Beruflich Dokumente
Kultur Dokumente
is
not
comprehensive,
because
it
excludes
an
important
part
of
the
identities
of
the
persons
involved.
Therefore
to
change
the
legal
definition
of
marriage
to
include
same-sex
couples
would
legislate
a
falsehood
as
well
as
obscure
the
moral
truth
about
marriage.
Governments
who
seek
to
please
the
vocal
but
minority
gay
lobby
by
promoting
their
same-sex
equality
agenda
fail
to
realize
that
in
the
process
they
are
undermining
the
norms
of
sexual
relationships
recognized
by
the
vast
majority
of
human
beings
down
the
ages
whatever
the
shortcomings
of
those
who
fail
to
live
up
to
the
norms
of
life-long
commitment
to
faithful
monogamy.
Rather
than
bringing
in
a
brave
new
world
of
justice
and
equality
to
an
under-privileged
minority,
the
government
that
introduces
same-sex
marriage
will
eventually
bring
shame
upon
itself
when
society
realizes
the
loss
of
what
was
formerly
contributed
to
the
common
good
by
the
ages
old
institution
of
conjugal
marriage.
Many
dimensions
of
the
common
good
relating
to
childrens
welfare,
to
the
couples
stability,
and
to
freedom
of
expression
would
be
threatened.
We
need
a
public
policy
that
serves
the
common
good
by
reinforcing
traditional
family
life
Terri
Kelleher,
writing
in
the
Australian
Family
Association
Journal
(Vol.32
No.2,
2011) rightly
observes:
Advocates
of
so
called
same-sex
marriage
claim
that
justice
requires
recognizing
the
equality
of
any
loving
faithful
relationship
to
that
of
a
traditional
marriage;
they
believe
that
marriage
can,
and
should,
be
extended
to
include
same-sex
couples.
This
however
begs
the
question
of
what
is
meant
by
marriage.
While
the
push
to
legalize
such
same-sex
marriages
has
the
powerful
backing
of
leaders
in
government,
what
is
being
proposed
actually
lacks
credibility
both
logically
and
on
pragmatic
grounds,
and
all
this
irrespective
of
any
arguments
based
on
religious
premises.
Any
law,
however,
does
not
change
marriage
itself,
especially
if
it
is
based
on
a
false
conception
of
what
marriage
entails.
What
is
at
stake
is:
what
do
we
mean
by
marriage?
And
on
what
grounds,
if
any,
should
we
change
a
meaning
generally
accepted
by
civilizations
down
the
ages?
The comprehensive heterosexual union alone is oriented to child bearing and rearing children, and is consequently oriented to permanence and exclusivity. For although public policy should not disregard the desires or needs of individuals, it must primarily serve the common good. Marriage law currently does so by fortifying that unique relationship which is naturally oriented towards bringing forth children. At a time when family dislocation weighs with increasing severity on families, we need public policy which reinforces, rather than undermines, the importance of mums and dads sticking together in a spirit of service to one another, to their children, and to the communities in which they live.
The
situation
is
well
expressed
in
another
context
by
a
dialogue
in
Lewis
Carrolls
Through
the
Looking
Glass:
When I use a word, Humpty Dumpty said in rather a scornful tone, It means just what I choose it to mean neither more nor less." "The question is," said Alice, "whether you can make words mean so many different things." "The question is," said Humpty Dumpty, "which is to be master that's all."
Marriage,
as
it
stands,
makes
a
lot
of
sense.
Lets
keep
it
that
way!
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Some will indeed argue that marriage is a social/legal construct created by convention, with society deciding what components constitute its nature and thus what defines its meaning. Others recognize marriage as a given human good a moral reality independent of custom, expressing a fundamental relationship at the heart of what it means to be human.
Who
is
right?
Truth
rarely
lies
in
plausible
slogans
and
the
short
superficial
sound
bites
beloved
of
the
media.
Truth
is
more
complex,
being
mined
by
well-developed
arguments
sourced
from
logic,
commonsense
and
the
experience
of
the
ages.
(Men
and
women
of
faith
can
draw
upon
further
evidence
in
their
scriptures
and
traditions,
though
we
are
not
drawing
upon
such
data
here,
lest
charges
of
religious
bigotry
be
raised
by
any
disposed
to
dismiss
out
of
court
the
total
argument
before
it
can
be
sufficiently
developed.)
