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A GREATVINE PARENTING GUIDE Child Sleep G r e a t v i n e Adviceforlife

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How can I get my

child to sleep?

‘ There must be someone who can help ’

If you struggle with your child’s night time routine, it can leave you feeling desperate, exhausted and frustrated.

can leave you feeling desperate, exhausted and frustrated. Not getting enough shut-eye doesn’t just affect how

Not getting enough shut-eye doesn’t just affect how your child feels and behaves, but also how the rest of the family copes. If everyone’s tired day after day it can put a real strain on almost every aspect of life.

That’s why this Greatvine booklet is jam-packed with invaluable advice and expert tips on how to encourage your child to sleep, from setting a calming bedtime routine; to how to get active toddlers to take afternoon naps; and how to get your child to fall asleep in their cot or bed rather than in your arms.

The specialists featured have many years of experience helping parents through the challenges

of getting their children to sleep. Ranging from experienced and respected child sleep experts to child psychologists, best-selling child sleep authors, parent coaches, nannies and health visitors, their gentle and supportive methods can really make the difference to you and your child.

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In this edition

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Meet the child sleep experts

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Expert Q&A with Jo Tantum

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Top tips for a better bedtime

Meet the

child sleep

experts

Talk with a top child sleep specialist, whenever you need

Talk with a top child sleep specialist, whenever you need Jo Tantum Author of ‘Baby Secrets’

Jo Tantum

Author of ‘Baby Secrets’ and the sleep expert for Prima Baby magazine, Jo knows that every parent can help their baby have a peaceful, happy night-time without resorting to an ultra- strict routine. She understands that when a baby can’t sleep it can bring chaos and despair to family life, and have negative effects on the whole household. Her research means she’s developed her own technique, known as ‘Spaced Soothing’. Not only does this teach babies to enjoy their sleep but it also helps parents understand their children better, and puts them

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back in control of their lives.

Jo’s presented an expert slot on GMTV and has also appeared

at the UK Baby Shows. Having

studied hundreds of sleeping patterns over the years, she’s seen first hand that every baby has their own, sometimes mysterious, way of letting their parents know what they really want and need. Talk with Jo on 0906 400 6222 - £1.50/min*. greatvine.com/jo-tantum

Linda Russell

A sleep specialist and parent coach,

Linda believes that sleep is the foundation to successful parenting. Without it, confidence disappears and relationships often become strained. She takes parents back to

when sleep first became an issue, then focuses on moving forwards. Linda is the founder and director

of her own sleep clinic based in Edinburgh and writes regularly for newspapers and magazines. Having trained as a nanny at the prestigious Norland College, Linda’s background is in nursery nursing and so her expertise comes from years of hands-on experience. Some of her areas of expertise include:

baby reflux; silent reflux; toddler night-time battles; bed hopping; new baby routines and constant

night feeding. Talk with Linda on 0906 400 6216 - £1.50/min*. greatvine.com/linda-russell

Brenda Hart With over 30 years of experience as a day nanny, night nanny and

Brenda Hart

With over 30 years of experience as a day nanny, night nanny and

a sleep specialist, Brenda prides

herself on being as enthusiastic about her work now as she was when she qualified in 1979. She knows from her experience with her own son’s sleep difficulties the difference that the right approach can make. That’s why she’s passionate about helping other families, and guarantees that if a child has sleep issues she’ll be able to get them sleeping through the night. Her guidance is straightforward, non- fussy, clear and concise. Talk with Brenda on 0905 675 4620 - £1.20 per/min*. greatvine.com/brenda-hart

0905 675 4620 - £1.20 per/min*. greatvine.com/brenda-hart Andrea Grace Health visitor and author of ‘Teach Yourself

Andrea Grace

Health visitor and author of ‘Teach Yourself Baby Sleep’, Andrea has

a 97% success rate in helping

parents get their children to sleep. She’s appeared as an expert on ITV’s ‘This Morning’, and in Mother & Baby magazine.

