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Attitude, Perception, Beliefs

Ego states and Life Positions

Attitudes are predisposed, evaluative feelings of people about objects, people or events

Attitudes express either favorable or unfavorable feelings about something

Attitudes form right from our childhood experiences, our background, our learning situations, and are reinforced in adult life

It is more difficult to change our attitude than to change our perception

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Perception is the process of becoming aware of situations and interpreting our sensory impressions, in order to give meaning to our environment Basically most of what a person perceives or believes to be true is based on the attitude of the person concerned (broad minded)

In order to change our Attitudes, we first have to change our perceptions

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Beliefs: Beliefs are the foundation of ones value system

Beliefs are ideas or perceptions that people hold clear and give ordinance to
What we are, is communicated more than what we say or do If your destination is wrong, using techniques and strategies will only make you reach to wrong place sooner( right attitude, right perception and right beliefs will take us to the right destination)
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Integrity Honesty Justice Modesty Simplicity Excellence Courage Patience

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Rules and regulations, philosophies, beliefs, rituals, values, ethics of family he or she is born into. Learns without editing

Adult

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Questioning, Reasoning, Analysing what is learnt. All forms of Logic, reasoning Curiosity, Excitement, Happiness, Joy, Sadness, Impulsiveness, Laughing, Crying, Tantrums, Shouting , Yelling, Whispering

Child

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Complimentary transactions

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Boss A Secretary C

Cross transactions

Life Positions 1 Im Not OK, You are OK. Life Positions 2 IM Not OK, You are Not OK. Life Positions3 IM OK, You are Not OK. Life Positions 4 IM OK, You are OK.

Beliefs I am inferior to others in some way I am too insignificant to challenge, question others I must exist in the mercy of others Attitudes I must win the approval of my superiors I must make everyone feel that I am pleasant
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Beliefs I am inferior to others in some way I am too insignificant to challenge, question others I must exist in the mercy of others Attitudes I must win the approval of my superiors I must make everyone feel that I am pleasant
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Give up hope, state of extreme withdrawal Beliefs Both you and I are not alright, helpless Attitudes Envy, jealousy Anyone trusting others is asking for trouble I am an incompetent fool in the organization
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Beliefs I am somewhat better than your are I am superior to you and you are inferior to me Attitudes You can take advantage of others Most people are basically foolish, corrupt & evil I have to be calculative and manipulative
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The person doesnt envy, doesnt compare needlessly with others Beliefs I am part of the world, mutual interdependence between me and people I love Attitudes

I have no right to take credit for someone elses job. Most people are good and dependable
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