It
is
clear
that
same-sex
marriage
is
an
important
part
of
this
agenda,
whose
protagonists
are
out
to
challenge
every
traditional
belief
about
marriage,
sexual
behaviour
and
even
gender,
so
that
they
can
reshape
our
society
according
to
their
own
radical
ideology
As
Wall
Street
Journal
columnist
Robert
Bork
wrote
back
in
2001,
One
of
the
last
obstacles
to
the
complete
normalization
of
homosexuality
in
our
society
is
the
understanding
that
marriage
is
the
union
of
a
man
and
a
woman.
Michelangelo
Signorile,
another
prominent
gay
activist,
is
quoted
in
the
Harvard
Journal
article
as
urging:
Same-sex
couples
should
fight
for
same-sex
marriage
and
its
benefits
and
then,
once
granted,
redefine
the
institution
of
marriage
completely,
[because]
the
most
subversive
action
lesbians
and
gay
men
can
undertake
.
.
.
is
to
transform
the
notion
of
family
entirely.
Same
sex
marriage
a
minority
demand
Clear
thinking
is
required
that
involves
first
comparing
like
categories
with
like
and
then
distinguishing
between
matters
frequently
confused,
such
as
equality
and
equivalence.
Thus
while
we
might
talk
of
the
equality
of
homosexuals
and
heterosexuals
as
fellow
human
beings,
there
can
be
no
marital
equivalence
when
considering
the
nature
of
their
sexual
relationships
one
group
without
innate
potential
for
coitus,
the
other
with
such
potential.
Note
that
to
deny
such
equivalence
is
no
more
discriminatory
than
to
object
to
a
definition
of
motherhood
that
includes
men!
It
is
a
fallacy,
then,
to
assume
that
making
distinctions
is
always
discriminatory.
Thus,
in
law,
distinctions
are
made
as
to
whom
each
law
applies,
Those
who
maintain
that
conjugal
union
is
a
distinctive
characteristic
of
marriage
should
not
be
portrayed
as
discriminating
against
gays
because
they
point
out
that
gays
are
ineligible
for
marriage
by
virtue
of
being
naturally
incapable
of
such
a
union.
It
is
not
simply
a
matter
of
expanding
the
pool
of
people
eligible
for
marriage
to
let
in
homosexuals,
as
a
golf
club
might
be
persuaded
to
admit
ladies
into
membership
without
affecting
the
nature
of
golf.
After
all
we
rightly
discriminate
between
trained
doctors
and
quacks
to
ensure
our
health
and
safety;
similarly,
by
discriminating
against
same-sex
marriage,
in
favour
of
conjugal
marriage,
we
believe
we
are
preserving
the
health
and
stability
of
society.
The
homosexual
community
is
a
minority
group
that
packs
a
media
punch
far
out
of
proportion
to
its
numerical
strength.
According
to
latest
scientific
evidence
less
than
1%
of
men
are
life- long
homosexuals.
Only
a
small
fraction
of
gay
people
are
in
any
sense
monogamous
or
committed
for
life
to
each
other.
Why
should
such
a
small
but
vocal
minority
be
allowed
to
rewrite
the
definition
and
law
of
marriage
for
99%
of
the
total
population?
A
study
sympathetic
to
the
gay
agenda
by
Lubin
/
Duncan
concludes,
The
resistance
to
same-sex
marriage
is
not
limited
to
Western
culture
with
its
age-old
anti-homosexual
hysteria
and
bigotry,
but
extends
to
almost
every
culture
throughout
the
world.
Conclusion
To
those
who
demand
their
equal
right
to
the
status
of
marriage,
we
would
point
out
that
while
everyone
has
the
right
to
marry,
that
right
is
not
unrestricted
as
to
who
they
marry:
for
example,
no
father
has
a
natural
right
to
marry
his
daughter.
It
would
be
ludicrous
to
claim
equal
right
to
her
when
compared
with
another
(unrelated)
candidate
for
her
hand.
Indeed
he
has
no
right
at
all.
Same
sex
marriage
is
an
empty
pretense
lacking
the
fundamental
sexual
complementarity
of
male
and
female.
Like
all
counterfeits,
it
cheapens
and
degrades
the
real
thing.
Marriage
creates
the
most
important
relationship
in
life
and
has
more
to
do
with
peoples
morals
and
civilization
than
any
other
institution.
It
is
a
comprehensive
union
that
involves
the
complete
sharing
of
every
aspect
of
the
lives
of
the
two
persons
involved,
including
bodily
union.
A
union
that
does
not
include
such
a
bodily
The
state,
however,
would
no
longer
reinforce
this
notion
that
children
need
both
a
mother
and
father;
that
men
and
women
in
general
bring
different
gifts
to
the
job
of
parenting.
