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Fired security guards Got rid of 80% of teachers Hired teachers that could adapt ASAP Extended day 7:30-5:30 Changed attitudes
ACEs at work
Opportunity
Examine what is working
Think about what you need to change Take away new ideas
He went back to teaching by the sea. A crowd built up to such a great size that he had to get into an offshore boat, using the boat as a pulpit as the people pushed to the waters edge. Mark 4:1 (Message)
James 4:1-2
What causes fights and quarrels among you? Dont they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but dont get it. You will and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight.
Change your mind-set Develop new skills Ask God for wisdom Learn to accommodate
Stress causes distorted thinking Behavior becomes their voice Kids are doing the best they can to survive in the moment
Learn to accommodate
Adjust reactions in response to needs Adjust your response to meet each childs need Broken arm or broken heart They both hurt
Time out when they really need to take a break Rewarding good behavior
How we worded things assertive voice
Time out
Childs self talk says
1.Im going to hit her tomorrow
Reward systems
Rewards are based on adults judgment
Thinking skills are affected Learn other control Why try
Safety issue
Safekeeper talk
Im the safekeeper and its my job to keep you safe. Know what your job is? To help me keep things safe.
Assertive Voice
Name ..Verb
David .Walk to the curb Kyra ..Listen to the story
Reframing
How could you be helpful? What would help you get started? What could you do to solve this problem? Whats your plan? When you _____, then you may ______ Is _______ being safe? What could be safe for you and others?
Giving choices
Offer 2 or three positive choices If you offer a positive and a negative choice that is manipulation
If you choose to ______ then ____ will happen. Do you understand? Tell children what you want them to do.
Praising children
Describe childs action instead of praising Generic praise doesnt work Comes across as judgmental Dont feel worthy of praise Think if they act bad enough May set out to prove you wrong
Sample Phrases
Oh well Bummer Whats your plan? You did it Shrug your shoulders
Joshs story
Other Tips
Kids feel powerless - offer choices Know your agenda Never ask a question you know the answer to
Whirlwind Kids
Cover up for intense pain
Nervous energy
Fear of feelings Nutritional issues
Lack of sleep
Disruptive
Operating from the lower level of the brain Their power has been taken away
Aggressive
Lower levels of serotonin in the brain
Provide schedules and post them Speak clearly and in short phrases Dont be critical of behavior but set firm limits Help them feel safe Dont crimp on space
Together we can reach the heights of excellence and perform the extraordinary.
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