She specialises in gentle, child- centred techniques, which respect the values and parenting styles of each family. Having

a medical background and

training, she treats babies and children’s sleep problems in a safe and holistic way and takes into account a child’s nutritional, health and developmental status plus any family factors. Since leaving the NHS to set up a

private practice in 1999, Andrea has established herself as one

sleep routines to help settle babies into sleep. Arrange to

of

the country’s leading baby

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and children’s sleep experts, and her work is recognised

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by paediatricians, child health practitioners and health journalists. Arrange to talk with Andrea at: greatvine.com/ andrea-grace

Arrange to talk with Andrea at: greatvine.com/ andrea-grace Tizzie Hall Tizzie was given the nickname ‘The

Tizzie Hall

Tizzie was given the nickname ‘The Baby Whisperer’ when local parents

were amazed at her ability

to get their children to sleep.

Soon, all the mothers in her neighbourhood sought her out when they couldn’t calm or comfort their crying babies. Very

quickly she learned to read little ones’ body language and cries.

A successful baby coach, Tizzie’s

book ‘Save Our Sleep’ has been translated into four languages.

She’s also led sold-out parenting workshops, and makes expert

appearances on TV. Tizzie offers a collection of tried-and-tested solutions and tips based on many years of experience with babies and young children. She prefers not

to use the ‘controlled crying’

approach, but instead has devised set feeding, play and

approach, but instead has devised set feeding, play and Chireal Shallow Chireal is a psychologist and

Chireal Shallow

Chireal is a psychologist and sleep expert. She’s also a mum of four, and decided to study sleep techniques after the challenges she faced with her own children. Founder of the Naturally Nurturing Children’s Sleep Clinic, Chireal doesn’t believe children should be left to cry themselves

to sleep. She now trains other experts in her gentle methods. Underpinning her work is the belief that every child has a right to receive comfort, every parent has a right to demonstrate love, and everyone has a right to a

night of uninterrupted sleep! Chireal has appeared as an expert in Mother & Baby magazine. Arrange to talk with Chireal at: greatvine.com/chireal-shallow

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Author of the best-selling book ‘Baby Secrets’, sleep specialist Jo Tantum answers your questions

Expert Q & A

with Jo Tantum

My one-year-old only sleeps if I rock her or lie on the bed with her. She also wakes several times during the night. It’s exhausting – what can I do?

Your daughter thinks that the only way she can fall asleep is with your help, so you’re actually reinforcing this belief. You need to help her have the confidence to get to sleep alone. The easiest way to do this is to start with her daytime nap, as it’ll give her several chances to learn to fall asleep on her own before bedtime. Wait until she’s tired, but not overtired. Then take her upstairs where there’s soothing music playing and place her in her cot. Say, ‘Have a good nap!’ then leave the room. If she gets upset, wait for five minutes before you go in, listening for quiet gaps. When you go in, gently say ‘Ssshh’, stroke her head, and put your

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hand on her chest. Do this for one to two minutes and then leave the room. Continue this every five minutes. Don’t leave your baby for longer than 10 minutes before going in to soothe her. If she doesn’t settle after 30 minutes, get her up and try again later.

My two-year-old son sleeps well at night, but refuses to sleep during the day and is often tired and cranky by late afternoon. How can I persuade him to have an afternoon nap?

It can be hard to get an active toddler to have an afternoon nap, so set up a reward system. Each day he has a nap he gets a sticker on his chart, and if he does it four days out of five, he gets a small gift. When it’s nap-time, read a story then snuggle him down and remind him about the sticker or

gift. Tell him you’re just going to do something and you’ll be back in five

gift. Tell him you’re just going to do something and you’ll be back in five minutes to see if he’s doing well. Return five minutes later for a look. Continue this reward system for at least two weeks and you’ll soon be reaping the benefits.

After my 14-month-old son’s bath, he comes downstairs to have milk in front of the TV. But then he runs around and doesn’t seem tired at all. When he wears himself out he has a cuddle with us on the sofa and falls asleep. Later on we put him in his cot, but he wakes up at 2am and doesn’t go back to sleep. Can you help?

