RESPONSIBLE

PARENTHOOD 101

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The Family is the
Heart of
Humanity
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 Art II, PHILIPPINE CONSTITUTION of
1987:
• Sec 12. The state recognizes the sanctity of family
life and shall protect and strengthen the family as a
basic autonomous social institution. It shall equally
protect the life of the mother and the life of the
unborn from conception. The natural and primary
rights and duty of parents in the rearing of the youth
for civil efficiency and the development of moral
character shall receive the support of the
government.

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 Art II, Philippine Constitution…

• Sec 13. The State recognizes the vital role of

the youth in nation-building and shall
promote and protect their physical, moral,
spiritual, intellectual, and social well-being.
It shall inculcate in the youth patriotism,
and nationalism, and encourage their
involvement in public and civil affairs.

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School in the home…

THE PARENTS AS
FIRST TEACHERS

Even Jesus secured His first education in the home.

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Manual of Instructions for Parents?…

THERE IS NO HARD AND FAST RULE ON HOW

TO BECOME AN EFFECTIVE PARENT.

It may be born out of personal experiences,

influences from the environment, and one’s
faith to become a good parent against all
odds.

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 The Home as the first learning
environment for kids…

• The home is the first school where the

education of the child is to begin.
• The educational influences of the
home are a decided power for good or
for evil.

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 LAYING THE FOUNDATIONS:
• Upon all parents there rests the obligation of giving
physical, mental, and spiritual instruction.
• Parenting is a work of NO SMALL magnitude and
importance --- a work requiring earnest thought
and prayer no less than patient, persevering effort.

“A right foundation, must be laid, a framework, strong and

firm, erected. And then day by day the work of building,
polishing, perfecting, must go forward.”

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 Not a secondary matter:
• Home education is not a secondary matter. It
occupies the FIRST PLACE in all true education.

• Home education is not by any means to be

neglected. Those who neglect it, neglect a sacred
duty.

• The first care of the parents should be to establish

good government in the family.

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 The home as a school…

• Respect between husband and wife is the

road to becoming good parents. Each is to
help the other bring into the home a
pleasant, wholesome learning atmosphere
for kids.

• The mother as a special instructor.

• An education broader than mere

instruction.
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 The beginning of child training

• Start when the mind is most

impressible.

• Make a right beginning.

• Train the first child.

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Teaching strategies for parents:

 The effect of a quiet, gentle manner.

 Teach with kindliness and affection in requiring obedience
from the child.
 Encourage independent thinking.
 Teach helpfulness at an early age.
 Give attention to little things.
 Talented children require greater care.
 Bedtime story-telling helps a lot. (Simple teachings from
the BIBLE can be a great source of textbook about life)
 “Train” not “Tell.
 Educate for self-control and self-reliance.

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 Training and Preparation of Parents:

• Pray, it helps. Work in partnership with

the Divine.
• Mother, this is your sacred work.
• Day by day of love and kindness must be
upon the lips of the parents. Love is one
lesson we all learned from the Great
Teacher.

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 The Lesson of OBEDIENCE -
Let fathers and mothers remember that it is a
higher branch of education to teach children
obedience.

Obedience is a lesson of a lifetime.

Obedience to parental authority comes before

reason is developed and self-will grows strong.

Obedience to parents leads to Obedience to God.

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 The habit of Obedience:
• Allow no arguments or evasions.
• Permit no exceptions.
• Require prompt, perfect obedience.
• Reasons for obedience should be given.
• The parent’s word should be law.
• Insubordination is winking at sin.
• Habit of obedience established by repetition.

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 Basic lessons for children:
Train the child to yield.
Do not gratify selfish wishes.
Give nothing for which children cry.
Never permit display of anger.
No wavering or indecision.
Parental self-control is vital.
Teach children self-restraint, self-denial and self-
control., both by precept and example.
Patience, forbearance, love and meekness are great
lessons to teach children.

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 Some Practical lessons in parenting
children:
• Do not make children center of attraction.
Unaffected children are most attractive.
• Instruct children on simplicity and in economy.
• Encourage a happy frame of mind.
• Smile, parents.
• Teach children to be grateful.
• Honesty is the best policy.

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 Developing character through
corrective discipline:
Instruct children patiently.
Never correct in anger.
Scolding and fretting never help. They stir up the
worst feelings of the human heart.
Nervousness is no excuse for impatience.
Power in silence.
Give few commands; then require obedience.
The rod is sometimes necessary. Punish without
humiliating.
Never strike a passionate blow.

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 The Discipline Contract:
• Be fair
• Be clear
• Be firm
• Be positive
• Be creative
• Be sensitive
• Give time
• Offer choices

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Punishment and Discipline: The link

 It teaches causes and effect. It helps children to

realize that their actions have consequences ---
for other people and for themselves.
 It makes children take responsibility for their
behavior. If they make the decision to do
something, knowing it to be wrong, they must
shoulder the responsibility.
 It reinforces the lines that we draw between
right, or acceptable, and wrong, or unacceptable,
behavior. It shows that we mean business.

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 What children need:
• Understanding
• Time
• Respect
• Admiration
• Peace
• Play
• Love

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PREVENTING VIOLENCE
AGAINST CHILDREN:
What Works? What
Doesn’t?

