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The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Divine Surgeon

demonstrated
compatibility by creating
Adams wife from one of
his ribs.

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

It is not good for the

man to be alone. I
will make a helper
suitable for him.
Genesis 2:18, NIV

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

At different stages
of the life cycle,
our needs are
different.
Big differences in
age can result in
the inability of one
to satisfy the
needs of the other.

This would result

in serious marital
conflict.

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Big Differences in
levels of education
can cause a
couple to do fewer
things together.
Separate activities
can generate
different circles of
friends.
This can cause
partners to drift
apart from each
other.

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Beloved, I pray that

you may prosper in all
things and be in
health, just as your
soul prospers.
3 John 2

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

In our multi-cultural
world, culture is
relevant to marital
compatibility.
Some cultural
differences are
simple and can be
easily solved.
Others are complex
and need to be
examined and
resolved to facilitate
marital success.

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Negative Influence

Like mother, like daughter! You

are your mother's daughter,
loathing husband and children;
and you are the sister of your
sisters, who loathed their
husbands and children.
Ezekiel 16:44,45

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Positive Influence

... I call to remembrance the

genuine faith that is in you,
which dwelt first in your
grandmother Lois and your
mother Eunice, and I am
persuaded is in you also.
2 Timothy 1:5

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

To a great extent, we are

products of the values of our
parents, for it is in the home
that, as children, we see
models, develop concepts
and unconsciously
assimilate standards of
behavior.

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Someone can
break the Cycle!
Manasseh was one of
the most wicked
Israelite kings.
Amon, his son, followed
his example.
Josiah, Amons son,
became king at age
eight.
Josiah broke the cycle!
The young king served
God and carried out a
spiritual reform
2 Chronicles 33 and 34

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

There are Four Basic Types of

Temperaments:

Two are extroverts

Two are introverts
Two are people-oriented
Two are task-oriented

Try to identify your own

temperament, as well as your
partners own.

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Sanguine

Strengths:
Out-going
Talkative
Charismatic
Center of attraction

Weaknesses:
Self-Centered and
egoistical
Impulsive
Restless and
Unstable

Examples:
Peter and Deborah

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Choleric

Strengths:

Practical
Decisive
Very Efficient
Born leader who
gets things done!

Weaknesses:

Impatient with others

Strong-willed
Insensitive
Demanding

Examples:
Paul and Martha

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Phlegmatic

Strengths:
Easy-going
Agreeable
Very Supportive
Pacifist
Prefers compromise

Weaknesses:
Tends to preserve status
quo
Tentative
Indecisive
Procrastinating

Examples:
Abraham and Ruth

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Melancholy Strengths:

Analytical
Orderly
Diligent and very
detailed
Has deep emotions
Very Creative

Weaknesses:
Oversensitive
Shy and moody
Has guilt feelings

Examples:
Moses and Mary

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

A person may have

more than one
temperament. It is
usual, however, that
one is dominant.
So, it is very likely,
that I have a primary
temperament, and at
least one secondary
one.

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

So, What Do You Think?

I think that my primary
temperament
Is ______________.
I think that my partners
primary one
Is ______________.

You can compare and

discuss.

Sanguine: Influencer

Choleric: Doer

Phlegmatic: Relator

Melancholy: Thinker

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If I am not yet
married
I must take in account that:

Couples completely
similar could
experience boredom.
Couples completely
different could be in
constant conflict.
Couples more similar
and less different could
facilitate compatibility.

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

If I am already
married
I must accept and
respect my spouses
differences.

Place my partners
desires above my
own.
Allow my spouses
strengths to
complement my
weaknesses.

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Master Key
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to Marital
Marital Compatibility
Compatibility

While there are various

keys like:
Age
Education
Health
Culture
Family Values
Temperaments

Spiritual life is the

Master key!
If we both belong to the
Family of God,
we hold the master key
to marital compatibility!

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Nor shall you make marriages with

them. You shall not give your
daughter to their son, nor take their
daughter for your son. For they will
turn your sons away from following
Me, to serve other gods; so the
anger of the LORD will be aroused
against you and destroy you
suddenly.
Deuteronomy 7:3,4

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Do not be unequally
yoked together with
unbelievers.
2 Corinthians 6:14

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Spiritually speaking,
There are only two families

Family

Family

Of Satan

Of God

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Two Questions

Am I part of the
family of God?
Is my partner part
of Gods family?
We are all born into
Satans family, and
must be converted into
Gods family.

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

How do I become
part of the
Family of God?
The story of Jacob
has the answer.

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Jacob was a
thief - stole from his brother
liar - lied to his blind father
runaway - separated forever
from his loving mother
Lonely, disappointed and discouraged,
he lay on the ground and went to sleep.

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

But the good news is:

Our Loving God

did not forsake him!

Genesis 28: 11-13

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

God was telling Jacob!

I still love you!

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Next morning, Jacob

journeyed to Haran.
He spent 5 years, 10 years,
15 years, 20 years!
He married, got a family,
got wealthy!
But he experienced
no change spiritually!

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Then one day, Jacob got bad news!

Esau was coming
with 400 armed soldiersready for revenge!

Jacob was terrified!

He made lifes most important
decision.

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Jacobs Decision
Before I face Esau tomorrow,
I must get right with God
TONIGHT!

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Then Jacob was left

alone; and a Man wrestled
with him until the breaking
of day.
Genesis 32:24

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

ALONE!
He left his wives!
He left his children!
He left his cattle!
He wanted to meet His God!
He kneelt in earnest prayer!

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

IT WAS MIDNIGHT!
Suddenly a hand grabbed him!
Was it Esau?
Hour after hour they wrestled!
Then the Man touched his thigh.
He became paralyzed!

It wasnt a man!

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Lets listen to

their conversation
in Genesis 32:26-28

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Jesus: Let Me go,

for the day
breaks.
Jacob: I will not
let You go unless
You bless me!
Genesis 32:26

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Jesus: What is your

name?
Jacob: Jacob
(deceiver).
Jesus: Your name
shall be no longer
be called Jacob
(deceiver), but
Israel (victor)!

Genesis 32:27,28

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

A MIRACLE!
Jacob was changed!
From thievery to
honesty!
From lying to
truthfulness!
From deceiver to
victor!

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

My prayer.

Gods Answer.

Create in me a I will give you a

clean heart, O
new heart and
God, And renew put a new spirit
a steadfast
within you.
spirit within
Ezekiel 36:26
me.
Psalm 51:10

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

ITS A MIRACLE!
The drunkard
becomes
sober!
The drug-user
becomes an
abstainer!
The smoker
becomes drug
free!
The abuser
becomes a
care-giver!

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

If anyone is in Christ,
he is a new creation;
old things have passed
away; behold, all things
have become new.
2 Corinthians 5:17

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Marital Compatibility
Compatibility

Adultery changes
to purity!
Revelry changes
to sobriety!
Gambler becomes
a money-saver!
Hurter is changed
to healer!

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The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

All scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are

taken from the NEW KING JAMES VERSION. Copyright
1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All
rights reserved.
Scripture quotations designated by NIV are taken from the
HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION.
Copyright 1973, 1978,1984 International Bible Society.
Used by permission of Zondervan Bible Publishers.

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