Prof Mokhter Ahmad

Islamic University of Technology

Cell.: +8801712540089
Email.: mokhterahmad@gmail.com
 Parenting for
Raising Righteous
Children
 What has disappeared?

• Gentle touch and games

• Fairy tales
• Being “present”, rather than presents
• Playing real hands on games
• Praying together
• Human conversation with real people
• Simple toys that don’t cost money
• Less parent direction
What tends to be your goals or
desires in parenting?
• Goals: _____________________
• Desires: ____________________
Parenting Starts before the birth of a child
• The mother being pious
• The Father being Halal Bread Winner
• Making Dua to Allah (Even after birth)

• The story of the mother

of Ibn Taimiyah,
Sayeed Nursi,
• The story of the Father
Abdul Qader Jilani,
Imam Bukhari
 Building Blocks for Creating Personality:
Prophetic Way
• Be the person you want to see your child to be
• They hear with their eyes and ears
• Proper Timing for Educatiing them
• Three (Eating, Walking/Riding/Outing)
• Buying Toys
• Helping them to be pious (Even to be obedient to u)
• Story Telling/Talking Softly
• Giving Them Companionship
• Creating Competitive Environment in the Family
• Encouraging Them (Einstein)
• Creating Confidence Among Them
• Calling Them with Good Names
 Building Blocks for Creating Islamic
Personality: Seven Key Areas
1. Faith Building
1. Teaching them Kalimat at-Tawheed
2. Teaching them Love for Allah, Allah’s
Attributes, Love for His Messenger
3. Love for Quran, Passion for Qur’an Learning,
4. Telling them stories of the golden children
2. Religious Ritual Passion Building
1. Teaching Them Salat, Sawm, Night Vigil
Prayer, Bringing them to Eid Prayer
2. Bringing them to the masjids
3. Habituating them for charity
 Building Blocks for Creating Islamic
Personality: Seven Key Areas
3. Social Bonding Building
1. Accompanying them to social gatherings
where the elderly people are there
2. Inculcating the habit of salam (Islamic
Greetings) in them
3. Bringing them to the company of the pious
4. Choosing good friends for them
5. Giving them social responsibility
 Building Blocks for Creating Islamic
Personality: Seven Key Areas
4. Character Building
• Virtue of Character Building in the children
• Examples of the Pious Predecessors
• Kinds of Good Charater taught by the Prophet
• With Parents/Scholars/….
5. Emotional Bonds Building
6. Physical strength Building
7. Intellectual Capacity Building
8. Health Building
Inculcating Religious Knowledge

• Inculcating Religious Knowledge

 Give Them Time
• Give Them Time, Rather than
• Love their Mother/Father
 Give Them Example

• Inculcating Religious Knowledge

 ‫يَـٰٓأَيُّ َہا ٱلَّ ِذ ََ‬
‫ين َءا َمنُواَ قُ ٰٓواَ‬
‫س ُكمَ َوأَهَِلكي ُكمَ نَارَا‬‫أَنفُ َ‬
‫‪At-Tahreem, 6‬‬
Social And Emotional
Building Blocks
Showing Respect Being
to Others Considerate

Having good
Having healthy social and
self esteem communication
skills

Become
Becoming a good
responsibly
problem solver
independent
10 Characteristics of Great Parents

1. Mindful parent (vision for their children)

2. Authoritative parenting style
3. Understand child temperament
4. Involved in child’s life
5. Think Win-Win with their children (rules)
6. Co-parent well
7. Consistent
8. Avoid harsh discipline
9. Explain decisions
10. Respect
 Link child to Allah Ta’ala
َ‫ٱّللَِۖ ِإ َّن‬
ََّ ‫ك َِب‬َ ‫ل تُش ِر‬ََ ‫ى‬ َُ ‫ن ِلِبنِِۦه َو ُه ََو يَ ِع‬
ََّ َ‫ظ َهُ ۥ يَـبُن‬ َُ ‫ل لُق َمـ‬
ََ ‫َو ِإذَ قَا‬
َ‫ع ِظكيم‬َ َ‫ظلم‬ ُ َ‫ك ل‬
ََ ‫ٱلشر‬
ِ
Raise according to Quran and Sunnah
Be right role model
Provide Islamic environment
Paint right picture of Allah Ta’ala
Stories of Rasulillah (SAW) and Sahabah
Ultimate Authority is Allah Ta’ala
 Lets Live in ََ ‫يَـٰٓأَيُّ َہا ٱلَّ ِذ‬
َ‫ين َءا َمنُواَ قُ ٰٓوا‬
Paradise Together
‫س ُكمَ َوأَهَِلكي ُكمَ نَارَا‬َُ ‫أَنف‬
With our Children
At-Tahreem, 6