Couples for Christ Brunei

Christian Personal
Relationship (CPR)
Talk Number 3

Taming the
TONGUE!

Tremend
ous
POWER of

A. Christian Ideal
Tremendous Power of the
Tongue

Can be
used
for
blessing,
honor and

A. Christian Ideal
Tremendous Power of the
Tongue

Far too
often
used for
evil and
destruct

A. Christian Ideal...

Much
wrongdoing
is committed
with the

A. Christian Ideal....

Wrongdoing in
speech can be
very harmful to
our unity and
loving
relationships in

A. The Christian Ideal

(Modern Climate)

Hostile to
the
notion of
controllin
g speech.

A. The Christian Ideal

(Modern Climate)

Communicate
your
feelings.

A. Introduction
(The Christian Ideal)

Having speech in
order is a vital
aspect of love.

Love must be
communicated.

A. Introduction
(The Ephesians
Christian 4:29
Ideal)

Do not let any

unwholesome talk come
out of your mouths,but
only what is helpful for
building others
upaccording to their
needs, that it may

A. Introduction
(The Christian Ideal)
Having speech in order is
a crucial aspect of
righteousness.
Having speech in order is
a vital aspect of our
relationships in CFC.

B. Some Key Problem

Areas...
1. Slander
The
dictionary
defines
slander as
the utterance
of false
charges or
misrepresent

B. Some Key Problem

Areas...
1. Speaking
against

(2 Cor. 12:20)
For I am afraid
that when I come I
may not find you
as I want you to
be, and you may
not find me as you
want me to be. I
fear that there

C. Destroys trusts and

undermines committed
personal relationship....

Never speak in a way

that causes brethren
to mistrust one
another.
Don't speak in a way
that stirs up
quarreling or conflict.

D. How do we handle
problems of wrongdoing
or incompetence?
Go directly to the person
concerned.

If necessary, talk to his

household
head or other CFC leader
who has responsibility for him.

It is possible to talk to another mature

person in order to get help in knowing
how to handle the matter. In this case,
do not name names.

E. "Exceptions" to the
general rule of not
speaking against:

When we reprove
people

When we have a dispute

with someone that we
cannot resolve.

When we tell a person's head

that we know of or have heard of
something wrong
the person has done .

B. Some Key Problem

Areas...
2. Gossip
Gossip is
information
shared without
constructive
purpose or in
an
inappropriate
way with
wrong people

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Fun
Facts....

Video:
Gossip

B. Some Key Problem

Areas...
b. When we do talk about
It is OK to talk about
others

others' good qualities or

successes.
It is OK to share about
good things that have
happened.
It is OK to pass on neutral
information.

B. Some Key Problem

Areas...
c. We should
gossip

Proverbs
not listen
to
17:4
A wicked
person
listens to
deceitful
lips;
a liar pays
attention to
a

B. Some Key Problem

Areas...

d. We are all called to live in the light

Ephesians
5:8-13
with one another.

For you were once darkness, but now

you are light in the Lord. Live as children
of light (for the fruit of the light consists
in all goodness, righteousness and
truth) and find out what pleases the
Lord. Have nothing to do with the
fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather
expose them. It is shameful even to
mention what the disobedient do in
secret. But everything exposed by the
light becomes visible and everything

B. Some Key Problem

Areas...
e. Confidentiality
Many things
we should not
speak about
when they are
told to us
unless we
have a clear
responsibility

B. Some Key Problem

Areas...
e. Confidentiality
We should not ask others to
promise us to keep something
we have told them secret.
We should not promise anyone
to keep something secret before
they tell us what it is. Nor
should we promise afterwards.

B. Some Key Problem

Areas...
f. There are times when we are
clearly responsible to speak
When we
about what we know:
know about
wrongdoing
in the life of
someone in
CFC that is
not being
handled

B. Some Key Problem

Areas...
3.
Busybodie
s
Taking on
matters
which are
not our

B. Some Key Problem

Areas...
3. Busybodies
We are to take
(criticism)

responsibility for our

responsibilities and trust
others to do the same.

If it is a serious matter, go
to the appropriate authority
and then leave it with them.

B. Some Key Problem

Areas...

Dont pass on
another's
criticism
it.
Evaluate

something you
were not involved

B. Some Key Problem

Areas...
4. Negative
Humour
A joke or
something
that passes
for humor that
is at the
expense of

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#artist ha ha

B. Some Key Problem

Areas...
4. Negative humor.

Sometimes the humor we

engage in is based on
something negative about
another person.
Negative humor is usually
a poor attempt at expressing
something positive.

C. Speech that
Strengthens...
1. Our
speech
should
increase
love and
trust and
respect for

C. Speech that
Strengthens...
2. Our
speech
should
increase
faith and
hope.

C. Speech that
Strengthens...
3. Our
speech
should
express
love,
affection

Take interest in the lives of

others!!!

(Matthew 12:36-37)
But I tell you that
everyone will have to
give account on the day
of judgment for every
empty word they have
spoken. For by your
words you will be

Let us learn
how to speak so
that everything
we say will
impart grace to

The
Challenge...
Question:
Are you
ready to
tame your
Tongue?