Manipulation

or how my girlfriend is manipulating me

What is
manipulation?

ial influence that aims to change the behavior or percept

underhanded tactics.

Cool, ay?

How manipulators
control their
victims?

Home Court
Advantage
A manipulative individual may insist on you meeting and interacting in a physical
space where he or she can exercise more dominance and control. This can be the
manipulators office, home, car, or other spaces where he feels ownership and
familiarity (and where you lack them).

Let You Speak First to Establish Your Baseline

and Look for Weaknesses

By asking you general and probing questions, they establish a baseline about your
thinking and behavior, from which they can then evaluate your strengths and
weaknesses. This type of questioning with hidden agenda can also occur at the
workplace or in personal relationships.

Manipulation of
Facts
Examples: Lying. Excuse making. Two faced. Blaming the victim for
causing their own victimization. Deformation of the truth. Strategic
disclosure or withholding of key information. Exaggeration.
Understatement. One-sided bias of issue

Negative Surprises
Typically, the unexpected negative information comes without warning, so you
have little time to prepare and counter their move. The manipulator may ask
for additional concessions from you in order to continue working with you.

Can you think of

something else
now?

the manipulator can put pressure on you to

make a decision before youre ready

some individuals raise their voice during

discussions as a form of aggressive
manipulation

the manipulator may also use negative humor

designed to poke at your weaknesses and
disempower you

Silence Treatment

Pretend Ignorance (the classic playing dumb

tactic)

What can go wrong?

Every victim of manipulation

Jonestown Incident
1978

On November 18, 1978, Peoples Temple

leader Jim Jones instructed all members
living in the Jonestown, Guyana compound
to commit an act of "revolutionary
suicide," by drinking poisoned punch. In
all, 918 people died that day, nearly a third
of whom were children.

How could
something like this
happen?

Founded in 1956 by Jim Jones, the Peoples

Temple was a racially integrated church that
focused on helping people in need. Jones
originally established the Peoples Temple in
Indianapolis, Indiana, but then moved it to
Redwood Valley, California in 1966.

Jones had a vision of a communist

community, one in which everyone lived
together in harmony and worked for the
common good.

The Holocaust
19411945

What is Holocaust?

The Holocaust was a genocide in which Adolf

Hitler's Nazi Germany and its collaborators
killed about six million Jews. The victims
included 1.5 million children and represented
about two-thirds of the nine million Jews who
had resided in Europe

In the early 1930's Germany was in an

economic downfall and in a great depression,
due to there loss in WW1.Adolf Hitler had a gift
with words. He was a mass manipulator and in a
short time could have support from his enemies.
From 1933 when he was elected Chancellor to 1939
when the war errupted Hitler had aquired many allies
and had secretly made Germany a military force.
Hitler promoted the war by staging attacks on
Germany and blaming it on other nations. Hitler
created a sense of hate towards other nations.

Adolf Hitler 18891945

Jewish people became the main target of Hitlers

army. The Jewish people were blamed for the
economic downfall and the great depression in
Germany. Hitler being a powerful speaker
influenced many German people that it was the
Jewswho had killed christ. German people and
kids were taught that Jews were "minions of the
devil". Antisemitism was what Hitler instilled in
the German population which played a drastic
part in why people eagerly saught to kill off the
Jewish population.

Ted Bundy
Theodore Bundy was an American serial killer, kidnapper, rapist, burglar, and necrophile who assaulted
and murdered numerous young women, most of them during the 1970s and possibly earlier. Shortly before
his execution, after more than a decade of denials, he confessed to 30 homicides committed in seven
states between 1974 and 1978. The true victim count remains unknown, and could be much higher.

Tactics

Bundy was regarded as handsome and

charismatic by many of his young female
victims, traits he exploited to win their
trust. He typically approached them in
public places, faking an injury or a
disability, or impersonating an authority
figure, before overpowering and assaulting
them at more secluded locations.

He sometimes revisited his secondary crime

scenes for hours at a time, grooming and
performing sexual acts with the decomposing
corpses until putrefaction and destruction by
wild animals made further interaction
impossible. He decapitated at least 12 of his
victims, and kept some of the severed heads in
his apartment for a period of time as
mementos. On a few occasions, he simply
broke into dwellings at night and bludgeoned
his victims as they slept.

Why?

Motivations of
manipulators

a strong need to attain feelings of power and superiority in

relationships with others

a desire to gain a feeling of power over others in order to

raise their perception of self-esteem

boredom, or growing tired of his/her surroundings, seeing it

as a game more than hurting others

covert agenda, criminal or otherwise, including financial

manipulation (often seen when the elderly or unsuspecting,
unprotected wealthy are intentionally targeted for the sole
purpose of obtaining a victim's financial assets)

a want and need to feel in control (aka. control freak)

K, bye.