CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS

WISELY
有智慧地選擇你的朋友

約翰福音 John 15 : 5

I have not called you servants, but I have called you

friends because I have made known to you what my
Father wants you to know.
5 我是葡萄樹，你們是枝子。常在我裡面的，我
也常在他裡面，這人就多結果子；因為離了我，
你們就不能做甚麼。
Definition 釋義
Old Testament 舊約 :
REA (ray-ah)
brother, companion, husband, lover, neighbour. 兄
弟﹐ 同伴﹐ 丈夫﹐ 愛人﹐ 鄰居
New Testament 新約 :
PHILOS
someone who you feel close to, some one you have
love for, or care about. 一個與你親近的人﹐ 一個你
愛或關心的人
WISDOM IN ‘PROVERBS’
在箴言裡的智慧
Analyse friendship to a deeper level / provides
practical advice. 分析你的朋友會否給你實際
的忠告

箴言 Proverbs 22:24
Don’t befriend angry people or associate with hot-
tempered people or you will learn to be like them
and endanger your soul.
好生氣的人，不可與他結交；暴怒的人，不可與
他來往；
5 types of Friends 五種朋友
1. Fair weather friends 平水之交
2. Fickle Friends 變幻無常的朋友
Inconsistent 常變的
3. User friends 市道之交
“ You’re my buddy when I need a favour”
有事鍾無艷、無事夏迎春
4. True Friends 患難之交
Stand by you through thick and thin
與你一起渡順與逆的環境
5. “ Frienemy”
Ex good friends 已不再是朋友
Key Facts about Friendships
友誼的重點
1. We ALL need friends
我們每個人也需要朋友
2. Need “a real friend who sticks closer than a
brother” 需要比弟兄更親密的朋友
箴言 Proverbs 18:24
…but there is a friend who sticks closer than a
brother. 但有一朋友比弟兄更親密
3. A limit to number of close friends
需要幾個親密的朋友
Key Facts about Friendships
友誼的重點
4. Make / lose friends easily - no solid
foundation. 如沒有好的根基便會很容易結
交朋友但也會很快失去朋友
5. Rules for Enduring friendships
有不明文的規條
6. No PERFECT friends 沒有完美的朋友
7. Today’s world – hard to find TRUE friends 在
現今的世界裡 很難尋找真正的朋友
Key Facts about Friendships
友誼的重點
8. Modern culture: transactional model of
friendship 現代的文化 : 交易式的友誼
9. Friendships must be worked at
友誼是需要用心哉培的
10. Want a friend, be a friend!
如你需要朋友 你應先作一個朋友
True Friends: Key Qualities
真正朋友的性質
Faithful and forgiving 信實及寬大
箴 Prov 17:17 “always be loyal” 朋友乃時常親愛，

Sensitive yet frank

敏感別人的需要但也要坦白
箴 Prov 27:6
Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from
an enemy. 6 朋友加的傷痕出於忠誠；仇敵連連親嘴卻是多
餘。

Help you flourish 幫作你去成長

箴 Prov 12:26: the Godly give good advice to their friends
義人引導他的鄰舍；惡人的道叫人失迷。
箴 Prov 27:17 Iron sharpens iron. So a friend sharpens a
friend 鐵磨鐵，磨出刃來；朋友相感（原文是磨朋友的
臉）也是如此。
HOW TO NOURISH A
FRIENDSHIP
怎樣去滋潤一段友誼

歌林多後書 2 Cor 6:11

We have spoken honestly with you, our

hearts are opened to you; There is no lack of
love on our part
哥林多人哪，我們向你們，口是張開的
，心是寬宏的。
Why Friendships COOL DOWN
為甚麼友誼會冷淡下來
Distance – geographically / emotionally
地區性或情緒上的距離
Changes in values and interests
在價值觀或興趣上的變更
Betrayal / Disloyalty 被出賣或不忠實
Change in status 身份地位的改變
Judgemental 論斷
Borrow money / don’t pay back 借錢不還
Communication lines break down 沒有溝通
CONCLUSION 總結
Jesus is the Friend who sticks closer than a
brother. 耶穌是這個比兄弟更親密的朋友
Seek out good/wise people to share your life 怎
找好及有智慧的朋友來分享你的生命
Examine the kind of friend you are to others.
考查你是有個怎樣的朋友