God’s Design For

Your Marriage

Husband’s Role
October 12 , 2008
Pastor John Isaacs
KingsWay Community Church
No God = No Design
Marriage is
Humanity’s Own
Social & Cultural
Invention
But, There Is A God
And There Is An
Intelligent Design
Humanity Made In
HIS Image
Genesis 1:26
Let Us make man in our image, in
our likeness.
1. To Be Self-Aware
2. To Be Moral
3. To Be Loving
4. To Be Creative
God Designed
Marriage
Great Marriages
Come From Doing It
God’s Way!
Genesis 2:24
For this cause a man shall
leave his father and his
mother, and shall cleave to
his wife; and they shall
become one flesh.
God’s Design
Marriage was designed
to be a lifelong covenant
bond between one man
and one woman.
Genesis 2:18
It is not good for the man to be alone;
I will make him a helper suitable for
him.
1. Complementary Companionship
2. Procreation
3. Picture of Christ & Church
4. To Glorify God
What Happens
When Man
Abandons
God’s Design?
Romans 1:24
So God abandoned them to do
whatever shameful things their hearts
desired.
1. Sexual Promiscuity
2. Pornography
3. Adultery
4. Homosexuality
5. Pedophilia
God’s Design
Genesis 1:27
So God created man in His own
image; in the image of God He
created him; male and female
He created them.
God’s Design
Distinctly male
and Distinctly
female.
God’s Design
Distinct Roles
in Marriage.
God’s Design
1. Genesis 1-3
2. Ephesians 5:21-33
3. Colossians 3:18-19
4. 1 Peter 3:1-7
5. Titus 2:5
6. 1 Timothy 3:4, 12
Husband’s Role
1. Love
Colossians 3:19
Husbands, love your wives and do
not be bitter toward them.
Ephesians 5:25-30
25 For husbands, this means love
your wives, just as Christ loved
the church. He gave up his life for
her
26 to make her holy and clean,
washed by the cleansing of God’s
word.
Ephesians 5:25-30 (cont.)
27 He did this to present her to
himself as a glorious church
without a spot or wrinkle or any
other blemish. Instead, she will be
holy and without fault.
28 In the same way, husbands
ought to love their wives as they
love their own bodies. For a man
Ephesians 5:25-30 (cont.)
who loves his wife actually shows
love for himself.
29 No one hates his own body but
feeds and cares for it, just as
Christ cares for the church.
30 And we are members of his
body.
To Nurture
and Cherish
with tender
love.
Words and
Actions of
Love
Demonstrate
That You
Care For Her
Husband’s Role
1. Love
2. Serve
Philippians 2:7
but made Himself of no
reputation, taking the form of a
bondservant, and coming in the
likeness of men.
Mark 10:45
For even the Son of Man did
not come to be served, but to
serve, and to give His life a
ransom for many.
Matthew 23:11
But he who is greatest among
you shall be your servant.
Ephesians 5:25
For husbands, this means to love
your wives, just as Christ loved the
church. He gave up his life
for her.
1 Peter 3:7
Husbands, likewise, dwell with
them with understanding, giving
honor to the wife, as to the weaker
vessel, and as being heirs
together of the grace of life, that
your prayers may not be hindered.
What is your wife’s
top three needs in
her life, right now?
Husband’s Role
1. Love
2. Serve
3. Lead
Ephesians 5:23-24
For the husband is head of the
wife, as also Christ is head of the
church; and He is the Savior of the
body. Therefore, just as the
church is subject to Christ, so let
the wives be to their own
husbands in everything.
Headship = Leadership

Biblical Headship =
Servant Leadership
• Does Not Mean Male
Domination
• Does Not Mean Imposing
Personal Preferences
• Does Not Mean Making
Arbitrary Decisions
Matthew 20:25-26
But Jesus called them to Himself
and said, "You know that the rulers
of the Gentiles lord it over them,
and those who are great exercise
authority over them. Yet it shall not
be so among you; but whoever
desires to become great among
you, let him be your servant.
Biblical headship in the
home is the husband's
divine calling to take
primary responsibility for
Christlike leadership,
protection, and
provision. - John Piper
Husband’s Role
1. Love
2. Serve
3. Lead