POSITIVE DISCIPLINE

WHAT IS DISCIPLINE?

VALUE LINE ACTIVITY:

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Spanking is effective

I dont believe in spanking

Mark where you stand on this line on a piece of

paper and list reasons for you stance on this issue.
Students will make a line in the hall according to
where they stand on this issue.
Teacher will wrap the line so those who are at
opposites on the issue are paired up. Discuss with
paired partner. See if anyone has a change of heart.

WHAT ABOUT SPANKING?

It is a physical assault on a child.
It teaches children to deal with life in a physical way.
Can lead to child abuse.

It teaches outer control, and only stops the

behavior for a short time.
Creates feelings of hatred and revenge.

DISCIPLINE
OK, here are your options:
jump and discover the joy
of flight, or dont jump and I
kick your butt out of the tree.

What kind of parenting is this?

TYPES OF PARENTING:
AUTHORITARIAN:
External Control
Punishment
Order without freedom

Creates rebellion
or submission/dependence

3 Rs of punishment:
1. RESENTMENT
2. REVENGE
3. RETREAT
1. Low self esteem
2. Sneaky

Where did we ever get the crazy idea that

in order to make a child do better, first we
have to make them feel worse.

Children do better when they

feel better!

TYPES OF PARENTING:
PERMISSIVE:
Freedom without
order
No restriction, rules,
No consequences

Creates a manipulative
personality, aggression,
and independence.

TYPES OF PARENTING:
AUTHORITATIVE (Democratic):
Mutual Respect
Cooperation
Freedom with Order

Creates a self disciplined

child who is responsible
for own actions.

WHY DO CHILDREN
MISBEHAVE?
A misbehaving child is a
discouraged child. Why?

MISBEHAVIOR:
Is based on a childs mistaken
interpretation of how to find
BELONGING &
SIGNIFICANCE!

4 GOALS OF MISTAKEN
BEHAVIOR:
1.
2.
3.
4.

Attention
Power
Revenge
Give-up

Most common reason for

misbehavior:
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ATTENTION
OTHER BEHAVIORS

Solution to All Misbehavior:

Spend special time
With the child each
Day!
How much?

Solution to Attention Problems:

Ignore if possible
Give attention when good
Redirect
Logical consequences
Choices

Solution to Power Problems:

Withdraw
Cool off,
Problem solve together
Win cooperation
Act

4 Steps for Winning Cooperation:

1. Get into childs world

Check it out

2. Show understanding
3. Share your feelings
4. Find a solution together

Solution to Revenge Problems:

Withdraw from revenge cycle

Win child over
Solve the problem
Take away items they could destroy
Apologize if needed

Solution to Inadequacy
Problems:

Avoid pity
Encourage & train
Create small successes
Dont give up

Believe that children are

basically GOOD!
What do you see below?

FLY

Make sure the message of LOVE

always gets through:

TIMING:

It is impossible to
solve problems at
the time of
CONFLICT!

LISTEN FIRST:
Children will listen to you after
they feel listed to.

NATURAL & LOGICAL

CONSEQUENCES:
NATURAL: Simply happen naturally
No coat = cold

LOGICAL: Are decided upon and imposed

by parents or teachers

LOGICAL CONSEQUENCES:
One needs to be:
Firm
Calm
Positive toward child

3 RS OF LOGICAL
CONSEQUENCES:
1. RELATED
2. RESPECTFUL
3. RESONABLE

TIME OUT: An alternative to

spanking.
1. Gives child time to calm down & time to
think about the correct way to act.
2. Child is moved away from others an
effective consequence.
Only use if child is out of control,
hurting others or destroying things.

TIME OUT GUIDELINES:

Choose a location that is dull and away from
others.
Use time out immediately after misbehavior
occurs.
Length of time = 1 minute for each year of age.
Dont talk to child until afterwards (Make sure
they understand the WHY).
Reward good behavior after time out, as soon as
they do something positive.

DISCIPLINE STEPS:
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.

Redirect
Check it out
Speak to the child about the problem
Give choices
Use logical or natural consequences
Use time out if still out of control

CLASSROOM DISCIPLINE:
Have rules and remind them
often
Read:
Children want fences

KEEP RULES SHORT & SIMPLE

1. Be nice to teacher and
classmates

2. Raise hand to speak

3. Walk in halls

CLASSROOM DISCIPLINE
contd
Be silent or whisper
Resist giving attention to the disruptor
Someone is disturbing the class

Move closer, place hand on shoulder

Involve them
Talk privately
What can I do to get your help?

FORBIDDEN DISCIPLINE
ACTIONS:

SPANKING
SLAPPING
HITTING
SHAKING
PULLING
PINCHING

NO TEASING
NO HUMILIATION
NO INSULTS
NO THREATENING
NO FRIGHTENING
NO LAUGHING AT

Confirmed incidents will be grounds for immediate

dismissal from a childcare job.

ALWAYS REMEMBER:
MISTAKES R WUNDERFULL
OPPERTUNITEEZ 2 LERN!
Recognize your mistake
Reconcile Im sorry
Resolve: Focus on solutions rather
than blame.

YOU TEACH WHAT YOU

ARE:

WHAT ARE YOU?