by catholiceducation.org, sex outside of marriage or premarital sex, leads to bad marriages and divorce. If premarital sex is authentic love, the result of it must be good because as stated in 1 Corinthians 13:8, Love never fails. Premarital sex only ends in bad events and women are the ones that are really affected. If these boys or men that are mentioned in the article really love the woman, then it must not lead into divorce. As Christians, we must not conform ourselves with the basic principles of this world. Though this world says that sex before marriage is permissible, we must not forget that true love is patient as said in 1 Corinthians 13:4. In our modern world one evident that premarital sex is not authentic love is that boys or men who get teenage girls pregnant most commonly disappear after having done the damage, leaving the girl to see the pregnancy through. If premarital sex is love these boys or men should wait until the right time as we always say, True Love Waits. We all know that God is Love and He shows to us that premarital sex is not pleasing in his eyes through the situations in this world. As I have observed, STDs and HIV/AIDS are commonly acquired from prostitutes and those who are sexually active. He really understand what is our sinful nature is capable of thats why he invented marriage. He knows that we are capable of jealousy and being

sexually immoral thats why there is marriage to keep everything in order. If we dont do premarital sex, then we wont worry anymore of having these diseases plus we will have a clear conscience. He wants us to experience authentic love that is coming from one of his commands which is specifically marriage. Therefore, before we do premarital sex, we must think of the future outcome for we all knew that in every act there are consequences that we must face.

Sources: Holy Bible http://www.reallove.com/about.asp http://www.pregnancy-baby-care.com/teen-pregnancy.html http://www.catholiceducation.org/articles/sexuality/se0087.html