PARENTING

PROCESS
PARENTING
 Parenting is the process of raising and
educating a child from birth until adulthood.
 This is usually done in a child's family by the
mother and father.(the biological parents.)
DEFINITION
 Parenting is the process of promoting and
supporting the physical, emotional, social
and intellectual development of a child from
infancy to adulthood.
BASIC PRINCIPLES OF GOOD
PARENTING
1.What you do matters: always ask yourself
what effect will my decision have on my child?
2.You can not be too loving: when it comes to
genuine expression of warmth and affection you
can not love your child too much. It is simply
not possible to spoil a child with love.
3.Be involve in your child’s life: being an
involved parent takes time and is hard work, and
is often means rethinking and rearranging your
priorities. Be there mentally as well as
physically.
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4.Adapt your parenting to fit your child: make
sure your parenting keeps pace with your child’s
development.
5.Establish and set rules: if you don’t manage
your child’s behavior when he is young, he will
have hard time learning how to manage himself
when he is older. The rules your child has
learned from you are going to shape the rules he
applies to himself.
6. Foster your child’s independence: setting
limits help your child develop a sense of self
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Control. Children push for independence because
it is a part of human nature to want to feel in
control rather than to feel controlled by
someone else.
7. Be consistent: if your rules vary day to day in
an unpredictable manner your child’s
misbehavior is your fault. The more your
authority is based on wisdom and not on
power, the less your child will challenge it.
8. Avoid harsh discipline: of all form of
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Punishment that parents use, the one with the
worst side effect is physical punishment. They
are most likely bullies and more likely to use
aggression to solve disputes with others.
9. Explain your rules and decisions: good
parents have expectations they want their child
to live up to. Generally, parents over explain to
young children and under explain to
adolescents.
10. Treat your child with respect: the best way
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To get respectful treatment from your child is to
treat him respectfully. You should give your
child the same courtesies you would give to
anyone else. Children treat other the way their
parents treat them. Your relationship with your
child is the foundation of their relationship
with others.
4 DIFFERENT PARENTING
STYLES
1. AUTHORITATIVE(democratic, balanced
behavior)
 High love and high limits
 Relies on positive reinforcement and infrequent
use of punishment.
 Parents are more aware of a child’s feelings and
capabilities and support the development of a
child’s autonomy within responsible limits.
 Research shows that this style is most
beneficial when parenting children.
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 Children of authoritative parents tend to
be:
 Happy
 Self-confident
 Curious
 Independent
 Respectful to other
 Successful in school
 Likable
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2. AUTHORITARIAN
 Low love and high limits
 Parents who practice this parenting style have a
strict set of rules and expectations and require
rigid obedience.
 There is usually no explanation of punishment
except that the child is in trouble and should
listen accordingly.
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 Children of authoritarian parents tend to
be:
 unhappy
 Anxious
 Low in self confidence
 Lacking initiatives
 Dependent on others
 Lacking in social skills and altruistic
behaviors.
 Coercive in dealing with others
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3. PERMISSIVE
 High love and low limits
 In these family settings a child’s freedom and
their autonomy are valued and parents tend to
rely mostly on reasoning and explanation.
 There tends to be little if any punishment or
rules in this style of parenting and children are
said to be free from external constrains.
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 Children of permissive parents tend to be:
 selfish
 Unmotivated
 Dependent on others
 Demanding of attention
 Disobedient
 Impulsive
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4. UNINVOLVED (Uninvolved close to
rejecting)
 Low love and low limits
 An uninvolved parenting styles is when
parents are often emotionally absent and
sometimes even physically absent.
 They are not responsive to a child’s needs to do
not demand anything of them in their
behavioral expectations.
 Provide everything the child needs for survival
with little to no engagement.
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 Children of uninvolved parents tend to be:
 Disobedient
 Demanding
 Low in self control
 Low in tolerance for frustration
 Lacking long term goals
THE TASK OF PARENTING
3 Basic tasks
1.MEET THE CHILD’S BASIC NEEDS
 Provide food, clothing and shelter
 Watch over their safety and health
 Begin teaching them language
 Foster intellectual growth by taking an active
role in their schooling
 Teach them to get along with others
 Provide opportunities for them to love and be
loved.
