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We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak. ~ Epictetus

Of the time spent communicating each day, 45% is devoted to listening. Usually a person only remembers about 50% of what is said to them. After eight hours they forget another 1/2 to 1/3 of what was originally grasped.

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So that means you typically forget about what you hear.

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Why is listening important?

Listening will help you in School Relationships Social groups & organizations Making informed decisions On the job

FACT or FICTION??
Listening and hearing are the same thing. Hearing is the first step but doesnt mean you understand what you hear. Listening is easy.

Listening is a complex process that requires energy, effort, and skills.

The speaker is primarily responsible for the message sent. Speaker and listener share the responsibility. A listener may have to make up for a senders lack of ability.

Steps in the listening process

Your knowledge, attitudes, values, beliefs and self-concept influences your perception. Your own needs, interests, attitudes, and knowledge affects your choice to pay attention.

You first respond emotionally, then intellectually. Then you decide how to respond.

Responding
Your reaction to the message. It can be emotional and intellectual.

Understanding
Deciding what the message means to you.

Not everyone hears the same way. Men actually prefer certain frequencies.

Choosing
The act of choosing to focus attention on the message.

Hearing
The reception of sound.

Definition of listening: It is a physical and psychological process that involves choosing to listen, understanding, and responding to symbolic messages from others.

Noise Internal and external distractions

Examples: outside sounds, distracting thoughts

Barriers Blocks listening/understanding.

Unfamiliar language, anger, attitudes, biases, needs, beliefs, fear, hearing problems, tuning out, stress, ignorance, prejudices, tired.

Memory 3 types
Immediate Recalling information for a brief period of time. Short term Recalling information for carrying out a routine or daily task. Long term Recalling information from past experience.

The average person speaks at a rate of about 150 words per minute. Listeners, however, can understand messages presented at a rate of 380 words per minute. Often that lag time causes listeners to let their minds wander. You have to learn to focus your attention on the message.

Active listener The listener participates fully in the communication process. You listen attentively, provide feedback, and strive to understand and remember messages. Passive listener The listener does not actively participate in interactions. They think they can absorb information even when they do not contribute to the interaction. They place the responsibility for successful communication on the speaker. Impatient listener Short bursts of active listening are interrupted by noise and other distractions. They intend to pay attention, but allow their minds to wander.

Apply what you hear to yourself.

Relate the information to your personal experience. Use your own knowledge to understand new information. Imagine using the information in the future.

Think as you listen

Summarize and review throughout a presentation.

Use associations
Picture things in your mind see it Use mnemonic devices rhyme, acronym, etc.

Take notes
Do not write every word paraphrase; focus on key phrases. Use the same method for taking notes.

Give feedback
Show others you are listening with body language and eye contact and ask questions.

Listening for fun.

Used in social situations like concerts, plays or sporting events. Goal is enjoyment and helps a person to relax. Listening to enjoy or appreciate a speakers message or performance.

Used when listening to lectures in class.

Used when listening to announcements or getting directions. Used when you need to remember something important. Listening to comprehend ideas and information in order to achieve a specific purpose or goal.

Kinds of Listening
Listening to understand, participate and enhance a relationship. Usually used in interactions between two people or a small group. Goal is to develop understanding and appreciation of the meanings & feelings of sender. You try to put yourself in another persons place, but not necessarily agree with them. Listening to understand, analyze, and evaluate messages. Used when receiving and evaluating persuasive messages. Use when you must make decisions. It should make you think.

1. Tuning out dull topics.

Many listeners decide early on that a topic is simply not interesting. However, it has been said that there are no uninteresting subjects, only uninterested people. Dont be a lazy listener! Remedy Listen for something you want or need. You can always

find something of value in what another person is saying.

2. Faking attention.
Its no sin to be courteous, but sometimes we take manners to an unfortunate extreme. When we find someones conversation boring, but are too polite (or afraid) to risk offending the person, we pretend to pay attention, though our minds are a thousand miles away. Remedy Sincerely pay attention. Lean forward, maintain good eye

contact, react in a natural way with smiles or nods, ask questions. Good listening is not passive it takes energy to listen!

3. Yielding to distractions.
Outside noises or movements often affect our concentration. A window drops shut, someone sneezes, a book falls to the floor. All too often, we give our attention to the hubbub of activity around us instead of the speaker in front of us. Remedy Choose a suitable environment to have conversations.

Learn to ignore the distractions and dont become a distraction.

4. Criticizing delivery or physical appearance.

Many people abandon their good listening habits when they become overly critical of the speakers physical appearance or delivery. Regardless of who the speaker is, the content of his/her message is always far more important than the form of his/her delivery. Remedy Pay attention to what is said, not how. Be generous

enough to overlook difficulties the speaker is having.

5. Jumping to conclusions.
Be patient. We often think that we know what a person is going to say before they have even finished speaking. Occasionally, we are biased toward a speaker and so we close our minds to the speakers message before we have heard it in its entirety. Remedy Dont judge before you have heard the whole message.

Hear the speaker out. Understand their point of view fully before accepting or rejecting it.

6. Interrupting.
Do you spend most of your listening time actually listening or do you spend it thinking about what you want to say? Interrupting someone is an almost certain sign that you dont know or care about what the other person is saying. Remedy Take time to think about what is being said before

responding. Wait for an opening. Put yourself in their shoes.

7. Overreacting to emotional words.

We will react from time to time to certain words or phrases that push our hot buttons. At such times, we might experience a strong emotional reaction that blocks out your ability to listen. We might let our thoughts wander on to other subjects, blocking the speakers message from our minds, or we might start to lay plans to trap the speaker in some way. Remedy Stay calm. Finish listening. Dont let a mere symbol for

something stand between you and learning. Think before responding.