The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens

From the Book of Sean Covey

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HABIT #1 HABIT #2 HABIT #3 HABIT #4 HABIT #5 HABIT #6 HABIT #7 Take responsibility for your life. Define your mission and goals in life. Prioritize and do the most important things first. Have an everyone can win attitude. Listen to people sincerely. Work together to achieve more. Renew yourself regularly.

GET IN THE HABIT

HABITS 1,2,3 = private victory = Self-mastery HABITS 4,5,6 = public victory = relationships and teamwork HABIT 7 = renewal which feeds the 6 other habits

GET IN THE HABIT

The 7 Habits can help you: Get control of your life Improve your relationships with your friends Make smarter decisions Get along with your parents Overcome addiction Define your values and what matters most to you

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Get more done in less time Increase your self-confidence Be happy Find balance between school, work, friends and everything else.

What should be the center of my life?

Principle-Centered: The real thing. They cant be bought or sold, they arent religious, they are not for discussion. If you break them, you will fail. If you will live by them, you will excel. Honesty, service, hard work, respect, gratitude, moderation, fairness, integrity, loyalty and responsibility.

Baby-steps
Show appreciation for someones point of view. When you have nothing to do, what is it that occupies your thoughts? Remember, whatever is most important to you will become your life-center Begin today to treat others the way you would want them to treat you

The next time you are in a tough situation, ask yourself what principle should I apply? now follow that principle and dont look back

THE PERSONAL BANK ACCOUNT

Im starting with the man in the mirror Im asking him to change his ways And no message could have been any clearer If you wanna make the world a better place Take a look at yourself and then make a change.

THE PERSONAL BANK ACCOUNT

Symptoms of poor bank account: You cave in to peer pressure easily You wrestle with feelings of depression and inferiority Youre overly concerned about what others think of you You get jealous easily, esp. when someone close to you succeeds

THE PERSONAL BANK ACCOUNT

Symptoms of healthy bank account: You stand up for yourself and resist peer pressure Youre not overly concerned about being popular You see life as a generally positive experience You trust yourself You are goal driven You are happy for the successes of others

THE PERSONAL BANK ACCOUNT

Deposits Keep promises to yourself Do small acts of kindness Be gentle with yourself Be honest Renew yourself Tap into your talents

THE PERSONAL BANK ACCOUNT

Withdrawals Break personal promises Keep to yourself Beat yourself up Be dishonest Wear yourself out Neglect your talents

PROACTIVE PEOPLE
Are not easily offended Take responsibility for their choices Think before they act Bounce back when something bad happens Always find a way to make it happen Focus on things they can do something about, and dont worry about things they cant

A PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT

Would you tell me please which way I ought to walk from here? That depends a good deal on where you want to get to. said the Cat I dont much care where- said Alice. Then I doesnt matter which way to walk, said the Cat. From Alice in Wonderland

A PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT

Qualities for a Relationship/Future Spouse: 1. Respect 2. Unconditional love 3. Honesty 4. Loyalty 7. Fun/good sense of humor 8. Makes me laugh everyday 9. Will make me feel whole 10. Good with children

5. Will support me in my goals in life

6. Righteous 11. Good listener 12. Will want the best for me

Make your life extraordinary

Since your destiny is yet to be determined, why not make it extraordinary and leave a lasting legacy? Life is a mission, not a career. A career is a profession. A mission is a cause. A career asks what is in it for me? A mission asks, How can I make a difference? Most of us will never do great things. But we can do small things in a great way. educator Maren Mouritsen

Baby steps
Review your mission statement everyday for 30 days (thats how long it takes to develop a habit). Let it guide you in all your decisions.

Would I want to marry someone like me? If not, work to develop your talents, abilities, interests.

Habit 3: Learning to prioritize

Pick up a planner Plan weekly Time management plus overcoming fear and peer pressure Identify your biggest time-wasters

Habit 3: Learning to prioritize

Courage Zone Things I am afraid of; things Ive never tried; hard moments; ultimate potential; Unexplored territory; risk; things that are difficult; opportunity; bravery; higher duty; adventure Comfort Zone Things I enjoy doing; relaxation; safety & security; ease; surety; freedom from risk; things Im accustomed to

The Relationship Bank Account

Lifes most urgent question is: What are you doing for others? Martin Luther King Deposits Withdrawals

Keep promises Do small acts of kindness Be loyal Listen Say youre sorry Set clear expectations

Break promises Keep to yourself Gossip & break confidences Dont listen Be arrogant Set false expectations

The Relationship Bank Account

You see life as a competition and winning as everything when: Using other people, emotionally or physically, for your own selfish purposes Trying to get ahead at the expense of another Spreading rumors about someone else Always insisting on getting your way without concerning yourself with the feelings of others Becoming jealous or envious when something good happens to someone close to you

Seek first to Understand, then be understood

The deepest need of the human heart is to be understood. Five Poor Listening Styles: Spacing out Pretend listening Selective listening

Word listening
Self-centered listening

Its me time
Habit 7 is all about keeping your personal self sharp so that you can better deal with life. It means regularly renewing and strengthening the 4 key dimensions of your life your body, your brain, your heart and your soul.

Its me time
BODY The Physical Dimension Exercise, eat healthy, sleep well, relax BRAIN The Mental Dimension Read, educate, write, learn new skills HEART The Emotional Dimension Build relationships, give service, laugh SOUL The Spiritual Dimension Meditate, Pray, take in quality media

Caring for your Heart

Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of Gods kindness: kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile. Mother Teresa