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I tell you everything that is really nothing, and nothing of what is everything, do not be fooled by what I am saying. Please listen carefully and try to hear what I am not saying. Charles C. Finn
The speaker is presenting his talk from Constructivist perspective and his own position and values influence his choice of material and the way he present it. It is neither possible nor
One day, the father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the country with the express purpose of showing him how poor people live. They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be considered a very poor family. On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, "How was the trip?" "It was great, Dad. "Did you see how poor people live?" the father asked. "Oh yeah," said the son. "So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?" asked the father.
The son answered: "I saw that we have one dog and they had four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night. Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon. We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go beyond our sight. We have servants who serve us, but they serve others. We buy our food, but they grow theirs. We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to protect them." The boy's father was speechless. Then his son added, "Thanks Dad for showing me how poor we are." Isn't perspective a wonderful thing?
What is Listening?
Definition
listening (ILA, 1996): the process of receiving, constructing meaning from, and responding to spoken and/or nonverbal messages; to hear something with thoughtful attention
Effective communication is 2-way
depends on speaking and listening
As seen in table below, listening is learned first and used most, but taught least.
Learned
Listening 1st Speaking 2nd Reading 3rd
Used
Most (45%) Next most (35%) Next least (16%)
Taught
Least Next least Next most
Writing 4th
Least (9%)
Most
LISTENING AND MEANING In a spoken message, 55% of the meaning is translated non-verbally, 38% is indicated by the tone of
Spoken words only account for 30 -35% of the meaning. The rest is transmitted through nonverbal communication that only can be detected through visual and auditory listening (Birdwhistell, 1970).
The average person talks at a rate of about 125 175 words per minute, while we can listen at a rate of up to 450 words per minute
(Carver, Johnson, & Friedman, 1970).
On average, viewers who just watched and listened to the evening news could only recall 17.2% of the content when not cued, and the cued group never exceeded 25%
(Stauffer, Frost, & Rybolt, 1983).
defensive
(Orick, 2002).
Physicians interrupt 69% of patient interviews within 18 seconds of the patient beginning to speak. As a result, in 77% of the interviews, the patients true reason for visiting was never elicited (Lee, 2000).
"When you've learned how to Listen, well that's when you've learned everything you need to know in your life!"
"Listening looks easy, but it's not simple. Every head is a world.
-- Cuban Proverb
When you listen to somebody else, whether you like it or not, what
If in all our practices of life we could learn to listen . . . . if we could grasp what the other persons are
Harry Overstreet
I think I'll learn more from listening. Anything I would say I already know.
Anonymous student explaining while
Effective listeners remember that "words have no meaning - people have meaning." The assignment of meaning to a term is an internal process; meaning comes from inside us. And although our
Barriers to Listening
Equate With Hearing Uninteresting Topics Speakers Delivery External Distractions Mentally Preparing Response Finishing the speakers sentences. letting your ego get in the way.
Listening for Facts Personal Concerns Personal Bias Language/Culture Differences Faking Attention Getting tuned out
Pretending to pay attention when you are not Trying to do other things while listening Deciding the subject is uninteresting Getting distracted by the speakers way of speech, or other mannerisms Getting over-involved and thus losing the main thread of the arguments or thoughts Letting emotion-filled words arouse personal anger and antagonism Concentrating on any distractions instead of what is being said Avoiding anything that is complex or difficult
So Far: We covered the facts of listening Importance of listening from different perspective through quotes of great people and proverbs You also know the barriers and bad habits. Having known importance, barriers and bad habits of listening, what are the solutions for all these issues? Be a good listener? How ?
Active Listening
Listening is not a passive activity
RECEIVING SKILLS
Listening is composed of six distinct components
Hearing: The physiological process of receiving sound and/or other stimuli. Attending: The conscious and unconscious process of focusing attention on external stimuli. Interpreting: The process of decoding the symbols or behavior attended to. Evaluating: The process of deciding the value of the information to the receiver. Remembering: The process of placing the appropriate information into to short-term or long-term storage. Responding: The process of giving feedback to the source and/or other receivers.
Pseudo listening: A way of "faking it" where the receiver feels obligated to
listen even though they are preoccupied unable or unwilling to at that particular time.
Listening with Empathy: A style that teaches an individual to enter fully into
the world of the other and truly comprehend their thoughts and feelings.
Insulated Listening: A style where the listener avoids responsibility by failing to acknowledge that they have heard the information presented by the speaker.
Selective Listening: A style where the listener only responds to the parts of the message that directly interests him. Bottom Line Listening: A style of listening where the receiver is only concerned about the facts. "Just the facts man." Court Reporter Syndrome: A style of taking in a speakers message and recording it verbatim. Informational Listening: A style that is used when the listener is seeking out specific information. Evaluative Listening: A style used to listen to information upon which a decision has to be made. Critical Incidence Listening: A style used when the consequence of not listening may have dramatic effects.
Intimate Listening: The style that is appropriate when the speaker is communicating significant relational information being completely and wholly honest.
Resist distractions. The Poor Listener: Is distracted easily. The Good Listener: Fights or avoids distractions; tolerates bad habits in others; knows how to concentrate. Exercise your mind. The Poor Listener: Resists difficult material; seeks light, recreational material. The Good Listener: Uses heavier material as exercise for the mind.
Keep your mind open. The Poor Listener: Reacts to emotional words. The Good Listener: Interprets emotional words; does not get hung up on them.
Thought is faster than speech; use it. The Poor Listener: Tends to daydream with slow speakers. The Good Listener: Challenges, anticipates, mentally summarizes, weights the evidence, listens between the lines to tone and voice.
The best, easiest and most effective way of showing interest is:
To listen to what they are saying Really listen, Focusing on what they are saying, As opposed to planning our own reposts and anecdotes
We are blessed with two ears and one mouth - a constant reminder that we should listen at least twice as much as we talk.
Unknown Author
LISTEN TO UNDERSTAND Before I can walk in another persons shoes, I must remove my own.
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