“We are interested

in others when they

are interested in us.”

-Publilius Syrus
“Everyone must be quick to
LISTEN, slow to speak, slow to
anger.”

-James 1:19
2:1 Ratio
Lost
 In modern society, many of us don’t
listen because we’re too busy talking.
Social Media

Narcissistic society
People are talking more
than listening.
 Why is Listening
DIFFICULT?
Society
rewards the
talkers
 Why is Listening
DIFFICULT?
“I am more
important than
you”
 Why is Listening
DIFFICULT?
Thoughts are faster than
words
 Why is Listening
DIFFICULT?
Past experience
and learning
 Why is Listening
DIFFICULT?
We are not so
good at
speaking either
 POOR LISTENING
Fidgeting
Aggressive listening
Intellectual
listening
 POOR LISTENING
Overly passive listening
Prejudiced listening
Why Do We Need to Listen Well?
If we listen well and honestly,
we become part of a creative
dialogue that invigorates,
challenges, renews, excites and
may contribute to an exchange of
ideas and benefit everyone.
Why Do We Need to Listen Well?
Not to listen well is to be
selfish because we shut
ourselves from others.
Why Do We Need to Listen Well?
Having someone truly
listen to us make us feel
better about life in
general.
Why Do We Need to Listen Well?
Being listened to is
reaffirming and
comforting.
How Do We Learn To Listen?
Becoming a good
listener requires EMPATHY.
How Do We Learn To Listen?
To listen well, you
must want to hear what
the other person is telling
you.
How Do We Learn To Listen?
Just as one should be
empathetic, ONE SHOULD NOT
BE PREOCCUPIED.
How Do We Learn To Listen?
AVOID PASSING JUDGMENT
-Avoid being judgmental.
-Avoid being argumentative or
aggressively competitive.
How Do We Learn To Listen?
The major duty of a
listener is to be open – minded
and initially, reserve judgment.
How Do We Learn To Listen?
BE PATIENT
To be a good listener, one
must also exercise restraint –
be patient and do not interrupt.
How Do We Learn To Listen?

PAY ATTENTION
How Do We Learn To Listen?
ASK
Misinterpretation of what
someone else may be saying is a
barrier to becoming a good
listener.
How Do We Learn To Listen?
ASK
Do not put words in another
person’s mouth.
 LISTEN AT DIFFERENT
LEVELS
Be alert to coded
messages. Sometimes, what
you are told is communicated
less in words than in sighs,
pauses, laughs, gestures, tears
or facial expressions.
 When words are
many, transgressions
cannot be avoided. But
whoever controls his lips
acts discreetly.
-Proverbs 10:19