Parent authority

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Firstly, let’s play Kahoot!

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What do you think of?
When you hear about
your parents.
 Are you feeling
comfortable talking
about or to your parents
straightforwardly?
What makes you think
or feel that way?
Seniority in Asian family

- Ranking from age.

- For kids = their parents are higher than anything on earth (somehow feel
untouchable)
- Pay attention to the significance of parents as they give birth to the child
and take care of them since birth
- Thus we asian will not say negative things about their parents(although it’s a
fact) as it is count as the disrespect
Asian culture about parenting

- Asian have tight cultural background

- They were taught for generations
- Believe in old myths
- They don’t listen to their kids.
- They believe in their authority and power over than the kid’s reasons.
- Parents always expect their child to take good care of them when they are
old.
What is PIETY

Piety means that you are thankful to someone who help or give you
something.
What is PARENT AUTHORITY

- Parent’s right to teach and to be responsible of their kids from the moment
they were born until they turn 18.
What is Tiger Parents

- a strict demanding mother or father who pushes their children to high levels
of achievement
- VERY COMMON TYPE OF HOW ASIAN PARENTING THEIR CHILD
Pros of Tiger Parents
Child’s confidence
- Complement the child doesn’t always truly install child’s confidence. True
self-esteem needs to be earn.
More productive, motivate and responsible

- The child will has the mindset that they need to work hard to earn things.
- Asian children are always competitive which leads to innovation and
development
Usually lead their child to success

- Because of the great pressure that always want you to be higher than
normal, the child can easily pass the standard of the university or work place
- The child growing up with tiger mom or dad have higher grades which leads
to higher incomes when they grow up as they can produce high quality work
Become tough

- They can stand more negative comment

- Learn how to use comments efficiently to develop themselves
- They will always try to overcome the obstacle
- Don’t really give up easily as you are taught so
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But...what is
wrong about
Tiger Parents
Grade is everything

- Grade under A is A dishonor to the family

- They emphasis on academic because they think it’s an integral parts for
their child success
- Art is unstable and not good enough
- Doctor Doctor only!!
THE IRON HAND and THE BEATING STICK

Asian parents enforce discipline with an iron hand and a beating stick. They
usually didn’t realise that these physical punishment are child abuse and believe
that they have all the right to punish their child as harsh as they want. Not only
physically but also psychologically.
Piety is not a debt to pay

- Asian parents generally expect a lot from their children as a result.

- Giving something in return to someone who give something very significant
to you is common sense and what you should do as a good citizen. But
taking care of your child or give birth to one is not an investment for profit.
- YOUR CHILD IS NOT AN ATM MACHINE
PIETY SHOULD
NOT BE PAID
WITH MONEY
Sharing opinion or ask question back =
you are speaking up against them

- Questioning authority at any time is seen as being disrespectful

- Decrease child’s self-esteem and creativities as they never have someone
encouraging them to be themself or think out of the box
- The child will have no thought for his/herself and eventually cannot survive
the society when they parents passed away.
- Does parents really know best in this era?
“It is for your best”

Parent’s excuses to why they are doing things they are doing is “they are for your
best.” At least, that is what they believe. But being inside a kid’s shoes, we know
that what our parents are doing isn’t alway the best for us. We know that what is
best for us and it is different from what our parents think.
Comparing Asian parenting
and American parenting
Asian parents
- Concentrate more on the fail than the success
- expect their children to respect and obey
- likely to think children are vulnerable and dependent and will do everything
they can for their children instead of encouraging them to develop
independently
- good at raising stereotypically successful kids, as they are strict about their
children’s studies and have high expectations.
- expect their children to excel at what they do
- Likes to compare
American parents

- use more compliments and encouragement to help a child develop

- Raise children to be able to take care of themselves as soon as possible
- believe a kid should be independent
- Don’t usually ask their kids about grade
- Rarely ask the teacher how their child is doing at school
- prefer their children to enjoy what they do
How these type of
parenting affects
the child
Child’s Mental Health

Not every kids can stand the great pressure. Kids at young age have a very fluid
mental health. Meaning , they remember what they see and do so. What parents
stick inside a child’s brain, it will be there for quite a long time, if no change or
help wasn’t in play, kids could be in a bad mental health. When kids can’t speak
up, they keep the things inside their heads and builds up stress over time which
can develop into mental illness bo nvm such as depression.
Mistake Phobia

- Most kids that growing up with this kind of parenting will fear to take a risk
or making a mistake even though it is very small.
- They cannot accept their mistakes or failure and frequently judge their value
from it.
Relationship between parents and child

Parents and childs are supposed to help each other, trust each other, and find
solutions for each other. But now, bonds between parents and childs have gotten
worse. Because kids don’t speak up and parents won’t listen. This has to be
solved!
Home is not our comfort zone anymore
When parents force you to do things you don’t want to, sometimes home can
become jails for some people. People who can’t express their feelings, they don’t
feel comfortable and for this reason being, home is not our comfort zone
anymore.
Seek for help from the wrong place

As home is not he child’s safe place anymore, they will seeking help from other
places such as school. But unfortunately, not all of them can find help from the
right people. In worse case they might rely drugs.
I will grow up being tiger mom/dad

It is the only way they know to teach or raise a child since they are never been
raised with other way. Thus this wrong perception will passed on to the next
generation on and on.
Parents should...
Should be responsible for the child’s...

- Disciplining their child

- guiding them to the right path, making them a good citizens of the world
- support their education
- Custody and supervision
- physical and psychological protection
- health and safety
- caring for them
Shouldn’t be responsible of...

- Deciding the Child’s dream. Such as, what they want to study or
the jobs they want to be
Best way to safe
the good
relationship in
family
Talk to your parents
Slowly talk to them with reasons, leave the anger behind because if anger is put
up, the situation would be worse. Try to show them some proven facts and
statistics that grades aren’t necessarily the thing that you need to ave for
success. You might be good at something, but they don’t know. Speak up for
yourselves, what you want to do and how they can help you.
Explain the changes of the world

- The world is changing very fast. You also need to understand that it is hard
for them to accept the fact that they didn’t know best anymore. Or they
really don’t realise that the world is changing. Try to explain the facts that
they need our leads and slowly gain trust from them.
Stop the wrong perception to pass through
the next generation.

Take small little steps as to talk to your parents with reasons, hopefully, they
would see our point of view and realize that they were believing in wrong cultural
myths. All parents wants us to be successful in life, their methods of helping us
are just wrong.