499110244 E2C Wiki Hsu Should a parent be a childs disciplinarian, or a childs best friend?

Take a position and explain your answer using specific reasons and examples. What kind of relationship between parents and children? How to keep and strengthen the bond between parents and their kids has been the important issue for every parent in the world. To most parents, the job of them is to protect, guide, nurture, and discipline if necessary, to ensure their child has the skills and mindset he or she needs to function well as an independent adult. To put it another way, a kid has lots of friends of he or her own age; what he or she needs is a responsible adult. In other hands, for children, they should have many other friends, but will only have a few figures that can help them grow in to responsible adults. Children should have many other friends, but will only have a few figures that can help them grow into responsible adults. It is not easy for parents to be a friend with their daughter and son on account of the huge generation gats usually make some misunderstands between them. However, did you ever ponder why and what the generation gats would be exist between parent and child? If you are a mother or father, why you have to punish your kids? Do any mother and father really acquaint their kids with consideration and empathy? There are different ways to educate different kids in the different ages. I agree parent be appropriate disciplinarians when their kids are nonage especially for school age of kids because the nonage did not have enough ability to shoulder responsibility in low. Parent absolutely should be powerful to educate their child what is right and what is wrong. How to distinguish right from wrong is the most important thing they have to learn. When children are young, parent can be serious disciplinarians to teach them in a prompt and effective ways. Besides, in order to set the traditional moralities, rule and standards, parent can do some disciplines to hence their impression. For instance, my mother told my brother how to not wet on the bed when he was six years but admonishment and expostulation is not at work. Therefore, my Mom try to make some rule and do some punish on my brother such like no watching TV if he is bed-wetting again or being grounded in his free time. Step by step, my brother in order to enjoy his free time he ask and train himself. Furthermore, I also got a lesson at elementary school when my classmates cheat and lie in the English class. John, my neighbor, a naughty boy has trouble in writing English class so that he took out the book when we have English exam. However, he lied and argued speciously when he

was caught, not admitting his fault even be arrogant to quibbled for his mistake. After persuade and exhort, his father had done serious corporal punishment until John confessed. In on other hands, physical punishment should conduct in the suitable way. Their mind would be heart if the punishments are too over and too much. Parents have difficulty playing both disciplinarians and friends in childrens life especially when they are in the adolescence. Parents should teach them some correct concept in appropriate ways; otherwise, the disciplinarians would not be closed with growing kids. For instance, there is Jims diary on the blog, a naughty boy express his life and mood. Jim share lots of negative ideas on it even want to fight with his mother, Susan, one day as soon as possible due to her violent education. Susan put lots stress on Jim, hardly giving him encouragement because she considers Jim is too naughty to concentrate on the class and doing homework. In order to enhance her Jims ability on reading and studying, Susan hit the child by rough rattan as punishment when Jim got the fault even on their public corridor of lodgings. Over-disciplined parent also brings about more trouble and tense to their relationship with children. However, most parents are blind and lost; they did not find the real problem on themselves. It is difficult for parent to change their mind and way so that the feeling and thinking of kids always have been ignored. We can search for more and more blog like Jims on the Internet easily but it is hard to find the blog about parents reflection of their teaching ways for kids. Most parent take their child as adult, expecting them can overcome ever difficulty and obstacle by own self at full blast. Similarly, Susan is a real example, she ask her son to win all the game and do all the best in all the time, even though Jim just sevens. She never ponder what kind capability can Jim burden and how many pressure can he endure. Besides, Susan also leaves the support and compliments out of consideration when Jim improve more and do much better. Therefore, Jim became a pessimistic boy, looking anything at a black side. For example, Jim told Susan he got the A in the Chinese class last week, trying to show his good perform to Susan. He hope to earn some compliments form his mother but Susan ask him to get the A next time and forbid Jim watching TV in his free time on a account of the pool A grade. Jims dairy expresses his sorrow and grief, the each extremely word show the deep dread and fear. Because Jim had suffered from the terrible teaching way in his childhood, he became the negative person after. To most learner especially children, the encouragements and prices from their father and mother is the most useful motive to make them move on step by step, rewards and support always can promote their interest and confidence a lot. However, in other sides, lot of families there's a lot more in common. Kids are watching the same shows as their parents, listening to the same music. But as a result,

there's this really fine line that's being crossed. It's good to be friends with your kids, but the best friend -- being involved in everything -- it's a little dangerous. "You're never at the same level at your kid. As a parent, there's a power differential. I don't ask my friends to buy the dress from the store. I ask my friends to talk to me about the problems in my life. I don't ask my friends to tell them what to do all the time as I might ask my mom. There's a difference. There's a boundary issue there. Once it's crossed it's really hard to go back." So how do we know if we're crossing that line from parent to friend? For some parent they have different thinking of being friend with their children. "It's a tough thing and you want to take a step back and ask, 'Why do I want to be my child's friend? Why do I want this friendship? Do I need something from my child? Is it giving me more than it's giving them?' That's the first thing. There is a purely emotional part of the relationship between parent and kids that is built on affection and esteem. Parents and children are genetically geared to love each other, and its a beautiful thing to behold. For parent, it makes them become too nervous and anxious to change their level to talk to kids. For example, Friends Dont Let Friends Not Do Their Homework. I want to draw an important distinction for you here. In the end, you can be your childs friendjust not his confidante. The key is having a responsible friendship with your child. You know the saying, Friends dont let friends drive drunk? Well, friends dont let friends not do their homework. Friends dont let friends make excuses for failure. Friends dont let friends badmouth the teacher and defy the rules in the classroom. The type of friend you need to be to your child is a responsible friend and the model of responsible friendship is identical to the model of responsible parenting. Can Parents be Best-friends with their Children? I have heard many parents express they are childs best friend and their child is mine as well. Is it possible for parents to be their children's best friends? Can a sense of authority be maintained in such relationships and, at the same time, take disciplinary actions towards the child or children when needed? I believe that any good parent would have his/her children's best interest at heart and would do almost anything to maintain the well-being of the children. But I cannot fathom that it is possible for parents and their children or for an adult and a child, to be best friends. This is not a realistic concept for good parental care. Neither is it reasonable for an adult to be best friends with a child. What would they talk about? What adult activities could they have in common? Children need a figure of authority that is capable of teaching them right from wrong. That is almost the very meaning of parents. Sometimes children need tough love and discipline. They also need unconditional love for life. I'm sure many have tried to be best friends with their children and many have failed. There is a line that should be drawn and not

crossed in parenting children. Should a parent be a childs disciplinarian, or a childs best friend? As above, I do not agree to be childs best friend because the relationship became more unequal and unnecessary. Parents have responsibility to raise their kids up, also teach them many correct values. Successful parents can lead child to think and chose good answers to the questions in their life because its necessary for children to learn, growing up and also become an adult even a good father or mother in his or her childrens life. Suitable disciplinarians for kids are equal to the soul master in childrens life. Disciplinarians not only have duty to set some rule to teach kids moreover to tell the reason to children why they be punished. For more traditional, most parents forbid their kids not doing some or warn them something is terrible but do not give them the example or experience. In other words, it is not enough for child to satisfy their curiosity so that they would try to do something. Parent had to be a sample or let them know how the serious and ridiculous the consequence is and let their kids to chose and make a decision by themselves because its the most important step to cultivate childrens responsibility. Therefore, on the one hands, parent can play the suitable disciplinarians in their childrens life when they are not 20 and guild them to find the way they fit. On the other hands, when children grow up and become the adult even also have a kid in their life, parent have not only been a disciplinarians but to company them and share the idea, boarding their horizon to enjoy and live in this life just like the soul master.