PARENTING TIPS: WHAT DOES IT

TAKE TO BE A GOOD PARENT?

By:
INTRODUCTION
What does it mean by good parent?
Includes raising kids, practicing positive values, giving
protections, earn a living for their families and providing
other primary needs.

So, are you a good parent?
CONTENT 1
Show and set the right examples

Children learn from what they
observe (Social Learning Theory
Bandura)

Show positive values and qualities.

Be a good role model to your
children if you wanted them to act
the way you wanted them to.
CONTENT 2
Have the characterisitcs of love,
passion and caring

Love is one of the important factor to
every human in psychological
development. (Maslows hierarchy of
needs)

Give them a warm touch or a caring
hug.

Children if lack of love will lead to
negative effects like low self-esteem,
lack of confidence and others.

CONTENT 3
Let your children know that they are
loved

What kids need most is knowing theyre
important in their parents lives and loved
deeply. (David Elkind, Phd, author of The
Hurried Child)

They must know theyre loved so that
they dont feel neglected.

Make them feel more secured if they
know theyre loved.

CONTENT 4
Envelop them in a close circle of support

Having conversations with other adults to get
another opinion from different people.


Giving them chances to involve in what they
want.

Always listen to them.

Always attend their school activities when
necessary.

Giving moral support to them in anything they do
or involved in.
CONTENT 5
Praise good behavior shown by
your children

Praise is considered as a positive
reinforcement in behavioral
psychology.

Proper use of praise will increase
the frequencies of the actions and
eventually stays as a habit.
CONTENT 6
Never compare your children to
others, especially siblings.

Each child is individual and has their
uniqueness.
Accept their differences
unconditionally and instill in each
child the desire to pursue their
interests and dreams.
Failing to do so will lead to inferiority
complex, an idea that they can
never be good enough in your eyes.
CONTENT 7
Take advantage of teachable
moments to guide your children
of what is right or what is wrong

Teach your children how to think
rationally.
Teach them do decide the right way
to solve the problem they are facing.
Use traditional stories or fables like
The Boy Who Cried Wolf to
illustrate a point.
CONTENT 8
Watch what your children
watches

Contents of what they watch
may not be suitable to their age.
They are likely to have
misguided views about how to
treat people if left unsupervised.
Children need guidance to form
good habits and characteristics.
CONTENT 9
Strict at the right time

Set rules and guidelines at home.

Clear and consistent rules give kids
structure, teach responsibility and
clarify right from wrong.

Set only reasonable rules and
enforce them reasonably.

Avoid harsh punishments.
CONTENT 10
Discuss consequences

Control your temper as much as you can.

Ask your children to pick fair punishments.

Allow them to make choices which will enable
them to make moral ones later.

CONTENT 11
Help your children to see another viewpoint
in everything they came across in their daily
routines.

Make them reflect on how if someone did an
unwanted actions to you?

Teach your children to put themselves in other
peoples shoes.

Think of others in everything they do.
CONTENT 12
Teach your children to be
independent.

Let them know that it is fine for
them to be different and they do
not have to follow the crowd.

Give them chances to make
decisions for themselves.

Dont do things for your children
routinely.
CONTENT 13
Respect your childs
privacy.

Respect them as you would
want them to respect you.

Teach them their
boundaries.

Parents must be more alert
so that you dont trespass
their privacies.
CONTENT 14
Encourage your children to have a healthy
lifestle.

Eat healthy food and have a balanced diet.
Get plenty of exercise.
Get enough rest.
Limit their time in playing video games and
laptops.
CONCLUSION
In a nutshell,

Parents must understand and play their roles
well.

Never neglect your children as this will cause
negative effect on their development.

Parents play the most important roles in shaping
children into a well-developed individual parallel
to the Malaysias National Philosophy of
Education.