Your little boy is overtired and overstimulated by the TV. That’s why he runs around the room

– he’s tired but doesn’t know how to switch off.

A bedtime routine will help him wind down and

understand it’s time to go to sleep. Start at the same time every night. After his bath, get him ready for bed in his room, with low lights and soothing music. Give him his milk while reading a story, then settle him in his cot. If he wakes up during the night, go in and reassure him all is OK, then give him time to resettle himself.

When she was born three weeks ago, my baby slept anywhere. Now she doesn’t seem to sleep at all and when I try and settle her at night she screams for hours. I’m so tired. What can I do?

When your baby was first born she was happy to sleep all the time. But now she’s started to take an interest in the world. You need to put her down for naps somewhere quiet she can switch off. Use her nursery for daytime naps to get her used to the room. Close the curtains, swaddle her to stop the ‘startle’ reflex and leave her to sleep. She’ll only be able to stay awake for about an hour before she starts getting tired, so make sure you put her down as soon as you see any signs of tiredness like a short cry, staring into space or yawning.

My son is 11 weeks old. He goes to sleep fine at 7.30pm but wakes for good at 2.30am. I’ve now resorted to going to bed at 8.30pm, but I don’t see my partner at all. Can we do anything to help the situation?

Put your baby to bed as usual, but then at 11pm get your partner to change his nappy, which will wake the baby from sleep. He can then feed him

a bottle, also known as a ‘dream feed’. This is also

a perfect time for dad to have some bonding time

with his son. As you’ll be able to time your long sleep with your baby’s long sleep, this means you can stay up a little later to spend time with your partner.

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Top tips for a

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1 Your child only has

sleep issues if they’re

not getting enough sleep. Don’t compare their sleep patterns or

habits to your friends’ children. -Linda Russell

or habits to your friends’ children. -Linda Russell 2 Be reasonable with your expectations. You won’t

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Be reasonable with

your expectations. You won’t be able to turn your child’s sleeping habits around in a

night! It takes longer than that, so have patience. -Linda Russell

3

When planning

to put a sleep routine in place, aim for consistency. Start and end your child’s day at

the same time. -Linda Russell

4

Don’t let your child

fall asleep on the sofa or on your bed, only to transfer them to their bed later on. If you do

this they might wake up and panic. You may think they’re having a nightmare, but they’re not – they’re alarmed because they’ve woken in a strange place. -Andrea Grace

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You want your child to be tired,

but not overtired. If they’re beginning to drop their nap but not

able to make it to bedtime, don’t be tempted to give them a late afternoon catnap. Instead, bring bedtime forward or allow a short teatime nap but put them to bed later. -Andrea Grace

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Try not to rock

or feed your child to sleep. Instead, it’s best to give them a cuddle until they’re calm then

put them in their cot awake but drowsy. -Jo Tantum

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Start a simple

bedtime routine as soon as possible. A bath, a massage and a feed in the bedroom

will help relax them. -Jo Tantum

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If you’re starting a new sleep routine,

write a sleep diary for your child a week beforehand. Keep

the diary going while you try to improve your nights. This will help you see where the problem times are, and how to set sensible benchmarks. -Linda Russell

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Catnapping can be caused by hunger,

coldness or too little awake time. If you put your baby to bed at the

first sign of tiredness they might be tired enough to nap, but not tired enough to sleep. -Tizzie Hall

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Once you go through for

bath time, don’t come back into the living area.

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Always feed your baby until they’re full.

Never restrict the amount of breast

or formula milk you give them. -Tizzie Hall

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Don’t change your baby’s nappy in the

night after 11pm unless it’s dirty. It will wake them up too much, and make it harder for them to resettle. -Jo Tantum

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Make sure your baby’s warm

enough to sleep safely and well. Too little bedding

can cause an older child to roll to the unsafe sleeping position of their tummy. -Tizzie Hall

Your routine should be bath, pyjamas, stories, feed, then into bed. -Linda Russell

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