Beruflich Dokumente
Kultur Dokumente
To speak and to speak well are two things. A fool may talk, but a wise man speaks.
~Ben Jonson
We were given two ears but only one mouth. This is because God knew that listening was twice as hard as talking.
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Listening Facts
75% of the time we are distracted, preoccupied or forgetful.
We remember only 50%of material immediately after hearing it and only 35% after 8 hours. Less than 2% of people have had formal
feelings, thoughts, & beliefs are being communicated and accepts it as the persons own.
The listener feeds back only what they believe the
senders message meant - nothing more, nothing less. It involves feedback and verification that the receiver correctly understood the senders message.
nonverbal. Ask open-ended questions. Reflect back to the speaker what you think you are hearing.
themselves, to be heard.
Listening reduces stress and tension Listening is the most powerful form
by companies and government, is a signal of respect. When people dont feel listened to, they dont feel respected. And when they dont feel respected, they feel anger and resentment. This resentment is exacerbated if people think youre pretending to listen but arent. Hugo Powell
Encouragement
The purpose is to convey interest and to keep
the person talking. To do this dont agree or disagree. Use noncommittal words in a positive tone of voice. I see uh-huh Thats interesting What did you say then? What did he say when you said that?
Restating
The purpose is to show that you are listening
and understanding. To do this, restate the others basic ideas using your own words. If I understand you, you are saying In other words, your decision is
Reflecting
The purpose is to show that you are listening
and understand what they are feeling. To do this restate the others basic feeling. You feel that You were pretty disturbed by this
Summarizing
together, to establish a basis for further discussion and to review progress. To do this restate, reflect and summarize major ideas and feelings. These seem to be the key ideas you have expressed If I understand you, you feel this way about the situation
Deep listening is miraculous for both listener and speaker. When someone receives us with open-hearted, nonjudging, intensely interested listening, our spirits expand.