Parents
in
a
traditional
marriage
also
would,
by
implication,
be
affected
with
regard
to
what
they
tell
their
children
about
same-sex
marriages.
For
once
a
conjugal
understanding
of
marriage
is
scrapped
and,
by
implication,
same-sex
and
other-sex
unions
are
to
be
regarded
as
equivalent
marriages,
the
state
would
have
to
view
those
who
still
support
conjugal-marriage
as
the
only
real
form
of
marriage
as
bigots
who
make
groundless
and
discriminatory
distinctions.
This
would
consequently
restrict
the
rights
of
parents
to
teach
their
children
a
traditional
view
of
marriage.
Conjugal
marriage
union
is
crucially
different
to
same-sex
union
in
that
it
unites
a
couple
bodily
in
its
conjugal
acts
as
a
reproductive
unit,
whether
or
not
children
are
consequently
born.
This
inherent
orientation
to
the
bearing
and
rearing
of
children
contributes
to
marriages
distinctive
purpose
(continuance
of
a
stable
human
society,
of
which
the
family
is
a
microcosm),
structure
(mother,
father
and
child)
and
patterns
of
behaviour
(such
norms
as
permanence,
monogamy
and
fidelity).
In
so
far
as
church
leaders
would
be
gagged
and
not
permitted
to
criticize
same-sex
marriage
in
their
public
ministry,
it
would
undermine
religious
freedom
of
conscience.
For
if
marriage
is
legally
redefined,
believing
what
every
human
society
once
believed
about
marriagenamely,
that
it
is
a
male-female
union
will
increasingly
be
regarded
as
evidence
of
moral
insanity,
prejudice,
or
hatred.
This
would
induce
not
merely
'political
correctness'
but
something
approaching
totalitarianism
where
no
dissent
will
be
tolerated.
Thus
in
the
name
of
tolerance
gross
intolerance
will
reign
supreme.
Gay
Activists
agenda
Advocates
of
same-sex
marriage
understand
it
is
essentially
as
an
emotional
union,
an
affirmation
of
love
between
two
individuals.
Since
it
cannot
be
linked
to
organic
bodily
union,
it
is
about
the
union
of
two
people
(of
whatever
sex
either
may
be)
who
commit
to
loving
and
caring
for
each
other
and
to
sharing
the
burdens
and
benefits
of
domestic
life.
It
is
essentially
a
limited
union
of
hearts
and
minds,
augmented
by
sexual
intimacy.
It
cannot
also
be
a
union
of
bodies
since
coitus
is
impossible.
In
this
way
it
lacks
marital
comprehensiveness.
Marriage
is
far
more
than
two
people
contracting
to
love
and
care
for
each
other
for
life.
These
two
views
of
what
constitutes
marriage
are
incompatible.
Legal
rulings
may
call
same-sex
relationships
marriage,
and
the
state
may
confer
the
status,
title
and
benefits
of
marriage
on
same- sex
unions,
but
in
reality
it
cannot
make
them
marital
any
more
than
it
can
alter
the
natures
of
masculinity
and
femininity
themselves.
Two
decades
ago
Paula
Ettelbrick
stated:
Being
queer
means
pushing
the
parameters
of
sex,
sexuality,
and
family,
and
...
transforming
the
very
fabric
of
society.
Peter
Tatchell,
one
of
gay
activisms
leading
campaigners,
once
provided
a
clear
insight
into
the
original
ambitions
of
the
Gay
Liberation
Front
when
he
wrote:
GLFs
strategy
for
queer
emancipation
was
to
change
societys
values
and
norms,
rather
than
adapt
to
them.
We
sought
a
cultural
revolution
to
overturn
centuries
of
male
heterosexual
domination
and
thereby
free
both
queers
and
women.
GLFs
gender
agenda
has
been
partly
won.
In a same-sex union the characteristics of only one gender are contributing to the couples relational development and stability, where heterosexual couples have the advantage of both genders input. A lack of reproductive connection also ensures that any family created is by an adoptive process, rather than a biological one; its lack of gender complementarity reflects more seriously on the childrens experience of parenthood, where only one gender provides a role model and where parental characteristics for rearing are limited to the one gender. Extensive studies have shown that boys and girls need and tend to benefit from fathers and mothers in different ways. In fact according to the best available sociological evidence children fare best on virtually every indicator of wellbeing when it is their wedded biological parents who bring them up.
