Beruflich Dokumente
Kultur Dokumente
in Interpersonal Relationships
Lecture by
Dr. Alan D. DeSantis
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General Research
◆ II. National Statistics on Love and Sex
– A. Infatuations
» First infatuation (W: 13 / M: 13.6)
» First love (W: 17.1/ M: 17.6)
– B. Gender and Virginity—Women Sooner
» Average age for 1st time sex: 16 W / 17 M
» % of virgins 18-24 years: 6.2% W / 10.8% M
◆ Notice: Sex comes before love
– Note: Since “oral sex” is not considered “sex,” figures are misleading
» Many still consider themselves “virgins” even after multiple oral partners
General Research
◆ III. Romantic Love (believe it or not)
– A. Married men have a more romantic
concept of love than their wives
» Men believe in love at first sight more
» More men believe love can overcome anything
– B. Twice as many women would marry for
reasons other than love
» In 1965, 75% of women said they would marry
a man they did not love if he fit the bill in other
ways
» Today, only about 10% of American women
say they would (Whitehead, 2003)
◆ 49% in Indians
◆ 51% in Pakistan
◆ III. Romantic Love (cont.)
– C. After divorce, Men are more likely to get
re-married
» And sooner
– D. Married men are psychologically and
physically healthier, but not so for women
» Reason 1: Without their wives, most men have
no support system and no one to talk to about
life’s stresses
◆ Men are 8 times more likely to commit suicide
after divorce
» Reason 2: Women do most of the work in most
relationships (even when both are working
outside the home)
General Findings
◆ IV. Age, Love, and Sex (1999 AARP
Survey)
– 60% of couples 45-60 years old report
having sex once a week (the average for all
couples)
– 20% over 75 report having sex once a week
– After 50 years of age, men become more
romantic; women become more sexually
assertive
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– Majority of couples over 55 report finding
their significant other more romantic and
attractive