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Temperament and
emotional needs
GROUP AGREEMENT
SESSION PLAN
THE GOAL OF
PARENTING
To prepare our
children for
adulthood so they
can cope in the
outside world.
TEMPERAMENT
What is temperament?
The traits or characteristics you
were born with that influence how
you behave.
TEMPERAMENT
Temperament can be modified but not
completely changed.
Some temperaments are genuinely much
more difficult to cope with for both child and
parent, especially if there are additional
stresses or challenges.
EASY/FLEXIBLE
STRONG-WILLED
OR SPIRITED
SHY OR SLOW TO
WARM UP
BREAK
WHAT CHILDREN
REALLY NEED
EMOTIONAL NEEDS
Acceptance
Attention
Appreciation
Encouragement
Affection
Respect
Support
Comfort
Approval
Security
LOVE LANGUAGES
Words of affirmation
Physical touch
Quality time
Acts of service
Gifts
REFLECTION
NEXT WEEK
We will be looking
at why its tough
being a teenager.
SESSION 2
Why its
tough being
a teenager
SESSION PLAN
SUPPORTING OUR
TEENAGERS
How can we help our teenagers with
physical changes, school issues and
emotional and social changes?
BREAK
IDENTITY
Who am I?
Who do I want to be?
Which group do I fit into?
What am I good at?
INDEPENDENCE
WE NEED TO STAY
CONNECTED
EATING TOGETHER
GOOD SELF-ESTEEM
A teenager with good self-esteem
will be able to:
Take pride in what they do
Act independently
Assume responsibility for their actions
Tolerate frustration better
LOW SELF-ESTEEM
A teenager with low self-esteem is more
likely to:
Put down their talents and abilities
Avoid trying new things
Blame others for their shortcomings
Find it hard to tolerate frustration
Feel emotionally indifferent
Be influenced by others
REFLECTION
We have looked at some of the pressures teenagers
are under today.
We have discussed ways we can support our
teenagers with some of the issues they face.
We have looked at issues concerning teenagers
identity and independence.
We have discussed ways to stay connected with
our teenagers.
We have looked at ways of boosting our teenagers
self-esteem.
NEXT WEEK
We will look at
parenting styles
and how the way
we are affects the
way our teenagers
behave.
SESSION 3
Parenting
styles
SESSION PLAN
Parenting styles
Consistency
Encouraging responsibility
House rules
PARENTING STYLES
Its important to understand our own style as
the way we are affects the way our
teenagers behave.
Our parenting style is usually caught from our
own parents or caregivers.
Looking at parenting styles can be quite
challenging. It may raise memories from the past
as well as shed light on the present.
AUTHORITARIAN
PERMISSIVE
AUTHORITATIVE/ASSERTIVE
CONSISTENCY
Do you say No then back down and say
Yes if your child persists by nagging or
shouting?
Does one parent say Yes and the other
say No?
Do you make threats to your children and
not carry them through?
BREAK
ENCOURAGING
RESPONSIBILITY
REFLECTION
We have looked at the different types of
parenting styles.
We have considered the importance of
consistency in parenting.
We have looked at ways of encouraging
responsibility in our teenagers.
We have looked at house rules as a
framework for what goes on in our homes.
NEXT WEEK
Next week well
be looking at
ways to improve
communication.
SESSION 4
Communication
SESSION PLAN
Introduction to communication
Listening to your teenager
Understanding body language
Reflecting back with empathy
THE PROBLEM
BLOCKS TO COMMUNICATION
LISTENING TO YOUR
TEENAGER
Being listened to feeds directly into the
love languages of words and time and
also the gift of our presence.
If our childs love language is one of these
three, then not being listened to may have
an even greater impact.
BREAK
BODY LANGUAGE
People communicate their
feelings by the way they appear
(body language) as well as by
what they say.
BODY LANGUAGE
EMPATHY
REFLECTION
We have looked at communication as a
two-way thing.
We have discussed the importance of really
listening to our teenagers.
We have considered ways in which we can
improve our listening skills through:
understanding body language, showing
empathy, creating opportunities to listen and
learning to reflect back feelings.
NEXT WEEK
Next week we will look
at communicating our
thoughts and wishes with
respect and the value of
negotiating, a skill that
prepares our teenager for
adult life.
SESSION 5
Handling
conflict
SESSION PLAN
Communicating respectfully
Conflict
Negotiation
Choose your battles
Consequences
COMMUNICATING
RESPECTFULLY
Sometimes our
teenagers
wishes and ours
do not coincide!
I MESSAGES
When you
I feel
Because
ANYTHING
FOR A
QUIET LIFE
THE SILENT
SEETHER
AUTHORITATIVE PARENTS
Try to understand childs point of view and
are willing to negotiate.
Voice their concerns.
Accept temporary unpopularity.
Aim for a win-win solution.
Choose their battles.
win
HOW TO NEGOTIATE
1. Stick to the main issue.
2. Try to understand their point of view.
3. Say what you feel and what you would like
to happen.
4. Ask how your teen feels and what they
would like to happen.
5. Discuss options and try to find a
win-win solution.
BREAK
NATURAL CONSEQUENCES
Natural consequences happen
if we dont take action or
rescue our child.
It means standing
back and allowing
our child to learn from
their mistakes.
LOGICAL, SMART
CONSEQUENCES
SMART consequences need to be:
Specific
Measurable
Attainable
Realistic
Time-bound
REFLECTION
We have looked at positive ways of
communicating our feelings to our teenagers.
We have considered the reasons why
conflict occurs.
We have talked about different styles of
handling conflict.
We have looked at consequences and
sanctions we could put in place if needed.
NEXT WEEK
Next week well be
looking at three big
issues of sex and
relationships, alcohol
and other drugs, and
money and debt.
SESSION 6
The big issues
SESSION PLAN
Message in
Message out
Knowing the facts
Developing positive relationships
Saying no
MESSAGE IN
When it comes to the three big issues who are
their best travelling companions?
The school?
Their friends?
The TV and internet?
Magazines?
Their parents?
MESSAGE OUT
GOOD COMMUNICATIONS
BREAK
DEVELOPING
POSITIVE
RELATIONSHIPS
SAYING NO
Teenagers need to understand how to deal
with the signals their body is giving them
when they feel emotionally or sexually
aroused.
How do they handle a beating heart, sweaty
palms, that feeling in the pit of the stomach?
Does it mean they have to say yes?
REFLECTION
We have considered some of the difficult topics we
need to talk to teenagers about.
We have discussed where young people get their
messages.
We have looked at the messages we want to
communicate to our teenagers.
We have talked about the importance of our teenagers
knowing the facts.
We have discussed ways to help teenagers develop
positive relationships.
NEXT WEEK
We will be looking at the
possible goals behind
our childrens behaviour
and thinking about the
way we build strong
family through family
traditions and the
memories they create.
SESSION 7
Building
strong
families
SESSION PLAN
Excitement
and thrill
Pity
Approval
BREAK
MY FAMILY VALUES
REFLECTION
Weve thought about different temperaments and
how we can meet our childrens emotional needs
by using their love languages.
Weve recognised that its tough being a teenager
with all the physical, emotional and brain changes
that are happening.
Weve recognised that, as parents, we have a
vital role to play and that our teenagers really
need us to stay connected.
REFLECTION
Weve considered our own style of parenting and
recognised that being both warm and having clear
boundaries is the style to aim for.
Weve learnt that good listening, even at
inconvenient times, is important.
Weve looked at negotiation skills to help us when
conflict arises, recognising that there will be times
when we need to enforce our parental authority
and carry through sanctions we have agreed.
THANK YOU
FOR COMING
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