The
childrens
welfare
points
to
why
marriage
understood
as
the
conjugal
union
of
husband
and
wife
is
crucial
for
the
good
of
society
and
should
be
recognized,
regulated
and
preserved
by
the
state.
The
contributors
to
the
Harvard
Journal
of
Law
and
Public
Policy
point
out
prudential
reasons
for
the
state
to
enshrine
this
understanding
of
marriage
in
its
positive
law,
and
to
resist
the
call
to
recognize
as
marriages
the
sexual
unions
of
same-sex
partners
Enshrining
the
moral
truth
of
marriage
in
law
is
crucial
for
securing
the
great
social
benefits
served
by
real
marriage.
Further,
The
states
favored
conception
of
marriage
matters
because
it
affects
societys
understanding
of
that
institution.
Marriage
creates
the
most
important
relationship
in
life
and
has
more
to
do
with
peoples
morals
and
civilization
than
any
other
institution.
It
involves
moral
privileges
and
obligations
between
people
that
go
far
beyond
the
interests
of
the
couple
themselves
to
include
the
maintenance
of
stability
and
nurture
for
children.
Developing
healthy
family
relationships
prepare
all
concerned
for
responsible
citizenship,
a
good
that
is
in
the
states
interest
to
promote.
The
marriage
norms
of
fidelity,
permanence
and
respect
for
the
opposite
sex,
learnt
in
a
monogamous
heterosexual
family
household,
all
make
for
a
healthier
society.
Endorsing
same-sex
marriages
as
essentially
an
emotional
union
of
committed
couples
would
obscure
peoples
understanding
about
what
truly
marital
union
involves
as
well
as
tend
to
increase
marital
instability
by
focusing
on
parents
happiness
rather
than
childrens
well-being.
In
redefining
marriage,
the
law
would
teach
that
marriage
is
fundamentally
about
adults
emotional
unions,
not
bodily
union
or
children,
and
therefore
not
much
different
from
ordinary
friendships
in
general
that
do
not
require
permanency
or
exclusivity.
This
in
turn
would
confuse
peoples
understanding
of
what
marriage
relationships
entail.
Lessen
marital
stability
by
stressing
emotional
ties
rather
than
bodily
bonds
By
focusing
on
the
mood
of
the
moment
rather
than
either
the
bodily
bond
(one
flesh
union)
that
has
been
created
or
the
long-term
responsibilities
for
rearing
children,
marital
stability
would
be
lessened.
The
Harvard
writers
warn
that
rather
than
imposing
traditional
norms
on
homosexual
relationships,
abolishing
the
conjugal
conception
of
marriage
would
tend
to
erode
the
basis
for
those
norms
in
any
relationship.
They
document
gay
activists
ambitions:
by
recognizing
same-sex
unions,
to
make
marriage
ever
after
stand
for
sexual
choice,
for
cutting
the
link
between
sex
and
diapers;
their
onslaught
on
monogamy:
to
use
such
legal
recognition
to
de- normalize
heterosexual
monogamy
as
a
way
of
life
for
the
sake
of
rectifying
past
discrimination
against
homosexuals,
bisexuals,
polygamists,
and
care
networks;
and
their
promotion
of
open
relationships:
There
is
more
likely
to
be
greater
understanding
of
the
need
for
extramarital
outlets
between
two
men
than
between
a
man
and
a
woman.
Such
statements,
though
possibly
extreme,
alert
us
to
real
dangers
in
the
change
of
attitudes
and
mores
that
many
revisionists
approvingly
expect
same-sex
marriage
to
produce.
Children
of
same-sex
parents,
even
though
cared
for
lovingly
and
sacrificially
in
a
family
context,
would
still
be
deprived
of
either
a
mother
or
a
father,
since
no
mother
can
be
a
father
nor
any
man
a
mother.
Indeed
it
has
been
argued
that
to
deprive
a
child
voluntarily
and
unnecessarily
of
either
a
mother
or
a
father
is
contrary
to
the
childs
fundamental
rights
and
best
interests.
(See
Margaret
Somerville
(2007)
Childrens
Human
Rights
and
Unlinking
Child- Parent
Bonds
With
Adoption,
Same-Sex
Marriage,
and
New
Reproductive
Technologies,
Journal
of
Family
Studies)
As has already been stated, research strongly confirms what is obvious: that parents brought up by their own mother and father do better in educational achievement, emotional health and psychological development; their personal and social behaviour is also better than those reared in one parent or samesex parent families. (See The Witherspoon Institute (2008) Marriage and the Public Good: Ten Principles).