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 Some Measures that Can be Taken
to Prevent and Deal with Violence
on Children in the Home

1. Cultivate in the family and the society

at large competency based paradigm in
viewing children which gives importance
to children’s rights and participation;

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 Some Measures that Can be Taken
to Prevent and Deal with Violence
on Children in the Home
2. Root child protection program in culturally approved values
and beliefs.
Some of these are:
• Children are gifts from God
• Children are made in the image of God
• Children receive special blessings
• Children are specially attuned to wisdom
• God takes the side of the powerless in society
• i.e. the sick, the poor, the widow, the women, the
possessed, the alien and the children

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 Some Measures that Can be Taken
to Prevent and Deal with Violence
on Children in the Home

3. Understand violence and children’s rights

from the points of view of children and their
parents;

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 Some Measures that Can be Taken
to Prevent and Deal with Violence
on Children in the Home
4. Promote the participation of children in all
aspects of their personal growth, healing and
recovery as well as in all aspects of family life;

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 Some Measures that Can be Taken
to Prevent and Deal with Violence
on Children in the Home

5. Encourage a systemic approach to facilitating

children’s growth, wellness and healing;
6. Develop experiential parent wellness
programs that will help parents find their
strengths and limitations and identify
sources of violence which can endanger the
rights and well being of their children;

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 Some Measures that Can be Taken
to Prevent and Deal with Violence
on Children in the Home
7. Develop parent effectiveness training
programs that would address issues of
parenting such as:
 corporal punishment
 active and respectful listening
 negotiation
 mediation
 conflict management and transformation
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 Some Measures that Can be Taken
to Prevent and Deal with Violence
on Children in the Home
8. Promote the identification, creation and celebration
of family traditions and rituals that can facilitate the
nurture of positive and peaceful family psychological
climate conducive to dialogue and reconciliation;
9. Establish and make available to children emergency
support hotlines; in places with limited
telecommunication facilities, establish nurture groups
in churches and civic organizations that will be open
to receiving reports of violence inflicted on children
from children themselves;

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 Some Measures that Can be Taken
to Prevent and Deal with Violence
on Children in the Home

10. Establish and make available counseling

centers for children who are deeply affected
by violence in their homes, as well as to
parents who may need help in dealing with
intra psychically entrenched issues that
manifest in violent behaviors at home;
• parent with anger problem
• work with Conscience Comm.
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 Some Measures that Can be Taken
to Prevent and Deal with Violence
on Children in the Home
Counseling Goals for the Severely Traumatized:
• the restoration of the child’s perceived ability to effectively
deal with life’s problems;
• the restoration of the disrupted balance of the child’s psycho-
spiritual components by working on the psycho-spiritual
conditions of self-blame, shame, terror, and disconnection;
• the restoration of the disrupted relationship of the child with
her family and social context
• enhanced responsiveness of the family and other support
systems to the needs of the child;

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 Some Measures that Can be Taken
to Prevent and Deal with Violence
on Children in the Home
Counseling Goals for the Severely Traumatized:
• the exploration of the meaning of the traumatic
experience without being overwhelmed;
• the safe release of the child’s feelings;
• the acceptance of the traumatic events and its healthy
inclusion in the child’s understanding of life;
• establishing relationship with the family which may lead
to the abuser’s repentance;
• creating possibilities for forgiveness, restitution and
reconciliation
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 Some Measures that Can be Taken
to Prevent and Deal with Violence
on Children in the Home
11. Train and make available community family
counselors who can visit families and facilitate the
care of children, of the parents and of the family life;
12. Engage social scientists, ethicists, philosophers and
religious scholars in developing and nurturing a
culture of peace that can guide Filipino families and
communities;
 harmony with the self
 harmony with others
 harmony with nature
 harmony with God
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 Some Measures that Can be Taken
to Prevent and Deal with Violence
on Children in the Home
13. Make use of spiritual resources available to
the child, the family and the community in
developing violence prevention programs;
 Observations of community workers, child
workers in man-made disasters as well as
natural calamities - stood in awe over the
resiliency of Filipino families and children.
 The most common resiliency factor cited is
that of the family’s and the child’s spirituality
or deep faith in God.
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 Some Measures that Can be Taken
to Prevent and Deal with Violence
on Children in the Home
 Working with children who have been victims of violence
in the home addresses concerns related to meaning,
hope for the future, and spiritual resources. Such
concerns are:
recapturing loss sense of order and meaning in the
universe
recreating hope in the violated child
instilling confidence in themselves and others
discerning God as the protector of the weak and the
righteous
discovering strength in weakness
discerning the way to recovery
rusting the children’s sources of resiliency
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 Food for our thoughts:
We are guilty of many errors and many
faults… but our worst crime is
abandoning children…
A CHILD CANNOT WAIT.
To him we cannot say “tomorrow.
His name is “TODAY”.

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ABIGAIL ORESTE BARRERA-RAYALA
Police Officer 2
WCPD PNCO/INVESTIGATOR
GUINOBATAN MUNICIPAL POLICE STATION
CP #: 0927-9127066
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