GOOD PARENTING

DR MANSI JAIN
CONSULTANT PSYCHIATRIST

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 WHAT IS PARENTING?
• Guide transition from childhood to adulthood.

• Meeting physical, emotional, social needs of the child.

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 WHAT WE WILL DISCUSS TODAY….
• What is good parenting?
• Myths about parenting
• Know your child
• Parenting styles
• Handling temper tantrums
• Gadget addiction
• Handling unwanted behavior
• Common mistakes
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 WHAT IS GOOD PARENTING?
• Respect children as individuals
• Allowing kids to become independent
• Practice tough loving
• No harsh disciplining
• Be aware of your actions
• Be involved in child’s life
• Be consistent
• Change with changing times and age
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 MYTHS AND MISCONCEPTIONS
• Good parenting means good children
• Over involved parenting assures happy children
• Children should be centre of the household universe
• Marriage comes second in importance after kids
• What works for your friend will work for you too
• Everyone knows how to be a good parent instinctively(we become our
parents)

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 KNOW YOUR CHILD 2-8 yrs.
• They are learning to say ‘NO’
• Imagination is developing
• Are self centred
• Learning to socialize
• Learning to recognize emotions
• Learning empathy
• Learning what is ‘right’ and what is ‘wrong’
• They are watching and learning from your every action

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 PARENTING STYLES

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 OUTCOMES OF EACH PARENTING STYLE
AUTHORITATIVE AUTHORITARION PERMISSIVE NEGLECTFUL
Independent Poor self esteem Self centred Delinquency
Good self esteem Poor social skills Poor self control Drug use
Better at academics Poor academics Impulsive Mental health problems
Less mental health Mental health problems Poor social skills Violent
problems

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 TEMPER TANTRUMS
• Praise positive behaviour
• Allow them to choose
• Do not try to reason during a temper tantrum
• Ignore the tantrum if no threat of injury
• Distract
• Do not lose your cool
• Think why the child is having a tantrum= hungry, sleepy, frustrated?
• Attention= ignore
• Chore= quiet period then follow through the chore
• Injurious behaviour= time out(last resort)
• After the tantrum= do not give in, reward/praise, show affection

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 GADGET ADDICTION
• < 18 months- No screen time, only video chatting
• 18-24 months- only with parental supervision
• 2yrs-5 yrs.- maximum 1 hour per day
• Gadget free time/activities in the day
• No gadget zones in the house e.g. Dinner table, bedroom
• Be a good role model
• No screen engagement to soothe a child
• No screen use for feeding the child
• Supervise and research apps used/content watched
• Co-watch, co-play
• Consistent rule for entire family
• Older children- discuss cyber safety and cyber bullying

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 BEHAVIORAL PROBLEMS
• Do not shout
• Do not use threats
• Do not use violence
• Have a consistent set of rules
• Do not over ride your spouse
• Teach consequences
• Discipline, don’t punish
• Do not instil fear, let them know you are there for them
• Reprimand the behaviour, not the child(bad habit v/s bad child)

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 COMMON MISTAKES
• Helicopter parenting
• Too many activities/ no free time
• Less importance to emotional development
• Closing communication lines
• Bending rules as per convenience
• Not allowing them to make mistakes
• Not equipping them for failure
• Not respecting your kids

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 “Your children are not your children. They are the sons and
daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but
not from you, And though they are with you, yet they belong not
to you”. Khalil Gibran.

Thank -you

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