HUMAN SEXUALITY:

Premarital Sex, An
Obstacle to Chastity

Human Sexuality: A Gift

1. The Virtue of Chastity
2. Obstacles to Growing in Chastity
a. Is Homosexuality OK?
b. Pornography and Prostitution
c. Premarital Sex
d. Artificial Contraception

Premarital Sex
Yes or No?
Why?

Arguments for & against: pre-marital sex

For:

Against:

a. Sexual experience and

a. Sex is a function of love,
compatibility is essential in
which is expressed through
choosing a marriage
marriage.
partner
b. Pleasure alone debases sex
b. Pleasure is a good in itself
as an animal act
c. Tradition must be adapted
to our changing lifestyles
d. A private matter

c. Family cannot be sacrificed

for a change in tradition.
d. Sex is not purely a private
matter because its natural
fruition is a baby.

What is your personal view?

Write it in your SW notebook

as SW#1

common argument in favor:

Sex could be done for pleasure
alone. What makes it wrong is the
Church/Biblical teaching. In itself
nothing could be wrong. Doing it
doesnt make a girl/woman less of
a girl/woman.

Final argument:
a. sex
only
Unless
one were
promiscuouseven
Unfair to baby in
liberal societies
very
Degrades
sex which
related to virtue and
mere commodity
self-control/discipline

is intimate and very personal...it becomes a

b. Bound
to hurt each other
sex + commitment
-marriage
No baby to be unfair of (birth control)
No lifetime commitment
c. sex + commitment +marriage
Opens
to a baby
Churchs
viewcommitment
Lifetime

Sexuality signifies an essential dimension of

the whole person:
pleasure

SW #2: Can you take a

piece without you
pro-creation
becoming bad? love
Why?

Small Group Sharing

Form groups of 4 and come up

with a group opinion.
Reporting in 5 minutes

A guy courts a girl because he

wants to love hernot to have
sex with herso love should
come prior to sex.

So sex for pleasure

Lowers the dignity of a man/woman as it

considers the human person as a an
instrument of sexual pleasure (Deus Caritas Est).
Sexuality becomes a mere commodity like
a tool or object, hence the human being
which is an image of God is equated to a
mere tool/object.

It demeans the dignity of a man/woman

What Catechism of the Catholic Church says against sex

for pleasure:"

#2351.Lust is disordered desire for or inordinate

enjoyment of sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure
is morally disordered when sought for itself,
isolated from its procreative and unitive
purposes.

Love = commitment: w/w-o marriage?

commitment - marriage
Bound to be unfair to baby...so no baby...
No commitment too?
for what reasons? selfish motives?
commitment + marriage
Fair to the baby...if any comes along...
open to new life and
with full commitment.

If two people are truly in love, why cant

they get married?

love

Unless they are not

reallyready,
so is sex acceptable
without marriage?

marriage

sex

commitment

Life itself as free for interpretation

or ambivalent...on how one views it...
(optimist/pessimist)...

The commitment in marriage...keeps you within its

bounds... and will save the relationship...come what
may.
Without commitment...it would be natural to let
go...end the relationship...and wouldnt someone
feel used or get hurt?

..in short...how should love be?

love
No marriage
No commitment

love
With marriage
With commitment

If you were God,

where will you
situate sex?

precarious
love:
may
hurt...no
guarantees=u
nsure love?
secure love:
come what
may=
sure love

Marriage is like a harbor in the stormy seas

of life.

to cap off...
love
not just
pleasur
e
becaus
e it is
very
intimate

marriage
true
commit
ment

sex
baby
is a fruit
of love
with
commit
ment
is safe

Catechism of the Catholic Church:

#1609. In his mercy God has not forsaken sinful

man

After the fall, marriage helps to overcome selfabsorption, egoism, pursuit of one's own pleasure,
and to open oneself to the other, to mutual aid and
to self-giving.

What Catechism of the Catholic Church says against sex

for pleasure:"
#2363. The spouses' union achieves the twofold end of
marriage: the good of the spouses themselves and the
transmission of life.
These two meanings or values of marriage cannot be
separated without altering the couple's spiritual life and
compromising the goods of marriage and the future of
the family.
The conjugal love of man and woman thus stands
under the twofold obligation of fidelity and fecundity.

Church: the two-fold function of marriageshould be

intertwined not taken apart

love

pro-creation

What Catechism of the Catholic Church says against "PreMarital Sex:"

#2353. "Fornication is carnal union between an

unmarried man and an unmarried woman. It is
gravely contrary to the dignity of persons and of
human sexuality which is naturally ordered to the
good of spouses and the generation and
education of children. Moreover, it is a grave
scandal when there is corruption of the young."

Deus Caritas Est

(Dec.25, 2005)

This new view of love, an essential novelty of

Christianity, has not infrequently been considered in a
completely negative sense as the refusal of "eros"
and of all things corporeal. Although there have been
tendencies of this nature, the meaning of this
development is quite different.
"Eros, placed in the nature of man by his Creator,
needs discipline, purification and maturity in order not
to lose its original dignity, and not be degraded to the
level of being pure "sex," becoming a mere
commodity.

Deus Caritas Est

The Christian faith has always considered man as a being in whom

spirit and matter are mutually intertwined, drawing from this a new
nobility. The challenge of "eros" may be said to have been overcome
when man's body and soul are in perfect harmony. Then love truly
becomes "ecstasy," but not ecstasy in the sense of a passing
moment of euphoria, but as a permanent departure from the "I"
closed within itself towards freedom in the giving of self and,
precisely in this way, towards the rediscovery of self, or rather,
towards the discovery of God. In this way, "eros" can raise the human
being "in ecstasy" towards the Divine.

What are the 3 main teachings on human

sexuality?
1.
2.
3.

Sex is meant for love and procreation

which means marriage.
Sex for pleasure alone is a sin because it
degrades man to the level of a commodity.
Among the sins gravely contrary to chastity
are masturbation, fornication, pornography,
and homosexual practices.