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2. NURTURING (Giving a child opportunities
for encouragement and enrichment)
 Parents are children’s first teachers. Parents
need to give children freedom they need in
order to learn.
 Adults should remove as many barriers as
possible that prevent children from exploring
the world on their own. Some parents become
overprotective and overattentive.
 Limit the directions to those that are essential.
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3. GUIDE CHILDREN TO SHOW
APPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR
 Use words that the child can understand, but
avoid talking down.
 Be clear. Think in term of the child’s point of
view.
 Be positive and polite.
 Talk about what’s meaningful to the child.
POSITIVE PARENTING STRATEGIES
FOR THE TEENAGE YEARS
 Parent teen relationship
 Let your teen see your fun side
 Develop common interests.
 Allow your teen space but pay close attention.
 Promoting self-esteem in teens
 Avoid teasing your child, respect your child’s
concern
 Avoid lecturing , develop opportunities to
communicate.
 Be clear about the rules, listen before you act.
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 Determine the underlying cause of the conflict.
 Set up regular discussion times with your teen.
 Support activity and friendship out side the
family.
RESPONSIBLE PARENTHOOD
 Refers to the ability of the couple or parents to
respond to the needs and aspiration of the
family and children.
 The size of the family should be a shared
responsibility of couples or parents based on
their available resources and the standards of
living they wish to achieve.
 By waiting to get married and have children,
young people can give themselves more time to
pursue the things that can help to make them
batter parents.
ROLES RESPONSIBILITIES AND
DUTIES OF PARENTS
THE ROLE OF PARENTS:
1.Care givers: parents give their children the
love and care that they need to grow up happy
and healthy, and full of love themselves.
2.Marerial providers: parents provide all of the
material things that a child needs, including
food and shelter.
3.Educators: part of a parent’s role involves
educating their children about everything from
doing up coat buttons to learning the alphabet.
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4. Moral guides: parents ought to provide moral
guidance as early as possible, so that their
children grow up into upright citizens.
5. Provider of emotional support: sympathy,
empathy and kindness ought to be abundant in
everything that parents do. There is no point in
providing material things for a child if this is
not accompanied with love and kindness, and a
willingness to listen to and help with any
problem that the child may have.
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THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF PARENTS.
1. Their children’s health: it is down to the
parents to ensure that their children are
healthy and well nourished.
2. Basic education: before children start
school, it is their parents who are responsible
for their education. Once they are at school,
parents still are responsible for ensuring that
their children attend classes and do their
homework.
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3. Moral examples: parents should not just tell
their children what is right and what is wrong.
They should also be a good example to their
children of what is right and wrong.
4. Material necessities: parents are responsible
for ensuring that their children have enough to
eat and drink, that they stay nice and warm in
winter and are protected from the sun in
summer. They do not need to spoil their
children, but they should ensure that they have
a safe place to live and sleep and clothes to
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Wear as well as toys to play with the books to
read.
5. Love: love is not just an emotion-it can also
be argued that it is a parent’s responsibility to
show love and individual affection to their
children at all times. Parental love is something
that comes naturally parents just need to make
sure that they express this love so that their
children can see it clearly.
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THE DUTIES OF PARENTS
1. Choosing a name: parents are almost always
the ones who choose their child’s name,
through a child may choose to go by a nick
name or to change their name once they
become an adult.
2. Protection: a key parental duty is protecting
their child from things that could harm them
physically and emotionally. Of course, that
does not mean that a parent should lie to their
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Child safe from danger-and to teach their child
how to keep themselves safe as well.
3. Discipline: children can be disciplined without
the need for angry words or physical violence.
One of the key parental duties is disciplining a
child so that they can practice self discipline
later in life.
4.Financial support: the duty of ensuring that a
child is supported financially so that they have
all of their material needs met is very often a
legal requirement of parents.
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5. Wellbeing: parents duties extend to caring for children
both physically and emotionally. That means taking
them to the doctor and getting their vaccinations,
promoting positive mental health and attending to any
cuts and bruises with first aid-among other duties.
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CONCLUSION
It does not matter if a parent is rich or poor, if
they are single or married parent, or if they are
old or young. All parents should fulfill their
roles, duties and responsibilities toward their
children.