DEVELOPING AND

MAINTAINING
RELATIONSHIP

PREPARED BY: ALVILYN S. GONZALES

OBJECTIVES:

• A.TO DISCUSS AN UNDERSTANDING OF TEEN AGE RELATIONSHIPS,

INCLUDING THE ACCEPTABLE AND UNACCEPTABLE EXPRESSIONS
OF ATTRACTIONS
• B. EXPRESS YOUR WAYS OF SHOWING ATTRACTION, LOVE, AND
COMMITMENT;
• C. IDENTIFY WAYS TO BECOME RESPONSIBLE IN A RELATIONSHIP
INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

• The interconnections and interdependence

between two individuals
 INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

• The exchange of verbal and nonverbal messages

between two people who have a relationship and
are influenced by their partner’s messages

•
INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

• A web of relationships that connect individuals

to one another Relational Network
TYPES OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

• FAMILY:
• Small social group bound by ties of blood, civil contract,
and a commitment to care for one another Types of
Interpersonal Relationships
TYPES OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

• FRIENDSHIP
• Close and caring relationship between two people
• Perceived as mutually satisfying and beneficial
 TYPES OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

• Romantic Relationships
• Love “deep affection for and attachment to another person”
• Intimacy “Closeness and understanding of a relational
partner”
LOVE STYLES
TYPES OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

Online Relationships
• Virtual relationships
• Hyperpersonal communication
WHY DO WE FORM RELATIONSHIPS

• COMPANIONSHIP
• STIMULATION
• ACHIEVING GOAL
• PROXIMITY
• PHYSICAL ATTRACTION
• SIMILARITY
WHY IS PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP IMPORTANT

• LIVE LONGER
• DEAL WITH STRESS
• BE HEALTHIER: DEPRESSION, DECREASED IMMUNE FUCNTION, HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE
• FEEL RICHER
 COSTS MANAGING RELATIONSHIP DYNAMICS

• Costs and rewards

• Social exchange of costs and benefits
• Rewards Extrinsic (e.g. social status)
• Instrumental (e.g. saving on rent)
• Intrinsic (e.g. feeling of safety)
STAGES OF A RELATIONSHIP
STAGES OF A RELATIONSHIP

• Initiating Stage
• Make contact with another
• Many relationships don’t move beyond this stage
STAGES OF A RELATIONSHIP

• Exploratory Stage
• Small talk
• Uncertainty reduction
{passive, active, interactive}
STAGES OF A RELATIONSHIP

• Intensification Stage
• Personal self-disclosure
• Share affection verbally
• Pet names
 STAGES OF A RELATIONSHIP

• Stable Stage
• Integrating or becoming one
• Bonding by sharing public messages about relationship
STAGES OF A RELATIONSHIP

• Declining Stage
• Uncertainty Events
• Interference (with growth)
• Unmet expectations “Perfect couples never argue.”
• Relationship Repair tactics
STAGES OF A RELATIONSHIP

• Termination Stage
• Passing away Relationship gradually fades
• Sudden death Unexpected termination for one partner
STAGES OF A RELATIONSHIP

• Reconciliation
• Spontaneous development
• Third-party mediation
• High affect Tacit persistence
• Mutual interaction
• Avoidance
COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS

CHEATING
SEXUAL ISSUES
SIGNIFICANT DIFFERENCES
LIFE STAGES
TRAUMATIC EVENTS
STRESS (PHYSICAL/EMOTIONAL/PSYCHOLOGICAL/FINANCIAL)
BOREDOM
COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS

JEALOUSY
BLENDED FAMILY ISSUES
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE (VERBAL/PHYSICAL ABUSE)
IRRESPONSIBILITY
UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
ADDICTIONS
LACK OF SUPPORT
COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS

DOMINANCY
COMMUNICATION
GIVE AND TAKE
DEPRESSION
NURTURE YOU RELATIONSHIP

• CONNECT WITH YOUR FAMILY

• PRACTICE GRATITUDE
• LEARN TO FORGIVE
• BE COMPASSIONATE
• ACCEPTANCE
• CREATE RITUALS TOGETHER
• SPEND RIGHT TIME WITH THEM
RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONG
LASTING AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIPS
• LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
• PARTNERING IS A CHOICE TO NURTURE
• CREATING LOVE AS A PROCESS
• PROVIDE TO OPPORTUNITY TO GROW
• COMMUNICATION
• NEGOTIATION
RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONG
LASTING AUTHENTIC RELATIONSHIPS

• IT WILL BE A CHALLENGE BY CHANGE

• RENEWAL IS THE KEY FOR LONGEVITY
HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

• PARTNERS ARE
• TREATED WITH KINDLESS AND RESPECT
• HONESTY
• LIKE TO SPEND TIME TOGETHER
• TAKE INTEREST IN THINGS AND ARE IMPORTANCE TO EACH OTHER
WHY WILL YOU SAY NO TO SEX

• PRONE TO STD
• POSSIBILITY OF PREGNANCY
• RIGHT TIME FOR SEX
• BOUNDARY/LIMIT
HOW TO AVOID PEER/DATE PRESSURE

• HANG OUT WITH FRIENDS WHO BELIEVED ON LIMITS

• GO OUT IN GROUP
• INTRODUCE YOUR FRIENDS TO YOUR PARENTS
• INVITE YOUR FRIENDS TO YOUR HOME
• STICK UP FOR YOUR FRIENDS IF THEY ARE BEING PRESSURED
HOW TO AVOID PEER/DATE PRESSURE

• SAY NO IT IN ADVANCE
• ALWAYS CARRY WITH YOU MONEY OR CELLPHONE IF YOU WANT TO LEAVE THE
PLACE
• NEVER OBLIGE TO PAY BACK IN RETURN FOR GIFTS OR A DATE
BASIC RIGHT IN ARELATIONSHIP

PATIENCE
HONESTY
KINDNESS
RESPECT